hey everyone! i'm from france. i'm in high school. i'm alright at giving advice so if you ever need any help i'll do the best i can! i'll check this pretty often so that i can be the best advice giver i can get, peace and love
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so today i asked a guy i really like to be my b/f and he said yes after keeping me in suspence for a few hours during the school day. hes really shy all the time so i asked him out. im afraid this relationship isnt gonna work out cuz he wont call or talk to me... should i give it some time to get comfy (if yes, how should i help him) or just tell him to forget it? (link)
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hey. i suggest giving him some time. you can help by calling him and stuff like that and letting him know that you wont bite him, so that he should be comfi with you. if this doesnt work that much, maybe let him know how you feel about it, you guys should be able to talk about stuff like this. however, if it doesnt work, just tell him that you want to be friends with him for now atleast and that maybe when you guys know each other a bit more and are more comfortable with each other, you guys could go out again then. hope this helped, let me know how it goes, much love
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Me and my girlfriend just broke up and i was kinda glad that we broke up at first but noe i miss her really bad and i am not sure if she likes me so what should i do? (link)
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hey, well there are several things you need to think about it first. do you miss her or just the good times you guys spent together? cause its normal to miss the good times, so if it was only that, then you would need to get over her. however, if you miss her, ask yourself why you guys broke up. can you fix it? if yes, then talk to her about it, there are chances that she might feel the same way as you do. however, do no bug her with it, because there are also chances that she doesnt like you back anymore. so talk to her and start being just a guy friend to her and when you feel the moment is right, bring the subject up again and see how she feels about it. if you need more advice leave me a question! hope this helped, let me know how it goes, much love
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A lot of people at school thinks my life is perfect. it is far from it. i wont get into too much detail and make this too long but i have a few good friends that i love but there are so many morons that get mad because i get good grades or whatever. i just wanted to know does this go away in high school? or will people still asume my life is great because i get good grades?
thank you
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hey, there are always going to be morons, unfortunately. but yeah, in high school, people change a lot, believe me. and people tend to judge you or assume less about your lfie based on your grades. for friendships and stuff like that, they dont really matter. in high schooll, you will come across far much worse situations than people making fun of you for your grades. dont worry, i went through all that crap and was teased and called a teachers pet, but all that crap doesnt seem to exist, or atleast not as much in high school. people care about other stuff that mean more to them, not that grades dont mean a lot, its just a different significance. people mature a lot from middle school to high school, even during that 2 month period called summer vacation, people change a whole lot. hope this helped, good luck in high school. much love
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i was wondering, why are there so many groups in skool? like preps, goths, punks, metalheads, populars, secondary populars, loners, gunks(a mix of punks and goths), and just "others". it all just creates mayhem, like a popular cant go out with a goth, or they will loose all their friends. i think it is so stupid. can you explain to me why people must insist on putting people in different catigories? does it really matter? (link)
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hey, yeah, well, there isnt really any answer to your question, but i'll try my best to give you my opinion on it. the way i think of it is, people have nothing else better to do than think about others and stuff like that. thus, they make categories for the majorities and the minorities are in "others". that way, its easier to talk about people or certain types of people and make steryotypes. i agree with you, its stupid, but its because people use it to talk, its like their language. "have you seen that hott prep?" thats a common phrase, that way, people dont really have to describe the person further, they already know what kind of person it is by giving them a title such as "prep" "goth" "punk" "nerd"... hope this helped. much love.
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ok, i have this friend and i really am good friends with her..and then theres a guy i like and i finally got his sn and then she asked for it. i know this sounds really stupid. but i just dont want to give it to her.. i know that she doesnt like him but something is telling me not to..should i? * (link)
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hey, theres not right or wrong answer. however, your friend might think it weird that you're not giving her his sn. maybe you should make it clear to her that you really like this guy, without attacking her or assuming that that she'll "steal him" from you. maybe shes friends with him and thinks that she can hook you guys up or something, you never know what friends can do. hope this helped, let me know how this goes! much love
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My friend just got a boyfriend awhile back. He's a really sweet guy, but he always flirts with me & my other friend. At a dance last night he kept touching me! I told my friend that he's bad news but she didn't think much of it. I know she deserves so much better than him. What should I do? (link)
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hey! well, telling your friend about him is good. maybe you should try bringing up the subject again. but if she really doesnt think much of it, then maybe she just thinks that he was just having fun dancing. however, if he does other stuff with girls, worse stuff, then you should talk to her again. but if you dont wanna wait till then, then maybe talk to the guy if you're friends with him and tell him that you dont want him doing that to you cause shes your friend and that he shouldnt do that in the first place. i hope this helped, tell me how it goes! much love
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im so ttoaly lost i really need help. Nothin feels right between me and my boyfriend. we have been going out for a while and well everything was great and now nothing feels right... i mean he is doing things he knows will piss me off and hes not really telling me anyhinghting anymore... i dont know what to do and i really need help and some one jsut to tlak to...... PLEASE HELP ME !!!!! (link)
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hey, long realtionships can get tough, i know i was in one. you should talk to him about this, and maybe try to reconnect by going on dates or something, maybe he will open up more then. maybe you guys just need some time to spend together so that it can be "just like old times" again. and if nothing changes, then maybe hes not the right kind of guy for you. i hipe this helped, if you need soemone to talk to, leave me a message, i'll answer it as soon as i can. peace, love, and good luck with your guy!
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sometimes i hate you (link)
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well thats too bad
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My friend is acting all weird now because she started to be able to shop at abercrombie and fitch. She acts all like preppy and tries to now hang out with the popular kids. I miss the old her what should i do (link)
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hey. theres not much you can do. you could hint to her that you think that shes starting to act different. otherwise just let things flow, you'll find out who her real friends are. shes probably just trying to find herself. if hses a good friend, she'll come back to you. hwop this helped, peace and love.
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ok, first of all, let me tell you that i just want to know what y'all think about this - please tell me honestly if you think this guy likes me or not. i usually see answers that 'since i don't know you both, i don't know', but please tell me your gut feeling.
i'm a senior and there's this guy who sits behind me in one of my classes (he's also a senior). i really like him and he can probably tell, but everyday when there's a break in the class or something we end up talking. not just like, 'can you help me with this worksheet' but more personal things. also, when i go through the halls i glance over and he's usually looking at me. from your viewpoint, do you think he likes me? (link)
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hey. i'm not sure if he likes you, but he is defninately interested in you. if he wants to talk to you and looks at you in the halls, it seems like he is interested. however, he might only see you as a friend. i'm not sure. try to go with the flow, and see what happens. something might develop from there. otherwise, if you want to know now, confront him and ask him. it depends on what you want to do. but honetly, if you guys talk during breaks and he looks at you in the halls, i seriously think that there might be more to this than just a frienship. hope this helped, if you have more questions or need someones opinion, im or e-mail me. peace and love!
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My name is Kayla and I'm 13 years old. I started my period not too long ago. But I have skipped about 3. Is this normal for me? I don't want to be able to not have children or anything? Is it serious? Please help. (link)
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hey. its irregular in the beginning and takes a while to settle, couple years, depending on the person. so its normal. dont worry about it. in the beginning for me it came like every 6 months and sometimes more or less. dont worry about it, its no big deal. i'm sure you'll be able to have kids later on. peace and love.
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my hair is straight already, but sometimes it flips on the ends. do you think it would be dumb if i got a straightener even though my hair is already straight? (link)
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hey. it woudlnt be dumb if the hair straightener worked and made a change. peace and love.
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So how do you talk to a girl when you're in ninth grade, have no classes with her and see her once a day surrounded by her friends? I really don't know much about her, but she seems like an interesting person. Anything is better than nothing. (link)
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hey. well the way you talk to this girl is by just going up to her and starting a conversation. i know, easier said than done. but by wanting to get her attention to talk to her, you need to show her that you're interested. maybe try walking with her alone... or asking her to walk her to her next class or something. maybe talk to her during lunch. maybe you could also ask her to a movie, that way you'll be alone or with other friends and its casual enough, 9th graders do it a lot. hope it works out, peace and love.
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I was best friends with Kelly since 7th grade. We're in 9th now and we're still pretty good friends, not best friends but close. Well, she tells me all of her secrets and I never tell them. She says all the time to me and everybody else that I'm her most trustworthy friend, and she tells me that Brittany is very dishonest and lies to her alot. Anyways, Kelly did something really bad and she told me and Brittany and acouple of other people about it and made us promise not to tell. Her secret got out (one that everybody gossips about) and one girl, Julie, (who doesnt like me) tells Kelly that I told everybody the secret. I honestly didn't tell anybody. Now Kelly won't even talk to me, she won't even let me explain to her that I didn't tell anybody. She won't talk to me about it at all. Do you think that she's just not a good enough friend to even try to hold onto, or should I keep trying to tell her the truth? Ill rate if you ask :o) thanks (link)
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hey. kelly sounds like a good friend to me. she trusted you and needed someone to blame and that julie girl gave her an excuse to blame it on you. i think that you should try and talk to her about it, write an e-mail, call her, or write a letter. but when you do so, dont tell her that its julies fault, cause then she might think that your trying to get out of it. so try your best to get her trust back, but give her some space and time so that she can think about it. dont give up on her though. however, you should do something about julie. shes the one who got you and kelly in trouble. try to think of a way to get her back, but not come down to her level, which seems very low. i hope that all works out. be patient, she'll come back if shes a good friend. show her that you care, it will make her feel better.
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i have a problem. i have a best friend who i want to talk to about something...but i think that she will make fun of me for it. i know she is my best friend, but its a personal problem that i need to share with her, but i know she is going to make fun of me for it. help!!
oh and by the way...you are my favorite advice columnist and you answer so many good questions. (link)
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hey! thanks for the compliment. well,if she really is your best friend, then you should be able to talk to her. but if you're really sure that she will make fun of you for it. if shes your best friend, she'll understand and will try to make things better. once you talk to her about that and "straighten things out" then you can talk to her about whatever you need to talk to her about. by the way, if you need someobyd else to talk to besides your best friend, feel free to come to me. hope it all works out and let me know what happens.
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my 2 best friends, lets call them mary && cindy.... mary and cindy are having like a sleepover tonight, and we just finished finals so its like a celebration. but all 3 of us are best friends and i`m like the 1 being left out and i`m rele kina pissed... i know we dont have to do EVERYTHING together, but i can`t help myself.. i`m pissed. is it rong to be mad??? Ox (link)
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hey. its not wrong, it just shows that you care about them. dont worry, many people feel this way at one point or another. the thing is that sometimes people like to hang with just one other person for one night. just to that person. its different. maybe thats why. i have two friends which i'm really close to, and we have sleepovers as well. sometimes its the 3 of us, sometimes its just 2 of us. but we learned that its not because we want to make one person feel left out. its just because its different to hang out with one person or the other, or all of us together. maybe you should talk to them about it and see why they did it. maybe they didnt mean to. even though its not wrong to be pissed, you cant be mad at them for having a sleepover without you. just find out whats going on, i'm sure theres a good explanation. hope everything works out.
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ok there is this guy i really like and apparently he likes me too but he wont go out with me because he doesnt like my friends..... i dont know what to do because i cant get over him but at the same time i wouldnt be able to hang out with him and my friends at the together
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hey. i think you're not the only one who's been in a similar situation. but this you have to figure out on your own. would you rather date a guy who likes you but not enough to like your friends, or would you rather stick with your friends who know you. i mean, i'm not trying to tell you what to do, but dont your friends kinda reflect who you are and what you like in a person? not for a relationship, but for a friendship. the thing is that if you do choose to go out with him, i dont think you'll be able to not hang with your friends. maybe try to find a compromise for this, or maybe talk it out. i duno. it depends on what kind of people they all are.
peace and love
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i like this girl but i dont know if she is going out with any one and if shes not then how do i ask her out (link)
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hey. if you're not that close to her, find out if shes single by some friends. if you do know her, just ask her. i mean, you want her to know that you're interested in her. if she is single, then just try being casual and ask her to a movie or something along those lines. you want to get close to her and flirt with her if you're not already doing so. show her you're interested, if she answers your actions, shes interested too.
peace and love
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should i have sex wit my boy friend i am 18 years old should i (link)
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hey, this is just a matter of opinion really. it depends on how long you've been going out with him, if you like or even love him, and if you're ready to take the risk to do it. i'm not guna give the you're too young crap, cause if you're 18 you should know all that. but it just depends on you and your relationship with yuor bf. dont do it if you're not sure, you dont wanna regret doing this. hope this helped, peace and love.
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hey again.. he hasnt talked to me since monday night so lastnight i sent him a text message off my cell phone and i told him this exactly.."this is going to be hard to do since i still have feelings for you but i am giving up on you so when school starts back i will be moving my stuff out of your locker so i wont be bothering you and it will save me the pain..i hope we can still talk"...i regret sending that now because he never responded and im afraid that we will be over for good now..or he'll find someone else before christmas break is over..do you think he will? (link)
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hey. well, maybe that text message was good afterall... you let him know that you still like him but the its too hard to do things this way. there are several reasons why he might not have talked to you yet (some better than others), here they are... 1, he might have found someone else (which would surprise me because it would be really fast) 2, he needs some space (let him have it if so), 3, he simply doesnt know how to handle it and what to say. i was reading an article in a magazine the other day and it described how a girl "win him back", so here is the advice: to speak up (which you already have done with the text message) to let him know that if he needs you or wants to get back together with you, you're still there for him (but dont be too easy), then if he needs his space, to back off, and try to limit your conversations with him to a simple "hi" or maybe more depending on the situation. then keep yourself busy to try not to think about him too much. also, by staying busy, you show that you are independent, which is really good. dont forget to have fun, even if its really hard. you have to show him that even though you arent with him anymore, you are still fun to be around. be happy, even if you have to pretend in teh beginning. stay true to yourself, if you really want him back, then dont try to make him jealous with another guy. if you dont want him back, dont act like you want him. so do that, and see how he acts, it might take a little while though. however, if he says that he doesnt like you, he probably means it. also, after about 3 months of you guys not being together, it might mean that it is really the end; you guys will grow in different ways and it would be hard to pick up where you left off. however, if you have decided that he isnt worth your time, which i dont think you have, otherwise you wouldnt be writing to me, then just act as if nothing really happened and that you arent very hurt. i forgot to tell you, you might want to text him another message to let him know that you still care and will be there for him, because if you want him back, i think that the fact that you said "i'm giving up on you" might scare him away a little... so just let him know that you're there for him. you have to let him choose what he wants, you can change his mind, but not his heart. so just give him some space, i know its hard, but if its ment to be, then he will realize that you are the best thing that ever happened to him. i hope this helped a bit more, and sorry for not writing sooner. if you want to talk more about it, heres my aim sn: msbighair007 otherwise, good luck and dont lose hope! peace and love.
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