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Q: One of my friend broke up with me. He wasn't my bf, and we were just friend. But because he couldn't get what he wants from me, the relationship, he broke up our friendship and said he rather not to be my friend at all. So we are not friends anymore.

I still care about him, but he's not talking to me at all, and ignore me whenever he sees me. (we're in the same classes mostly)

What should I do?
(He doesn't respond my calls, txt, emails, and he block me on him im)

He's trying to get you to give in.
if you dont want to be in a relationship with him then he should respect that and just be friends.
just dont try talking to him, he'll come around, he just needs his space...
give him time and see what happens.
if he doesnt want to be your friend because you dont want to be his girlfriend, then hes not even worth talking too.
i know you care about him, but you have to remember that this is his decision and if you do honestily care about him then you will just respect his decision.

just give it time and see what happens

=]

Q: Okay, my best friend sister is prego. she i guess 6-7 months.who really gives a fuck!.my boyfriend used to go with her.he 21.she is 18.he stay over there house.thats how i met him anyway.basically being over there cause thats the chill spot or whatever.believe me it is complicated and shit.her mom.everybody calls moms.she knew binky(marcus-my boyfriend) went out with her daughter in the past and shit.her daughter the prego one walked around talking bout him and shit she'd be like Binky and RENEE(his best friend-ride or die)is still fucking.she was telling me this when me and binky was together and shit.I didnt get why she would say that shit.but she did.She be like the only reason RENee would mean mug her is cause binky would stop paying attention to her.and end up focusing on ericka,cici,and alix(all sisters-thats where everybody hang out at.there spot).Alix is my bestie.So is Cici.Ericka cool.i guess.until mother fuckin now.Cause she'd be like.Why would Binky and Renee be arguing if nothing is going on?.Obviously there is becuase they wouldnt be fighting like a couple.Truth be told.Binky dont fuck with renee.i guess.cause they had something at first but then that shit just ended.it aint work out.or so he says.anyway.my friend just told me.binky talked to her mom about moving in with them so he could take care of ericka's baby.im like.for what?.he aint fuck her and get her pregnnt.some other dude did.the other day binky even asked her...DID YOU TALK TO DUDE AND TELL HIM YOU PREGNANT?.she said YEAH,I CALLED HIM.HE SAID HE WILL CALL ME BACK AND HE NEVER DID.well my saying would be.go find that nigga.!
best belive.no nigga would ever run from me like that.so, he aint tell me what was up.But everybody down there knows except me.Just cause im not there doesn't mean i should not know man.it should have been said to me.maybe i'd have a different opinion.but now that it wasnt said to me first.i cant trust him or her.my best friend alix is like.well she think it is good that a guy is willing to step up for another guy that aint doin his job.i told her yeah.if they was together.which they aint.binky is supposed to be with me.she over there defending him.she say she not.but she is.cause she tryna cover up with the shit like.he almighty for trying to raise ericka baby.yeah okay.im lettin that nigga go!.i dont give a fuck if he doest know if it is over or not.cause like i said before.no one told me shit when i just went down there.and the shit just happened today.make it so bad.im down there and he actin like shit aint out place.he had me fooled on some other shit.he'd be like DAMN I LIKE YOUR BODY.DAMN YOUR SEXY.DAMN I THOUGHT I WOULDVE NEVER GOT WITH CAUSE I THOUGHT U WAS WITH ANOTHER NIGGA.he had me played.i thought he was the one.when i fucked him he was like trust me and shit.i dont trust him now.and now i regret ever fucking him.im glad i aint fuck him friday.then he woulve thought he was the shit.i dont get what type of game this nigga playing neither.it bothers me.and im sure bout to approach him bout it.ima wait that shit out.and see what happens.I WILL GET EVEN.
then i talked to him.and i get why he is helpin out with the baby.
but he wants to move with them.and i dont get why.i mean.pampers,diapers,baby food.yeah okay that is helping.BUT MOVING IN? for what?.obviously he wanna be with her.that bothers me.i told him.ITS OBVIOUS YALL STILL GOT FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER.EVERYTIME I WALK UP iN HERE.YALL ALL SITTIN CLOSE.TOO CLOSE!.and he made it seem like it was nothing.he laughed cause im possibly jealous.why wont i?.not of her.eww hell no!.but the fact that she got her head layed up on your chest.lap.feet all layed across you.that bothers me!
i cant stand that shit.he was like TRUST ME.I MEAN U ACT LIKE IM FUCKING HER OR SOMETHING.IM JUST TRYNA COMFORT HER.and im like.what the fuck!.yeah if you was her nigga.
but you mines.not hers.her boo/baby daddy need to step the fuck up and COMFORT HER.not u.
I MEAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME THEIR OPINION.AM I STUBBORN AND SHOULD REALLY TRUST THIS GUY.OR JUST DUMP HIS ASS!.

well if you've already told him that you dont want him hanging out with your sister, and he didnt listen then you should move on because he's not giving you the time of day.

sit him down and really comfront him about it.
and remember be strong dont let him get to you.

only if you really feel like breaking up with him, you should but make sure that you 100%ly dont want him.

i hope i helped!

Q: 15f

I have not had my first kiss yet and I'm already a sophomore
it sunlcks alottt
but what are some tecniques you use for kissing I have no idea how to kiss someone
how can I practice?
what do I do???

it should come naturally...

For makeing out:
if you need practice you can always uses and ice cream cone. if the ice cream inside come to a point then you did it right.

Peck Kiss:
its like you would kiss a teddy bear, just pucker up your lips.

HELPFUL HINT: guys love it when you lightly massage there neck out play with there head or ears.

good luck

Q: how do I know if I popped my
cherry or not?
like how can I check???

well if your cherry popped then you would bleed...
that how you know.

and if your not sure that happend but you think it did you can always go to the doctor to check

hope i helped!

Q: 17/f

so when me and my boyfriend mess around he just masturbates me but he hasn't "fingered" me yet but after about 30 minutes or longer my legs start shaking and I start breathing harder. is this an orgasm?? if not then what is it??

ya...
well if you have a little moan with the beath breathing then 100%ly it is.

Q: hey i have been with a guy for 2 years and my parents say they trust me and they know him well but they will not let us hang out alone. and we arent even going to 3rd yet so i dont know if they think we are worse than we are but what are some things i can say to them to make them allow us to hang out alone?

15/f

try saying this...

"If you really trust me then you should trust my judgement"

and then say something like

"you should know that i would never do anything stupid, and if anything ever went wrong i would call you and tell you!"

hope i helped!

Q: 6 months along :]
its a girl.
me and my boyfriend have some names pciked out.
but arent sure what to name her.
just lemme know what you think.

Riley James Court.
Brooklyn ray Court.
Elizabeth lynn Court.
Courtney may Court.

^6what one do you like the best.
or give me some suggestions.

i like Elizbeth lynn court

its sounds really cute!

Q: hey wear can i find cute bras for ppl with dds and bigger?

you can get them almost anywear!

~Victoria Secret
~Anchor Blue
~Target
~Wallmart
~Kohl's

Good Luck

Q: My ex boyfriend (I'll call him L)and I went out for a month last year, and broke up becuz we were just acting like friends (it was our first relationship). Anyway, we are a rare case, because we just got ridiculously closer and its exactly a year today that we were together; we talk everyday, and he is almost like my best friend, only more. Anyway, i never completely got over him. I honestly love him. Not in love, but i do love him so much. We connect in a way that I never have with anyone. And i know he loves me too, we make a cute couple and balance each other well, but two months ago, i told him that i still had feelings for him and he told that we should just be friends. Anyway, my guy best friend's good friend J likes me alot, and I am attracted to him,but I cant see myself with him, because I still like the other guy. So, last night, I asked L for advice on what to do: whether I should give J a chance or not (because he is the only one who could give me a true answer). And he gave the sweetest advice, that if I saw myself with him than I should give him a chance, but if I cant than maybe I shouldnt. I told him that he (L) would be fifth wheel if I went with J (becasue my guybest friend, his girlfriend, me and L...and now J hang out alot). And he told me not to worry about him, and be selfish for once. Then he quietly asked if I liked someone else, why i was so unsure about J...and I didnt want to answer(because of course I like him). There is nothing wrong with J,but I love L, and I want us to have another chance. We are perfect for each other. We are always flirting with each other, and i love the way he talks to me. He said I brighten his day. Should I give J a chance, or try to give it one try with L again (mind you, he might not even want to try it again.) I want L to know that I do love him. I just dont want to get rejected again. But I dont think I can be with J unless..

ok...
let me just say right off the bat that alot of girls give up something really great because another guy is standing in the way, but the thing is if you love this guy then you should talk to him about how he feels. dont tell him you love him, that might scare him a little but just ask him about how he feels and if he still has any feeling for you. and if he still does then talk to him about getting back together.
but if he says that he only thinks of you as a friend then you should give L a chance, but only if you really thing you guys could have a good relationship, if you cant see yourself with him then dont waste your time.

I hope i helped!
good luck

Q: So theres this guy that treats me like shit. i seriously try to be sooooo nice to him and i usually am. but he never reconizes it. I always have to text him first and call him first. and when i dont he doesnt do anything i tried not being the first to text,call etc. And he didnt seem to care. Im trying to get away from him, but its so hard. I know it sounds stupid like if i was an outsider looking in on the situation id be like leave him now. but i cant its so hard. any tips on how to leave someone and walk away before i get really hurt? thanks!

its basically temptation.
there is probley something about him that attracts you to him but you have to try your best and resist. dont let yourself give him attention thats what he wants. when your about to call him, call one of your friends inside and keep your mind off of him. if he's not taking the time to talk to you then you shouldnt be giving the effort to talk to him. its usless if only one person is trying and the other person isnt, believe me i would know. and since you do know that in the end you will get hurt just keep telling yourself that and you'll be abel to let go.

i hope i helped!

Q: 15/f

I think im addicted to masterbating, and watching p0rn.
but i dont want to be.
you see my parents work at the church. and im sorda a really good kid, so i dont want to live this lifestyle. but every so often i have to go to youtube or whatever to look up bad things. and every night in the shower i use the showerhead to masterbate. I also do that in my bed. No one would ever suspect this of me. I am a perfect goody good. so should i be doing this?
is it normal? or should i stop?
if so, how can i stop?
and if i SHOULD be doing this, where can i see more footage, without looking up keywords like "sex'
because my dad has a fire wall on all the computers, and he can see everywhere i go.

you dont technacally need to stop.
it is compleatily nomal.
alot of people do it.

im not really sure what keywords are there.
just listen to the news and if you hear somthing about a porno then type it into youtube, for example the paris hilton sex type...
you might be abel look it up under paris hilton...

but other then that im not exactily sure about keys words

i hope i helped though!

Q: What's the difference between 2pac and Tupac Shakur?

they're the same person.
there's no difference just the spelling.
2pac is a shorter way to spell Tupac.

Q: how do you get over a guy that you fell deeply in love with and you can't stop crying about him no matter how many times you tell yourself that he is worthless and to forget about him!!!

ive gone through the same exact thing this past year, and now im ok, and you will be too! its so hard but you can do it. remember that life will go on after him and that eventually everything will be ok. There is nothing wrong with crying. Alot of people cry and that helps them let out all their pain.
honestily only you yourself can get over him. nothing anybody else says or does can make you get over him, but alot of times it can help make things better. try and convince yourself that your over him even if your not, just keep telling yourself that you are. another thing that can help is if you just flirt around for a while. i dont mean like be a slut or anything, but just flirt, it never did anybody harm. i know how hard it is but you will be ok. one day you will find someone who you can love that will love you back.

Dont let him take over your life. everything will turn out the way its suppose to,
and one day you'll relize that you dont need him to define you, you dont need him in your life and your better off without him

I really really hope i helped =]

good luck!!!!
I wish you the best.

Q: how do i get over a boy?

well the fisrt step is: cry!
cry like you've never cried before, put on some sad song that reminds you of him, and just cry to that.

second: promise yourself that you wont cry anymore after that. remmeber guys arent worth your tears and that this is just a bump in the road.

third: distract yourself, do school work, go out to a party, hang out with some friens, and whatever you do dont talk about him or bring him up, all you need to do is talk about right now and the future.

sometimes what helps is if you get closure, make sure you know the reason why you arent together and slowly you will learn to let go, and you will move on.

i really hope i helped =]

Q: breakupp a month ago. he broke up with me. i liked him too much. lost any self confidence i had. HATE where i live. friends suck. some are moving next year. dont have an endless supply of friends so having friends leave is bad, even though they get really annoying. grades going down. family is annoying. cant think. help?!

thanks.

ok first off take some time to clear your mind.
go to the gym, a spa, tanning... something, somewhere where you can relax!

dont let all this stress you. alot of people go through things like this so dont worry yourslef.

you'll rewbound from your break-up, hearts dont stay broken forever, what happened was ment to happen so dont think about it too much and try your best to move on. things will fall into place when they are suppose too.

your probably lossing confidence because of the break-up, dont let it get to you, it wasnt meant to be and there are ALOT of other guys out there.
you have to remember that in the end everything will be ok, your life isnt over.

You cant do much about lossing friends, but you can always gain new friends. that doesnt mean you have to lose contact with your friends, you have the phone, myspace, e-mail, vacations... there are alot of things you can do to sray in contact. but in the meantime think of this as an opportunity to meet new people.

i know that all these things that are going on are problably distracting you from homework and school, but again, try and focus. keep thinking that everything that everything that is going on will pass, and eventually it will. its not the end of the world you'll bounce back, just have faith.

family can be annoying to alot of people so just ignore them, if they are complaning about something just sit there and dont really say anything even if it is annoying, and you can always go into your room just to get away from family.

what i think you should do is maybe have like a girls night out with some of your friends, when you girl are all together dont think about anything else, and dont talk about what you all are going through. forget about the world and just think about that moment.

i hope i helped =]
good luck!

Q: When you send a text message..... does any of the accually text message show up on the bill??

Im on cingular by the way

what shows up on the bill.. the number .. the time.. and what else...

i have cingular too.
thats all that shows up, the number the time and date...
thats it

Q: Is it normal for a guyfriend to call you baby?
err at nite when you text he text you nite sweety/sweetiepie/honey xoxox ? even call you out sweety on the phone?

is that normal or does he possibly LIKE me, more then a friend?

well usually guys dont call you honey unless they like you, so ya i think he does like you more then a friend.

Q: There are these 2 boys that i like and i like them the same i guess. but they both like me to. Neither of them have like made it so they show me they want to date me but I've talked to both of them about it. I don't know what to do cause i want to date both of them. I just don't know what i need to do. and i don't know of either of them are looking for what I'm looking for. one goes to my school and one goes to a different one. What do i doooo!?

you should take some time and talk to them about everything and what there looking for, if they want a realationship or not.
Give it time, only time will tell you who they really are and who is best for you.

what always helps is making a list with one guys name on one paper and another guys list on another. then write down everything you like about each of them.
ask questions like:::

who looks better?
who has better hygiene?

who is funnier?
who do you get along with better?
who can you see yourself with?
who is more sweet?
who gives more effort?
who wants to talk to you more?
who do you think about more in random situations?
who keeps you interested?

If both of them ended up in a hospital who would you visit?

Take your time to answer questions like this
and remember not to stress out about it.
everything will work the way its suppose to.

i hope i helped =]

Q: i am 15 and a female. Okay i have really like this kid for a long time know, and i talk to him every once in a while at school. and last weekend i stayed at my friends house and she has a twin brother and he had the kid that i like sleep over, and i was kinda shy to like talk to him and everything for a little bit. but he was trying to talk to me but and i started talking to him and he like started flirting wiht me. do you think he likes me or he was jjust flirting becasue that is what guys do.

thanks.

well the only thing you can really do is wait it out.
only time will tell if he really likes your or if it was just a one night thing...
give it a couple weeks and see if he still shows an interest in you.

make some effort to talk to him too.
that makes things go smoothly.

i hope i helped

good luck =]

Q: how can i get a girlfriend?

its simple
well first you have to find a girl that your attracted to either physically or personally. then you have to get to know her and i mean really know her if you want a long relationship with her. and once you've got her to open up to you then thats when you ask her out.

good luck

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