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Q: How long can sperm live in a female's body? Or what is the average time?

Thanks.

It usually lives about 1-3 days and can still be travelling throughout that whole span of time, but it certainly moves at a slower pace after the initial ejaculation.

Q: i want a cell phone soo bad but my parents said no cause the last time i had one i didnt use it that much but that was like a year ago and now i would be using it but they keep saying no what are some ways to talk them into getting me a cell phone..
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Tie up the house phone by talking constantly on it and once they get aggravated by that, they'll see you would use the phone and maybe they'll get it for you.

Q: Hey folks :)

I need to interview someone about their childhood. And it needs to be a very long interview, problem is, I have no clue what to ask. Can anyone think of an INTERESTING question? Something that would really get a readers attention. I mean, if the reader is someone who does not know the person I'm interviewing..it's sort of hard to make it interesting, when that's the case. So any suggestions?

I'd appreciate it.

Thank you bunches :)

You could ask them about their favorite summer from childhood since that's usually the big excitement when you're young. Ask them to tell you about the type of things they did and what made it so special and better than the rest. Good luck on your project!

Q: will first time sex hurt even if your hymen has broken? will you still be tight or will it be good the first time?

If you're really comfortable with the person you are sleeping with, it shouldn't hurt too much. Also, if you've been finger before by guys, that can have stretched you enough so that it won't hurt. Just make sure you take it slow and have foreplay beforehand to make it easier.
It won't be great the first time but slowly you will start to like it more. It's just something that takes time.

Q: how can i make myself seem shorter?

Wearing flat shoes and cropped pants like capris can help you to appear shorter. Stay away from wide leg pants that go all the way to your heel because it elongates the leg.

Q: i was just wondering how many times a day should you use proactiv? im not sure if its one or two. and please dont tell me that i should stop using proactiv cause i want to.

I would try it twice a day at first because that's the suggested usage but if you feel like your skin is getting too dry, it doesn't hurt to use it just once daily. I use it once daily and my skin is fine. Plus, that helps you keep the product longer because you don't use as much every day.

Q: is it true that when girls play hard to get that guys like that girl more ??

Well, it depends on the guy, but I never met a guy who likes a girl chasing after him so whether you act uninterested or indifferent, make it his job to get your attention, not the other way around. It's kind of tough to do when you like a guy, but if he's the one for you, it'll work out soon enough.

Q: I just want some opinions on this:

Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?

I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.

What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea.

Honestly, I don't see a problem with letting my boyfriend go. He doesn't go all that often and I know when he comes home to me, I'm the one who is going to satisfy him, so it doesn't matter what the strippers did with him while he was there. It's also fine and sometimes fun to go with them to the strip club because if you're comfortable with yourself and the relationship, it shouldn't bother you watching him have fun. But it's totally up to you. Your feelings may not be the same as mine, so don't threaten your trust in the relationship by just allowing him to do something you don't want him to.

Q: My thighs are really muscular, and i know your probably thinking, well thats a good thing. but my thighs are WAYYYYY too muscular, like huge! and i hate it! is there anything i can do to "slim" them down and make them thin instead of so bulky?

Well, if you do a lot of weight training with your legs or even extensive running, that could be making your thighs larger than usual. If you are doing those exercises, try not using as much weight, not doing as many reps, or not running as long as you usually do but still getting in the exercise.
If you're not really doing any exercises that should drastically change your thigh size, it means you are just naturally made that way. There's nothing wrong with it, so just accept that your body looks good the way it is and that's how it's supposed to be.

Q: I was planning on redecorating my room. Im going to paint my walls white and i want to get a red (or something with red) bed comforter. i have one big window and i wanted to get red drapes. does any one have any other ideas or like websites where i could get pillows or decorating ideas or stuff that would look good with my room i rate 5's
thanks

I suggest a fun store like Pier 1 Imports or even TLC of HGTV websites since they specialize in decorating for all different tastes in styles.

Q: Okay so i am a 16year old female. and heres my situation. ive only gotten my period like 3-4 times in my life. and they havent been in consecutive months. the closest its ever been to consecutive was dec 2004 and january 2005. and the time after that was june 2005 then i didnt get it until my last period which was january 2006. my main question is...does my very irregular period mean that i am not ovulating like i should be and could it effect whether or not i will be able to have children when im older? dont get the wrong idea its not that i want a kid now or anything. but i do want a family in the future and this i just freaking me out. any advice/information anybody could give me will be much appreciated. thanks.

The first few years of your period can easily be abnormal just because tere are a lot of hormone imbalances during puberty. Also, if you are a pretty dedicated athlete, that can throw off the timing of your periods. Just keep an eye on it and if the timing doesn't seem to level off in a year or so, I would just go to a gynocologist to make sure everything is alright.

Q: 17/f. My boyfriend and I are very close and have a very loving, trusting relationship. We don't argue at all, he's not pushy in any way. Sometimes we joke around with eachother playfully, just saying sarcastic things, like the other day he came over when I was just getting out of the shower and was standing at the bottom of the steps playfully saying things like "Come on" "hurry up" "put some clothes on so I can see you," just jokingly telling me to hurry up. Well my mom picked up on that and didn't understand the joking tone, and now she's somehow thinking that he's being controlling or obsessive. I tried to set her straight, but I'm not sure that she gets it. I know that she's kind of looking out for me, because I've been in a controlling relationship before, but this one is /not/ like that in any way and I want her to understand that. She didn't want me to mention any of our discussion to him because she's afraid that he'll take it the wrong way or think that she hates him, and she doesn't. She's not terribly concerned and she likes him, but I just want a way to let her have no doubt in her mind that he's not controlling. Any suggestions? Thanks.

As long as you are still sure that your mom likes him, I don't think you should worry too much about it. Idon't think you need to mention any of it to him because it might put doubt in his mind, but if you want to sit down and reassure your mother about the relationship, that could be a good idea. Just tell her that you fully trust the relationship and never expect him to be overbearing or demanding, and that she can trust your judgment. Good luck! :)

Q: okay. so if you preform oral sex on a guy and he cums and you sallow can you get pregant? my mom is saying you can!

Well then I don't know how your mom properly conceived you with that kind of information. It is impossible to get pregnant if you give oral sex because whatever you digest does not go to your reproductive system, therefore it does not come in contact with eggs to get you pregnant.

Silly mothers...they'll do anything to keep us babies!!

Q: My mom has been smoking for a long time now. She smokes a pack a day and i want her to stop so she wont get cancer or anything. She says its really hard to stop and she already tried one of those stop smoking programs. How do i make her stop?

Well, it is humanly impossible to make someone stop doign something that has become habit, especially something addictive like smoking. If you have already mentioned to her that you don't like it and she hasn't stopped, you can see what I mean.

I suggest telling her that you both can set goals together (perhaps you want to lose weight, become more active, or try community service...anything really) and that you will rely on eachother's progress with those goals. Don't let her feel like she's doing this alone and it might be a little easier.

Q: what age is right for sex? i always thought not till your married. what do you think?

It depends on maturity level more than age but I would say around 17 or 18. If you have the control to wait till marriage, that's awesome for you, but just make sure if you can't wait, you think it all through first and make sure it's something you won't regret.

Q: How can you tell the difference between when a guy precums and when he actually cums? (if you're giving him a handjob) Thanks

Well, let's put it this way: Pre-cum is like a light drizzle. The real deal can be anywhere from a thunderstorm to a tsunami...it should be pretty obvious.

Q: During winter, my face gets a little bit of dry skin on my forehead and near my eyebrows. Is there any way to deal with this without making my skin oily? Thx

I'm pretty sure that Clearasil makes a kind of medicated lotion that will moisturize the dry skin but at the same time it has the medication so oil and pimples can't surface.

It looks like this:

http://store.yahoo.com/yhst-51201159454497/clacfifamo3.html

Hope that helps and your local store has it in supply.

Q: Hi. Does a gyno exam include a breast exam, or will the doctor just check to see if everything in the netherregions is healthy? Thanks.

At least when I go, there is a quick breast exam, even if you're young. The doctor may ask if you check yourself monthly too but still check to make sure it's done properly.

Q: This is really weird and random, but has anyone seen the movie or opera "The Phantom of the Opera"? You know how Erik has that mask that covers half of his face? How does he get it to stay on? I didn't see and strings around his head to hold it in place

I'm sure they use a special kind of stage glue or putty to make sure the mask doesn't fall off. But as for how we're supposed to think it stays on storywise, maybe the disfiguration on his face has a gluelike quality that allows him to slap on the mask for as long as he desires. :)

Q: Ok...Does anyone know any sites for Free Ringtones or some that doesn't cost more than about $2? Thankyou.

As long as you have free internet on your phone and can access websites on your phone, try http://free-ringtones.eu.com...I got probably 50 free ringtones off there!