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Q: ... there's a man who's hittin' on me. I'm 20 he's 13 yrs my senior, married but no kids. I don't like him at all, but it seems that he CANNOT stop thinkin' 'bout/of me. I've been dealin' with this since Valentines, and i've ignored him (it been exam period so I don't see him as often in the halls), told him i wasn't interested and that he should stick to his wife. But Now that exams are over, He's back to haunt me. I'm not sure wat to do. I do not want to call the police because he's not stalkin' me, or callin' me or hurtin' me (except mentally and emotionally). Because of him, i'm shyin' away from all guys. And its not fair to the ones that are really interested in me. WHAT DO I DO?
signed,
NOM.

I think that you should keep ignoring him and tell a guy that likes you, you like him! That way mabye the other guy will stop thinking about you! If he starts to hurt you call the police. Hope i helped!

Q: ok - i need a prom dress, and FAST. i don't want anything too crazy - like no zebra print, or anything like that, relatively simple cut. does anyone know where i can get one? and what style and color do you think would look best on me?
more info - i'm 5'8, but have a small frame, 125 lbs, long brown hair, big brown eyes, fair skin, and a small bust.
thank you so much!!

JCPenny has dresses or Filene's...w/e store that has a junior department has dresses! Hope i helped!

Q: at the end of the school year my school is goin gon a trip and i need ways to get money FAST! (( i need about $300 by june)) i need quick easy ways to do this and other than babysitting (( i already do))

... THANKS FOR THE HELPP!

Do extra things around the house or you can recycle plastic & glass bottles at one of those recycling places! Hope i helped!

Q: Where does everyone get them little stick men icons, with the funny sayings?

www.iconator.com or www.originalicons.com
Hope i helped!

Q: I NEED SERIOUS HELPPPPPPPP!

My friend and I recently had a huge fight.

She started to spread rumors about me.

HALF OF THE PEOPLE at school want to murder me.

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

Just deny all the rumors and tell your friend that you need to talk, and if that doesn't work... just talk to her wherever she is and tell her to stop tellin rumors... just try to work everything out! Hope i helped!

Q: hey everybody this question is for everyone i am getting braces soon and i am totally freaking out on what colors to get because if i don't like the colors i get then i have to wait till i get them changed again and i am very picky so if anybody could help it would be greatly apperciated thanks i will rate 5's for good and reasonable answers. oh yeah one more thing i am a girl and my favorite color is blue and only blue thanks.

You should definitely get blue if that is your fav. color! Get light blue though so it doesn't look like you ahev stuff in your teeth! Hope i helped!

Q: There's this guy name James...well,in 7th grade, I heard he used to like me and he was going to ask me out...well I HATED HIM...I still do! I'm not in 9th grade and I thought he was over me because he has all these girlfriends...But lately, everytime I just happen to glance over, I see him looking at me! It makes me really nervous..(I'm in 10th grade now) Do you think he likes me--ughh so grossssss...I RATE

I think he liked you because i mean he looks at you. You will know if he starts talking to you and starts to actually notice you! Hope i helped!

Q: Tampons hurt so much when i try to put them in. Im pretty sure im putting them in the right angle. Help!!!

Maybe you have an infection? That's why it hurts... i would have the doctor look at it just to make sure! Hope i helped!

Q: I believe in sex after marriage, but my boyfriend is persisiting i have sex with him. He aggrivates me ALL the time and I can see myself giving in. I know I will regret it as soon as I've done "the deed". I'm confused as to what I should do; should I choose the easy option and give in? or go by my wishes and wait?

You should definitely wait till your married, I mean your only 15! If your BF keepd insisting just say im sorry but i can't! Hope i helped!

Q: ok..i really screwed up, i know. heres my story. my BEST friend was going out with this guy for like 4 months, then they broke up for no particular reason, just that it wasnt really working out. but i became sort of friends with him while they were together. all my other friends said during the time they were together that the way he looked at me was as if he liked me and all that. i took no notice because i didnt want my to hurt my friend. once they broke up... and about 2 months later he called me and asked me if he could come over. i said yes. we rented some movies and watched them. then we started fooling around and one thing led to another and we were all over each other and making out! we didnt have sex though. he left and i felt enormous amounts of guilt because i promised myself and my best friend that nothing would ever happen between me and him. i didnt want to tell her but i figured she had a right to know. i asked other people about what to do and almost all of them said that i should tell her. so 4 days later i did. she didnt take it so well. she hasnt talked to me since. she has sent me messages of abuse, turned my other friends against me, wont talk to me about it. i say to her that i will talk when shes ready to talk- she says shes not ready yet..then sends me messages saying that i am avoiding her- i am just giving her the space she needs or wants rather. all i am asking is what should the next step that i take be?? should i confront her to her face and tell her that we are talking about this now whether you like it or not...or just leave it!!?? Please help me! i am really stuck.

I think that you should definitely say it is time to talk about this. Also, you should grab the guy she was going out with and you should all talk face to face! Just say you are really sorry! Hope i helped!

Q: I have a friend that has been drinking and stuff. I've told her not to but i know she doesn't care. And now everybody is all like yeah i drink a lot and i've gotten drunk and smoked that. It seems like everybody smokes and drinks! it's crazy we're all still young! I don't do that kind of stuff and I feel weird like ppl think it's no big deal drinking and i say it's wrong and they think i'm weird. I'm so confused! does everybody do the drugs? i'm not going to start doing them but should i still speak up and say they're wrong?

Yes I think you should i think you should show them what smoking can do for the lungs and what it can cause. Also, you should do the same thing with the drinking! But don't get pressured in to doing it! Hope i helped!

Q: i crack my neck and my friend thinks that it will make my neck all messed up when im older...is that true? i dont wanna be messed up when im old!!! lol
will rate high

Yes it is possible to ruin your neck when you do that. It is the same thing if you crack your knuckles, you can get arthritis. Hope i helped!

Q: I Bought some sunglasses, and I want to put a small heart decal on the lower corner! anyone know where to get this decal??

thanks in advance!!

I have seen them at Walmart LOL! Hope i helped!

Q: Do yOU find anything wrong with A white girl and a Black guy being in-love dating, and wanting to get married?

please, share your oppinion, and support it!
I am open to hear both sides!

No i don't because black people and white people are exactly the same we just have different colored skin! I mean it's like a dog, you don't see anything wrong with a pitbull and a rott, not that i'm saying people are dogs but w/e. I think that we have come very far and we should be together no matter wat ur skin color is or ur hair!

Q: My friend Bethany likes the guy that I'm absolutley head over heels in love with..I cant keep my mind off the kid and I just Love him.. Should I get with him? or should I just try to forget him?

Please I need help

Confused*

I think that if she isn't going to make the move u should defintely! Hope i helped!

Q: ok so i have this friend and she went to this one school untill the end of 6th grade and then she moved to my school and she is my friend now (im in 8th grade now) and so we went to the track meet and i met some of her friends from her old school and so i talked to them and then when i got home i taked to them on the internet and asked them who they thought was hotter and they said that i was and so when i went to school the next day she wanted to know what they said about who was hotter and i told her that they said that i was hotter then she was and so was like no seriously what did they say and i told her that they said that i was hotter and she goes stop lying and i was like im not lying b/c that is what they said and she was like no tell me and i said it again and she was like oh well then they must have just said that to make you feel better about yourself and i was like no b/c i talked to them on the phone too and she was like im sure that they were just making me feel better and they thought that i was hotter and my friend (lets call her Lee) well lee isnt that pretty she weighs more then me and her hair is all frizy and i am 5-2 1/2 and weigh 105 and my hair isnt frizzy oh and she has acne too and i dont ppl keep telling me that i am prettier then her and her boyfriend told me that too so i dono y she would say that they were lying to me and i am a teen runway model can someone tell me whats wrong with her? i rate 5's for good and not stupid answer

Wow

I think that your friend just wants to be excepted because you are so beautiful, i think she is jealous. I don't think that you should tell her her bf said that you were prettier! There is nothing wrong with her she is just jealous! Hope i helped!

Q: Anyone have any good recipies for brownies WITHOUT nuts? I can't seem to find a good one!

i have this website that you can go 2... here it is http://www.everylastrecipe.com/rdir-id-150.asp Hope i helped!

Q: hi, i am a sophomore boy and i have a crush on a freshman girl in my basketball class. i have had a lot of aim convos with her, many in person convos, and ive called her twice. i hear she has a bf and apparently, theyre in love. i dont want to be a third wheel or anything, and im sure shes not slutty or anything. what should i do? ive tried keeping low and playing hard to get, but it doesnt seem to have any positive effect, so im talking to her online and a little bit in person. should i ask her out (not ask her out to be my gf, but ask her to hang out) or what?

I think you should ask her to hang out because if her boyfriend breaks up with her you can sweep her off her feet! Hope i helped!

Q: I have always had this crush on a boy named Riley and so has my friend Anna. But then I realized that Riley was to young, so Anna and I gave up on him. But now, I have a crush on a boy named Camden, and I didn't tell Anna because I didn't want her to "win" him. One day, I went to go get a drink in the hallway, and I came back into the classroom, and I saw Anna FLIRTING with Camden! CAN'T I LIKE ONE SINGLE VOY WITHOUT ANNA BARGING IN! I know Camden doesn't like me, but it's worth a shot. Does anyone know how I can "win" guys without friends stealing them?!

Be really flirty but don't make it obvious when ur friend is there. Also, be yourself and be extremely nice! Hope i helped!

Q: I'm currently on the birth control show and my gynocologist has just informed me of the dangers of being on it for more than two years. I need to switch my birth control method and I'm trying to decide between taking Seasonale (the birth control pill that gives you 4 periods a year) and the birth control patch. Has anyone tried either or both of these? I'm having trouble deciding which one to do. Any suggestions or advice?

I don't think that you should use the patch, i think you should take the pill becasue patches don't really work(i've heard from things on the websites). Hope i helped!

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