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Birthday present for ex-friend?
Hi, I'm 14 and I'm female. So basically I had a group of 4 friends and we all planed to go to a concert together. It was my friend's birthday and because she couldn't afford a ticket for herself I paid for hers as her present (£33). It was hard to save up the money to pay for hers and my ticket considering I'm young and don't have a job. Nevertheless I managed to do it. This was in April, and the concert is scheduled for November. All 4 of us were going to go up together (with my other friend's dad). I ordered everyone's tickets as it was easier to order them all together, and they should arrive about October time. Since then they all decided they didn't want my friendship anymore (they did this all at once by sending me long messages about how I'm a basically a shit person and they didn't want me in their life, they did this when they knew I was off school for depression and feeling badly suicidal). I think I've been a good friend to them for the most part, but there's no point getting into that now.
What I need advice on is do I give my now ex-friend the ticket I was going to give her as a birthday present? Obviously I'm going to give my other friends their tickets as they paid for them, but I've paid for this friends ticket. And although this is her favourite band she has seen them in concert before recently. Now if I keep her ticket it will be given to my mum as she now has to take a night off work to take me to the venue (which is about a 2 hour drive) and I don't think it's fair to make her wait outside and because of my anxiety I'm not sure if I could handle going in alone. Considering my friend abandoned me when I needed her most, I just don't think it's fair to give her the ticket- because when I bought it with the intention of giving it to her she was a very close friend, and she's not anymore. I don't want to give it to her, but I'm not sure whether it's fair for me not to? Should I give her the ticket and if not when should I tell her? All advice is appreciated- thanks.
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If she is not your friend don't give her the ticket. Why are you going to go with someone who probably make your time worse. Give it to your mom as if she is taking the night off. Its your friends lot she lost you. Do not feel guilty. Why help someone when they wouldn't do it for you?
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If she is one of those who wrote you a long letter as to why she would no longer be your friend, then its quite ridiculous to pay your good money to give a goft to someone who doesnt even like you, regardless of the circumstance in the beginning with having to plan the purchases earlier.
If she wrote you, you write back and inform her that the ticket she couldnt afford, which you paid for all your own, is now no longer going to her for the concert. If she wants to go, she'll have to find another way. Do this right away, as it gives her more time to come up with another plan in case she really wants to go and just take Mom instead.
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