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Q: Is there any way to find out what song a person has on their myspace if their music player is hidden because i know there's a site for unhiding their top friends so i was just wondering if there's one for unhiding their music player?

I don't know, I usually take a line from the chorus and Google, whatever lyrics show up I read and see if it's the song.

Q: 13/f

alright. um..

i like this guy A LOT (we'll call him bob). he has a girlfriend & they've been going out for like more than a month. the thing is, they don't do anything. i never see them talk & they have only hugged like once. that's all the farther they've gone. my bff has been going out with this guy for 3 weeks & they hang out a lot, talk evweryday, are constantly holding hands, & have kissed like 4 or 5 times.

my problem is, is that i don't know if i could ever go out with someone like that. someone that doesn't act like a boyfriend should. so my question is, should i move on? should i wait for him? if i do & we end up going out, is he gonna act the same way? i just don't know what to think or do.

help?

Some poeple are like that in relationships. But it doesn't mean they're like that with everyone of them. Maybe he jut doesn't like her anymore? Everyone's relationship is different then the other, so don't compare them to your friends relationship. If you two were to go out and he acted the same way, let him know that you'd want more affection.

Q: im like about to cry as i write this. okay i was tlaking to this guy.. hes 2 and a half years older than me and we were getting prettyy closee..and then he asked me for pictures and of course, cause im stupid i sent them..don't even say i shouldnt have because i know i shouldnt. well today he called me and we were talking then he said he was talking to another girl then he was like whne are you gonna come over and ahve sex im like never your talking ot someone remember then he was like dont pull that shit. then he was like if you ever come over will you do stuff with me im like uuhm no your talking to someone and he got mad that i kept bringing it up. i find him pretty damn dumb to do that bc he told me who he was talking to and i could tell her what he is saying to me, but i dont wanna fuck anything up. was i write to bring that u again that hes talking to someonen while hes asking me this stuff?

You weren't in the wrong, he was. He made it extremely obvious that he just wnts sex, don't even bother with him anymore.

Q: if you have dry sex, are you still considered a virgin?

Seeing as how it's not penetration, I would say so.

Q: okay Let me ask you all who are over 18. have you have anybody who maybe older then you or maybe same age say hey Kid.. you know like a nick name you know hey sport or hey bud.. well my friend take so serouly she dont understand. she think calling her kid. i not i just say hey kid. everybody do that to me. i am 21 years old. my brother and my uncle couple of friends say hey kid.. not perfer being one or anything.. anybody understand?
Thanks

Some people are like that... Just don't say it to her anymore than.

Q: ok. i jsut love the feeling when im reading about sexual stuff or someting like that. like my vagina starts beating and i jsut love it. and like its jsut great. but i mean i also want to do like dry sex or dry humping which i do with a pillow or something. and its alright i guess but i mean i know it will be jsut great with another guy. but when i tried it on my boyfriend like when we were in my room making out we were on my bed and like his leg was between mine and i started dry humping and he just laughed and let me do it like as in it was cute or something. but he never rubs against me or anything. and im always pushing myself onto him and stuff and he likes it but he wont do it to me. and he always says he will but never does. well actually im not sure if i should consider what im doing dry humping. i mean its not that intimate or strong. im scared that he'll make me stop. but i love the feeling. so i want to do it. and my pillow is getting annoying. and im scared if i do go full force that i will cum like crazy and he'll get wierd. well how do i get him to dry hump. and what can i do to make it more pleasurable for me =]

Well then.. ok. Don't force yourself onto your boyfriend it's just completely unattractive to do so, well sometimes. And it sounds like he doesn't feel comfortable with doing it to you. Even though you love it so much, you can't and shouldn't get your boyfriend to do something he's uncomfortable with. Trying to get him to do it to you because YOU like it is, no offense, a bit selfish. There's some things I love but I'm not going to make my boyfriend do it if he feels uncomfortable or doesn't do it willingly because he wants to.

Q: Where were you when you had your first time. My boyfriend of almost a year and I are thinking about doing it for the first time, but we aren't sure where the best places would be, or places that would be fun. and we don't want to be uncomfortable. So if you could list a couple it'd be apriciated. Thanks!

My first place was in a camper.. I know right? It's better if you don't plan when you're going to have sex or where for that matter, it'll happen when you're ready and when it's supposed to. Don't force it.

Q: Is it normal to have one boob thats larger than the other?
Is there anything you can do so that they are the same size without stuffing?

Thanks.

And if it helps I'm almost 15.

It's completely normal for breasts to be asymmetrical. Most people do, while your breasts are developing one might grow faster than the other or even be lower. But, if it's a major size difference like 2 cups or so then you might have a noncancerous tumor in one of the breasts. But that's verrry rare, so I'm sure you're fine.

Q: I am 15. My boyfriend, 'Danny' is 17. We have been going out for 6 months. I really like him, and he is really sweet. But lately, he has been acting strange. He rarely talks to me outside of class or hugs me. He doesn't call anymore, talk to any of my friends, and has just been aloof. At first, I was worried, until my friend said she saw him hugging some girl (who dislikes me) and making out with her and hanging with her friends (who dislike me also since their ringleader does). I'm pretty sure he wants to break up with me, but I don't know why, since I don't know if what my friend said is true. should I confront him about it, and how? Or should I just let it go and move on?

It's always better to confront them. Always. Ask him what's been going on with him lately, if he acts clueless, something's probably wrong. You've been together for a pretty long time, so it's best to confront him.

Q: OK so about a week ago i missed a few of my birth control pills and i started bleeding because it messed up the scedule or whatever and im still bleeding its been about a week and 2 days. Then yesterday it stopped so i thought it would be okay to have sex with my boyfriend and i started bleeding on the condom but then when we were done i stopped bleeding its like its blood but its not fully coming out i dont know its werid is it because of my birth control or.. i dont know ehh someone help

The bleedng is probably from not taking your birth control regularly. And as for the bleeding stopping then starting up during sex, it's probably blood that's still inside, so take a warm bath for a while, then afterwards take a shower.

Q: my wife and i got married 6 months ago. despite having unprotected sex with her, she is yet to get pregnant. can you advice me when best to have sex with her within her mestrual cycle to get her pregnant? does the use of vaseline as viginal lubricant during sex ipmpedes the chances of conception? can a woman ovulate twice within a menstrual cycle? and lastly, is it possible for a woman to be pregnant and still see her menses?

http://www.thelaboroflove.com/pregnancyplanner/index.html

Have her fill it out.

Q: 15/f.
is it fair to tell the guy i like that i like him even though he has a girlfriend? because i feel like he has the right to know since we are also good friends. but then i don't want to be mean to him and ruin his relationship.
thanks!

If he likes you, then wait and see what he does,if you think something you tell him is going to lead him to the decision then don't tell him. If he does like you, he'll figure out what to do about it on his own.

Q: My boyfriend was jacking off, and he got cum on his hands.. and then he fingered me.
can you get pregnant from that ?

http://www.menshealthandwellbeing.org.au/content/view/26/56/

It'll answer the question.

Q: im a girl age 14 turning 15 and well all the guys say i play hard to get and everytime i hang out with guys theres always at least one guy thats like lets do stuff or something and i wont do it and untill maybee laterr and i was wondering do guys like when girls play hard to get? please tell me.

--angie

Some do others don't. Some love it, it's like teasing them. But if you play hard to get for too long, they could get frustrated and begin to lose interest.

Q: When your driver's permit expires in PA and you do not have your license yet, can you renew your permit or do you have to take it over? Thanks!

"If your learner’s permit expires or if
you do not pass your road test after 3 tries, you may obtain an Application to Add/Extend/Replace/
Change/Correct Non-Commercial Learner’s Permit (DL-31). It is not necessary to have another
physical exam unless 3 years have elapsed from the date of your last physical."

Q: what is dry humping?

Pretty much what it says, humping. But with your clothes on.

Q: Well i dont know if this goes here but i dont think anyone be be that upset about it anywho i've been grounded for a while now and so i have not been on the computer but i cant seem to remember any of my passwords i mean i tried all of the ones i had before and none of them worked i cant remember my yahoo or myspace or anything how can i find my passwords

There's always that option saying "Forgot your password?" click on that then give your e-mail address, they'll send it to you. Hopefully you haven't forgoteen that one, too. Unlike my boyfriend.

Q: on this web can you be friends with each other or can you at least chat?

My boyfriend and I chat over the personal questions option.

Q: do whateverlife layouts (or any other myspace layout) work on advicenators? thanks!

I don't believe the layout will work on here but you could just copy the picture or background that you want and then save it, then load it onto photobucket, get the URL and put it in for the background.

Q: i have my school dance tonight and i have the worst halter swimsuit tan and im wearing a pink tubetob neckline spaghetti strapped dress if that makes sense. so is there any kind of spray on color smoother or something i can use quickly without getting a tan? and i could get it a drugstore or something?

Why don't you just go and buy some cover-up tha tmatches the tone of the tan, touch it up every once in a while when you stop to go to the bathroom.

bio

My name is Cathy, as you can tell by my user name. I live in Florida and have been for the past 6 to 7 years. I'm in a very serious relationship with the boy of my dreams. I love him very much so, and nothing will ever change this, whether together or apart. I have a chihuahua by the name of Mung Mung. I'm half Korean and Half Scott-Irish. And that's about it for now =]