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Q: I think i might make a good lawyer because im persusive and it seems interesting. What do law schools require you to have? Do you need to be advanced in math? Im not the best in math..so im just wondering. is there anyone out there who can tell me about law school and i know its a lot of money..but would i be able to get scholorships?

I wanna go to lawschool too. But I dunno bout scholarships in US or whatever. In Egypt, or Lebanon you can get financial aid.
And lawschool dont need scientific people, you should be really good in litterature, english in general (writing, debating, etc.) Beeing a lawyer is all about debating, and since you're persuasive, you wont have any pprobs. And law school= hard work! memorizing laws, making sure your client doesnt get sentenced to death,lol.

Q: Hey. This is gonna be long,but i really need help. Okay, I live, in Italy. i only have 4 close friends at this school, and I just joined there this year. Okay well, one of my friends, she's the bold bitchy type. I'm a shy type person ever since i moved here. Earlier up until about a month or two ago, we were good friends, we used to get along. Recently we've been having tons of arguments, and she's ALWAYS criticizing me, like, tellin me, dont say that,that's weird,blah blah. Or change ur MSN nickname, i dont like it.I've tried talking to her about it, telling her how it is. It doesn't help. We get into more and more arguments day after day. Even just now she was asking me something and i decided to give her the real answer. So i said,"well u criticize me a lo, balah,blah. And all that. And she said stuff about me. That I'm really annoying, how i'm timid and blah blah. I asked her why we get into arguments so much recently. And she said that im not reallly her type. shes never had a shy friend like me before. Blah, blah...and so i started telling her how she is, kind of. And i was like no offense again and agian...so she wouldnt take any, even though i knew she would, it was all i could do on my part. And then shes like"STOP SAYING NO OFFENSE I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST A PHASE BUT NOW I KNOW ITS NOT BLAH BLAH" I hate her. She's always saying shit about me. And then now she's like, i think we should just not be friends instead of being mad at each other 24/7. Well, i think so too, and i told her. And then She says i'm always deppressing...which i guess to some extent is true, because my home life is shit. My parents and my sis are always yelling at me, tlelling me to die and shit, and I yell back...so when im with them soemtimes i complain and am depressed. And i go to a rich school, and my friends are well off. But we are not. And she says that the reason the other people don't like me, now, is cause I'm boring and shy and im just quiet and dont go up to people so how i can i be open to new friends. I'm uncomfortable, i cant just go up to them. She says i should b more fun and crazy and the people think so too and then I'll make new friends. I can be a little more I guess, but not totally because my home life affects me. And my parents, i hate them. So what am i supposed to do about everything??? I'm only 13 and I wanna get out of this whole thing..die or move to a new place where I can be a new me with money and without parents.

You go to a rich school, right? Is there a dorm? You can go live there if your parents really bug you, tell them you need a little space. And im guessing its ur older sis, right? thats completely normal! Anyway, you shouldnt let shit in the family affect you. I know its hard, personally i go and chear up at school! You should stop acting all shy and stuff, try to overcome it. And I think you should give that girl one LAST chance, she has been honest with you so appreciate that. Friends should always be honest, bbut your msn nickname is none of her business. It will take you some time to stop beeing shy.. But heres what I want you to do: if you're walking and you see someone sitting by him/herself, walk over to that person and sit beside them and start talking to them.

Q: im sorry if this is long
im 13/f and i have 2 brothers a mom a step dad a dad a step mom and a step sis. my life gets so hectic some times that i just cant stand it, my step dad yells at me for every little mistake i make, and he always thinks that someones out to get him. my mom and dad dont even talk anymore, and if they do, they wind up yelling or hanging up on each other, and my dad doesnt even care enough about her and me and my bros to help us. my bro blamed the reason that him and his girlfriend fight because of me, his girlfriend used to be 1 of my best friends. i feel like i have only one friend, all the others are just there, and they dont invite me to anything. my only true frind is moving lyk an hour away, and then i dont know who i would b able to hang around with for my highskool years. sometimes i get so upset that i constantly think about commiting suicide, or cuttig my self to get rid of the pain. i havnt cut my self yet, but every single day i get closer and closer to doing it. i need help, what should i do?

1. Ask your bro why he thinks you're the cause of all the fights, it doesnt make any sense!
2. I think you should go out more and meet some new people. And even if your friend is moving away, always call her, you need someone to talk to.
3. do not commit suicide, its stupid! killing yourself will not solve anything. The way you think is how WEAK people think! Start acting strong! I dont want you to go commit suicide when you face a problem! And I cut myself before. It makes you feel a little better, rejecting the anger on ur arm and all. But it hurts and it will hurt for a while and it will not solve your problems! You are only 13, there are a lot of things waiting for you out there, so dont kill yourself. Cutting yourself WONT END THE PAIN! I REPEAT! IT WONT END THE PAIN! BE STRONG!
4. I said this to many people, keep a diary. It will become your best friend.

Q: I like this guy who's quite weird. People calls him a nerd. He seems so quiet, aloof, shy but incredibly smart. I didn't get to talk to him often, but when he talks to me, i notice that his voice goes soft. Other times when we were discussing a project in a group, he either seems bored, brash, flustered or really egoistical. He seldom talks to people in class in the past, but recently he seems happier. He seems to dislike me at first, either ignoring me or giving sarcastic coments just like he does most people, but now he seems to talk to me a bit. Then the other day he suddently comes around and calls my name and calls me his sweetheart. What does that mean? Does he like me or was he just joking?

Im telling you... that is one weird guy! I think you wont find out now, no one can! Just wait, patience is a virtue. Maybe thats just his way to show he likes you(sarcasm, etc), thats why im asking you to wait.

Q: (Sorry if this turns out really long!) I've only been cutting myself for a little over two weeks but I'm already addicted. I told my boyfriend first because I vent to him a lot. I trust him and he can comfort me. Then later I told my teacher and she suggested for me to talk to my school counselor. My teacher told my parents, too. My mom talked to me but it wasn't about ME, it was about what my sister went through. It wasn't helpful. So I talked to the couselor. She freaked out and kept telling me, "You can't do that! STOP! You have to stop! If you do it again I'll tell the principal!" That is not what I expected from her. It wasn't helpful or encouraging. It was threatening! It almost made me want to cut! Later that day I was sitting alone in the gym slicing the skin on my arms and my Gym/Health teacher saw me and made me go alone in a room with him to talk. He kept telling me that even though life may suck now, it'll get better because I "have a good mind". I didn't think it was helpful either, but I started crying. Everytime I had to talk to someone, I wanted my boyfriend there holding my hand helping me endure it. I feel uncomfotable around everyone but him. One day my teacher actually tried to send me home because I was cutting and crying and miserable. I told her I didn't want to go home, I just wanted to talk to James. (James is my boyfriend.) She said she couldn't let him out of class. I glared at her and wouldn't talk to her. She called my parents and they took me home. The whole time I wanted to scream, "I JUST WANT JAMES!" When I got home I just reread old notes from my bf. He's the only one who can comfort me and it feels like he's the only reason I go on living. Do I depend on him too much? How can I stop cutting if I have nobody to talk to? Please comment or give advice! Sorry so long!

Well, I've sorta been in your shoes and I had no one to run to! I really didnt cut myself, I just used a needle to carve "F**K LIFE SUX" on my arm, and a couple of scars from the tweasers, I squeezed some skin until it bled... Sometimes when we're upset, we cant get it out, we keep iit to ourselves, thats how I felt! I broke stuff in my room , I couldnt go to the kitchen to get some eggs to break, I went into my room immediately. My parents dont know about it...But I showed it to my friends, I expected them to ask "why did you do this?" but instead they said "UR CRAZY! dont talk to me! UR CRAZY!" or "WOW!thats so cool! how did you do it?".
You wont believe this, but the only person who really comforted me and understood me is called James too! I swear, but hes not my bf, hes just my best friend on the internet.
I think you should be thankful that James is helping you, what a great and perfect boyfriend, but what he should do right now is help you stop doing that. Do you know Shania Twain? she has a song called "Still the one", somewhere she said"still the one I run to..."
Do you get my point? You shouldnt feel like you shouldnt run to him! He should be the 1st one you run to!
To stop cutting yourself, I think you should keep a diary, write everything that bothers you and you'll feel a lot better! trust me, thats what I do, I really have no one to talk to! My James has 2 jobs, and barely has time for me, but my diary is always there, so is your boyfriend! And you know what? Sometimes I think about buying a punching bag, so whenever im angry, I got something to punch!
If you ever need to talk to me, heres my email: prof_Braveheart88@hotmail.com
msn: sweetandsour_Darwish88@hotmail.com
yahoo!: desertgirl88@yahoo.com
Hope I helped...
Sarah

Q: Im really sorry, this is really gross but i need advice..

Alright.. for three days in a row i have had extremely bad diarreah. I litterally cant leave the bathroom. I woke up this morning at 6am having to go #2(diareah) and it is now 10pm. During this whole day I have gone diarreah 28 times. It is liquidey and it slides out like seriously, WATER !! its yellow too!! and i have extremely severe stomach pains also. i mean severe, this morning at 6am when i ran into the bathroom i sat on the toilet and i started litterally SOBBING in pain, i cried from 6am to 8am this morning because it hurt so much. i really dont know whats wrong with me, i really need help!! i havent gone to my parents bc theyr always at work and im always home alone. im too embarassed to go to a parent or DR. please help me i dont know if im sick or what?!

im really sorry that it is so gross, i hope y'all will understand!

Of course you're sick! If this continues you might get dehydration, because thats all liquids ur losing from your body. I suggest you take "Intocid", its great. If you still have diareah, you have to call a doctor, you cant leave the house. Try to remember wat you ate the day you had it or the day before, it might be a microbe or a virus. I really think you should call a doctor, your parents arent doctors and cant do anything ! You already said you had diareah online where hundreds, maybe even thousands of people see it, so cant you call a doctor? Its not like he/shes gonna publish it on the school website or something.

Q: ok, my mom an dad have been fighting for like ever.they always swear at each other an stuff.my dad drove away a couple days ago to get away from my mom.thank god he came home.im afraid they r gonna get devorced.i need advice!!! wat shud i do???

sighned,
xxjewlsxx224

well, fights happen... all you have to do now is remind your parents how much they love each other, maybe cook dinner for them and leave them alone... Ever seen parent trap?

Q: Ok, there is this boy named David in 1/6 of my classes. He sits in the last seat in the row next to me. My friend sits right behind me and whenever I turn to talk to her, I catch David staring at me and we suddenly make eye contact. Out of that infomation ( I might add more ), do you think he likes me?

Omg, youre so lucky, at least hes not SO shy he avoids your eyes! My guy turns away as soon as our eyes meet, grrr... Anyway, personally I think he likes you, so why dont you make the first move, just talk to him so he wont be shy anymore. Then maybe when he's not shy anymore, he'll ask you out, if he really does like you that is.

Q: Ok so I'm 15/m, and I was at a school function, and some girl that I didn't know danced with me. So after I left she got my AIM screen name from one of my friends and went home and asked me to the prom and and asked if I would go over to her house Friday to have dinner and a movie and all that stuff. Problem is, I really don't like her, and I don't really know her at all either. What should I say?

I think you should tell her youd like to get to know her first. Go over to her house and get to know her, maybe shes pretty cool, but tell her that youre not sure about going with the prom with her.

Q: Why do guys always have to date popular girls?Why cant they date a regular girls?

Are you sure? Anyways, I think its because you notice popular girls more than regular ones. A popular girl is known by everyone, but how can you meet a regular girl or know what her name is?
And I guess that popular girls appear to be more confident, guys like confident girls.
If its not because of that, its probably some shallow guy thingy "oh man your so lucky! youre dating the most popular girl in school!" something like that.
Hope I helped! Rate me plz!
Sarah f/16

Q: Friday night I was at the movies. Me,my 2 friends and this guy that likes me took some pictures. I sat on his lap. I have a boyfriend of 3 months. Is that cheating and is it bad and should I tell my boyfriend? I feel really bad! Please help!

Well, its cheating and bad! no offense, but you flirted with the guy. If your bf really trusts you he'll understand. You already feel bad, and you'll feel worse keeping it from him. If he finds out somehow, he might never forgive you. But if you tell him yourself and be honest, he really might forgive you.

Q: me and my best friend went ice skating together n there was this guy there that she has been talkn to online for a while but i just met him n i kind of like him. evidently so does my best friend. im really shy and shes just not at all so i dont have much of a chance n she can pretty much get any guy she wants but i like him too. when we were in the car goin home from it she told me that he was hers n that i cant have him n i just kept sayin why n then i told her that he said she was desperate (and he really did say that) because i was getting pissed off. after i told her that she didnt say anything to me for the rest of the car ride n when i walked out of the car i thawt(i wasnt sure) that i saw tears in her eyes. what should i do about all this? i rate 5s to answers that dont piss me off!

I hope my answer doesnt piss you off... Anyway, your friend has been chatting with this guy online, she obviously likes him a lot. You said "I kind of like him". If you liked him a lot, you would have said "I really like him".
You just met the guy,
Your friend knew him before you met him, so she obviously likes him more than you do. In order to keep this friendship and not to hurt your friend's feelings, I think you should back off, even if the guy isnt interested in her. Guys come and go, but friends go and never come back, theyre like balloons, if you let go, they'll never come back.

Hope I helped! Rate me plZ!
Sarah

Q: 15/m there is this girl that i like a lot. the problem is she's 2 years younger than me and she doesn't live in my school district. we both play basketball in a summer league (different divisions) so we see each other sometimes. but neither of us are allowed to have a gf/bf until we're 16 and our parents are friends so they would probably find out if we started going out. i asked her out like a year ago because i liked her and i heard she wanted me to and she would say yes. but when i asked she said no because she didn't want her parents to find out. so i thought i was over her until earlier today. i went to her game and when i saw her i realized that i wasn't over her. i also heard that she still likes me. but i don't know what to do. should i make another move? what should i do?

I think you making a second move would be like disrespecting her parents. They already said she cant date until shes 16, so defying them would be disrespecting them. Then they'll ask her not to talk to you again or whatever. The best thing a gentleman would do is ask her parents' permission. If they say no, take it like a gentleman, but if you have the guts, try saying "I really like your daughter, and I will be good to her, etc. Please give me a chance..."
You have to show that you really like this girl.
Or,if you cant do that, wait , only one year left!
But if I were you, Id take the first option if I really liked this girl.
And I think shed love seeing you asking for her parents permission, it shows you like her so much youd do anything!

Hope I helped, RATE ME PLZ!

Q: I woke up this morning and i've had it all day and this monday i have to sing for a competition...wat are some good remedys for a sore throat and is it safe??

just drink hot drinks, rest your throat, and dont talk and definately dont shout! Buy some "halls" and eat them all day. Orange and Lemon juice also helped me feel better many times, just drink them warm.

Q: i'm not overly fat or anything but i want to lose some weight to feel healthier and i dont know what i could eat thats healthy and filling...what are some ways i could lose some weight (a school dance is coming up so i'm trying to lose some pounds as fast as i can!)quickly and in a healthy way (like no starvation diet). ThAnkS

First of all, to lose weight, you shouldnt deprive yourself from food. Its good that you know that already. Anyway, im on a diet myself and people already noticed im losing a lot of weight! My guy friend even said I look hotter now.
Just eliminate sweets and junk food from your diet and you'll drop pounds in no time! Replace "coke" with "diet coke". Replace chips with veggies or fruits.
Heres what I eat every day:

Breakfast : Cherios with non fat milk
OR
non fat yoghurt + juice (strawberry, pineapple and apple are the best)
OR
a piece of toast+ cottage cheeze or any low fat cheeze + juice

School: at school, eat vegetables or fruits, dont eat fatty stuff.If you feel you need sugar, drink some juice or flavoured milk (strawberry milk, not chocolate!)

Lunch: I suggest chicken cesar salad, very light.
OR
Tuna pasta salad
OR
one grilled chicken breast + a piece of toast or 4 tablespoons of rice or 4 forks of pasta.

Dinner: I usually skip dinner, but if I'm really hungry I eat some low fat cheeze, a piece of toast . OR I eat these crunchy bread sticks.

This diet is perfect for me personally, and dont forget, exercise at least 3 times a week specially if you messed something up in the diet.
Best exercises :walking, jogging, swimming,tennis, dancing and aerobics.
And if you're going to a fast food restaurant, always order chicken cause 1 hamburger = 500 calories. On the other hand , one grilled chicken burger = 200 calories! And of course, NO FRENCH FRIES!
You are allowed to have one "all you can eat" day, thats the end of the week. But it doesnt mean you can eat the whole supermarket! lol.

Hope I helped, RATE ME PLZ!
Sarah

Q: I have this friend that has a cancer but I dont know wut kind and he was doing really well untill the day of my uncles b_day.
We got a call on the phone that said he wasnt doing to well and that they gave him some medicine that they usually give people who are about to die.
I am so worried wut if he dies and we will never be able to see him again.
He is only 17 years old

HELP WANTED.

Im really sorry to hear about your friend, but you should remain optimistic. Make him love life even more than he does now, help him enjoy every single second of his life. That is all you can do right now, it all depends on God right now.
But they say physical illness is connected to emotions and stuff. If someone doesnt feel like living and gives up, its out of our hands. But if he keeps wanting to live and fights the illness, he really might make it!
And about never seeing him again, stop worrying, remain optimistic. And one day, we'll see all of our loved ones (the end of the world). He wont be gone forever, he will stay in your heart and in your head, you will always remember him, so you'll keep his memory alive.

Q: anyone know any sites i can download free music at if you do please help me thx!

www.yourmp3.net
www.Winmx.com

Q: My mom waon't let me have a b/f or watch some R movies. It seems like she is Overprotecting me from the outside world. What should i do? HELP!

Feelings from the inside out,

Jess P.S- I rate HIGH!

I think you should tell your mom how you feel. First of all , how old are you? I think you should be thankful your mom is over protecting you, that means she cares about you. Shes not letting you date cause you cant trust every single guy. Just tell her how you think you're old enough to date and watch R rated movies. I think she'll think about the dating issue, but it would take her time to be convinced you can watch R rated movies.

Q: I'm 13 years old and I have this friend named Allyson and an enemy named Roxy. Roxy has hurt both Allyson and mine's feelings and isnt a very..well...nice person but is extremely popular and draws much attention. Allyson tells me that she just wants to be my friend and that she doesnt like Roxy but whenever i see that roxy talks to allyson, allyson gets all happy and smiley. Later though, she denies to have done anything like that. Allyson has let me down before but promises to never do it again. Also, allyson talks to roxy's mom alot they have a good relationship and i think allyson tells her many thing...maybe too many..i dont know if to trust allyson again..i mean shes a great person/friend but...i dont know..if i should trust her again.

xPiinkMaScArax

Well, I think that Allyson mayb be happy because Roxy, the extremely popular girl, is talking to her. Its pretty normal, in my school its not like that. Im popular, every one knows my name, but do they all like me? Im really nice to people, so I doubt anyone hates me. But Roxy... she's plain mean, I think you should try to talk to Allyson, remind her how she hurt her feelings, tell her that you dont want to see her get hurt again. I think you shouldnt ask us wether to trust Allyson or not, its up to you. But if I were you, Id watch my tongue around her.

Q: see here is the thing!i like this guy named chad but my friend taryn liked/likes him, and i know he used to like her but he told me he didn't anymore and now i like him. he even invited me to one of his baseall games and everthing should i go and continue likeing him or wat?

Erm... I dont think you can stop yourself from liking someone. Keep on liking him, maybe he likes you too and maybe he'll even ask you out!
If he does, ask your friend first

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Hi, I'm Sarah and I'm 16 years old. I really like to help people and give them advice, so never hesitate to ask me any question about guys, crushes, friendships, ANYTHING!
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