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My friend who i'm so not liking any more
Hey. This is gonna be long,but i really need help. Okay, I live, in Italy. i only have 4 close friends at this school, and I just joined there this year. Okay well, one of my friends, she's the bold bitchy type. I'm a shy type person ever since i moved here. Earlier up until about a month or two ago, we were good friends, we used to get along. Recently we've been having tons of arguments, and she's ALWAYS criticizing me, like, tellin me, dont say that,that's weird,blah blah. Or change ur MSN nickname, i dont like it.I've tried talking to her about it, telling her how it is. It doesn't help. We get into more and more arguments day after day. Even just now she was asking me something and i decided to give her the real answer. So i said,"well u criticize me a lo, balah,blah. And all that. And she said stuff about me. That I'm really annoying, how i'm timid and blah blah. I asked her why we get into arguments so much recently. And she said that im not reallly her type. shes never had a shy friend like me before. Blah, blah...and so i started telling her how she is, kind of. And i was like no offense again and agian...so she wouldnt take any, even though i knew she would, it was all i could do on my part. And then shes like"STOP SAYING NO OFFENSE I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST A PHASE BUT NOW I KNOW ITS NOT BLAH BLAH" I hate her. She's always saying shit about me. And then now she's like, i think we should just not be friends instead of being mad at each other 24/7. Well, i think so too, and i told her. And then She says i'm always deppressing...which i guess to some extent is true, because my home life is shit. My parents and my sis are always yelling at me, tlelling me to die and shit, and I yell back...so when im with them soemtimes i complain and am depressed. And i go to a rich school, and my friends are well off. But we are not. And she says that the reason the other people don't like me, now, is cause I'm boring and shy and im just quiet and dont go up to people so how i can i be open to new friends. I'm uncomfortable, i cant just go up to them. She says i should b more fun and crazy and the people think so too and then I'll make new friends. I can be a little more I guess, but not totally because my home life affects me. And my parents, i hate them. So what am i supposed to do about everything??? I'm only 13 and I wanna get out of this whole thing..die or move to a new place where I can be a new me with money and without parents.
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You go to a rich school, right? Is there a dorm? You can go live there if your parents really bug you, tell them you need a little space. And im guessing its ur older sis, right? thats completely normal! Anyway, you shouldnt let shit in the family affect you. I know its hard, personally i go and chear up at school! You should stop acting all shy and stuff, try to overcome it. And I think you should give that girl one LAST chance, she has been honest with you so appreciate that. Friends should always be honest, bbut your msn nickname is none of her business. It will take you some time to stop beeing shy.. But heres what I want you to do: if you're walking and you see someone sitting by him/herself, walk over to that person and sit beside them and start talking to them.
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First off, yeah, you probably shouldn't be friends with her anymore. Second, with your home life, I know this sounds like the peachy thing to do, but you should sit down with your parents and sister, and talk everything out. It really does help. My home life isn't exactly perfect, either. If that helps, and your homelife gets progressively better, you should sort of grow out of being shy, that's what happened to me, anyway. Hope I helped.
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Well, I can tell you now, that you should just drop that friend. I am a depressed person too, except, my friends weren't rude, they just kind of left me. But, you need to tell her that she should try finding a new friend. And about the family situation, I am going to suggest therapy, and/or school counseling. Now, before you think "ugh, no way, that won't help." Just hear me out. I was in therapy and counseling, and trust me, they help you. I have had some serious problems with my mom, and when I tell my therapist, we confront it to her, and try working it out. Now, you see, instead of trying to talk to your family at home, and getting ignored and hateful answers being directed to you, they have to give you straight answers in front of a therapist. If your mom will not get you into therapy, you need to get yourself in the school counseling deal. That way, somebody will help you take this seriously. And, you're probably not open to friends, because when you're sad, your social life can take a serious nose dive. But, you should counsel first before being open to friends. I would be really glad to help you through this, just tell me in my inbox, and make sure you tell me what your question was, so I'll know, thank you.
-TheTeenGirl
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you should just say that I am not wild and crazy like you want me to be so respect who I am.
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Make friends that your more comfortable around. Tell them about your home life, maybe they'll understand why your shy and stuff. You can try talking to your parents how you feel about them yelling at you, if that doesnt work..then I guess, ignore them.
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