Hey gies . I probably deal with a lot of the same problems as you do. So go ahead...ask me anything. This is so that you know that someone's here for you no matter who you are or what your problem is.
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Today in health we watched "the cycle of life" or something, about babies being born. Well ..I know how they are and stuff, but in this video they showed EVERYTHING, like and, I think I'm scarred, I always wanted to have kids before this, but now I'm thinking I dont want to, since it grossed me out so much, and my health teacher said it hurts a lot. And from what I saw, ew.. and blah.
Do you think I will change my mind later in life? Because I want kids, but blah it seems gross..I'm young, so I will most likely change my mind about kids later right? (link)
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I'm with you there. I saw that video too. Yes, it's duisgusting, but i'm sure later you'll change your mind. And not all of them hurt. It may look duisgusting now, but you'll soon realize that a baby is a whole nother life inside of you that you created and one of the amazing miracles that women can do. It's not something to be duisgusted over. it's something to be amazed about.
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Is it safe to ride roller coasters when you are pregnant? I know it's probably not towards to end of pregnancy, but what about the first few months? (link)
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No. Definitely not. Besides, would you like to be bounced around when you're stuck inside soemone's stomach? I dont think your baby would either. Anyways, it's not safe. There's usually signs outside the rides that say restrictions on riding the ride and if you're not supposed to ride it when you're pregnant, it will say that on the sign.
Good luck with oyur baby.
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Theres this girl i really like in my class when she found out i liked her she told her friends well im dating someone and she actually was and she told me this that she had a bf like 4 or 5 times and she wrote me a note saying i should repsect dat she already had a bf. Now could this mean she likes me but she has a bf at the moment and maybe i could be her bf in the future when she breaks up wid him and she is like kinda nervous and shy around me and quiet and i catch her looking at me my fair share of times help plzzz i really like this girl. (link)
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There's a chance she likes you. If she has a bf however, she's not yours. Wait a while if you think she's worth waiting for. If nothing happens after a while, you should confront her or move on. If she breaks up with her bf, and gets a new one that's not you, it means she's not interested. It's okay though. It means she wasnt "the one." I'm sure you'll find someone else to like. Dont give up hope if this girl doesnt work out though.
Good luck.
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I NEED YOUR ADVICE!! i am 13 and been wanting to pluck my eyebrows forever! and i secretly have. i have been plucking them with my fingers and sometimes using my moms tweezer. but i just dont know how to ask my mom if i can REALY pluck my eyebrows. and i am afriad she will ask me if i have been using her tweezer and i dont want her to get mad at me. if you pluck your eyebrows, i was just wondering what you asked your mom. i am pretty sure my mom will say yes but i want to know how to say it to her.
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Well, 13 sounds old enough to pluck your eyebrows. I did the same that you did. I plucked mine without permission. My mom wasnt mad. I just explained to her that i was curious and i didnt know how to ask. When youdo ask though, say..."Mom, Am i the right age to start plucking my eyebrows? I dont want them to be thinner, but not too thin. Will you help me?" I'm sure she'll understand. A girl has got to be beautiful :]
Hope that helped.
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When you shave are you supposed to shave the upper part of your leg too? I never have because the hairs are so light you can notice...but are you supposed to? (link)
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It's not the fact of wether you're supposed to or not. You dont have to. However, if you wear short shorts around people or if you have a boyfriend, you dont want them feeling your hairy legs. But it's up to you. I shave the whole leg, sepecially during the summer.
Hope that helped.
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i became being belimic a little bit ago because im starting to dislike my eating habits. dont worry im probably going to eat reguarly soon. i havent researched it that much but i was wondering how throwing up is bad for you? i mean, the food goes down in your stomach and takes nutrients out of the food but all it does is make the rest come up again. whats wrong with that? the excess food exit the body later anyway. just in a different way. (link)
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I undertand where you're coming from. I guess it would be easy to think that. But the truth is...the esophagus get's eroded from all the acid when you puke. If you keep throwing up your food, over time you could really mess up your esophagus. I've had lots of friends go through this. Most of them stopped in time, thankfully. But there's one...she told me she stopped and she really didnt and she ended up in the hospital for a week. They had to feed her through a tube b/c she wouldnt keep anything down. You should be very careful about this. And sometimes, even if you say you're going to stop, if it becomes a habit- you might not be able to. Keep me updated on how you're doing if you would like.
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I just told a guy i like that i like him. no big deal right? except for the fact that he's dating my best friend. if she finds out im dead. but i needed him to know. i thought it would help me not like him anymore but truth be told...it made me like him more now that he knows. what do i do now? please help.
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I actually just helped a friend with this. Yeah...it might not have been the best idea to tell him when he's dating your best friend but you acted on emotions. You make mistakes in love and life in order to learn from them. At least now he knows. If he likes you, he'll tell you. If not, it wasnt meant to be. But the good news is...summer is almost here and you can try to forget about this crush of yours. Go out and flirt until you get sick of it. Meet hott guys and then ditch them for even hotter guys. Everything is going to be fine. As for your friend...well she may not talk to you for a while if she finds out but, if she's really a friend...she'll understand. Life and love is about taking risks and making mistakes. That's exactly what you did. Don't beat yourself up over it. This will work itself out over time and you cant really tell what will happen until the very end. Keep me updated if you'd like.
Hope that helped.
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There's this guy @ school, Derek, who I'm friends with, and I've known him for a few years.. and I've been in love with him for the past 2 years. School just ended, and I just can't comprehend the thought that I won't see him again for another 3 months. The thought of it makes me nauseus, and I get depressed. Last night I cried myself to sleep because I missed Derek so much.. and school just ended yesterday. He doesnt have a cell fone, but I have his house #. I wanna call him, but I don't wanna sound dumb. Ive never called him before, and he doesnt have my number. I dont know what to do.. I just really wanna see him, or atleast talk to him. I'm going to go crazy this summer if I dont. What should I do? Btw im really shy :/ (link)
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wow...2 years is a long time...how do you hold something like that in...i say call him! tell him how much he means to you. it's okay to be shy but if you want him to know bad enough, tell him. if it doesnt work out- it wasnt meant to be. it's tough. but that's love. however it if does work out - you'll be sooo glad you called and told him.
I hope that helped.
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Hi Natalia, i'm 18 yrs old...i am in love w/ this guy named Travis...we have been "Friends With Benefits" 4 quite a while now...he knows that i luv him...We say "I Love U" EVERYTIME that we r on the fone together...he treats me like a PRINCESS...last nite he told me that i was like a sister 2 him.....i was CRUSHED....i cried myself 2 sleep.....he is my EVERYTHING!!!!!....i dunno what 2 do....i feel like giving up on EVERYTHING...including life....I NEED U NOW GURLI!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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well...i think i know who this is! im so sorry this is happening to you! it sounds to me like he does love you but both of yall are afraid to make the first move! explain to him that you think of him more than a friend! tell him that when you said i love you...you really meant you LOVED him! tell him that you cant live without him and tell him everything you just told me! dont give up on your life though..its not worth it! especially over a guy! you have taught me so many things and that is one of them...dont do it! i love you girl! and whern i said dont give up on life...i meant dont give up on the one you love either! ive done it and you could lose him to someone else and then you'll really feel bad! yall just need to talk! i bet you would find he probably didnt mean it eexactly how you took it...he mite even feel the same thing you do or close to it! im me if you need more advice.
hope that helped a little!!
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im 14/f and i have never had a boyfriend or even a kiss. the thing is i want one but, when people like me i say no because i want the one that i like and thats all. the thing is how do i get the person i like to like me back? but they may like some one else.thanks
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well unfortunately...we cant make love happen...it has to come on its own! no one can make you love someone and you cant make someone love you! but if you show this person that you are interested...they might also be and give you a chance. however, if you show them you're interested and they show that they are not, then you should move on...you can find love in so many places and people but true love is found in just one special person. it wont hurt to move on so go ahead and expierience with other people...who knows..you might wind up liking them way better!
hope that helped you!!!
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hey.. i have a VERRRY bad situation. My mom and dad are getting a divorce and i dont know what to do! Is it my fault? What can i do (if possible) to get them back together? i love my mom and my dad but when they yell and scream its hard for me to love either one of them.... plz plz plz help!! Everytime i think about it it makes me cry!! (link)
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im sorry your parents are getting a divorce...i can only imagine how hard it is! but it is DEFENITELY not your fault! sometimes two people just dont get along and if thy are getting a divorce...it is there decision and if they arent happy together then believe me...you dont want them to be together! its okay to be angry when your parents fight...that is normal! just remeber that they have their differences and sometimes they just need to yell and scream for a while and then they'll be okay again! but i am so sorry you are going through a time like this...if you need someone to talk to you i am Always here.ill always be ready to talk!
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well the last month i have been thinking about cuttin because me and this kid nmed ryan*MY LOVE*
have been fighting. i told one of my friends and they told my school counsler. my school cons. called me down and we talked about everything.. now im seeing a theropist witch im happy about.
but the other day i cut R in my leg..and i cut 4 lines kinda small on my leg.
last night i was talking to ryan on the comptuer and he said he would die for me,he loved me,he hates kelly(his EX)
and today in his profile he put kelly-i love you.
i asked him what was up and he said i dont know.
but i have been down that rode plenty of times..when ever me and him fighting or ingoure eachother he puts that in his profile,to make me jeoulse.(he told me it was to make me jeoulse)
soo i dont no if he is lieing about the kelly thing or serouse because i wanna die i cant live my life with out him i love him so much.
but i dont no if he makes me cut,trys to get me jeoulse
should i be friends/love him?
but if i dont talk to him i see his name on my budydlist and i see him in school and dont say anything i wanna cut.what should i do? (link)
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well it sounds to me like you are putting yourself through pain over a guy who treats you wrong. there are sooo many guys out there and it sounds to me like you dont "love" ryan but you just cant let go of him. try to find someone new...who knows...you'll probably start liking him this much after a while. but if you really truly think that this ryan guy is the perfect guy for you then you DEFENETLY need to talk to him about all of this. you need to tell him how it makes you feel when he writes those things in his profile and explain to him that if that is how he truly feels then you dont need to be with him. but STOP cutting yourself over a guy..it isnt worth it..find something else to take your anger out on besides yourself. Nobody deserves that. There are too many people in the world that would love to treat you right.
i hope this helped!
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Ok sorry that this is long but please don't pass over it I really need help.
My parents aren't divorced but they both cheat on each other they basically both get with anything that moves of the opposite sex. My dad is always drunk and is very abusive. My mom isn't physically abusive but she just tells me that I'm a waste of life and that she wishes she never had me and that I'm such a huge mistake and bla, bla, bla but her boyfriend Tom hits me all the time and even rapes me sometimes. I've gone to the police before and they took my parents side because to everyone else they look like such nice people. But at night they're druggies and alcoholics. I even went to social sevices they put me in a home for a week where I started cutting and then they put me right back with them! Lately I met a guy who uses drugs and I've been going out with him. And we were using and did some things and now I'm pregnant and I don't know what to do. He was arrested for possesion so I can't go to him. I can't go to my parents. I really don't have any friends who aren't stoners and all they care about is how they're going to get their next fix. I don't know what to do. I've already tried killing myself and it didn't work. I'm soo scared I don't know what to do. I was going to run away but I know that I'll just end up somewhere where there's drugs and I'm really trying to stop. What can I do about all of this? Please help me (link)
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wow.....i am sooooo sorry that you have to go through all of this. it sounds like your parents dont realize what they're doing to you and you are in some tough stuff there. i think that you HAVE to find new friends and a new bf because drugs and cutting doesnt help ANYTHING! im sorry that you feel you have to do this but you dont....i have a lot to say to this so im me and i will talk to you and again i am soo sorry that you go through this all the time but you need to find help before everything gets worse...im me asap!
i hope i hear from you...
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do you think its possible to acctually fall in true love in the 7th grade? i know everyone always says you dont find love until youre older, but i think ive found the perfect person. seriously... if someone asked me to change somethinmg about him, i would say no, he needs no changing. ive gone out with him three times and all three times we broke up for stupid reasons. hes always there for me, and always makes me feel like the smartest, prettiest, most unique person in the planet. he is willing to listen to my views on things, and trys really ard to make me happy. he is artistic, yet hes also a football player. hes really hot but i SWEAR thats not why i love him. well, i think you get my point so ill be quiet now. Tell me what you think! thanks - i rate high unless your response really sucks. (link)
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i think that ffallin IN love at 7th grade is very rare. love and in love are 2 completely different things. however, i have been with my guy for about 2 years now and i think he is the perfect guy for me. so event ho it is rare i think it is defenetly possible. keep me updated on how it works out if ya want.
i hope that answered youer question!
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I'm 15, female and I have been dating my bf for almost a month now. I am a cutter but none of my friends know about it. My bf and I were talking about one of our friends being a cutter and he asked me if I was. I lied to him and told him I wasn't. Now I feel terrible about lying to him. I afraid of how he will react if I tell him. Do you think I should tell him the truth?
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if you arent ready to tell him, then you have a right not to until you feel comfortable with him knowing about it. however, if you do tell him maybe he could help you and im sure he will be okay with it. If he isnt than he isnt worth it. the decision is up to you. i hope that helped.
Im me if you need more advice on this!
beachbarbie721
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