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Best Friend putting Boyfriend first
16f
So she got this new boyfriend - her first may I add - and never stopped talking about him for the first week. 3 days after he asked her out, he was referred to as her boyfriend even though they hadn't been on a date or kissed yet.
Despite me changing the subject every time she brings him up, there are always these comments that piss me off. It's always, "X did this and X did that."
I get she's excited about it but I'm really annoyed that she keeps bringing it up. We were working on a school project and she completely blew me off, ignoring me and not doing what she was supposed to be doing FOR HOURS, just to talk to him. Whenever I tried to get her to send it to me, all I got was "on the phone to him".
I always feel like I'm put second now, when you'd think it should be Best Friend 1st, guy later. Don't get me wrong, I'd never make her choose but when she goes so far as to ignore me over something important to me, you can imagine I'd be pissed off.
Are there any hints I could use? Because I'd sound like a bit of a dick causing drama if I just told her to stop outright. Thanks :)
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I think you are being a good friend by being understanding. I think that you should just tell her that you love her and your happy for her and you undersand shes busy alot to spend time with this guy but to remind her that you are feeling left out. That you don't want to ask her for her attention but show a little more towards you because you are feeling left behind. Tell her you understand shes excited about this new realtionship but it seems to be all she talks about and ask her when you guys have best friend time together to just ficus on you two together and nothing/no one else. Then i think you should just give her space and she will come around. You said that this is her first boyfriend so shes excited she doesnt know how to balance friends out. She knows your not going anywhere. My best friend got her first boyfriend and i didnt see her for months and it really hurt me but i understood that she didnt know how to balance friends and a new realtionship. It will take time and she will come around. xoxo
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