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Ok so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a month and he says he really loves me and I really love him, but then all the sudden he decides to go to the movies with another girl? He says they want to hang out cause they haven't seen each other in a long time, and don't get me wrong I totally trust him. But I just don't know what to do I mean why the movies of all places? ughh. this sucks. I dont know what to do anymore. (link)
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okay well they haven't seen each other in a long time? a movies is NEVER the place to go to have a conversation.. so if they really wanted to catch up then they should've done like lunch or something... friends do lunch not dinner.. I'd talk to him. plus there's no reason why you couldn't of gone.. i mean if she was really that good of a friend he'd care enough to bring his woman along so they could meet right?
be careful girl.. don't let him play you for a fool.
hope i helped (:
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I met my friend Melissa's brother Chris back in January and we became friends and I was attracted to him and he liked me too cuz he asked me out on Valentine's Day. But meanwhile I was getting to be really close friends with a boy named Thomas. So after two weeks I ended things with Chris, partly because of my crush on Thomas but mostly because he picked on me too much and treated me more like a sister than a girlfriend. And eventually Thomas and I got together on March 30. But I still have a physical attraction to Chris and I'm bummed because even after about 2 1/2 months together, Thomas has never kissed me. I never kissed Chris either but that was only two weeks sooo it would have been too soon.
Now I'm wondering what would happen if I had a friends with benefits relationship with Chris? I like that Thomas is taking thingsslow, I guess, but I really really need to feel physically touched and loved. And if I do it with Chris and we both agree it's nothing more, I won't really have to worry about rushing a relationship. But then again, that relationship will still be in danger cuz I don't think Thomas will like me making out with Chris when he's not around, like if I go home with Melissa. And if I do decide to go for it, how do I tell Chris what I want and do you think he would be ok with the idea?
Please avoid name calling in your replies. I know some of the stuff I wanna do isn't exactly morally right, but it's still how I feel and I want advice, not a lecture. Thanks! And sorry this is so long.
P.S. Chris is almost 18, I'm 15, Thomas is also 15 (link)
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okay heres the deal.. if you do persue this "friends with benifts" deal then technically that would be cheating.. and if you need some sort of physical touching-ness stuff then tell your current boyfriend that its been awhile and you feel that way.. and he will either do it or wont.
he could just be nervous and not know what to do or something so talk to him. and Chris is a little bit older and i know for sure here in CA.. its illegal to be sexual with someone who's 18 unless you have parental consent and even then it can be an issue.. anyway.. i don't encourage being with BOTH of them it should be one of the other..
if your man doesn't want to kiss you break up with him if its something you think you need to have in a relationship.. and lets say you do break up with your man and Chris doesn't want friends with benefits then just completely drop them both and find someone who has it all.
good luck my dear hope i helped alittle (:
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well on my bikini line there was a bump and it was hurting for a while but i ignored it for a week this was happenin
so then one mounrning it was touching the bumps and all this puss and some blood came out from it
it does not hurt anymore but it there when ipress it down i fill like hole woth tissue sourrounding it
do you no what this could have been
*i havent shaved for a while and a virgin if that makes a difference
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it could of just been an ingrown hair. somethings when the hair grows back it can do that.. i've had something quite similar on my leg before..
but im pretty sure thats what it was.. hope i helped
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just make sure you get your areas really wet and soaped up to try and prevent that as much as possible (:
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14/f, freshman female.
omg so I always used to think something was holding me back, but i thought it was shyness and by doing some quick googling i think I have social anxiety WHICH IS SO MIND BOGGLING. because I used to be really OUTGOING and actually, I still am.
i actually LOOK FORWARD to making speeches/presenting projects/any other things that involve me speaking in front of a large group of people with ALL attention on me and what im saying. but when i'm in 1-on-1 with people more outgoing than me, i freeze. if somebody makes a negative (joking) about me publically, i just freeze and i cannot think of a comeback, and usually the comebacks i create are lame, not funny, or insulting..but I CANT THINK! and then after i talk to the person i feel as if i sounded stupid..and then i go over the moment over and over in my mind..ahh. this sucks..it's prevented me from getting a boyfriend (he kept flirting with me but i couldnt think of anything clever to say, so i didnt say anything) and making more new friends this year.
i never used to be like this until this year. HOW DO I OVER COME THIS?? will I have to go to a psychiatrist? i hate the thought of telling my parents, because it's kind of embarassing [even though 15 million other americans have it according to some help site]. help please. thankyou. (link)
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honestly girl i dont know how you can and i mean it sounds bad but i dont think anyone else knows either. its just who you are. but realize you can talk to a bunch of people, but when it comes to one on one you cant. try thinking of it as "who care what people think.. i am me" not getting a boyfriend because of it.. well then you havent found the right guy yet. and talking to people about it, might give them a better understanding of who you are which can lead to guys understanding and liking you or you being able to actually start opening up.. do you know what i mean?
telling people just might be what you really need.
hope i helped girll.. (:
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So I have a boyfriend whom I have been with for a lil over 2 months.We've been talking for months before we actually started going out.Or made it official.In between all that.I was talking to my ex.Really my ex was trying to get back with me.And I have feelings for him still and always will be.Not necessarily strong ones or whatever,But you get my drift.He always seem to come in mind.I try not to let it effect my relationship with my boyfriend,But I mean he sometimes ends up in the conversation.Not necessarily with my boyfriend, But with like friends and family.I feel guilty though.For even having any thoughts about him because my ex was a jerk,But I mean I can't help but think about him.I don't know how to get him out of my head.I'm running out of things to do.I don't want to think I'm dating my boyfriend because of my ex because i'd honestly feel ashamed.I just need some help with this.Usually I'm the one giving the advice.I just don't want to lose my boyfriend.He is just so amazing and sweet and what I want.He makes me happy.Soo... question is..what do I do? (link)
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stay with your current man.. you know how the ex's can be.. girl they come back like there all into you but seriously if it was meant to be it would've happend.. just re-assure yourself for WHY you left him.. and tell the man your with currently about whats been going on.. talking about it might help you realize it even more about how you dont need him. sounds like you have the perfect guy right in front of you, your just alittle distracted.
hopefully things work out for you in the best way possible. and dont feel ashamed, its hard letting go sometimes. personally any guy who affects you in any way i honestly think can never be forgotten.. us girls really can have a hard time just completely letting go..
good luck my dear (:
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I'm sixteen, 5'3, 165-170 lbs. What is a good diet that's not too extreme that some of you have actually tried, and succeeded? Please, please no links. Just tips, and knowledge! THANKS! (link)
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do sit ups.. and leg ups.. like lay on your back.. extend your legs out and lift them up to your head.. it works your lower abs.. go for a walk or maybe alittle jog.. just for about 20 mins atleast 3 times a week.. and watch your calories.. dont eat past 8 and if you do have a banana.. drink two glasses of water before every meal you get full faster which makes you eat less.
hopefully i helped alittle. (:
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So, I have Final Exams Tomorrow, Thursday, and Friday. I was wondering if there are any tips for studying or anything like that.
Like, what should I eat in the morning, and what are the best ways to study?
Thanks :] (link)
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drink lots of water, fruits like oranges, grapes, and pineapple. use flash cards, and quiz yourself.
good luckkk (:
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15.f
okay so this guy likes me. I don't feel the same way about him though. He tried asking me out twice so far this year. the first time I told him I still had feelings for my ex (which was true) the second time he asked me out again I told him I had a boyfriend (which I did) and now were broken up and he asked me out again through e-mail today. I don't know how to tell him no. I just don't have feelings like that for him. What would the best way to tell him? (link)
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just say "hey i really appriciate the offer and honestly the last few times you've asked me out i've had reasons.. but this time i don't. i just dont see myself dating you and i dont want to hurt you but im not interested, friends yes.. dating no. im sorry hopefully you can understand. thanks"
and if hes a jerk.. then just ignore him.. if he asks again then just ignore him..
hope i helped girl (:
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im graduating 8th grade the 21st. and i need a hair style, pictures please =] (link)
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i know its not prom but
http://images.search.yahoo.com/search/images?p=prom+hair+updos&sp=1&fr2=sp-top&rs=0&toggle=1&cop=mss&ei=UTF-8&fr=yfp-t-501&vf=&ei=UTF-8&SpellState=n-1559828402_q-OoVHupldc7.p4vgo4k2mWQAAAA@@
try that link.. sorry it shows alot of pictures you can click on you view them.. if you pick one print it and take it to the hair stylist that way she has some sort of idea of what you want.
hope i helpeddd (:
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well my hands are REALLY clammy and wet and i hate it because when i hold hands with my boyfriend his hand get all sweaty!! what should i do!? please help!=) (link)
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Are you overweight? (not being disrespectful, but if your even a few lbs over what the doctor says you should be then it could be a reason) This could tend to contribute to the sweating problem. The hands, i'm not sure about unless you are a very nervious type. You might try going to a natural herb store and ask them if they have any herbs you can take for this. You could try using baby powder or corn starch on your hands. Take a pair of clean socks and put the powder inside of one and tie it off and then put it inside of the other one. Keep it handy and when you are going to meet people pat your hands on it and dust off the excess. or you can ury to eat curry muttons.. i heard that can help.
good luck my dear.. worst case when you go to the doctor ask the next time he might help you.. or go to the local drug store like a walgreens or rite aid.. ask a pharmacist their could be something over the counter that could help you.
hope i helped (: (:
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F/14
My boyfriends birthday is Friday. He is going to be 14. We are pretty serious.We've been dating about 8 1/2 monthz. (9 monthz on the 6/21.)
I will have 100-120$ on his birthday should i just give him that, a card, and write him something or what?
I need advice asap!PLEASE!!! He already thinks i have something planned but i have nothing!
Any advice right now is helpful. Thank you in advance.
And i thought you ppl should know what I've already given him: a movie,poems,pj pants. my virginity, made him dinner, a 120$ watch, and thats all i can think of right now.
Well thanx!
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dang i'd say its pretty serious.. your so young and having sex.. good lord..i thought i was young when it was my first time lol.
however DONT just give him money.. thats what his family does, your his woman.. have your parents take you to his house (with his parents permission) and bring him balloons and wake him up to take him to breakfast. then get dropped off at the mall and buy him some new stuff. ex..(get him cologne or a couple new t-shirts..) have funnn crazyyyy (:
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I have been accepted at a university and at a community college. I don't have much money, though. I was thinking about going to the community college and transfering. Would that be risky? What are the odds of the university accepting me again after I go to a 2-year school? (link)
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im pretty sure that after to years if your eligible they HAVE to accept you.. im almost positive. try talking to an administrative person, or your school counselor. that way you can go to your two year college and work and save money to help pay for your 4 year.. its much cheaper that way and you can get all of your general education out of the way so when you go to a 4 year you can focus on just your major which you'll get your moneys worth. also you could check and you might be eligible for a student loan!
congratulations! (:
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I have never been exposed to sexual fluids, and I have never been sexually active. I was wondering, could I have been born with an STD or AIDS?
I kind of want to get tested just in case. I don't want to have sex for the first time without knowing 100% that I am healthy. (link)
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only born if your parents have it. which im sure if they did you would know. other wise i really dont think its possible. however get tested, or ask a doctor. they will have the right answer of course! and if you just stay hush hush about it, and just get tested anyway you'll know for sure!
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ok theres this girl "cindy" who i've known for a few years. shes a little annoying, but now we're in a summer camp together so we've been hanging out more than usual. well now my boyfriend told me that shes been calling him and saying stuff about me... not really mean stuff, but like shes trying to get him to say something bad about me. and she keeps asking him if he thinks these other girls are hot, or who he would like if he wasnt going out with me. i think shes hoping he'll say something that would make me mad, so she can tell me what he said and get me mad at him. my boyfriend asked me not to tell her that he told me these things, cuz he doesnt want to get in the middle of any drama. he just told me so i'd know what shes been up to. and i dont want to start a fight with her either, cuz it is kind of stupid. but its REALLY bugging me!! is there anything i can do without causing any drama? (link)
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theres no way of avoiding it unless you just strait up confront it.. or you tell your boyfriend that if he doesnt want you to say anything then he needs to be a man and tell her straight up "look stop asking me if i think these girls are hott.. it seems like you want me to ruin my relationship with my girlfriend and im not gunna do that, so if you want to be my friend thats cool but otherwise if you keep being like this then dont talk to me" and thats it.. other wise girl you tell your man "sorry if your not willing to, then i will, but if i do then i know there will be drama, but if you just act like YOU mind then she might just stop all together"
good luckkk. (:
us girls man.. were such drama queens and loveee to ruin others relationships.. why why why!
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so basically, this sounds weird and all, but whats the order of sex? Like in most situations it starts by like making out on the bed. Do you have to go in order by the bases or what? i'm a little confused on what comes after the feeling up part.
haha ok thanks. (link)
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there isn't a certain order everyone goes by.. in movies it may seem like that but honestly it isn't.. everyone kind of does there own thing thats what makes it special.
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i'm 15/female/virginia
how can i move out of my house and into a house like the seton house? like i cannot stay in my house. i can't. dont try to tell me to stay because you dont know the circumstances, but how can i get out of my house? (link)
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i had a friend who felt this way.. and first off DONT RUN AWAY! they can call the cops and all it does is make it look like your crazy and all they can do really is send you back home if theres no type of abuse or if they dont provide food, shelter, education, and clothing, and i believe theres one more i can remember. buttt i recommend that you strait up tell your parents you CAN NOT live at home. tell them why, and be honest. tell them you are asking they help you and maybe you can move in with a relative.
worst case honey you might be stuck
try this site. its for children who are in a foster care it gives you an idea of what there about. worst case you can contact them and ask them what you can do in order to move out. dont be specific on what it exactly is, because they could get involved just speak of it as if things were bad.. DONT GIVE OUT ANY INFORMATION AND DONT CALL FROM YOUR HOUSE NUMBER..i swear those places like can track you down almost if its like 911.. so i've heard that is i could be wrong but to be on the safe side.. and if they try asking you what it is DONT jsut tell them. foster homes aren't as fun as it seems. now adays people take care of foster children just for money they'd recieve from the state thats required whenever you take a child into your home like that. and alot of the times they treat you just as bad as your real family if not even worse.
http://www.fcsvirginia.com/
if your too scared to contact them honestly tell me. i will call myself (:
i live in CA by the way, but i will do it. anything to help you out i can do. ill search for some other solutions and if i do ill re-edit my advice.
good luck and god bless.. just remember you can't ever pick your family. god gave you them and them you for a reason.. whether its good or bad, you just have to take it and make the best of it.
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try these.. i didnt really search the actual site just found it for you to read about
http://www.chsva.org/
http://www.dss.state.va.us/family/children.html
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im 14/f
well im goin on vacation in like 2 weeks and when i swim i always get darker
when its really hot i turn red but i don't burn i just turn red
and when i get nervouse i turn red and it makes me more nervous
-is there any sunscreen to prevent me from getting darker when i swim
-is there a sunscreen that will prevent me from turning red in the sun
-is there anthing for when i get nervous my face won't turn red but stay the same color and nobody will notice
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im not sure about the redness but i do know that you wont get too dark if the SPF of your sunscreen is a high number.. they have like SPF 30 SPF 45
good luckkk and have funn (:
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how do you say yes ?
and like
how does someone ask will you go out with me ?
wanna be my gf?
or what !?
helpppp (link)
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when someone asks you out you say "yes!" and be excited.. or you can say "yes i'd love to!"
and when they ask you to go out they say it simply "will you go out with me?" theres no special way really unless your older.. then they might do it over dinner or something.
how cute (:
relationships are fun!
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Ok so i'm going out with this amazing boy, but there's something missing we just don't talk alot or sometimes we can't hold a conversation. Then I have this bestfriend who also happens to be one of his bestfriends, but with me and him we just click. Everything seems to be right, we can talk on the phone for hours and there's never silence. I just don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend but my bestfriend is also the person who hooked us up, but I can tell he likes me too. Ughh. I know this is confusing, but it there anyone who can help? (link)
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girl go with your gut feeling.. i know a few people who were truly in love with their best friend all along just took them awhile to realize it.. the problem is if things for some reason dont work out your friendship might go down the drain as well.
for me though, my best friend is a guy and it just so happens when we talk we can talk for 8 hours straight its nuts.. my boyfriend and i ehh not so much. but hes my one and only that i always turn to. hes there for me too and he listens.. just well doesnt say much back.. and its just because he doesnt know what to say.. but when it comes to love its there. just because you guys dont talk as much as you and your best friend doesnt mean your not meant to be okay (:
good luck my dear hopefully this helped!
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In about a month, I'm moving half way across the country away from all of my friends. I'm going into highschool so I'm sure it's going to be tough. ANyways, I'm having a birthday/graduation party next week and I want to do something that will make my friends really remember me. any ideas? (link)
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have lots of music... if you have a pool then blow up enough balloons to cover the whole pool.. so they can swim through them (just went to a party like that it was so funnn) have food.. have a dance contest..do a volleyball game etc.. i dunno.. thats tough. i mean if there your friends hunny they will remember you regardless your party.. make sure its funn though (:
hope it goes good and good luck at your new highschool! im sure you'll be fine (:
takee careee-
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