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i was baking a cake for my christmas party and my neice asked me if she could dip her finger in it and i said no. She runs downstairs and tells my sister a whole different story, while crying, and my sister comes marching upstairs saying
"Did you hurt her feelings?"
i said "No, she just asked me..."
she said "Why do you always have to be so mean jane".
then my neice comes marching up the stairs with tears running down her face and crying. They wrap their arms around eachother, and go downstairs. I tries to tell her what happened, but my neice insisted on her story. I need help. And this isnt the first time she's done it.
BTW The advice for "Stage fright" went well, i rocked it!
-Jane (link)
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Dear sister problems,
I have a sybling too and i know what it's like, you just need to sit down with your sister and let her know the truth, look her strait in the eye and tell her, then you can tell her in the end that she can either chose to believe you or not but you're telling the truth.
Trust me see where you get with that.
-Beanie
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I am so stressed out and depressed right now. My grades keep dropping and I try so hard to keep them up but some times it's so hard.
I went to the ER a few weeks ago because of my depression and my parents were so mad! I did counseling, so when I told a counselor about my suicidal thoughts that's when they directed me to the ER.
Now, I am afraid to go back to counseling, because if they send me back to the ER my parents will be pissed, also because of the huge medical bill we got from going to the ER last time. I'd hate to waste my parents' time and money over my mental health.
It's so hard to be happy right now, even when I try to. My friends tend to think nothing about it, and leave me alone. And at some occasions, even ignore me.
I feel so overwhelmed and stress, probably mainly because of school, my job, and christmas.
Please help me out, give me advice how to overcome and/or deal with this. =[
Thanks. (link)
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Dear overwhelmed,
This is a really hard topic and i'm going to do the best i can to help.
First of all please don't go suicidal, because scientists were studying it and %90 of suicidal people regret what going suicidal but it's too late to turn back.
I'm afriad of counsling too, they aren't the best resources in my opinion, you need to find something you enjoy that doesn't get you stressed.
-Find a video game that you love that you can get lost in
-Find a book series that will grab your attention
-Try to hang out with your friends some more
-Join a sports team, it'll motivate you to keep your grades up
Pretty much just distract your mind. And as far as your parents sit down and talk with them, let them know what is going on in your life it may not be the first thing on your mind to do but it's a good idea, because it's better to cry or talk and just let everything out to people who are close to you then to hide it away from them, your parents probably have no clue what you are going through and you should let them know because they can't read your mind. Let them know then that will make you less stressful.
If you need more help just message me again or e-mail me at
elementskater0615@yahoo.com
-Beanie
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Im under the age to drink alcohol but I drink sometimes drink..I think my best friend and a guy friend are hanging out this weekend and I want to drink with themm but I dont know WHERE to do it. they want to do it in the woods *all our parents are going to be home/care. Any other ideas on where to drink that we wont get caught? (link)
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Dear under the drinking age,
The woods it a great idea, me and some friends normally go to the beach, lake or pond. We also pick a designated driver and drive around and the driver can only have a couple beers and everyone else it doesn't matter. We normally draw straws and change the designated driver every weekend. Just stay away from public areas and have a great time. Just make sure you don't attract the PoPo (police)
Have fun!
-Beanie
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okay here is the thing my boyfrend is E and my homeboy if F ok. well im not so sure if i still want to date my boyfriend because well he doesnt trust me and on the other hand my homeboy F is really great but i think i want to be more then his homegirl and i can tell that he does too becuase he practically told me! What should i do?
______sign______confused girl (link)
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Dear confused girl,
You prett much told me what you wanted to do, you may not of realized it but you said it. Yes you're current boyfriend is your boyfriend, and he doesn't trust you because he probably sees the way you two interact with eachother. He either knows the way you feel about your homeboy or how your homeboy feels about you. Most of the times great realationships sprout from friendships. And you're curious to find out whether you want to really be more than a homegirl to him.
My personal opinion I think that you should give your homeboy a try. You may be surprised about how well it turns out.
-Beanie
ps- if you decide to take my advice let me know how it turns out.
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14/f - straight
well..i had this boyfriend a really long time ago that i was like in love with
and then we kinda broke up because we both had issues with other stuff ((family..school))
but i still like love him and he's got a new girlfriend that i guess he loves
i want to date other guys
but i guess im intimidating or whatever ((ive been told a couple different things))
Other guys like me..i know..they've told me a lot.
But i feel bad because i dont like them
and i cant date someone i dont like.
i just need help with some issues i guess =/
sorry this is so long.. (link)
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Dear boy issue,
Don't worry it's not long i've seen longer. Yes everyone will have their first love and it will be the hardest one to ever get over. Aparently he wants to move on and you just kinda are still standing there waiting for someone good to cross your path. Even though you may not like a guy that likes you, but maybe you should get to know him first, even if you think you may know him now there may still be more to him than you know.
So try giving some of the guys a chance. I'm not saying go out and say yes to every guy that crosses your path, just go on the occasionaly date and see if there is more to the guy than you saw.
Good luck!
-Beanie
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im not some little inexperienced 12 year old girl whos trying to be a slut..Im just wondering HOW exactly you give someone a hickey? Im always afraid im going to like hurt the guy. ha. Hickeys are like brown so its obviously more than kissing..but is it really biting? (link)
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Dear sound stupid,
Not it doesn't sound like a stupid question and no it's not really biting, you're pretty much just sucking on any part of the guy of where you want to leave the mark. And no you will not hurt the guy and the hickey only turns brown after it's red in the begining because you're pretty much using your mouth and sucking on the guys skin, yes this may sound grosse, but it brings blood towards the surface and it shows and it normally stays there for a good week or two.
-Beanie
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I'm trying to expand my horizons,so I'd like some suggestions.I'd prefer Trance or Acid Techno,but any type of electronic music would be fine. (link)
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Dear looking for some electronic music,
Some bands that you might be interested in is,
Amdeide
Amore
Common Time
Crying Glass Eyes
Duct Tape Mummy
House Luna
There are some bands you can check them out, they are deffinetly something different, if your looking for some more band names just message me.
-Beanie
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Its my birthday in a week (yes happy birthday to me!) and my uncle always sends me a gift card. This year, he sent me 50 dollars to old navy. Great right? No! I hate old navy. So, I would like some help picking out some cute things! I shop at places like macys, hollister, ae, a&f, aero, and places like that. So thanks so much! (link)
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Dear Old Navy,
Some nice stuff if you normally shop at those types of stores is maybe, you know because christmas is here it might be a good idea to get some sweaters or hoodies, maybe even (if they have them cheap enough) get a winter jacket.
They also have really cute flip flops, which you may not want to by durring the winter season, but I myself wear them year round and constantly buy them. Depends on the person i geuss.
Also another great idea is buy some scarfs. I find it a great accesory, because there are so many different types plus it's something different.
Good luck
Hope you find something cute!
-Beanie
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14/f. i hang out with guys alot and now girls think im a slut. does that seem slutty to hangout with mostly guy? im just friends with them, and i still hang out with girls too. this is really bothering mee. (link)
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Dear am i a slut,
I hang out with guys all the time, it doesn't mean that you're a slut, it just means that you get along with guys. Think of it this way, the're just jeleous that you know more guys than them.
-Beanie
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Theres a boy who liked me and then I went out with a boy and i still liked him I broke up with him but not for the boy I like just because I didn't really like him anymore and this boy I like tells me he found someone else after he was ignoring my texts so I stopped and he always stares at me still like he still really does like me but he feels awkward and i don't think he found someone else he probably just thought nothing was happening between me and him and he didn't even know I broke up with my bf. but then he texted me two weeks after and I texted back but then again i got nothing.
10 minutes ago I told him.
"I'm not obsessed but I don't like being ignored and if you really don't want to talk to me anymore then please tell me"
I said I wasn't obsessed because sometimes I say hey to him just to see if he would reply back hahah.
I'm not waiting for him and I never will but I really like him and I just don't want to feel this awkwardness around eachother anymore.
He hasn't replied back yet but do you think it was a good idea to tell him that or no. cause I'm feeling kinda weird about sending it. (link)
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Dear annoyed,
Well you shouldn't really feel awkward about the text you sent because you told him what was on your mind and that's the truely right thing to do. If you really him make a bold move and ask him if he wants to hang out at your place, maybe watch a movie and order some pizza, and if that turns out good than great for you, if not, then maybe he wasn't worth it.
-Beanie
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I could get into detail, but I wont.
Im in love with this boy
and he used to be nice to me.
He has lost total respect for me , becuase I let him take advantage of me [dumb idea, i know]
He's rude to me and mean and etc.
I still like him no matter how mean he is!
No, im probably not going to be able to get over him anytime soon.
Does anyone know how I should try and get his respect back and be friends again? (link)
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Dear lost respect,
I know exactly where you're coming from, i liked someone alot and I let him pretty much take complete advantage, and after that we just stopped talking, he became prick and i wonder why, i figured out that he's just nice to you until he gets what he wants and moves on to the next girl. Unfortunatly he seemed to have hooked your feelings along the way. Don't worry you will get over him, it may just take alot of healing and time. But if you want to gain his respect back, talk to him and tell him what is on your mind and what happened. So pretty much tell him what you asked me. If it turns out good i geuss he just had a bumpy spot, if it turns out bad he was just using you.
-Beanie
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im not sure if this is in the right catagorie or not.. sorry.. well i just recently got a tatoo and i was just wondering, what do i do if people start talking about it because im worried they will because of what it is.. ((its a playboy bunny and its on the back of my shoulder..)) (link)
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Dear tattoo,
Who cares, you got it because you wanted it, fuck everyone else, if they don't like it it's not your problem it's theirs i personally your tattoo rocks.
-Beanie
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i herd my bf kissed another girl so i went and kissed a guy i don't no and i found out the girl he kissed was...........ME.I don't no how to tell him and our relationship is going realy great what am i 2 do? (link)
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Dear scared,
If you really think it's a great realtionship, like you said, then tell him the truth. Tell him wy you did what you did and that it was a missunderstanding. If he truely thinks the realationship is going good too then he will accept you appoligy.
-Beanie
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What are some tips on becoming a really good kisser? like i have the basics down...but what are some things that makes you really good?
like guys...what do you like the most when you're like making out with a girl? (link)
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Dear Kissing,
Just do whta you feel is right, depends if the guy is uptight or laid back.
There is nothing i can really tell you what to do, yes i know not what you want to hear, but it'll come naturally. It's not something you can look up in a book. If you make out enough times though you'll become better over time.
And plus it's just instinct.
-Beanie
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okay i am a virgin, so i haven't had experience with guys pleasing me "down there". i am getting married next month and i know it is something that will come up soon, so i want to know how i could make sure that it is fresh. so it doesn't smell or taste nasty. thank you:)
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Dear Freshness,
just use good old soap and water, maybe a scented soap.
-Beanie
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Ok, summary. I'm 23 years old, smart, mature, grounded, and I think I'm pretty and have a great sense of humor. The problem is I have such a hard time attracting guys. I could be thinner...but what I don't understand is, I have a friend who's younger than me by a couple of years and it's like she jumps from one guy to the next.
We're a lot alike, except I'm not really into the partying scene anymore and I don't have a lot of baggage as far as my past goes. It's pretty clean, cut, 2 serious boyfriends and that's it. She has a lot of baggage. Am I doing something wrong?
She's my friend and I think she's great, but I'm just confused as to what she's got that I don't. I personally (and I'm not the only one) don't think she's prettier than I am. I know she's got more confidence than I do. But I'm not the kind of person to just walk in and be all up in someone's face, I'm very down-to-earth and laid back. She's still in the partying scene, while I'm getting out of that and I'm wanting to find a relationship that's not all about partying. Am I lacking an important relationship quality?
I'm in college, work full-time (Monday-Friday), go to church, outgoing, friendly, good sense of humor...
Someone help me because I'm really beginning to second guess myself. (link)
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Dear Realationship Problem,
First of all never second geuss yourself. There is nothing that she has that you don't. You are bother two seperate people. Just because she has different realtionships than you do doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. You are just aparently moving on to a more mature stage in your life and you are probably looking for that special realtionship that evolves into marriage. Just wait and someone will come that makes you want to talk to them. It'll be special so just kick back, relax and enjoy the ride.
And remember the best realtionships will come when you least expect it. Trust me i know I met an amazing, he's all i tihnk about at the moment and i met him without even meaning too, and we love eachother deeply.
-Beanie
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Im really sick with a cold today and I feel GROSS so I thought itd be lovely to take a bath. I want some ideas of ways to have a really, good relaxing bath. I also want to have my own spa for a day :] like nails, any ideas please? oh, and I would LOVE any homemade facial mask ideas! like with fruits. etc. thanks (link)
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Dear bath,
First of all i'm sorry that you are sick. And a way to have a nice relaxing bath is to set 2 or 3 candels along the bath, with a nice soft scent, put some lavender bubble bath in (if you have it) put on some of your favorite tunes, grab a book and sit back and relax. Soak your hand in some water and scrub your hand with some salt and wash it off again and do your cuticles and what not and paint them, have some fun with it do a crazy design. And as far as a face mask use and avocat recipe.
-Beanie
ps: get well soon.
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okay well my friend is 12 andshe just start4ed going out with this kid whos 16 he turns 17 in junee... is there something wrong with that?? or is that allright? (link)
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Dear Age difference,
To me I don't think there is something wrong with that because if they like eachother they are not going to care wut everyone else thinks about it they're going to do what ever they want. And i also personally don't think there is anything wrong with that because i dated someone for 3 months that was 4 years older than me.
-Beanie
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i use that jergens tanning for your face once a day. but i wash my face 2-3 times a day. is it possible that the jergens tanning will come off? (link)
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Dear Jergans Tanning lotion,
it depends on your skin type, it mot likely will fade a little bit. Or if you have fair skin it might wash all off.
-Beanie
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i can get sort of nervous around guys. so i tend to stay away or just not really talk to them unless sometimes i just let my gaurd down and everything is fine but i still laugh nervously. the other day i was with this guy i like and i think it was okay but i still dont know. what do you think i should do about my nervousness???? (link)
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Dear nervous,
You shouldn't be nervous around guyz, if anything they should be nervous around you. Just don't think of all the negetive things that would happen if you say something wrong and think of all the positive things. Alot of guys like girls who are confident in themselves. Just think in your mind when you're walking down the halls that you are gorgeous and you will appear gorgeous. So just have a little more confidence when you confront a guy.
And I always find that little confidence when I look the guy stait into the eyes, it tells him that you're confident and it reassures yourself.
-Beanie
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