Guaranteed...I'm probably younger than you think. I know there's a time and place for everything so at times I seem pretty mature and serious. But believe me when I'm with my friends I'm the biggest goofy goober around XD. Don't let my scary girl picture fool you. I'm just wise beyond my years.
Life is unpredictable. All the mysteries and surprises, you never know what may come your way BUT that's exactly what makes it worth while. So don't panic because you don't "have it all together" because in all honesty no one truly does. We all need advice sometimes and I love giving it out. Don't be afraid to inbox me because I'll be more than happy to try to help you with any problem. In closing: Peace, love and happiness.
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ok...theres this boy in my class. his name is brandon. he is totally HOT. i went out with him once, but my best friend kept flirting with him and getting mad when i hung out with him. we stopped being friends for a while but it didn't last. anyway, brandon hated her to untill she was my friend again. then she started flirting with him again. it made me mad and brandon broke up with me. but get this, the next week he asked alicia out. she said yes. then she broke up with him. i really like him, but i think he still likes her. what do i do? should i ask him back out or get over him? how do i get over him? im so depressed! help me please!!! (link)
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I say you talk to her what kind of best friend not only flirts with your boyfriend but also gets mad when you hang out with him.
If he does still like her and you go out with him, chances are he'll only break up with you again. Especially if Alicia is still flirting with him. Just leave it alone.
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I have never used any kind of lube during foreplay or sex or anything like that...is that a bad thing? (link)
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No that's not a bad thing. You probably don't need any not everyone does. Although when giving a handjob, the lube makes things easier. Even when having sex it makes things easier.
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what does it feel like to get eaten out? (link)
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Well everyone is different. Me, personally, I would have to say it feels amazing. But other girls may not even find pleasure in receiving oral sex. It all depends on what you're into.
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Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?
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I agree with your decision in not wanting to abort your baby. You should try adoption. There are plenty of good people who would love to have a child but can't.
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I'm young,16, and i tend to be one of those girls that gets too involved when i'm in a relationship. I get too attatched. I'm not looking to get married or anything or serious stuff, i'm finally trying to have fun and just talk to different guys but still being careful. So there is this guy he is so cute and i like him. he is a player, but i don't care cuz this time i'm not going to get too attatched. but i just want to know if it truly sounds like he likes me. He'll text me all the time. Calls me almost every night, one problem is sometimes he says he will call me back and he doesnt. Why?...He wants to chill for his birthday. He flirts like mad when we are around each other. (link)
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Firstly, let's not hold what this guy has done to other girls against him. They have absoutely nothing to do with you, you are a whole other person. He obviously is interested in you and it seems like he's into you. And besides if you're not looking for anything serious just run with it. You're feeling him and I think he's feeling you.
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ok well.......I'm with this guy. It's only been a few weeks. It all started on a night out when he kissed me and it kind of went from there...I went with it cos I like him and it was really fun so...it was good for a while. But you see,I've liked this other guy for like I dunno,three years or so now? You know the way there's always one person you REALLY like even if you sorta like other people? Well,yeah it's like that...So now it's not really workin out with this guy and I still like the other guy obviously,since I never stopped liking him. Don't really know how to handle the situation and me and the guy I'm with hang in the same group so if a break up is messy,it would be terrible...So yeah,any ideas? (link)
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Three years is a long time to be waiting for some guy. I think you are definitely doing the right thing by dating other people still.
I liked this guy for a whole two years before we finally went together. But during the two years we both had our share of relationships with other people.
The reason I'm telling you this is you date other people because and move on because in reality you could waiting for something that could never or will happen in the far future. So have fun now with other guys.
Have you ever tried talking to this guy? You know, telling him how you feel? I think you should. Lay all your cards out on the table and deals with them. If his reaction is good, there's hope. If isn't, at least you tried.
Anyways just tell your boyfriend that you don't think you can do your relationship anymore. Its not anything he did. You just would rather remain friends.
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16/f/bisexual
i feel like everyone only looks at me in a sexual way, boys and girls. i really want a true relationship but to them its only a sexual thing.
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Maybe you're looking for a true relationship with all the wrong people. Perhaps you should also look for fault in yourself. You should definitely hold off on the sexual things with these guys and girls that you're into, so you can establish the relationship that you want. And so you or them are not blinded by the sexual favors you guys do.
Try different people out, and by trying out I mean talking to, and dating. You never know a person until you really talk to them.
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i went out with this boy one nite to hang out wiht him planning on getting fingered or giving him a hand job. i thot i was ready and i want to so bad. but when i got there we were at the park and i would have so done it if we were comfy in a room on a bed or somehting but when he asked me to take off my pants i kinda didnt want to have my but on a bench. and if i did take off my pants should i have taken my thong off too or just the pants and let him get in there? (link)
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You did the right thing. He should have considered the fact that maybe just maybe you would be comfortable taking your pants off in public. Next time try attempt doing these things indoors.
But if you did take your pants on, no you would not have to take your panties off also. Just move them to the side.
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14/f
i'd known my best friend ever sense we were in kindergarden but didnt start actually becoming frineds until 3 grade then in 6th grade we were inseperatble. ever sense we entered high school. she's getting on ym nerves and acting like a total bitch. everythime were eating lunch. shes makes all these comments and mocking all ym new frineds. like this one girl she was haveing problems with this other girl there were frineds but she like pissed her off for no reson and know she is sitting at our table. the girl is really nice and has some problems and can somtimes be anyoying. but my best friend keeps making all theses commt and shizz and its really anyoying me becasuse she doesnt even know the whole story. and its getting onmy nerves. + she doesnt even know her and does it to some of my other frineds to. well most of the people besides us and this other girl she knows. (link)
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One thing is for sure: high school changes some people. I remember my friends and myself going into high school thinking we would do everything together and stay friends forever. But guess what, it didn't happen. Some of my friends changed just like your friend is in the process of doing. I'm no longer even friends with them. You should do what I didn't, talk to her before you lose her to all the hype of high school. I really do hope you take my advice. Tell her how rude she is being and however else you're feeling.
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Ok, I know this is strange but I really need advice so PLEASE don't judge me!
Yesterday, My Boyfriend and I were fooling around and I gave him a handjob. He came a little on my hands but I wiped it off. About ten minutes later, I went to the bathroom to masturbate and forgot to wash my hands before I touched myself.
Is it possible that I could get pregnant this way?
And if yes, could you tell me what I need to do?
Thanks!
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Yes there is still a chance you are pregnant. A small chance, but still there is a possibility.
First thing first are you ready for a child and the responsibility of being a mother? Do you want a child? Do you plan on keeping it if you are pregnant?
If yes to all three...you need to talk to your boyfriend about the possibility of you being pregnant and you guys plan for your soon to be baby.
If you don't want the baby I suggest the plan B pill. YOU NEED TO GET IT TOMORROW. It has to be taken within the first 48 hours. Go to a pharmacy such as rite aid or walgreens or whatever.
I hope I helped.
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like with a guy.
i don't know why.
but i'm just afraid too.
oh, and i know this is a little awkward.
but how do you keep your vagina from having that embarrasing smell by the end of the day?
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Feeling nervous is perfectly normal. But being scared is another thing. You're probably just not ready to do things with guys yet. Just hold off until you're entirely comfortable.
Anyways about the smell...I would suggest douching. Yes its true douching can lead to infections. But that's if you do it excessively. You should only douche like once a month. Try Summers Eve products, they leave your "down there" region smelling wonderful.
If you not want to douche, just try washing your vagina more. Carry baby wipes around and use them after you go to tge restroom.
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What is a good way to hook a guy, and like keep his interest? Guys these days tend to have a wandering eye, yet some of these guys are hooked on their girl. How do I have to act to "Hook, Line, and Sink" a good guy?
I rate high for REAL and HElpful answers!
-Madison (link)
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What's way to act to hook a guy? Well if anybody knew that, there would be zero single ladies. But actually the answer is simple. The is no certain way to act. No guy is the same, they like different kind of things. Some like aggressive acting girls, others like sub missive acting girls. Stick to the main thing: be yourself. That alone will hook the guy who is right for you. Don't waste your time on losers who want you to act any differently.
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15/f
so I'm close to dating this kid and I'm not the girl to do more than making out or whatever. but he said that when we date like around 5 months he might finger me and I asked if he wanted something in return and he said a handjob. I'm like freaking out because I don't know if I should stick to my morals and say I will never do it or just do it because it's not sex.
also I was wonder like how to give a handjob and how does a boy finger a girl? I know how they do but like do girls have to be shaved down there or no. (link)
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I can't really tell you how to give a hand job because its against the rules of advicenators. But I can tell you this keep a tight grip around his penis and move your hand up and down. Actually just ask him what he likes and what feels good to him.
How does a guy finger a girl? Basically he sticks his fingers inside of your "down there" region in an in and out motion. Just relax and enjoy it.
Should you shave?
If you want to, yes. I suggest you trim though regardless. Some guys lik no pubic hair, others don't. Everyone is different. Just ask your guy what he prefers.
If you are not completely ready or comfortable with doing these things, then don't do it. Is a few moments of ecstasy and pleasing your boyfriend worth your morals? That's the question you should ask yourself.
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my bffe chloe is going off with another girl called tania and she is gonna get into trouble and im just afraid that my bffe will stopping being my bffe. me and my bffe have been friends for 12 years and her mum doesn't like this tania girl. and to be honest i don't shes always threatining me and shes always telling chloe to start with me and just today chloe started trying to hurt this little girl i just want my bffe back not this horrible plastic slut and i want her to just stop being evil and saying she hates her mum for no reason. the reason i hear you ask why i hate tania is because today she pulled the handle down on the quad door and i was stood there and i banged my elbow and i fell and i was upset and in class she said to me that was bloody hilarious and even my bffe laughed.
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Well its a sad reality that your friend, Chloe, is easily influenced by this Tania girl. Tania seems like a light way bully to be honest. She is a negative influence in your best friend's life it seems. But apparently Chloe doesn't see it that way.
You should sit her down when its just the two of you and more importantly when Tania is not around. Tell Chloe exactly how you feel, &nd how you think that Tania is a bad person who will potentially lead her to do wrong. Be honest, you guys have been friends for this long, why have it ruined by someone unworthy?...
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where are some good places to foreplay? cause we can't do it in either of houses because we both have siblings and parents and we'd get caught. i was thinking a car but we wouldn't really have enough room right? and would that be sketchy? and we're 17 so we can't get a hotel room :( (link)
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Oh to be young and have raging hormones...those were the good days lol.
But seriously unless you want to fool around in public or someone else's home the sad reality is you're pretty much screwed. I guess you could do the car thing though. I would suggest going for it when it's dark outside and in a secluded place where you guys can have a bit of privacy (or as much privacy as you can get in a parked car).
As a matter a fact try the drive-in movie. Stay in the back seat though. You'd be amazed at what you can do there.
Hope to have helped some.
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i lied to my boyfriend '
about getting him a dog'
im post to have one buy tommrow'
what do i do' (link)
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Either get him one or fess up to the truth.
You could always go to the pound and get him a special little friend. Not only will you make your guy happy but you also will help an animal in need.
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i really feel comfortable around this guy who i've hooked up with a couple of times. all the time he makes it seem romantic; we even kiss goodbye, and then our post hook up conversations are literally "it was just a one time thing." i love hooking up with him but i'm not sure that i want to be friends with benefits if that's what he's looking for, because i'm sure he doesn't want anything more, but i really don't want to lose him as a friend. what should i do?? (i'm 15 btw) (link)
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It sounds like you're catching feelings. Which is what a lot of girls and guys alike do after being friends benefits with someone.
Like I said you're catching feelings and apparently want more from this boy. So tell him. I know, I know its easier said then done but you seriously should. Who knows, maybe just maybe he feels the same way. Don't be an object of sexual lust if you don't want to anymore. It was cool when you wanted the same thing but now you don't. Tell him how you feel.
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me n my boyfriend are white and my best friend is black. my boyfriend makes raceist comments and jokes alottt. what can i do?? im never gona leave either of them and i already tell them to stop..? (link)
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Do either one of them get offended? If not, leave it alone and move on past it.
If so, talk to the both of them at the same time. Tell them that you've tried speaking to them before about this and you think its really messed up how they disregarded what you said. The racist jokes are not cool or funny and they really need to stop before they cause a even bigger problem. And before they really start to dislike each other and ultimately affect you to the point where you feel as if you need to choose between them.
If either one of them gets mad at you for not taking their sad. That's messed up. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm pretty sure you guys are old enough to defend yourselves against verbal comments.
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[15/F] So guys do think I'm pretty, so I have confidence but its just that when I'm around guys at a social place (whether it be at a party or usually at church) guys just don't seem to like (as in have a crush) on me. It's literally like all my other friends have bfs/admirers or are really close friends with the guys and I'm the only one that doesnt!
But don't get me wrong, I'm not saying guys should like me or whatever... im just wondering whats wrong with me? Any advice would be appreciated, thanks in advance! (link)
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When I was your age the same thing would happen to me. As a matter a fact it still does.
Plenty of guys have told me I'm pretty and I know I am. Apparently to most guys I'm not the approachable type. Maybe you aren't either. Your cute yet sadly have an intimidating vibe. Nothing is wrong with you. Maybe you should try seeming more welcoming. You know, try smiling more.
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I just started talking to this guy and he seems really cool. We go to the same school but we've never talked in person before. He randomly sent me a message on facebook then we started texting. He wants us to hang out together but I'm worried he just wants to get in my pants. People have told me to stop talking to him because he just wants to hook up. I want to hang out with him but what do i do if he tries anything? I don't want to do anything with him I just want to hang out as friends. How can i make this clear to him? (link)
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Does he, in anyway, try to flirt with you? Has he ever made sexual advances towards you?
Tell him how it is if he tries anything. Tell him you think he's a really cool guy and you would love to be just friends and absolutely nothing more. You not the kind of girl who hooks up with guys. You don't have to be a jerk about it, just tell him in a gentle yet strong voice and approach.
Hope I helped
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