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My name is Amanda and I am a proud single parent of a beautiful 2 year old girl named *Brianna Marie*! I am also a child care teacher and a student. I am seeking an associates in massage therapy and skin care. I currently reside in Orlando Fl, but hope to soon go back home to HOTLANTA!! :D If there is anything else ya wanna know hey ... why not ask?! ;)ADVICE WARNING: You are at high risk of receiving advice containing extreme sarcasm .. among other things! HA! If ya don't like it run while you can .... you're about to reach the point of no return ... go ... before it's too late!! AHHHH!!
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ok this is what happend, during spring break (2 days ago) me, my friend, my sis, my dad and mom went to las vegas. While we were there we saw kids from our schools baseball team there (we were going crazy) .. and my friend likes 4 guys total and there happend to be 2 of the guys that she liked there..then my dad told me to say hi to them so i did..i went up to them and started talking..then later that night 1 of the guys m friend had liked asked me for my # so i gave it to him. Then while we were walkin up and down the strip my friend was trying to tell him all the bad things about me so that he wouldnt like me anymore (i guess that didnt work).. then when me and him went to get some subway my friend was talking to my sis and my sis said that my friend was saying that its not fair that he likes me and that she liked him first and blah blah blah.. but whenever i got to know him i started liking him ALOT and we madeout that night too (it seemed like she didnt care that much), but thats the only guy i like (and shes obbsessed with 3 other guys too). So when we were driving home she was saying that whenever we get back to school shes going to try and impress him (cuz that night she looked like a piece of cr*p).. then i had no idea what i was going to do so i called him up and starting telling him everything. Then he said not to worry cuz im the 1 he kissed that night and not her .. but i know shes going to get mad cuz hes going to ask me out whenever he comes back from las vegas. I just dont know what to do right now...
Seems to me like you need to worry less about who likes who and more about how your "friend" treats you!
pretty soon i know my boyfriend and i are going to have sex. OF COURSE we would use a condom, but i am still overly scared of the chance of getting pregnant if the condom breaks. i am trying to figure out what time of the cycle is the best time to Not get pregnant. i know ovulation is the worst time, but what about before, during, and after my period - which is the best time and which is a risky time? i cant find it on any websites and some people tell me different things... please help, im a spaz
Well I think you need to go to your local planned parenthood and get all of the information you possibly can. Also you can check out their web site.
But I do want to clarify one piece of false information that was given to you. You CAN GET PREGNANT WHILE ON YOUR PERIOD. You can also be pregnant and still be getting your period....everyone is different. You need to seek an obgyn and make sure you are prepared before you have intercourse.
Nothing is 100%!!!!! I got pregnant while being on birth control. Yes, we did use a condom and it broke. It can happen to anyone.
Please take care and be safe!!
Best of luck!
~Amanda :)
I am in a long distance relationship. I have opened up a serious conversation with my boyfriend, as he has in the past as well. We have discussed what we both want but lately it seems he is hiding something and I am not sure if it is just my own insecurity or if he really is hiding something.
we had made plans, as he recently got a promotion and had to cancel plans but has told me that we will be making plans soon again. he hasn't done this in the past to make me believe he is cheating but i think i feel as if something may be wrong. i have not got closer as i wanted to him when we last saw eachother. i brought this up to make sure we are on the same pg. as we both want as he did agree to what i had to say but sort of ended the convo. do guys not like to talk about it and just let it be or should i reask him why he did not watn to further the convo?
i have a lot of friends that seem to believe long distance relationships don't work but i do like this guy and i think we both are taking it more seriously than just a talk here and there. he is 32 and i am 26 and we know what we want as we are getting to know eachother and keeping in touch as much as possible and i do trust him. sometimes though it is hard not to ask if he is cheating? i guess i cant really believe i am writing this. i am secure with him and i think i may be an idiot and keep talking to this guy to really get to know him and stop assuming things. i have learned from the past but i think asking too many questions can be a real turn off. anyway...thought would like some advice.
Well...this is a really tough one, but having been in a long distance relationship myself in the past perhaps I can shed some light on the situation for you. In my situation we were both 18 and we met in florida, but five months after we started dating he moved back to michigan. We continued with the relationship for two and a half years, but the only problem was is I was pretty much the only one really contributing to the relationship (I even flew him to florida all the time to visit me) and although I wanted to trust him I never really knew if he ever cheated on me or not....all I had was his word....which often did me wrong.
So my question to you would be how long have you been in the relationship? Also, how far away do you live from each other? There is a significant difference between states or just a few hours. Does he call you? Or are you calling him and keeping in touch? That is also a big factor.
If he is really that into you there is absolutely NO REASON why he wouldn't want to continue the conversation with you about the relationship. I am going to be blunt when I say it sounds to me as if he is putting you on the back burner. Like perhaps he has another girl of interest and is trying to see where it goes first, but doesn't want to let you go completely yet.
If the relationship really means a lot to the both of you then there shouldn't be a problem with having a discussion about where it is going. Be honest with yourself about your wants and needs. Be a bitch if you have to and tell him exactly how you feel and what you want and expect out of the relationship. You shouldn't have to accept any less.....especially with a long distance relationship as it's twice as hard to have. You shouldn't have to worry about "too many questions." You are both mature enough to handle an adult relationship that shouldn't involve that kind of b.s.
There is plenty more I can say, but for right now I think I've said enough, lol. But feel free to ask me any other questions you have or any you may have about my answer to you. I hope it goes well for you.
Don't settle for less than the best girl! You DO deserve it!! :)
Best of luck,
Amanda ;)
I know this is wrong but i got myself into some serious mess.My bestfriend has a bf and they been together for 9 months and the other day me and him saw each other at this one place and we ended up in his car doing things.I feel really bad i don't know if i should tell her or not.I dont want to but i dont want her finding out from anybody else because i love her so much she is like my sister.IM confused plz help!
Not only do you need to be honest with her, but you also need to be honest with yourself. What happens when they get in a fight and he "slips" and tells her about what happened. How do you think she is going to feel when she comes to you only to find out that it's true?! It's going to be really hard and I completely understand that. But you need to think about the consequences behind keeping your mouth shut. If it were me I would feel a lot better about it coming from my BEST FRIEND than anyone else. Although who's to say how she will react to the situation. But you need to tell her EXACTLY how you feel, that she is like a sister to you and how much you love her. Like I said before, it's a lot better coming from her BEST FRIEND than anyone else!! Best Friends are Forever!!
Best of luck!
~ Amanda
I started dating this guy when I was fifteen who was eighteen. He and I were together for a year and two months....partially because I ran away with him for five of them. Well, this last December I had his child and my mom and I won't let him have any part of it. But since he was eighteen, I just want to make sure that in two years when I'm eighteen he can't try to fight for custody. Would he have any rights over my son?
I am in a sort of similair situation only myself and the childs father were both over 18.
My advice to you would be to seek legal help and advice. I don't know where you live but there should be what's called a "legal aid society" in your county that can assist you in your case if you are financial applicable.(It's for low income families and is a free service.) If anything you can also look in your phone book and there should be lawyers involved with family law that can give you free legal advice on the situation.
First of all, child support will be ordered whether you or him go to the court to seek custody/visitation. Unless you are found to be an "unfit parent" there is no reason that your child should be taken away from you. Also, unless he is found to be an unfit father he will get visitaion with the child i.e. something like every-other weekend .... as long as it doesn't interfere with the childs welfare.
Being in a similair situation my advice to you would be to seek legal help if you can. I'm not sure how it works in your state, but in Florida the father has no legal rights to the child unless child support is being paid. So if he would try to take the child in question and leave he would be charged with kidnapping.
Let me know if you have any other questions. I completely understand what you are going through and am more than happy to help with anything I can. Best of luck to you and your son.
~ Amanda
my boyfriend and I have been dating for quiet awhile now.. (1/2 a year) and now he's thinking i don't like him anymore, when he's the one who shows a lack of interest in me.. what do i do? i'm so oblivious to the situation. I really cannot lose him, he means way too much to me... I'm not the perfect girlfriend, i do have my flaws as everyone does, but i never knew i had one of showing no interest.. help
In my own opinion I think you need to sit down and talk to him about this. You need to explain to him exactly how you feel about the situation....tell him exactly what you said here, how you feel oblivious to the situation. You obviously don't want to lose him and care for him deeply. I don't know what his goals in the relationship are due to lack of info, but that's always a good question to ask him as well. Don't be afraid to be blunt. It's better to find out how he really feels now then later down the road when it could be too late. You could be setting yourself up for a world of hurt.
Best of luck
~ Amanda
Theres this boy that I used to like and he didn't even know what I looked like. Recently, I said hi to him in the halls and now he knows what I look like. My friend asked him if he thought I was pretty and he said yes. We have been talking online everyday for a long time and we feel we know each other pretty well. We don't know each other well enough in person, which I'm going to try to accomplish soon. I had a friend talk to him and he was saying that I wasn't the right type of girl for him, all though when he described to me the girls he likes, it sounded so much like me it was scary. He says I would be a better friend, like I am now, then a girlfriend. I really want to change his mind! Maybe if he gets to know me in person, he would! What can I do? I know we are perfect for each other, and his friends and my friends know it too. I have started developing feelings for him again, but he doesn't know and if I tell him, i'm afraid he'll reject me. Help!
~ Does he like me!? ~
Well before I answer your question I have a suggestion for you. Oh and feel free to pass this on to all of your girlfriends!! Go to your nearest bookstore and bring about 15 dollars with you and purchase "He's just not that into you," by Greg Beharendt and Liz Tuccillo. It will literally change your outlook on relationships.
Anyway, to answer your question..... If he told you to your face that he thinks you would make a better friend then a girlfriend then he meant it!! There isn't anything you can do to change his mind, hello...he is a man! And even if you do happen to pursuade him into a relationship or courtship, whatever...it more than likely will end up with him using you in whatever way makes him happy ... i.e. sexually.
You can tell him that you think a relationship would work out, but in my experience with relationships all you are going to do is piss him off. If he was really into you, trust me....you would know....he obviously isn't afraid to tell you the truth.
I'm assuming that you are young. The right guy will come around. You shouldn't waste your time and energy with this guy.....he obviously isn't worth it!
Hey, you never know.....if you stop showing so much interest in him and pay more attention to other things and or guys he may see you in a different light and say what the hell was I thinking...I gotta be with this girl.
Best of luck to you.....hope this helps :)
~ Amanda
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