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ok, there's this guy that I like...and he (for sure) likes me...and it seems like he is dropping hints on asking me out...like (this is kinda long) he asked me how I acted with the guys at my school (he's in 9th i'm in 8th)I don't rub up all over them and that they grab my butt etc...and then the other night on the fone (he calls me normally on a daily basis) he suddenly forgot wut he was going to say and he was like "it could have been about me and u..."and then another time he was like ' know for sure now that stuff is going to happen between us and I was like stuff??? sooo...does this mean he wants to ask me out...or...wut??? (link)
it really depends. i mean dont get too ahead of urself tho. He cud just be flirtin. Hey but if he likes u and u like him and u wud do this, ask him out! otherwise it will happen sooner or later and ull just havta wait


hey, i need some advice! someone help me out here. I really like this guy...but I don't know how to tell him. I'm worried that he doesnt like me, what do i do to make it get through to him that i like him without making it straight forward and making a fool of myself? (link)
dont make a big deal about it. Just if u sit next to him in a class be like i like u. really casually, nething like that works. Good luck


I joined the army to make a life for my then girlfriend, now fiance. She has always resented the fact that I made the decision to enlist and leave home. It's now been almost a year and I have only seen her a few times since leaving. I miss her and I think it could have been a mistake joining even though it has created a way for us to get married. I am not happy without her and the long distance is wearing on me. How do i make myself happy without her? (link)
wow iv never been in a position like that but its gotta be tough. Make friends, write/call her as much as possible. keep pictures of her in ur shoes/pockets. Find a new hobbie, something to take ur mind off it. And sleep and drink water as much as possible. And by the way it may feel like it but joining the army is courage and pride in ur country and people pray for u every day. So thanks for doing sumthing so truly amazing and heroic. And good luck!


im inlove with a lady that is older than me for 13 years. she's inlove with me too. but were both married. any advice. thanks (link)
well if ur maried no definitly no, think of ur wife and her husband wud feel. Its selfish so no absolutly not


one of my good friends told on me and my other friends for drinking and smoking weed to her mom, even though she was there and did it too. now i am in big trouble and its because she told on us! how do i confront her about it? (link)
well first of all did she admit she was doin it cuz thats different.
If she did: well then in long run ull thank her. Do u no how many ppl die from drugs and alchoal? My uncle died from a freakin drunk driver and my friends cuzin died from a drug overdose. U dont wanna get involved with that type of stuff and she right to tell on u all, including herself
If she didn't: well thats plain wrong. Anyone who tells on sumone for sumthin they did isnt worth ur time. U can confront her by just askin y did u do that? and my guess is shell probaly say ull thank me l8er. That when u say no ill thank u when u admit that u did it too. Then u give her the cold shoulder (w/out bein mean) untill she admits that she did it too. w/e u do do not tell on her. good luck and dont do drugs


When i was really little, i was raped by my cousin, someone i thought i could trust. i can no longer trust people anymore, it is very hard for me. What do you think i can do to help me cope with this and how can i explain this to my friends, who always want to know why im such a cold, hard shell of a person? (link)
Im so sorry to here that. first of all u need to sit ur friends down and tell them. B4 tellin them ask them to stand by u and no that it happened a long time ago but it is still hard for u. If they r ur friends they will accept this and help u out. Also u need to no that these r good ppl and will not do this to u again. Not all ppl r like ur cuzin. Also talk to ur parents about what happened. good luck.


what is a good black eyeliner? im useing mac right now and in school im in swim class and even when im not wet it seems 2 run down my face.. Does ne one know a good black eyeliner that does not run when i get wet or ne thing.. THANKS (link)
Ok try urban decay eyeliner or maybaleine. They both have long lasting mascara. Also clinique has mascara the lasts for like ever and u can get remover and thats like the only way it comes off.


13.m.fl(8th grade)
i like this girl a lot that goes to the other jr high in our area. i met her a couple weeks ago from her friends that ive known for a few monthes. i recently asked her out but she said she doesnt think she knows me well enough and is now going out with sum1 else from her school. im afraid she has a bad reputation of me from rumors about wut me and my friends do. wut should i do (link)
k well im 13/f so ill put myself in her shoes. Well i dn about other ppl but my friends and i dont really care bout reps but neway......1.Be extra nice and show her that you are a good person 2.get to no her betta.(i.e.-ask her aton of ?'s about herself and tell her bout urself) Girls love it when guys ask them ?'s about themselves. 3.k i no it sounds crazy but the harder a guy is to get the more a girl like him. Be nice but act like u dont need her. There was once a guy who like me but then when he started to do that i got a major crush on him.

Good luck and drop 1 in my iknbox if u need more help


I really want ot be popular..can you give me some tips? DONT tell me to be myself or tell me popularity doesn't matter, ive heard that enough. I want real tips. Thanks! (link)
well first of...i no it sounds stupid but my best friend finally stopped trying to be popular and decided to be herself and now she is totally popular. But i guess be funny, have a good sense of humor, act as if u r too good for the popular ppl and be confident. Good luck


Im not sure, but i think im starting 2 over eat. I get hungry every 2 hours, eacht ime eating a full meal. I can tell my stomach is gettin fatter jus by the way my clothes r fitting. I also cant stop drinkin soda. I crave it when i cant have it even though i try and fight it. Ive never been overweight. Last time i was weighed which was about a month ago, i was about 110 and im jus barely 5'2" and 13. Do any of you know a way that i can stop eatin so much and tone up my stomach again??? Any help is appreciated!!! (link)
Ok well ask ur parents/guardians to not buy as much food. ask them to not allow u to eat so much. also the best way to tone up ur stomach is to do crunches/sit ups everyday and run. Run makes u lose weight like crazy. good luck!


Hey guys,
The world has brought together by internet but there are some outstandingly obscene websites and titles which are mentally disturbing. I came across one of the site which shows porn photographs and movies on the sex relationship between Mom-Son, Dad-Daughter. Can it happen? I stronlgy believe that it is highly impossible. The relation between parents and their kids is such a holy and lovely relation, that they can't even imagine such thing about each other. I am really disturbed after accidentally watching that site. Please share your sincere ideas/thoughts/experiences whether this could happen? Thanks. (link)
All though those people most likely werent related, yeah it dus happen and its sad and disgusting but it happens way more then u think. Its called Sexual child abuse. It happens almost every day and its reall sad to think about the ppl that wud do that. im sry u had to see it.



does he like me or does he like herr???

(sry i know this is long)


ok ..im 14/f and one of my best friends is 14/m..he doesnt go to my school...although lives in the district and i seem him here and there...hes been askin me how to ask a girl out..and i kept telling him to be himself..he just wont listen to me on that part advice...and he kepts telling me to put myself in that position..and i said "no" then he said "well its not hard 4 u ur a girl" and i said "its hard 4 us as well..bc we have to turn down guys we dont like"..and i dk how to tell just to be himself..bc he wont listen to that...and he a few days ago he asked me "how do i ask a girl out and not get turned down??"..and im like idk its not something predictable...and he goes to a private school..and i go to public school..so i have no clue who this girl is..if i did ..i would have asked her if she liked him..but i dk ....so im pointless at this point...-thx

P.S. also...i asked him last night on-line what this girls name is and he said "marissa" and i asked him way be4 that.."what would you say if i said i liked you" and he said "i dunno" and said well what would your 1st response be if i said i did and he said "u do?" and i said oooo..then he said something or w/e and i said you scare me sometimes and he didnt say anything for 2 mins and i said..."do you care that you do sometimes" and he said "yea"..and i said "how much?" and he said "______________________________________________________________________________"
and i said "ooohh"..and when we got into an little argument over what is harder being a girl or being a guy...and he said we have it easier..and when i said "no we dont bc we have to turn down guys who ask us out, i had to do it 5 times" and he said "w/ whoooo?"..like if he was affaird i was taken or something..ahh it drives me insane..-thx again (link)
il confused but what i think ur sayin is that u like this guy who likes a girl and u dont no weather or not its u and he wants to no how do ask a girl out and u keep tellin him but he dusnt believe u. Well heres what id do . Next time he asks u tell him that uve already told him what u think. also tell him that all girls are different. If he keeps asking u just dont responde and hell get the message. And if u like him tell him that u do and ask him out! and if he says no then move on. he seems like hes a pretty confusing guy. And as for the boy girl controversey tell him that girls also get embarrassed bout askin guys out and also the guy they like might not like them. Good luck and if u want more help just explain the ? a lil more. thnx! =D


i've been eating a lot of candy for like the past 3 days, pretty much all ive ate was candy and chocolates and soda, n the only food was pizza and a hot dog. me and my parents are like 99% sure that i have diabetes and ive heard that one of the things that will happen to you when you have diabetes is mouth pain and i always have mouth pain, i have to tak 3 aspirins every morning so it wont hurt in school. so we thought it was a cavitty and we went to the dentist and there was nothing on the x ray so now were like positive its diabetes. anyways, today my mouth was hurting really bad so i took 4 aspirins and i couldnt take the pain and that hasnt helped so i took one more and it still was hurting so i went to go brush my teeth and wen i spit out blood came out and i checked my gums to see if they were just bleeding from the toothbrush and they werent so i just spit and blood came out in this thick mucus (sorry if thats gross) so i was kind of worried then it still hurt so i took 2 more aspirins cause the pain was unbearable. so basically i have taken 7 asprins and i only weigh 100 pounds, im really scared but no ones home and im scared to go to a neighbor or call 911..and i really dont want to puke, do you think ive over dosed or anything please help
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If I were u id call a friend and ask them to ask there parents. Call ur parents/guardians and ask them what u should do. And u cud have over dosed and dont do this again. omg this is really weird as im writing this i heer a commercial for ppl w/ diabetes who have gum pains and it says to talk to ur dentist about it. ok thats creepy but ne way yeah call sumone ur close to and dont do this again. My grandpa had that prob and he ended up takin 10 asprin a day and he had to get 50 ounces of blood pumped into him so be careful.. Good luck


ok, i named the brown puppy Brownie, i named one of the black ones Walker, cuz its always walking around, and i named another black one Tiny, cuz its the smallest of the litter...there are still two unnamed black ones who are fat and always together, as if their twins....any ideas for THEIR names? (link)
boys: fred and edd, Jimmy and timmy, Jordi and gordi
girls: Jessi and bessi, Holly and polly, Maddie and Patty, Nora and dora
girl and boy: Paul and polly, Alex and alexa, Johnny and Joany, Taylor and tylor, Frank and Frankie,


I'm 14/f. I have a brother who is 17 and I'm really starting to fall for one of his friends who is also 17. The age thing isn't an issue but I think if we were ever together my brother would freak out. My problem is that I think he might possibly like me back. How can I tell if he likes me romantically or if he just thinks or me as my brother's little sister? (link)
well here r sum proven facts

1. Guys have no contorl over this one. if there pupils get bigger when they look at u it means they are atracted to u.

2. if when he talks to u his toes r directed towards u, it means he is interested in u

3. if he is across the room but his body is facing u, he likes u.

Good luck!


I am not racest at all..but I have a problem..Okay well I have a really good friend..hes black..im white..I have liked him for about a month now..I really like him..hes all I think about! I found out a week ago that he liked me and wanted to go out with me..he even wrote the sweetest peom ever about me..I cant go out with him because my mom would flip if i went out with a black person..she just doesnt believe in black and white..and neither do some of my friends..It just wouldnt work..I really like this kid and I need to get over him! what should I do?! please help...

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Look if u really like him ur friends and family shudnt get in the way bcuz of their beliefs. Plus if u really like him u shud go for it. Tell ur mom ho u feel and explain to her that race isnt nething. If ur friends get mad at u for ur beliefs then they rnt ur true friends. Good luck


I have a major crush on this guy at my school. I've known him for awhile because i cheered for his football team for 3 years. I like him a lot but.. he likes my other friend. She's my, well one of, my best friends, and she's falling for him to. Should I still like him or like what should I do? (link)
Sometimes its just as good to have a crush on a guy as it is too go out w/ him. But in reality if this is gunna come between you and ur friend, u have to stop liking him. But tell ur friend how u feel if u havnt already. Good luck and im sure theres a guy out there just for u.


I always look too young. I'm a junior and everyone around me looks like they're a junior- but I could be confused with a freshman! I have brown never died hair thats like 6 inches longer than my shoulder with bangs that sweep to the side kinda across my eye. Any suggestions on hair? also, I have brown eyes so if u know ne ways to do my make up that'd be great too! I need to look older! Oh and- how can i dress to look older? Thanks so much! I RATE! (link)
K well u shud grow out ur bangs or use them in a way that u see in people magazine and stuff. Wear a glossy pink lipstick and blush. Use dark eyeliner and mascara. Wear a little bit og black or brown or sum darker color eye shadow. Good luck!


I'v always kinda knew that i was a lil distured inside cuz im usually always sad and never happy. I juss try to put on a happy face when im not home juss when im out or around my friends cuz no1 wants 2 hang around sum1 who's depressed all the time. But im so tired of being sad and feeling this way. I finally knew that i had sum serious issues today. There was a football game at my school but me and my two friends left during it cuz it was boring so we went to the mall. My mom picked me up 20 minutes late so i was standing there by myself but we got the exits confused. But when i was standing there i had a breakdown i juss wanted to cry. So instead i started punching the granet pillars infront of the mall to hold in my tears. Kinda self mutilation i guess. I dont wanna go to a therapist cuz every1 will think im crazy and i wanna kill myslef. Im juss tired of being so sad all the time. It juss seems lyk god put me on this earth to be miserable and to see how much i could take. Im tired of it...what should i do? (link)
K i no u dont want to but u really need to see a therapist. I had the same problem and i saw a therapist and now im happier then neone I no =D! And no one ever found out i saw a therapist. So good luck! And I really hope u feel better ! :>(


Sorry it's long, but I need some help

Okay, no offense to this kid, or anybody out there, I'm just describing him.

There's this one realy geeky, kind of overweight kid (I'm a few pounds overweight too, so nothing against him) Well he likes me, and he does whatever he can to talk to me. I know he's trying to be nice, and his best friend said he liked me, but I have a boyfriend, and he doesn't seem to understand that. Today, we were waiting in the commentary during school, and he came up to me and started to act like a real loser (he's a loner with only a few friends) but he made all my friends leave, and when I tried to walk away, he'd get in front of me. I'm stuck sitting next to him in 1st period, I have tried talking to the teacher, and I told her I felt like I was being sexually harassed, because he has tried touching me, but she wouldn't really liste, because she knows hit too well, and he just wouldn't do that type of thing, so I can't move seats, I've tried talking to an administrator, and everything, the only thing I haven't done was talk to him. I'm not sure if he's mentally challenged, and I don't know how to say anything without being mean, He never said he liked me, but you can just tell, and his friends have asked me if I'd go out with him

How do I get it in his brain, I have a boyfriend, and I DON'T LIKE YOU!! I don't want to be friends, I just want him to leave me alone!! (link)
K well there is a guy who dus the same thing to my friend and it really annoys her. He finally asked her out and she sed no cuz she has a bf so his friends kept goin at it so finally my friend just sed look im sorry but I have a bf and i really need u to stop stocking me. If u just say it in a nice way hell get the message, also still be ice and try to avoid him. Good luck!




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