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not working out with a guy,not sure what to do
ok well.......I'm with this guy. It's only been a few weeks. It all started on a night out when he kissed me and it kind of went from there...I went with it cos I like him and it was really fun so...it was good for a while. But you see,I've liked this other guy for like I dunno,three years or so now? You know the way there's always one person you REALLY like even if you sorta like other people? Well,yeah it's like that...So now it's not really workin out with this guy and I still like the other guy obviously,since I never stopped liking him. Don't really know how to handle the situation and me and the guy I'm with hang in the same group so if a break up is messy,it would be terrible...So yeah,any ideas?
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I think you should definitely leave the guy you're with. It's not fair to him for you to be with him if you're not feeling it. I think you should date other people, even though you have liked another guy for three years. If something hasn't happened between the two of you in the past three years, it's best to move forward and date other people. But only if you like the other people you're dating!
You do have to be careful though, since this guy is in your same circle of friends. Just tell him in private that you are not sure that this relationship is working out for you and that he deserves to be with someone that is 100% ready for a relationship with him. Tell him that you'd like to remain friends though. If the opportunity comes up within the next couple weeks to hang out with him and your group of friends at the same time, do it. This will show that you really do want to remain friends and it won't leave enough time for the friendship to get awkward.
As for the guy you've liked for three years, you should talk to him. See how he feels about you. You'll never know how he feels if you don't ask him, and three years is a long time to waste dreaming about someone that you're not with. If there is no possibility for a relationship there, do your best to move forward.
You deserve a relationship with someone that is 100% into being in a relationship with you, just like your current boyfriend deserves.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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Three years is a long time to be waiting for some guy. I think you are definitely doing the right thing by dating other people still.
I liked this guy for a whole two years before we finally went together. But during the two years we both had our share of relationships with other people.
The reason I'm telling you this is you date other people because and move on because in reality you could waiting for something that could never or will happen in the far future. So have fun now with other guys.
Have you ever tried talking to this guy? You know, telling him how you feel? I think you should. Lay all your cards out on the table and deals with them. If his reaction is good, there's hope. If isn't, at least you tried.
Anyways just tell your boyfriend that you don't think you can do your relationship anymore. Its not anything he did. You just would rather remain friends.
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