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The Phantom + Christine.
Needless to say, I'm the beast. I'm in love with this great girl (a whole long story) but she's absolutely beautiful. When I first met her, she was a loner as I was, and we connected intellectually. Now, she's a lot more popular, and is hanging out with people just as beautiful as her. She's kinda forgotten about me. I know that looks aren't everything but it is important. I'm trying to improve myself (6' 3" - was 280lbs (used to play football) and now down to 240 lbs.) I can keep losing weight but I have other defects that would require major surgery- I have a huge underbite which to fix they would have to break my upper and lower jaw to re-align it, which means taking bone out of my hip - side effects may include loss of sensation to my lips, tingling down my leg permanent- and not to mention a long time to heal). Also, I had a bad skin infection when I went abroad for a year which left my face scarred and pitted (another surgical procedure to maybe fix). So my question- how far would you go to be more acceptable to the person you love? Thanks for your help << The Phantom >>
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I'm 16 and I'm probably a teenager but this is my suggestion for you: Who cares about you looks? Come on, no surgery, no plastic stuff, look are not everything! You'll find your Juliet somewhere.If you're this friendly and this smart, a girl is bound to at you and see behind your mask. By the way, great interpretation of the Phantom of the Opera! But, don't ever feel bad about how you look. If the girl you have feelings for right now, doesn't like you because of your looks then she is one shallow bitch! Sorry, excuse my vulgar language because I hate shallow people. But, you should try telling her your feelings and if she turns you down, guess what? There are girls out there just roaming around. Some girl might even come up to you and even ask you out! Don't ever frown because you never know who migth be in love with your smile. If you say "moneky monkey monkey" 3 times really fast, it makes me smile so why not you? Try it! Go for the girl of your dreams and if it fails, a girl is out there waiting for YOU!!! Goodluck and hope my advice and support for you helps! Rock on!
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I'm 5'9 and drop dead gorgeous. When i met my husband he was 6'6 305 pounds. I love him to death. More women like me are out there. If she doesn't appreciate you for who you are then hold on and wait for a me. We're out there,there's someone for everyone.
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U have to remember looks aren't everything. But being healthy is so i would excercise and have a healthy diet. Don't get surgery becuase someone should love you for who you are not what you look like. Try talking to her and telling her how you really feel, trust me it makes a difference. And if it doesn't work out remeber theres someone else out there thinking of you not your looks but you and if you are a nice person you will find someone that really cares.
luv always, ~*Missy*~
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Don’t refer to yourself as “the phantom” it puts doubt in your mind that you can be loved. As far as the surgery goes, you need to do what you feel is right. If you want the surgery, then go for it. If you are just doing this for one girl, then I wouldn’t recommend you doing that. Honestly you shouldn’t be worrying about all these ‘imperfections’ you will find someone that looks completely past everything you think is wrong. Losing weight is a good idea because of health purposes, but if you are doing this for someone else that needs to change. You should be focusing on your own choices in life. And don’t forget… “There are more fish in the sea!” I hope that you are able to see the true beauty lies within… Good luck with everything and anything that you choose to do.
~Bluentriste
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Hey Phantom! Sometimes we question ourselves on how lucky we are to have that person in our lives. But we never see the answer to the question on how lucky they are as well. You know that you are a good person and have a big heart to love someone like this. You need to remind them on how lucky they are on that. If beauty ruled the relationship then that person who thiks their hot will be the lonliest person as time progresses. Don't lose sight of what's imporatnt here. The love you share breaks all boundaries and you will be both be beautiful to each other.
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