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Hi!My name is Melissa.I'm from G.I. New York.I love being able to help people and giving advice.I'm usually the person who people come to for advice and i'm always glad to be there for them.If you just wanna talk or if you want advice you can IM me.UnLuckyWishes3.I'm really into sports and love to play basketball.I play JV voleyball and Varsity track.

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i moved in june to the west side of canada, and in september one of my freinds died from cancer i wans't able to go to his funeral but i still miss him, and now i jsut found out another one of my firnds has cancer in the same place that my freind that died did, what can i do to get my mind off of this

I know this might not take your mind off it but it might make you feel better.Maybe go to a hospital and visit people who have cancer ,talk to them and just try to brighten thier day.Or maybe even just donate 5-10$ to an organization for cancer.Think of all the things you can do to make thme proud of you and know that you made a difference.i'm sorry i didnt answer your question but i thoguht it might help and i'm super sorry about your friends.

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two days ago i got this bug bite that started to swell up like MAD and now it's the size of my elbow, it's red, and swollen. what can it be and what can i do about it?

It's probably a spider bite.you can go to tops to find something to reduce the reddness and size.Hope i helped.

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r there any websites for hair styles? i'm going to a semi formal!! any ideas??

If you go to http://www.seventeen.com/beauty/hairguide/0,,,00.html . It has some good hairdos.Hope i helped.

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Sometimes my computer goes really fast and sometimes its soo slow. Well I was trying to go on advicenators and it wasint even loading then I tried another site and it worked fine. I then tried to go back onto advicenators, and it was going slow. Is it because my internet is sick of being on advicenators so much(lol) or what? I'm confused! I'm on right now because it just started getting fast again..so yeah anyone know whats going on? Its making me sooo mad :D!

xo_sherry_ox

i dunno, it's been happening to everyone lately.it's like it never wants to load up advienators only the wbsites i havent been to lately.sorry i wasnt any help.

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I'm a 15 year old girl. I am realy depressed like all the time. I moved to a new school and I'm finding it hard to make friends. My "friends" from my old school are not in my life anymore. I ended the friendship with my 2 "best friends" because they were just really horrible people. But I find that I am still really obsessed with them and miss them alot. They are both on my mind all the time. The thing is if I went back to them and they forgave me, well they were just so horrible when I was friends with them. (i.e.- they would hook up with the guys I was hooking up with and made it look like I was the bad person because I got upset over it) I don't know what to do. Please help!

The problem might be that your a good hearted person.Well from what it sounds like you have/had good friends but they took avantage of you.Maybe you should become friends with them again but dont be as close with them.Also try and go out around and meet people from your school.Like if there is a soccer or football game go to it and try to talk to some people fromy our school.Hope i helped.

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okay...well on wednesday i went to church with my boyfriend..well not really we went to his friends house that is right across the street ...and he told his dad he was goin to church...his dad happened to drive by and saw him out of church..he made him leave so i just hung out with my bf's friends..and he called my cell when he got home n he didnt talk 2 me..i was like wats the point of callin you kno? well finally he was like WELL ILL JUST LET U GO HAVE FUN WITH THEM...and he hung up..the next day he called n apologized....he was like "im sry its just that i dont c u alot and i was mad at my dad for making me leave u" i was like its arite...well on friday we planned to do somethin today..saturday...and he called me n changed the plans to goin to c a movie @ 6....he sed hed call me back with the information lyke wat theater n movie we wer gonna c...he sed this @ 12 30 today....AND HE NEVER CALLED ME BACK!...i cleaned to get money n erything....and i cancelled everthing i had goin ontoday to c him...and he never called...and then friday (yesterday) he sed he was in trouble from wat happened on wednesday so he couldnt do nothin or go nowhere....but i called him later that nite...AND HE WAS GONE! i called like 2 times n his parents wer like o no hes not here hes gone for the nite...idk wats up with him....wat do u think i shuld do...im really mad about the movie thing....=\

When you get a hold of him ask him what's really going on.He could have had something really going on.If he doesnt or denies it i would consider dumping him.I mean it doesn't seem like he's at the point were he's dedicated to spending even a little bit of time with his girlfriend.Hope i helped.

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ok so love this guy soo much! and he's one of my really good friends. i wanna tell him i like him more then a friend//but i dont know if i should cuz i dont know if he likes me back as more than a friend and i dont want to create something akward between us! please help me. should i tell him i like him or not???

If you really want to let him know tell him.Just before you tell him ask him that if he doesnt feel the same thats alright you dont want your friendship to change or for things to get awkward.Hope i helped and good luck.

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can a 18 year old get in trouble for dating a 13 year old?

Yes they can.18 is when your legal but the person your with has to be 18 or older also unless they younger person has permission from thier parents but even so if anything romantic were to happen and the parents knew , they could change thier mind and press charges.

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how do u make out?? i know w. ur lips but like do always use tounge r like kiss each others lips??idk! i have a b/f who tryed to make a move on me but i like turned my head its like cum on kiss me but when he goes to do it im like really scared..i guess its b/c idk how

when you make-out you use your tounge but if you kiss its just on the lips.Hope i helped and dont worry,if he's making the first move he'll pry do most of it.

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I like this boy who is 13 years old. and i'am 15years old. the more i talk 2 him and flirt with him i start likin him even more..the thing is that he has a g/f but he told me that he will do anything for me.It seems like he dont really like her because they only see each other like 3times a month, and plus he never kiss her..But anywayz i see him like almost everyday.and we alwayz flirt.So wut should I do?? knowin that he is younger then me.(but he likes me)Please HELp!!
**I RATE HIGH*

Maybe you should talk to him and tell him that if you both feel the same way maybe you should go out.Have him tell his girlfriend that he has feelings for another girl and its not fair to her or to him that thier going out.Which is true.
I mean all in all its not fair to any of you really.Just talk to him.Hope i helped.

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well, im 14/f and im a freshmen also! well i have this problem, me and my ex-best friend charles (ever since this yr) were planning on going with each other to the freshmen dance, ever since 5th grade, we just talked about it in the summer too! but in school now we don't talk ever, i wanna talk to him, its just he has his own crowd, and i have my own, he talks to me sometimes, but when i asked him if he would still go to the freshmen with me he said. "no, im taken karissa" (some chick from a differ. school) its like, he used to LOVE me soo much from 2nd grade to 8th grade, but in the summer he stopped. and i liked him ever since well the summer, and we couldn't date cuz he liked karissa, its horrible i jus dunno what to do, i've told him how i've felt n stuff, what would u do? i really wanna go with him. i rate high thanks!

Maybe there's nothin you really can do, just hope he might change his mind.I mean in 8th and 9th grade is really gonna be the time were you have fights the most or with the most meaning and when you find the people who are gonna be true to you.It's horrible thinking that everythings changing but life can be really unfair.Try going out and have fun with your friends maybe you'll meet a guy if you take your mind off of it or he'll come around.Hope i helped.

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the other day, i got a thing on my advice column frum my friend sayin he liked me..this guy is my best friend..and so i told him i liked him..he asked me to homecoming..well now theres this big thing..cuz the grl he used to like..call her sue.. told bob she liked him..so hes gotta choose hoo he wunts to go to homecoming with..i realy like him and wunna go to homecoming with him but i think hes gunna pick her..hes told me he likes me but me and sue were talkin and she told me all the stuff they had been talkin bout..me and sue are really good friends now..we've always been friends..but not like now..i want him to choose me and stay friends with sue..wut do i do?!?!

Maybe talk to sue and tell her that no matter what bob does that you dont want it to change your friendship.If bob really likes you then he'll pry pick you.Try to think positive.Hope i helped and good luck!

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I'm 14/f. Whenever I see one of the many guys that I like I start to get really, er, sexually excited if you know what I mean. I just want to throw them down and kiss them and even have sex with them. I kind of a goody-two shoes, I get good grades and have never done anything really wrong. I'm longing to let my wild side out but I don't want anybody to know about it. What should I do about this? Plus I feel like I'm so much more horny than anyone else I know. Am I?

No, you no worse then any other teen girl.It's normal, we have hormones.They're pry just having a huge effect on you right now.Maybe you could let your wild side out a lil bit.If you like to flirt alot and stuff maybe just sit on some of the guys laps or something that might "calm" you down a lil bit.Just hang in there, its all part of life,lol.It stinks sometimes because you're not always sure.Hope i helped.

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Ok i am 15 f and i was dating this guy who it only like 7 months older than me for about 6 months then we broke up .Then 8 months later which was like a week ago we started going back out but the thing is, when we used to go out i would always go to his house and we would hang out there ,we never did anything bad ya know we just hung out.well now that im going back out with him my dad and his g/f wont let me go to his house they said if i want to see him he has to come over because they dont trust me, but they have no reason not to.but i wanna hang out at his house more often i miss it, and ive already tried talking to my dad but i cant win.

I know you tried talking to him ask if you can go with a group of friends to his house.Or maybe talk to his g/f, let her know you dont do anything bad and you want them to trust you.sometimes there's things even just hanging out you dont want your dad to be there because he might get overprotected {if thats the problem},maybe have her talk to him.I wasnt exactly sure what your question was but i'd be happy to help in anyway i can.

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I'm new at a school and I tried out for basketball and made it! The team is always really nice to me and we joke around and stuff, but when i see them around at school a lot of them just ignore me, at least most of them do. [Some of them are my friends] some of them smile and say hi or something like that but most of them walk right past me without saying a word. I want to be close to them as friends but I don't know how I can be since I've been going to the same school for a while, I''m not used to being the new kid. Do they want to be my friends? and what are some questions I can ask them that won't seem to akward...something that's recent [ex. What are you going to be for halloween, who do you like?..questions like what are your interests never work out..]?

thanks so much!

Just try to keep talking to them.I was the new girl on my bball tema last year and through-out the year they started talking to me in the halls more.Maybe if you have some classes or the same teacher to ask them what'd they get on a test or did they think it was hard or easy, or something about the teacher.That always seems to help people because then they usually start laughing about the teacher or something.Maybe say sometime all of us should go to the movies, or something.

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When I was 13 I found out that I have a sister that had been put up for adoption. I had grown up thinking that I had two sisters and it was devistating to think that I had another one that I may never know and be able to love. So, I swore that one day I would find her. Back in March I did find her. I had searched for so long that I really felt that I would never find her and when I did I was afraid that since I grea up in a dysfunctional family and we weren't wealthy or anything that we wouldn't be good enough for her. Well, she is wonderful. We went through the DNA testing and when we found out it was just amazing. She came out for a visit in April and since then I have gone to see her twice. We live in seperate states. The two sisters and I that grew up together have the same father but she (2nd to the oldest) has a different father. My father is dead now (long story) but our mother is still living. Mom has a long history of drug abuse and she does not want my Sister to know about it.

This is my question. I think that she is noticing that Mom isn't as close to her as she is our oldest and youngest sisters. They e-mail and Mom calls about once a month or so but she and I talk weekly and on the internet every night. The other two sisters rarely e-mail her and they don't call her. I know that she doesn't feel as connected to the family as she would like to and I feel responsible because I was the one that went looking for her. There are times that she tells me that it really hurts her feelings and I am not sure what to say.

I love her so much, she is just fantastic and had a terrible life growing up. Her adopted Dad wound up in prison and her adopted Mom comitted suicide when she was a teenager. I know that she has abandonment issues because of all of that and now I am scared that meeting her bio family is just adding to those issues because of their distance. I wouldn't take for knowing and having the chance to be in my sister's life and her in mine but sometimes I feel so guilty for causing her even more grief.

Did I do the right thing by finding her or was I just being selfish because I missed her so much being in my life? I am just afraid that my love for her just isn't enough to make up for all of the time that she has done without and now that she has found her bio family that maybe the dream of what they were was better than what we are.

Confusing and long I know but anyone with input would be appreciated.

You definatly did the right thing.I think anyone in your case would have.Maybe you guys ned to talk, liek about everythings thats happened and what your feeling.You've both gone through incredibly hard times.Try telling her all the the things you just told everyone here.How you care for her so much and the things that you've wnet through.Hope i helped and GOOD LUCK!

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ok my boyfriend called at like 7-7:30pm last night and said he would call me back..at around 9-10 he normally calls to say goodnight an all that good stuff but he never called again last night and we only talked for like 30 sec. and today he had a f.ball game and he normally calls b4 then but we havent talked at all and if hes not gunna call b4 his game then he'll call in the morning and he didnt?!!.. whats does his "signs" mean???

I'd give it a few more days to see if this still goes on.He might just be really really like behind a day or busy.If it keeps going on when you get a short chance to talk to him ask him what's he been doing because you feel liek you havent seen him.He might be cheating but it doesnt sound liek it, it just seems that he's busy.Just keep in there and try to think of maybe some possibilites.Hope i helped and he's not cheating.

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yeah that works but can i hear the other ideas to lol thanks soo much!

When your at the movies start talking to him and be like so....when did u say you wanted to make-out?Lean in but dont make the first move.I know it sounds really corny but talk to him about it.Like when you two are alone,its only you and maybe after you tel him that you really think you need to move forward he might do it right then.There's some starting ideas if those dnt work then i'll do my best to come up with something else.hope i helped.

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ok me and my boyfriend have talked about making-out but never have..we have been going out 2 months now and I think its long enough..I cannot make the first move..I think that would be the weirdest thing..like he has asked me to make out with him when we go to the movies and stuff but we dont..I'm friends with his ex-girlfriend and she said that he wont just do it that he gets his friends to ask you or something..like I really wanna make-out with him but I dunno how to get him to make the first move..please help!

xo0 KelleY 0ox

when you go to the movies i'm not sure if you do this or not but put your head on his shoulder and talk to him quietly, i know it sounds so weird but it works with alot of guys.Maybe tell some of his to be like so how are you and kelly doing, have you kissed or made-out.you know like guy talk.lol.I have a coupel mroe ideas but it all depends on your cercumstances.I'd be happy to help again just let me know.

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my cousin is really nice, but i think i might like him more than just family, is that wrong or am i just liking him cause he's my friend?
-clueless and creeped out

It might be a lil bit of both.It's probably more just like a comfort zone you have with him.Hope i helped.

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