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my friend wants a girlfriend.. but he dosent know anyone!
hey,
ok well here's the problem --- see if you can do the math. Ok my friend Eric is the FUNNIEST guy i've ever met, he's my sunshine in total *u*king darkness... like i talk to him to help me deal with my oh-so-emo life. He's always there for me, and i'm always there for him. I'd help him with ALL kinds of his problems, but then he just got a new (and totally bad!) one.. that i cant seem to solve. His girlfriend broke up with him, and they went out for 2 years, the breakup was REALLY hard on him *he thought he was gonna marry her or something* and he really wants a girlfriend. I'm not sure if he's on the rebound, but i dont think so. He's 16 and driving this September, and yet he cant get a girlfriend. He's semi-hot, but looks dont matter *even though they sorta do but..*. He said that he knows alot of girls and has alot of friends that ARE girls, but they are all taken. He dosent see the beauty of being single--yet. But he's been really depressed and so have i, i got threatend to be killed, and i wanted him to help me cope with it through laughter, but he was just as upset. Also, he's in my band, and the band is me and him lol, and we both make lyrics, and my lyrics are serious and emo because i'm going through that stage in life when everything sucks, and he makes the fun, jump-in, dance, funny, sorta lyrics, but ever since he's been depressed, his lyrics are just like mine, and i dont want everyone to think our band is emo and gothy. Also, i want the best for him, cause he's my homeboy lol. My friends and i talked to him about dying his hair and stuff *changing his apperance* but he's a band jocky, and he's a lost cause. WHAT DO I DO?! I rate high!!!
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He will find someone else. When you break up with someone you have dating a long time its almost like the person died. You have to do some grieving and it doesn't go away overnight. Give him some time. He will eventually get over it. About all you can do is lend a shoulder and be a friend, like hes done for you in the past. No need to shove him into a relationship right away he will find someone when the time is right for him. :)
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why don't you just tell him. if he's that depressed and you're the bestfriend. take him to a barber shop and get a haircut. im a girl myself and i guess most girls are interested in guys that doesn't matter how they look. there are so many girls out there. go to an ice cream place, girls are all over the place. or the school works. ever need to talk im me on aim. and tell your friend, if he's that let down tell him to grow up and follow you! you sound awesome, why not let him walk your footsteps for a while. if he steals you completely, thats another story hahahaha. im me at tuttieflutey for aim is you need anymore advice. stay cool.
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I'm sry to hear about all the crap that is happening to you and your friend. I think you should tell him that he can't rush love, or just fake love (like not love). Try to show him how much fun it is to be single sometimes, and before you know it, love will come to him. It may not happen right away, but tell him not to base his life on finding a girlfriend. I know breakups are hard, i've been through it, but i got over it after a while. Right now, he may be asking you to help him to find a girl to go out with, but what he really needs is for you to help him get over his ex. I really hope i helped you and your friend out. If you ever need more advice, i'm always here.
Thanks,
Jenna
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tell him all that. since you guys are good friends, he'll probably take your advice. he has alot of time to find a good gf. maybe you can help him find someone by hanging out with him places and meeting new people. tell him how you feel first.
good luck!
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