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Period Sex
I've been talking to this guy for months now and we aren't official yet. He needs more time to make me his girlfriend. I don't know why but all I can do is wait. We've had sex more than five times and i've always been clean and fresh down there. I barely get to see him so its understood without saying that when we see each other we will become intimate. This time I wasn't so sure. It was my last day on my period. As most women know, your last day is very iffy. You can have possible spotting or discharge. At the time I was wearing a panty liner just in case that I began to spot. I didn't see spotting the whole day and I even used the bathroom and all the signs showed me that I was clear to have sex. We begin to get intimate and I start to notice a smell. I stop him and I tell him that I think i'm still on my period. I am horrified at this point because their is blood on his private area (not a lot) and the smell is not pleasant. I was embarrassed, ashamed, disgusted. I didn't know what to do next! I ran to the bathroom and asked him if I could rinse off. After we got cleaned up, he came in and gave me a hug and kiss. I felt so bad and then it became awkward. We had a talk about it and he told me that he's glad that I stopped it before we continued and that its a natural thing that is apart of life. He seemed very understanding and not mad but I feel like maybe he was playing Mr. Nice guy because he didn't kick me out and he didn't say anything rude. He said it was a little weird but he was over the situation. My question is was I supposed to tell him before hand about the last day of my period? Should I have not went over there at all because it was the last day of my period? What does he think of me now? Is he still interested? Should I be embarrassed? What should I do next?
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I have found that if you plan on entering a mature, long term relationship with a man he HAS to be respectful and understanding of your body. Your period is completely natural, and some would say beautiful. Now, if you two discuss this and he explains in a respectful manner that he would rather not have intercourse while you are in the process of menstruating, then that is fine. No one should ever have sex in a situation that makes them uncomfortable. What he does have to do, is be understanding of the fact that you ultimately have no control over that, and there may be situations like the one you just mentioned. Have you ever finished your cycle and still spotted a few days later? Of course. There's no way to ever know completely that you will not release some blood especially during sex, which is supposed to open up those channels.
You did NOTHING wrong. For a man to kick you out and make a rude remark about a bodily process that you have absolutely NO control over is asinine and than man needs to grow up. Honestly, it makes me really sad that you would think that is okay or normal treatment. It's not. If this incident, if you can even cal it that, changed the way he supposedly feels about you then I don't think you should waste the time of day on him anyway. Chances are, because he sounds understanding, that he really is understanding and not just "playing Mr. Nice Guy". It's just human decency to respect your partner's body.
And agreeing with adviceman, having sex on your period actually does have a ton of health benefits. I also know a lot of women who struggle with natural lubrication, that find they are better lubricated and find sex less painful during their cycle and their significant others are more than willing to participate. Hopefully this helps!
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In my life, I've found more men okay with sex on period than not. As you said, its a natural thing and guys seem to understand and not mind. In fact, there are those who dont mind but rather look forward to it. They see it as a womens sign of her ability to create life and as such consider her a Goddess.
Could you have warned him ahead of time. Maybe but you werent sure so thats hard to do. Periods can be delayed due to stress and what not. Sometimes, you won't have a hint that a period is about to start, no spotting, even running late and you go to have sex and the period starts. This will happen more than knowing you already have it to tell him. My theory is that having sex helps the period to start. Everytime I was tired of being bloated and period late, I'd plan to have sex and it sure enough started, 9 times out of 10. Lots of men enjoy sex during period for the pheremone reason, both horny and in the mood, but the biggest comment I've gotten is how nice it works as a lubrication.
Your guy likely came to hu g and kiss you as a way to let you know he understands, didn't mind and wasn't grossed out. While he may not be the kind who craves sex when you're on your period, he also doesnt mind situations like this which will arise at times.
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I would not be embarrassed as he said your period is a natural thing. I think you will find as you get deeper into a relationship with a guy and spend more time with him that when you have your period is going to be a time when he is going to want to have sex with you.
Why is that. For one thing you give off a scent, not the scent from your period. This scent comes from your pores and is called pheromones. This scent makes us guy horny, really it is that simple. Yes we know your uncomfortable especially the first day of your period.
As my wife and I found out, once she gave into me, that sex during her period actually help with some of the pain and discomfort she had. It wasn't totally romantic type sex where we could make out on the couch and end up in the bedroom. she has to prepare herself and I have to get some old towels on the bed on the bed. But the sex was itself was good for both of us.
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