25 Female. Just a down to earth girl living life to the fullest. Ive had the ups and downs. Depression/anexity/family problems/sex life/relationships. I work in outpatient physc and love giving my best advice as possible.
Gender: Female
Location: Massachusetts
Occupation: Outpatient Pysc
Age: 25
Member Since: November 12, 2013
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Last Update: March 16, 2024
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My alcoholic mother neglected my education from age 5 by "unschooling" me (it's code for lazy parents who are too prideful to admit their failure in homeschooling) I'm going to be 18 next year and I've never been so depressed and hopeless.
I tried to motivate myself to catch up academically years ago, but it just made me too upset to even open a text book.
I have no idea what to do. I feel like I have no future. (link)
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First off...Don't feel like you have no future. You can do anything at any age. I understand what it is like growing up with an alcoholic parent. Learning is defiantly hard and it takes up a lot of your time up and it can be stressful. You can do anything you set your mind to...Im 24 and decided hey I want to go back to college to further my career and when I took the placement test I totally failed because I didn't study anything and haven't been in school for years. I totally understand the feeling being like "Forget this why am I so stupid" Which is not true. I learned that negative self talk doesn't go far and I think you just need to focus on yourself. You can get a job and start somewhere and work your way up. You do what your heart tells you and just remember this is not your fault for feeling this way. Maybe even sign up for a local gym or sport to meet new friends and enjoy doing something different. Just know that your 18 and you have SO much life ahead of you. If you are really struggling with depression I suggest going to see a counselor it has helped me a lot. If you need anything else please feel free to contact me. I hope things get better for you
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I have made wrong choices and now I am no longer interested in remaining alive. I don't need advice how not to commit suicide. I need help to commit suicide. Please don't tell me that there is still anything worth remaining alive for on this planet. Don't kid yourself and don't try and kid me!! All I want is someone to assist me so that there is zero chance of failure. If you aren't prepared to do that then please don't bother making any comment. I am in the U.K. so you will also need to be in the U.K. Thanks very much. (link)
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Hey...your probably not going to like hearing what I say but I have been there. I have been in your position where I OVERDOSED and that was SOO awful. I am in therapy now and take my medication as given. I have a happier life on outcome. Please please call a hot line...or seek counseling. There is a lot to live for and ive made terrible mistakes and wish that I was dead too at times...But after every hurricane there is a rainbow and right now might be the darkest of your times...but you need help! So many other people like you struggle with life every day. Please message me if you ever need someone to talk to! I know what your going through (even if you think no she doesn't) I do. No one on this website is going to be like OK this is what you need to do. WE are on this website for advice and to HELP people in positive ways. best of luck and I hope you get the help you deserve and need. xo
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I met a guy on deviant art who was 20 (I'm 13 but I turn 14 on January 7th) and we started talking. I never had my age or name up on my profile. Or how I looked like. So he didn't know how old I was or any of that. He saw my art, though and thought I was so great. He had a fan fiction series he was writing and I suggested he made a Wattpad account for it. So he did. And we chatted on there more. One day I suggested he added a cover to his fan fiction and he said he wasn't too good at making covers so I offered to draw one for him. I finished it within a week (I think). He loved it and even told me I did so well, he kinda wanted to give me virtual kisses because of it. I was kinda shocked and didn't know how to respond at first. Then I replied- "That's cute. *virtual kisses* 😘" He did the same. Ever since, we'd been giving each other virtual kisses and I was had been so into him while we were talking as friends so I went along with it. Later on, we got pretty close and I lived it. However, one day I was just looking around at his profile and I saw it. He was 20 effing years old. I didn't know what to do because I was already so into him and thought my age could scare him off. But I ignored it for a while. Months later (and quite recently) he asked me how old I was and my hear freaking SINKED. I freaked out big time and didn't know what to say. I was thinking "Should I tell him my real age?" "What if he never talks to me again?" "What's gonna happen?" Eventually, I freaked out and told him I was 15, thinking it would freak him out a little less (again, I'm 13). His reaction wasn't really good at first but he said he'd wait for me and he thinks I'm turning 18 in 2019 but I'm really turning 18 in 2020. So instead of 3 years, he'd have to wait 5 years for me to turn 18. It's almost been a month since then and I'm in love with this guy. I know how he looks, how he sounds, and everything. He has a YouTube channel as well but anyways yeah. We've been texting on Kik for awhile now. But idk what to do, PLEASE HELP. WE'VE BEEN FLIRTING A LOT AND WE ARE SUPPOSED TO MEET EACH OTHER ONE DAY. IM SCARED HOW HE'LL REACT AND THAT HE'LL STOP TALKING TO ME!!! HELP!!!!!
I don't even CARE if he doesn't want a relationship. Just having him still talk to me will be enough. (link)
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Hi babe...You are 13 you are still a baby. Someone who is 20 saying they will wait for you is unrealistic and this is not safe for you. Meeting people on the internet can be fun but its also is very risky. Have you ever seen the show catfish? This is not okay. I understand the feelings you seem to have for this guy but your SO young! Honestly...if a guy is 20 and talking to a "15" year old is very much red flags. So if he is okay with talking to a 15 year old that's scary. You have to think this guy who is 20 will be turning 21 soon, and will be going out into bars probably going to college...and your 13. What grade would you be in? 8th grade? Not even in highschool and this guy has already graduated. I understand its fun having the same interests as someone else like art. But this is unhealthy and it concerns me for your safety. Find a boy your age and experience things together. Meet a boy in your area who you will like. What is the reality of a guy whose 20 will wair years he would now be 23 for a "18" year old. Theres a big age gap. Why don't you tell him you know you like him but the age gap scares you. You can be friends with him I guess but I wouldn't even go that far. Something is honestly wrong with him if hes not going for girls his age. ****RED FLAGS*** Also. If he waits for you..who is going to drive you to see this boy? nevermind MAN he is a grown adult and your not even a teenager yet. Please protect yourself and do not make any more contact with him. I am scared for you for something bad to happen. If you would like my facebook or email feel free to ask for it. I want to shake you and say wake up!!! Someone will come along for you when the time is right...The time is not right right now. I am 24 and I know how 20 year old guys work.
xoxoxo
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So she got this new boyfriend - her first may I add - and never stopped talking about him for the first week. 3 days after he asked her out, he was referred to as her boyfriend even though they hadn't been on a date or kissed yet.
Despite me changing the subject every time she brings him up, there are always these comments that piss me off. It's always, "X did this and X did that."
I get she's excited about it but I'm really annoyed that she keeps bringing it up. We were working on a school project and she completely blew me off, ignoring me and not doing what she was supposed to be doing FOR HOURS, just to talk to him. Whenever I tried to get her to send it to me, all I got was "on the phone to him".
I always feel like I'm put second now, when you'd think it should be Best Friend 1st, guy later. Don't get me wrong, I'd never make her choose but when she goes so far as to ignore me over something important to me, you can imagine I'd be pissed off.
Are there any hints I could use? Because I'd sound like a bit of a dick causing drama if I just told her to stop outright. Thanks :) (link)
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I think you are being a good friend by being understanding. I think that you should just tell her that you love her and your happy for her and you undersand shes busy alot to spend time with this guy but to remind her that you are feeling left out. That you don't want to ask her for her attention but show a little more towards you because you are feeling left behind. Tell her you understand shes excited about this new realtionship but it seems to be all she talks about and ask her when you guys have best friend time together to just ficus on you two together and nothing/no one else. Then i think you should just give her space and she will come around. You said that this is her first boyfriend so shes excited she doesnt know how to balance friends out. She knows your not going anywhere. My best friend got her first boyfriend and i didnt see her for months and it really hurt me but i understood that she didnt know how to balance friends and a new realtionship. It will take time and she will come around. xoxo
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You're the first person who seemed to finally make sense about this. Well I don't know if it was only a thrill for him. He spent SOOOOOO much time on me, talking and skyping. He didn't even mind just staring at me and not talking as long as he could see me. Etc. But he did what he did. He broke all his promises. That's a deal breaker isn't it? Plus... He asked to do things with the girl. Which meant sexting or "Skype sex". On the account my friend made. Just the same way him and I did. He told me he was only trying to find out if she was fake based on the response but that sounds like a stupid excuse and a lie. Especially since he broke all his promises with the other fake account. Yet he used to seem so amazing and perfect like I ddescribed. It's so confusing and painful. Is it possible to find a very loyal guy who wouldn't flirt with other girls or be ever interested in other girls, and who wouldn't be interested/attracted to other girls sexually? And not getting turned on by them having such thoughts about them. AND... Him being just like mad, gentle, attentive, talking to me a lot and everything good about my ex. Is it possible to find such a guy? Or even likely? (Or a girl. I like both) (link)
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Of course love...you just have been with the wrong men. Someone is out there for you. It just takes time. you have to wait for it to happen too and can't go looking for it. Things happen unexpectedly. Just a lesson learned and in the future when you meet someone you care and love about none of these thoughts will come in your head. You will love and trust this person and they will always bring you up and be happier and make you a brighter and happier person inside and out. Tell this guy good bye and ignore him. He will be crying back to you. He is in the wrong 100% your guy feelings are always accurate
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This is long, and can't be fully understood until read to the end. But I desperately need help. I would appreciate it so much.
I am torn , confused, and shattered. I can't function.
To start.. I broke up with my boyfriend recently. He is from Germany and I am from America. We met on Omegle about a year ago. We were friends for several months before we fell in love, and we very close until we became best friends. We also have skyped numerous times.
He used to seem perfect, and like the perfect match for me. And he seemed soooo similar to me in ways that are hard to find. And this was extremely rare as I am way different than most people. He overflowed me with love and was always there for me. He always called me perfect and precious, and said the sweetest most loving things I've ever heard... You have no idea. I could go on for a LONG time about it. But trust me, it was unlike anything I've ever heard from a guy. Also, he read my messages so quickly, and talked to me all day till he fell asleep, except in the beginning sometimes he took a bit longer between replies. Anyway, also he told me he didn't find other girls hot, pretty, cute or anything. Also, that he didn't ever have sexual thoughts for other girls or get turned on by them, etc. And honestly , if I had a partner who did I'd feel terrible. I wish I didn't feel that way. I am afraid I won't ever find someone like that. Although ... He may have been lying and you will see why later. Even so I would feel awful otherwise. As a reminder again we were long distance and hadnt met yet (there a reason , due to external circumstances)
Also - He's in high school still at 20 because he did an apprenticeship for 3 years - which he hated so he went back to finish high school. He said his class is mostly girls. So he has two friends , I'll call them E and M. He went to E's and M was there too. But it was late into the night , 2 or 3 am. He stopped when I said it made me feel uncomfortable.
So anyway, everything seemed great for a while. He even did things like buying the same phone as me because he liked everything that had anything to do with me.. and saving money to move to USA as soon as he can. He was willing to move here for me. And we would Skype for hours , and we... Did things on Skype too. 'Skype sex' if you will.. he waited a long time until we could (I often wasn't able to until later, and we have a large time difference) and he was willing to wait till when it was 6 am there in Germany to do it with me if necessary. Also, he was so loving about it and just I can't put it into words. He saw sexual things between us as an expression of love between us and something he felt for no one else now. I often had gotten emotional when we did it and I cannot describe it... And he loved me like no one else ever had. There is much more and I could go on for hours trust me, he seemed perfect. Perfect for me. The perfect partner that I ever wanted
(((by the way, the thing when he went to a girls house (there were 2 girls there he said, these two friends that I've always known about) and was there late into the night (3am) it made me feel weird even though he stopped when I said it makes me uncomfortable. And after my past relationship I had the fear that I might have no other way of finding out if he's as loyal as I thought, after what happened last time. I told a friend, she is an online friends. Keep reading)
I usually talk to him on Kik, a messaging app where you can have your own display name and picture (unlike SMS for example). my friend messaged him on Kik and started flirting with him (she told me why and that she was going to do it). She wanted to make sure he really is loyal. She did it on Wednesday. She told me she did it but when I asked for the response she said it was on her other phone , and that she'll check it later. I let it slide for 3 days.. with more excuses from her. so I got scared. I made a fake account later, with a different name and picture. when I told my friend about his responses and showed her, she also showed me the ones he said to her. I was crushed.
Before I write how the conversation went on Kik with him and my friend and how the Kik conversation with the account I made (the picture and name wasn't me) went - Its vital to first say - When we were still together, he promised me that he would tell me if a girl flirted with him. He also told me he would not encourage it and that he'd ignore her. He told me he would never say something like awwww to another girl as a response unless it was something such as a sister or child etc. And him and I considered it cheating in our relationship to call another of the opposite gender cute or hot etc to their faces and promised to absolutely never. Plus he claimed he didn't even didn't even find othevgirls cute or hot, etc. anymore. But now, I wonder if that's even possible. But as I was saying, keep in mind that we took promises very seriously. It's not about the actions, it's about the set boundaries being crossed. And he crossed several.
Here is how the text conversation went between my friend and him. Also, the things in [[[ ]]] refer to comments im making about it and it isn't actually in the conversation. Also , what I say in between texts is just saying that a certain amount of time passed and it wasn't one of the texts exchanged. so here is how it went between him and my friend.
Her: hey cutie, we met on Omegle a long time ago, wanna chat?
[[[Him and I met on Omegle. He went on there back when he was lonely going back to school after the apprenticeship. We were friends for many months before we fell in love and he met a few other people on there too]]]
Him: we did?
Her: yes we did
Him: oh okay. Why did you decide to text me? :)
Her: you're really hot!!
Him: I am? Thank you.
A few hours later ..she hadn't read it or replied yet
Him: so you want to do things? Haha
[[[Him and I used doing things as a phrase meaning doing sexual things, usually over Skype and sometimes we would both be self-pleasuring while typing long messages... I won't go into detail but again its something uncommon it seems. It was so full of love and connection. Anyway, he also thought the phrase doing things is commonly known to mean to do something sexual in English ]]]
Some hours later again..
Him: are you there?
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Now here is what happened in the text conversation on account I made with a different name and picture. First,, while texting with me (on my real account),he wanted to find something to eat. He left to get something then came back Shortly after is when I texted him on the fake one. He the told me he couldn't find anything he likes then he said " i guess I'll make a sandwich 😒 brb". then he went to go chat with the fake account... Um, that's not making a sandwich. When I confronted him on that later, he told me he was going to but wanted to see who the hell was texting him. But I didn't believe him because of everything else that happened in the Kik chat with this girl (that I was actually behind).
Anywho, this is how it went.
The girl[[[it was me but pretending to be a real girl ]]]: Hi
Him: hey
The girl: how are you?
Him: I'm great, thanks . How about you?
The girl: Great ;) I like your pic
Him: awwww thank you :) I like your pic too.
Her: no problem ;) you're really cute
Him: awww you think so?
Him again: so are you
Then I confronted him...
I told him the account I made wasn't real and I told him the truth about what my friend said. I broke up with him because he did everything he said he'd never do. His excuse was that he didn't know why he said all that to her (it wasn't a real person and I told him that right after, it was me behind that account I made). I told him I have no way of knowing he didn't do that many other times. Then he accused me of not trusting him earlier in the relationship. But I was scared sometimes back then because of the late nights with the two girls and because of what my previous ex did. He tried to take the conversation off himself.. but I didn't let that happen.
His excuse for his response to my friend was that he wanted to find out if it was a fake account or not. He told me he only asked to do things so that he could find out if she's fake based on her response.
That's obviously a lie for multiple reasons:
1. He broke all his promises on the account that I made, and he did something we considered cheating. He broke my trust and broke his promises with many things in that chat. So then why should I believe what he says, especially about the chat with my friend?
2. It's a shady excuse. No guy Asks a girl to do sexual things unless he is really asking to do those things (sexting, pictures, Skype sex etc). And he didn't tell me about either of the girls (one or them not being actually real) until I confronted him... Another violated promise. Also, he said in the chat with my friend why did you decide to text me? :) He was friendly about it even though she was flirting with him. first if all he me before also that he never even uses emojis with non friends. That's only one little detail. his emojis showed that he was encouraging it and he went along with it. Also, When she called him hot, he said "I am?". If he suspected she's fake like he claimed, he wouldn't say that(also I've assured him countless times about his looks in the most loving and heartfelt way). These together all are supporting that he is a liar.
3. If they seemed fake, he wouldn't care to say the things he did. And instead of asking to do sexual things to find out if he was fake (Like I said, he claimed that's why but it sounds like a lie), he could've easily said something else.
4. Triple texting over several hours. He even said "are you there?" Several hours later at one point.
5. He easily coudlve said anyway that he has a girlfriend and told her to stop that. He told me that what he would say If something like this happened, and that he would tell me about it. He did not
6. And more.. needless to be said.
Part of me wants to believe his excuses because of the past with him and how he definitely seemed trustworthy and loyal
.... he seemed perfect. But I can't believe such stupid shady excuses. This is pure logic. So im torn and confused.
But either way, he broke my trust and broke several promises. And it definitely seemed like he asked the girl to do it... Not just because he wanted to know if she was fake!! And I already explained why it looks definitely like this excuse of his is a lie, in the above reasons I already listed.
And no guy doesn't know why he does a bunch of things that were breaking promises. He claimed he didn't mean to call the girl cute (in the chat on the fake account I made) There's no way he doesn't know why he called her cute or said the phrase awwww thank you :) when he explicitly told me he would not. And he broke other promises too that I mentioned such as telling me , and telling the girl he has a girlfriend and asking her to say such things. Also when my friend called him hot, he said "I am?" It shows he was enjoying the attention and he likely was insecure even though I told him many MANY times how I feel about him as well as his looks. And he was breaking another promise when he said "awwww you think so?" In the chat on the account I made. His promises were always clear and he guaranteed me that they'd not be broken. But he broke many. he broke my trust.
I'm feeling awful. I wonder about how many other things he hid from me and lied about. I don't understand how he was the way he was in the relationship yet he broke my trust and broke a bunch of promises. And also looking like he asked a girl to do sexual things. (I only say it looked like it because he claimed something else - but it was obvious that he meant it. And after the other chat, the overwhelming likelyhood is that he really was asking for it and didn't necessarily think she was fake. And he claimed to tell me the truth about the reasons. But they sound fake. Yet he used to seem so so so convincingly trustworthy, perfect, gentle, loyal, and any other such words you can think of. What gives? I'm sooooooooooooo confused , emotionally traumatized, and I feel like my heart got stabbed and cut. I can't even function.
I am deeply emotionally traumatized and confused. I can't handle it. He went from being the one who seemed perfect in every single way... to this. Or both at once. But I don't even know. And he used to be my everything! I keep crying all day and I feel the most terrible awful emotions! And it's so painful to lose someone who used to seem so loving and wonderful and all the things I described, and much much more. But yet he did what he did. And his reasons definitly looked like lies as I described. But yet he used to seem absolutely 100% loyal and trustworthy. I don't understand. I'm confused. Im also afraid of never finding someone like him again but without the disloyalty and trust-breaking. And im also confused because... Who knows what else he lied about before or what he might've done in the past?
I can't handle these emotions at all. I can't take it and they are indescribable, complex, and intense. I need clarity and advice. Especially on how to move on.
If you read through all of is, I appreciate it sooooo much. I feel indescribably awful and in pain. I can't even do anything, it is so debilitating. I don't know what to do. I also made a post on Reddit. They all said he wasn't my boyfriend because hadnt met him yet and that it wasnt a real relationship, etc. they said it wasn't love. They also said everything he did was a lie...but that would make no sense. I'm deeply confused and crippled and I need help. (link)
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First of all....He is 20. Still in school...still living at home im assuming. I don't think he had the intentions of flying to the US to be with you. I think he was in for the thrill and probably did have feelings for you but who knows whats going on in his personal life.. Everything is so different behind a screen you don't know this person in real life. He could be totally different from being behind a screen. Honestly boys will talk to so many girls if its on a website. This basically reminds me of tinder this story like some guy will have his piroity girl but have all these other girls on the side. I don't think he wasn't going out looking for another girl and cheat on you but when the opportunity came up he was like oh i still have game kind of thing. Babe this wasn't going to go far i know its nice to have someone to talk to but i don't even know how old you are...Go out with friends meet someone in person. Thats the only way you are going to be happy. Doing long distance relationships arnt that great. I understand where your coming from but i think the best way to move on is meet someone in your area. Time heals everything. I think if you continue this realtionship its not going to get any better. He obviously didnt think he was going to get caught. Just take time to think about this, theres no need to be all stressed out about it. Just take time to yourself and realize it is his loss.
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How can I ask my angry boyfriend to unblock me? Whenever he is upset or angry because of me what he blocks me. I know by this time I should get use to it but it hurts. 🙁 (link)
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Hi love,
Tell your boyfriend to grow up and act his age...I don't know how old you are but for a guy to block you is very childish. Tell him you wont put up with his bullshit if he keeps doing that. I think he continues to do it because you let it happen. He obviously doesn't like confirtation and doesn't feel the need to express his feelings so he blocks you. He needs to open up and talk about his feelings. xoxox
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months. I'm 16 and he's about to turn 18. We love each other very much and are going to make it work while he's in college. I can see myself having a future with him and he even got me a promise ring. He was cheated on in a previous relationship and he though he would never make another girl happy. He makes me so happy though! He does have a few rules though. He doesn't want me to talk to other guys. This hasn't been that hard for me but he doesn't talk to other girls at all(not at my request). He doesn't want me to stay at my house when my brother has friends over because he doesn't trust other guys. He says he 100% trusts me though. He also doesn't mind that I want to go to the beach but he wants to be there when I do go. I love him to death and I want to marry him someday. My mom got mad at me because she figured out the reason I won't go to the beach with them and she's mad that I chose my boyfriend over them. I told my boyfriend she thought he was controlling and he got really mad at her and refuses to speak to her or see her. The only reason he has these rules is because I know he cares a lot and he's scared he will lose me to someone else like his last girlfriend. Breaking up is completely out of the question because I would be nothing without him. What should I do? (link)
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Hi love....Just keep in mind that you are 16 and your mom obviously wants the best for you. If you begin your relationship like this in the first 5 months it might only get worse. You have to remind him that you are not his ex and if he still treats you this controlling way that you are not going put up with it. Him being this controlling is very exhausting. Think of how crazy this is that you cant go to the beach??? Most likely if you go to the beach no guys are going to talk to you if you go with your family. Try and remind him that trust is all in a relationship and if you have no trust you have no relationship. There shouldn't be rules. Accept his history and reassure him you have no interest in any other guys. Tell him that you understand why hes protective and you appreciate that because you know how much he cares about you but its not healthy for either one of you. Im thinking your boyfriend refuses to talk to your mom because he knows he in the wrong. You should tell him too that it is a deal breaker if the two people you love wont speak to each other. This is too much stress for one to handle. I think you just need to sit down with him and tell him that you love him uncontrollably and your not interested in anyone else. You are not his ex and if he cant forgive and forget his ex in the past his current relationship with you will never grow. I hope this has helped you. Relationships can be hard but they should never be this hard. if you need any more advice or questions email me. ashnangle@gmail.com
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So I had sex around June. I am not trying to get pregnant. We used a condom and it didn't break.
The next morning I woke up feeling sick, not throwing up, but feeling sick. It's been around 5 to weeks now and I decide to take a pregnancy test. So I took the test in the morning, afternoon, and in the night. The all came out negative. I took an early response pregnancy test.
I didn't know I was suppose to take it 5 days before my period. I have irregular periods so I didn't know hen my period was going to come but I took the early response pregnancy test. So can I be pregnant since I took an early pregnancy test without knowing when my period will come?
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Your totally fine
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Hi :) how can i reach out to you ? how can we chat together ? do you have kik ? (link)
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Hi ! I do not have kik, maybe I should make one......here are my thoughts on how to reach me
https://www.facebook.com/anangle
https://twitter.com/AshNangle
ashnangle@gmail.com
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Hi. I am a 14 year old female. I have the Norplant Implant and I have got a boyfriend, who I have been with for 5 and a half months now. My mother says I am not allowed to meet my boyfriends family because she says she doesn't know if they will be in the house or not. She knows I want to have sex with my bf, but I have condoms and the implant. The implant is working, so why is she being unreasonable?! She has also said that if I get pregnant, then I am not allowed even the morning after pill. I am not allowed an abortion unless I am raped, but if I want an abortion, I want an abortion. It's my body. What should I do? My mother is staunch on what she has said, and I'm barely allowed to even see my boyfriend. I just want to do stuff, and I know we will be safe cos we are both virgins, I have the implant and we are gonna use condoms cos we are not dense. What should I do? I am from Europe. (link)
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Babe you are 14, that is a really young age to loose your virginity.....You don't even have your license yet. I lost my virginity at 19. You are barely a teenager, your looking to have sex and your not even allowed to see an R rated movie. Sex is not everything in a relationship. If you loose your virginity now, trust me you will regret it. Your mother is just looking out for you. You are going to act on your own actions regardless. Is your boyfriend pressuring you to have sex? Why do you want to have sex? At 14 I don't even think I knew what sex was honestly.
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HI :) im a girl,17..you answered my question before...i just wanted to ask you if we could just talk...i need someone to tell things, nobody likes me and i dont feel loved, not even by my family, i have 2 brothers and they make me feel horrible about myself , there are more stuff going on (it isnt just about my brothers, its all about my friends) ...and all i want to feel loved, i want to feel that im important to someone bc i feel nobody cares about..and im close to giving up ..i just cant do it anymore...so please would you tak to me..i just need to to tell someone how i feel...so please would you be able to listen to me ? thanks :) (link)
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Omg! yes of course love. However you feel comfortable reaching out to me.
https://www.facebook.com/anangle
https://twitter.com/AshNangle
ashnangle@gmail.com
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Last year I tried out for the field hockey team with my friend. I ended up making the team but she didn't. I enjoyed the season, but I still don't really have any friends on the team. Tryouts for this season start next month and I've been going to conditioning but I'm starting to think I don't want to play anymore. 1.) I don't have any friends on the team 2.) the other goalie is rude 3.) I'm very out of shape and I don't want to hold everyone back. I could quit but I don't know if I should plus I have the schools equipment so I would have to give it back and tell them I quit and I'm also scared people on the team with give me dirty looks in the hall once school starts. What should I do? (link)
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I played field hockey when I was in highschool, I actually give myself credit for doing it all four years. Girls can be mean, but if you enjoy the sport and your not miserable every time you leave I think you should try out again. Theres always new players who are trying out maybe you will make a new friend. I doubt that you would hold anyone back some people are fast some people are slow. I think its great being on a team because its nice to know that you are a part of something. Plus, you will be back in great shape! I say give it a shot, maybe practice with your friend teach her some tricks to see if she will try out again :)
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13 year old female. I am constantly hearing things. I don't get it. I'll hear strange mutterings in the background by voices that don't sound familiar. This is very scary and I suddenly feel like I'm going to be attacked and there's murderers under my bed! I have lost a lot of sleep because of this. I am very worried about murderers being in random spots in my house. I always feel followed. Sometimes I can even feel people on top of me but I see no one! Or even feel the presence of someone who isn't there! But the worst is when I can make out the voices and they say the most random things or tell me a demon is after me or I have powers and try to convince me to worship them (the only logical explanation I can come up with is these are indeed demons but I'm still not sure) and sometimes I hear my name called out but no one has said my name! I've heard strange laughter and words no one else hears! I've also heard strange music and aliens saying they are outside my house. I am scared to look out my window at night because of this. Often if I'm alone, I be as silent as possible to make sure if a murderer runs up my staircase they might think no one's home. Despite all that I do well in school, I have a good social life and could hide what I'm going through. What is happening? (link)
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Go see your doctor and tell her what your experiencing. It might all just be in your head. I wish I have had the same experience to guide you but I would defiantly go see your primary care doctor.
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please I don't know how to tell my virgin to make me help her lose virginity because I love her and Iwant something to say or convince her to make love to me
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Girls and boys are only ready to loose there virginity on their time. Pressuring is only going to make someone go away. Also if you pressure someone to have sex with you, the other person might feel guilt and your the one to blame. You both need to be ready together. And if you actually care for this person you will wait for him or her until they are ready. sex isn't everything.
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Hey everyone!
I'm sixteen and I'm graduating a year early (originally going to graduate in 2018), and I'm having a hard time deciding what the heck to do once I graduate. I want to go to college, but at the same time I want to move in with my boyfriend because of the tension I recieve at home (We've been together for more than eleven months). The problem is , If I decide to do this scholarship where I get college two years free, I won't have a car to go back and forth if I move in with my boyfriend. If I do stay home with the unwanted tension, I will be able to take one of the older cars we have to college. My question is, what do you guys think I should do? I'm struggling a lot with what to do and soon before I know it , I'll be graduating . Any advice will help. Thank you all. (link)
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My advice is your 16 your young and have so much ahead of you. Are you going to marry this guy? I was with someone when I graduated highschool and I regret every day not going away to college. In my opinion, you have a scholarship take it while you can. Your boyfriend should be supporting you to go to. I am sure he doesn't want to be the reason you don't go. Are you commuting on going to school or will be living in the dorms? You need to go with your gut and remember theres so much ahead of you.
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Hi, I'm 14 and I'm female. So basically I had a group of 4 friends and we all planed to go to a concert together. It was my friend's birthday and because she couldn't afford a ticket for herself I paid for hers as her present (£33). It was hard to save up the money to pay for hers and my ticket considering I'm young and don't have a job. Nevertheless I managed to do it. This was in April, and the concert is scheduled for November. All 4 of us were going to go up together (with my other friend's dad). I ordered everyone's tickets as it was easier to order them all together, and they should arrive about October time. Since then they all decided they didn't want my friendship anymore (they did this all at once by sending me long messages about how I'm a basically a shit person and they didn't want me in their life, they did this when they knew I was off school for depression and feeling badly suicidal). I think I've been a good friend to them for the most part, but there's no point getting into that now.
What I need advice on is do I give my now ex-friend the ticket I was going to give her as a birthday present? Obviously I'm going to give my other friends their tickets as they paid for them, but I've paid for this friends ticket. And although this is her favourite band she has seen them in concert before recently. Now if I keep her ticket it will be given to my mum as she now has to take a night off work to take me to the venue (which is about a 2 hour drive) and I don't think it's fair to make her wait outside and because of my anxiety I'm not sure if I could handle going in alone. Considering my friend abandoned me when I needed her most, I just don't think it's fair to give her the ticket- because when I bought it with the intention of giving it to her she was a very close friend, and she's not anymore. I don't want to give it to her, but I'm not sure whether it's fair for me not to? Should I give her the ticket and if not when should I tell her? All advice is appreciated- thanks. (link)
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If she is not your friend don't give her the ticket. Why are you going to go with someone who probably make your time worse. Give it to your mom as if she is taking the night off. Its your friends lot she lost you. Do not feel guilty. Why help someone when they wouldn't do it for you?
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I'm a female and 22 years old. This is a long question so I appreciate anyone who takes time to read this and help!
I met this guy on Tinder one Sunday in June. He was super nice and really good at carrying a conversation. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting later that day.
Once we started texting, we texted all day every day during that first week. During the first week of texting, he asked me to hang out every day but I kept saying no because I wasn't sure how much I liked him. In the beginning, I was kind of just talking to him because I liked the attention he gave me. However, over time, I started to like him more and more.
He told me the reason he kept asking me to hang out so much was because he was going out of town for a week and a half and wanted to meet me before that. I told him that we could hang out once he got back in town, if he still wanted to.
So he went out of town and when he was gone, we continued to text all day every day. We were also snap chat friends and snap chatted regularly. He would always compliment my looks, saying that he thought I was gorgeous and beautiful. We even started talking on the phone at night. We talked on the phone 4 or 5 times, and 3 of the times we talked for 2 and a half hours. While we talked about each other's lives, he always made it a point to tell me how much he liked me and how much he enjoyed talking to me. Just to give you an idea, he even said "have you met anyone from Tinder before in person?" and when I said no, he said "Well hopefully once you meet me, you won't have to meet anyone else." We had such a good time talking on the phone that I started to like him more and I started to think that I would actually want to meet up with this guy.
When we were talking on the phone, he asked me if I would want to hang out the night he got back in town. I thought about it, and told him the next day that I did want to hang out. So, we continued to text all day, and talked on the phone as well.
The day of the date arrives and we were texting scarcely. He kept telling me how excited he was to hang out and how much fun we were going to have. I decided to meet him at his apartment and he would drive us to dinner from there. I was so nervous, but the second we met, my nerves went away. We had a lot of fun on the date - we went out to dinner, then we walked around the park next to the lake, and then got some wine and went back to his apartment. We watched some tv, drank wine, cuddled, and made out. I left around 1030 at night and he said "I don't want you to go." But since I had to work the next day, I was like "I have to." So he kissed me goodbye and I left. He texted me on the way home saying "Hey I had a lot of fun. I hope you did too. Hope you got home safely."
The next day, he texted me, and things were good. However, we didn't text as much as we had before we met. Then the next couple of days come, and we start texting less and less. This really had me worried because I thought maybe he wasn't feeling me anymore. I was confused because I thought that we had a really good time on our date so I didn't know why he was texting less and less. It was 3 days after we hung out and we were texting and I asked him if he wanted to hang out over the weekend. He said that he wanted to and he could make that work on Sunday. I told him that worked for me, and that it would be a good time. He replied "no doubt in my mind it will be a good time." This gave me some reassurance.
We were still barely texting on Friday and Saturday, so when Sunday came I texted him saying I had an idea for our hang out. I told him, and he replied "that sounds like fun but I won't be able to. I'm not feeling well and need to rest. Hope that's okay, I like you, I just need to rest." So I was bummed and clearly thought he wasn't interested. However, he did say "tomorrow?" so we rescheduled our plans for Monday. Later that day (Sunday, the day we were supposed to hang out), he asked me if I wanted to go to his apartment and hang out and drink some wine. I said yes. I got to his apartment around 10 that night. Same as the first time we hung out at his apartment, we watched TV, cuddled, and made out. We did hook up a little bit further than that, but we did not sleep together. We had a lot of fun, we talked about personal things, as well as the other stuff I mentioned. It wasn't only sexual. He asked me to stay the night and told me that he didn't want me to leave. We were talking about watching Sports Center on TV and I made a comment like oh I'm not into it, and he said "get used to it because its something I always watch." He was being sweet and nice, calling me pet names like "sweetheart" and "babe." When it was time to go, he walked me outside to my car and kissed me goodbye, hugged me and said "see you tomorrow."
So Monday comes, I ask him if he can still hang out, and he cancels our plans because him and his friends got tickets to a sports game. We don't text again that day. I didn't text him on Tuesday because I wasn't sure what was going on. He didn't text me, so we didn't talk that day. So, then Wednesday, I wanted to see if he would text me, he didn't. So I texted him and he replied "Hey! thought maybe you were mad at me, you didn't text me yesterday." I told him I was bummed, and he apologized and said that he thought he told me he was trying to go to that game. I told him it wasn't a big deal. So, we talked on Wednesday and he was more talkative than he had been. However, he stopped texting me in the middle of a conversation and I haven't heard from him since. It's been 11 days. My birthday was just this past Friday, and he knew it was my birthday, and he didn't wish me happy birthday. He still looks at all of my snap chat stories, but doesn't reach out to me.
Do you think I did something wrong? Do you think it was all an act until he met me? Maybe he changed his mind? I cannot stop thinking about him/the situation. Do you have any advice for how I can move on from this? I want an explanation but I don't want to reach out because I don't want to appear "crazy" or clingy. However, at the same time, I can't help but think that maybe he thinks he did something wrong and I'm the one that lost interest. Even though I texted him later that day Wednesday, and snap chatted him twice later that week. Do you think I just need to accept it and move on?
sorry for the long question, I appreciate anyone who actually reads this and helps me out. Thanks!! (link)
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I'm sorry your feeling this way love, I feel like guys tend to lead girls on and then just drop them once we start getting feelings. Its the worst, and then they are stupid about the whole situation. I'm thinking he just liked the game. I don't think it was you at all. Tinder is hard because 90% of guys on there just want to have sex. Maybe he realized you weren't going to give it to him because you have class and he found some easy girl. Or maybe he is afraid he developed feelings for you and is distancing himself because hes afraid of falling for you and hes not ready. In my opinion I would reach out to him and be like hey, did something go wrong? haven't heard from you. Just to at least get an answer, if you feel better not saying anything at all then don't. theres so many more people you could hang out with. Guys tend to not seem as interested once the girl is interested in them its awful I know. its nothing you did. ITS TINDER, and they are all pretty much assholes. trust me I have tinder and bumble, I have had it for about a year and have met probably 40 guys on it. not one good thing has come out of it but it does feel nice to have someone give you attention. feel better time heels
xoxoxo
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Hi, I had my bellybutton pierced for about 2 and a half years, then one day about 4-5 months ago my bellybutton ring fell out and I lost it in the shower. I didn't have one in until yesterday when I bought a new one. The pierced hole was still there except a little tighter so I struggled to get it through. I eventually got it through but it hurt a little bit and today I bought sea salt and I'm going to start soaking it twice a day for at least a week to hopefully prevent it from getting infected. Was forcing the ring in a small hole a bad thing and will doing the sea salt soak guarantee preventing an infection ? (link)
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You are totally fine about squeezing the ring through the hole. Its like if your ears closed and you struggle to put it through your fine xoxo
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I was thinking in the bathroom with my vagina under the bathtub faucet, all of the sudden my dad opens the door and walks in and walks out, I'm pretty sure he saw me! He hasn't said anything about it, but its only been an hour, I'm hiding in my bedroom trying not to die from embarrassment! There is no way I'm going to question him about it! What do I do? I'm so afraid he's going to mention it or tell my mom, help! (link)
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Ok im actually quite angry with what
katerinatomov said. THEEREFORE, masturbating is so normal. Im not sure how old you are, but honestly EVERYONE DOES IT. I think just ignore it. He will forget about it. He probably didn't even think anything of it like oops what did I just walk into my daughter doing. Next time I suggest doing something like that when no one is home. Pleasuring yourself is SO normal. And trust me hes not going to say anything to your mom that's even embarrassing for him to say. I say just forget about it, Try not to dwell on it. It happens. And whatever Katerinatomy said was very immature, Don't just "go" and have sex with someone. No offence but im sure your dad masturbates its human nature so, don't dwell on it. You just know better for next time :) it will be forgotten about trust me. xoxo
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