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Q: i have this friend who is always there for me..and everything..we're ireseperable..but she thinks she is my only friend..and when my other friends call and ask to do stuff she gets mad. her mother even thinks im her only friend. the problem is she is my very BEST friend. but i do have other friends and i do like to hang out with them. please give me your advice.
thanks, much love~ two-split friend

talk to your bestfriend! say she's possesive and overprotective. tell her you have other friends you'd like to hang out with. AND MAYBE ASK HER TO HANG OUT WITH YOU AND YOUR OTHER FRIENDS. GET HER TO FIT IN! hang out somewhere and have the whole group be together. let them get to know you. all i know is that i feel that you should follow your heart sweetie. just talk to her and tell her you want to hang out with her and your other friends. hope my advice helps. goodluck, if you have more questions, feel free to aks me personally. thanks.
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Q: ok im 14..and ive gone out with tons of guys..but i havent had my first kiss yet..a bunch of my other friends have though..im currently dating this really nive really hot guy, and he seems to like me a lot, but hasent shown any sign of wanting to kiss me..i dont want to make him kiss me and send the wrong message..is that weird? what should i do?

xOxO--> troubled love

you should aks him about it! you are pretty young to be doing that stuff but just try asking him. you never know. if you think he likes you A LOT. then why not ask him. you wont be sending hi ma wrong message. you'd just be asking the truth. if you really wnat a kiss... ask him! follow your heart sweetie! goodluck! hope my advice helps.
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Q: is it wrong for a 13M to have been never been kissed.

hah please don't even go there. come on you're 13 sweetie! no its not wrong. kiss when you're like 16 or something. seriously! focus on school and no kissy kiss goo goo shit hahaha. but no its not wrong if that answers your question. hahah if you have any more quetsions. feel free to ask. thanks.
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Q: what are some good sad songs and artists to listen. kinds that you want to listen to when your really down and just need a good cry.

my immortal by Evanescence
Josh Groban music (any is really GOOD)
for heartbroken songs... the all american rejects rock!
savage garden: i knew i loved you, two beds and a coffee machine, i dont know you anymore, truly madly deeply
the postal service: sleeping in
GOODLUCK!
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Q: I was thinking about joining Drama Club this year and I was wondering if any of you liked it?? I'm kind of shy and I’m hoping this will help me to become more outgoing. In Drama Club you don't have to act at all right?? You can just do "behind the scene" stuff right?? Well tell me what you think about Drama Club. Thanks alot. I rate 5's!
~sarah

you dipshit! what the hell does working in the background of the drama club do to you? nothing! if you don't act and star on plays and all you do is background shit. believe me you are wasting your time on something you're dreaming of, just can't handle. guess what... there are 2 persons out in the world. one of the persons DREAM of accomplishments and goals. and the otehr half WAKES UP TO REALITY and does them!!! if you want to be more outgoing, try talking to more people, do not join drama club if you're still shy. it called "drama club" BECAUSE YOU'RE SO SUPOSE TO BE DRAMATIC!!! dduhhh. its not that hard. if you're shy, try gaining more friends and start talking to MORE people. and i dont mean 10 people i mean ATLEAST 15 PEOPLE IN EACH OF YOUR CLASSES. if you cant handle the pressure of being active and optimistic i suggest you just stay in your little corner. goodluck and im only scolding you because i want you to realize what the hell you're doing.
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Q: i have had thought of suicide in my mind about 6 times now. i have attempted it, but i dont think i have really tried hard enough to kill myself. do you think i would be concidered suicidal?

oh hell yeah! not to be mean or anything but seriously come on, no killing yourself sh+t. why would you want to die when you have a life to spend your days in. think about it... what is there is no heaven nor hell. where do you go? no where right? you just vanish into thin air. dont kill yourself please. its kind of creepy PLUS... BY THE WAY, IF ATTEMPTED TO KILL YOURSELF YOU CAN GO ON A TRIAL OR BE SUED FOR SOME FUNKY REASON. i just know that you can go to prison for attempting suicide but when you've already done it well... yeah. dont commit suicide please! and YES you are considered as suicidal. gooluck schnookie!
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Q: i am a 13/m and i just cant seem to loose wieght i am 5,4 and wieght between 120-125 and i skateboard and am very active and sweat alot but i just cant seem to loose my baby fat and my gut i have a six pack but it doesnt show that much and when me and my friends skate to impress the girls i want to keep my shirt on so how can i loose wieght faster then i have been
P.S. i have lost about 10 pounds in the last 6-8 months

125 pounds isn't too much for a guy your age. try eating less, excersise and do something besides skating like sports. any sport that makes you run and burn lots of calories. i think your problem is that you just have slow metabolism. im a girl myself so if you want impress the ladies with your body, try eating less, excersise crazy, and burn baby burn. hahaha just try it. it'll work! goodluck and come on you should lose more than 10 pounds that long. add me as one of your favorites please. its cool if you don't. goodluck!
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Q: How do I tell my parents I want to date? I dont want to flat out say it

I rate high

try aksing yourself... "are my parents dependable?" "are they friendly" "are they understanding" and if they are... dduhhh tell them!!!
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Q: i go out with this kid names paul.. and he smokes weed and i dont like the fact that he dosee and hes 3 years older then me and its weird.. and i dont wanna breakup wiht him jus for that but i dont know what i wanna do right now..? what do you think i should do? pleasee help

i ratee welll! *♥hailey♥*

if you do luv him that much, guess what? you have to deal with it if you have that much feelings for him. don't even bother trying to stop him because he won't listen and if he did want to listen you wouldn't be asking for help now would you? so, i suggest to just either deal with it if you really love him or if you don't like love him that much, break up with him because people who smoke weed are terrible and you'll get sucked itno those things. so ignore it!!!
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Q: me N my bro fight all the time, i mean all the time and every time i try to prevent a fight im the 1 that gets blamed! how can i stop gettin blamed 4 things that were 4 the better? btw im 14 and hes 8

YOU should grow up! come on, think... you have an 8 year old brother. duhhh ofcourse they're annoying. ignore the kid, and nothing will happen to you. don't attract him to anything, just dont talk to him or do anything to him and he'll leave you alone. DDUHHH!!!
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Q: is it good to have sex at the age of 13 ? because my friend has several times and she asks me if i have all the time I mean it gets soo annoying help me please i wanna tell her its bad but i dont know what to say?

get a new friend. if you have a friend that clueless, go find a new one! seriously, do not hang out with people like that and if you try fixing them, believe me they won't listen to you and you'll feel low self esteem and peer pressure. so grow up and forget your friend because IT IS BAD!!! common sense DUHH!!!! tell your friend and if she/he doesn't listen, get away from her!!! or if you want to be some sick, sex prey. go ahead!
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Q: 16/f. I'm going on vacation tomorrow. What stores sell plain halters, tanks & spaghetti straps for really cheap and in different colors? I just want the plain kind... nothing on them, and I want to buy a few of them. Thanks.

if you want some cheap summer clothing, try k-mart, macy's, wal-mart. thats all i can think of but try finding some online too.
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Q: i dont know wat to do.. when im sad i go hyper to hide my pain.. the same with when im mad or anyhting and so then im like hyper almost all of the time and i dont really think that its all that healthy to cover up things like that but i just cant help it and its seriously exausting to be hyper all of the time and i drink coffee all of the timee so i like never sleep because i'm always pumped full of caffeene so if i wanna go hyper i can and i dont kno watss wrong with mee im only 13 and im addicted to coffee and i never sleep and im hyper 24/7 idk wats wrong pleaseee help

i will give u a 5! i just need helpp =]]

♥*hailey*♥

if you had any common sense, try using it because its obvious you're exagerating and if you are, here's the trick... LAY OFF THE DAMN COFFEE! duhhh!!! try to stay away from coffee, throw everything you have of coffee. and stop being so emotional because you're just going through puberty. here's my best advice for you... grow up!
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Q: ya well for night i know ur supposed to wear pads but i have the dinky to go ones.. n i used my sisters but i dont want her ot know and now she like has none.. so i dont have any to wear at night and my mom is outta town with my dad (not like im goin to ask him) n i cant ask my sisters! what should i do!!!!!

i rate 5's

NO GAY ASS ANSWERS PLEASE!

oh and i have my period right now and idk what to do!!! about the pad thing

call a friend and ask her to meet you somewhere like an ice cream shop and she can give you pads there. ask atleast your bestfriend or someone really close and if your sisters find out, tell them your problem and they'll understand. goodluck! stay cool.
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Q: hey,
ok well here's the problem --- see if you can do the math. Ok my friend Eric is the FUNNIEST guy i've ever met, he's my sunshine in total *u*king darkness... like i talk to him to help me deal with my oh-so-emo life. He's always there for me, and i'm always there for him. I'd help him with ALL kinds of his problems, but then he just got a new (and totally bad!) one.. that i cant seem to solve. His girlfriend broke up with him, and they went out for 2 years, the breakup was REALLY hard on him *he thought he was gonna marry her or something* and he really wants a girlfriend. I'm not sure if he's on the rebound, but i dont think so. He's 16 and driving this September, and yet he cant get a girlfriend. He's semi-hot, but looks dont matter *even though they sorta do but..*. He said that he knows alot of girls and has alot of friends that ARE girls, but they are all taken. He dosent see the beauty of being single--yet. But he's been really depressed and so have i, i got threatend to be killed, and i wanted him to help me cope with it through laughter, but he was just as upset. Also, he's in my band, and the band is me and him lol, and we both make lyrics, and my lyrics are serious and emo because i'm going through that stage in life when everything sucks, and he makes the fun, jump-in, dance, funny, sorta lyrics, but ever since he's been depressed, his lyrics are just like mine, and i dont want everyone to think our band is emo and gothy. Also, i want the best for him, cause he's my homeboy lol. My friends and i talked to him about dying his hair and stuff *changing his apperance* but he's a band jocky, and he's a lost cause. WHAT DO I DO?! I rate high!!!

why don't you just tell him. if he's that depressed and you're the bestfriend. take him to a barber shop and get a haircut. im a girl myself and i guess most girls are interested in guys that doesn't matter how they look. there are so many girls out there. go to an ice cream place, girls are all over the place. or the school works. ever need to talk im me on aim. and tell your friend, if he's that let down tell him to grow up and follow you! you sound awesome, why not let him walk your footsteps for a while. if he steals you completely, thats another story hahahaha. im me at tuttieflutey for aim is you need anymore advice. stay cool.
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Q: does anyone know where i can find picture of a yellow cartoon charater that has sayings in the picture like for example i have one that say "i can't sleep cuz my pillow is too wet." here the picture. http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y210/brokenpromisex89/wetpillow.jpg

thanks in advance

try google. they always have the funniest, weird type pics in their art gallery! goodluck and have fun searching. heard searching was great hahaha. hope my advice helps! stay cool.
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Q: ♥ Im suuuper bored right now. && I usually dont play games on the internet lol. But it sounds like fun riight now. Anyone know anyone good sites with lots of games? just like easy ones not like the sports ones. Thanks!!

disneychannel.com (loaded with fun games)
neopets.com (super easy)
nick.com (nickalodeon)
postopia.com (girly site)

usually, all the good sites are either cereal brands or kids channels. goodluck searching, hope i helped.
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Q: I like wearing sportbras because they are comfy ..can someone just wear a camisole with a built in bra ? when i wear bras with straps why do the straps pop off? i am always afraid it will snap off is there anything i can do to make sure they wont?? .. thanks

Try tightening the bras strap and it'll help from not unstrapping. Have a bra that's your size and it really fits so try that. Hope my advice helps. You can adjust the bra. Goodluck!
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Q: Alright- so my best guy friend might like me. How do I let him know that I sort of like him too without being vulnerable to rejection? Or I guess how can I hint it to him in a subtle way?

Try writing him a note saying your feelings. Don't worry for rejection, just tell him how you feel and you can wait for his reply to it. You can ask one of your trustworthy friends to go up to him and tell him for you! Try that! Goodluck and hope my advice truly works.
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Q: Needless to say, I'm the beast. I'm in love with this great girl (a whole long story) but she's absolutely beautiful. When I first met her, she was a loner as I was, and we connected intellectually. Now, she's a lot more popular, and is hanging out with people just as beautiful as her. She's kinda forgotten about me. I know that looks aren't everything but it is important. I'm trying to improve myself (6' 3" - was 280lbs (used to play football) and now down to 240 lbs.) I can keep losing weight but I have other defects that would require major surgery- I have a huge underbite which to fix they would have to break my upper and lower jaw to re-align it, which means taking bone out of my hip - side effects may include loss of sensation to my lips, tingling down my leg permanent- and not to mention a long time to heal). Also, I had a bad skin infection when I went abroad for a year which left my face scarred and pitted (another surgical procedure to maybe fix). So my question- how far would you go to be more acceptable to the person you love? Thanks for your help >

I'm 16 and I'm probably a teenager but this is my suggestion for you: Who cares about you looks? Come on, no surgery, no plastic stuff, look are not everything! You'll find your Juliet somewhere.If you're this friendly and this smart, a girl is bound to at you and see behind your mask. By the way, great interpretation of the Phantom of the Opera! But, don't ever feel bad about how you look. If the girl you have feelings for right now, doesn't like you because of your looks then she is one shallow bitch! Sorry, excuse my vulgar language because I hate shallow people. But, you should try telling her your feelings and if she turns you down, guess what? There are girls out there just roaming around. Some girl might even come up to you and even ask you out! Don't ever frown because you never know who migth be in love with your smile. If you say "moneky monkey monkey" 3 times really fast, it makes me smile so why not you? Try it! Go for the girl of your dreams and if it fails, a girl is out there waiting for YOU!!! Goodluck and hope my advice and support for you helps! Rock on!
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