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So I have a boyfriend whom I have been with for a lil over 2 months.We've been talking for months before we actually started going out.Or made it official.In between all that.I was talking to my ex.Really my ex was trying to get back with me.And I have feelings for him still and always will be.Not necessarily strong ones or whatever,But you get my drift.He always seem to come in mind.I try not to let it effect my relationship with my boyfriend,But I mean he sometimes ends up in the conversation.Not necessarily with my boyfriend, But with like friends and family.I feel guilty though.For even having any thoughts about him because my ex was a jerk,But I mean I can't help but think about him.I don't know how to get him out of my head.I'm running out of things to do.I don't want to think I'm dating my boyfriend because of my ex because i'd honestly feel ashamed.I just need some help with this.Usually I'm the one giving the advice.I just don't want to lose my boyfriend.He is just so amazing and sweet and what I want.He makes me happy.Soo... question is..what do I do?
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girl ive been in this exact position recently. i had a boyfriend whom i was truely in LOVE with, and we had problems and i broke it off when i KNEW with all my heart i shouldnt. it wasn't easy cuz i would wait around for him to call and take me back and after a while i just got sick of it and i started dating this other guy that i had been talking to. when he finally asked me to be his girlfriend (not my ex) i said yes, but for weeks i was in such a bad posistion because i knew i was still in love with my ex. i looked at it as, if he loved me as much as he said, he wouldntve waited so long to take me back. my new boyfriend is everything ive wanted just as you, so if you cant say that about your ex now, then it doesn't matter. just lay low when it comes to talking to him bc thats what will get you the worst. aviod him if you have to, delete his screen name, take his number out of your phone, anything you have to. itll hurt but at least youll have more thoughts on your current boyfriend. and hey, maybe if he doesn't work in the near future you can go back.
dont stress it hun.
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you cannot go out with two guys. So you must make a choice. What are the pro's and con's of each boy? If your ex. has more pro's, then you might want to get back with him. Just because the other guy is sweet and amazing doesn't necessarily mean he's right for YOU. Sorry it's cliche, but go with your heart. If your current boyfriend has more pro's, then spend lots of time with him, and spend much less time with your ex., so that you might be able to forget about him easier. If you are still unsure on who you like, let your current boyfriend go so that he can meet someone who truely does like like him, because it's not fair to mislead such a sweet guy. Who knows? they could BOTH be the wrong guys for you. Your ex. was a "jerk" and this guy is
"sweet". That's a big jump, hun. Try finding someone in the middle! it seems more YOU. Good luck.
-SlushPuppy
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There will be a lot of guys that are your "dream guy" out there. That doesn't mean he realy is "the one". If your having feelings for someone else, and really want your relationship with your boyfriend to work, the best thing to do is be honest with him. Maybe he'll try to fix the fact that you still have feelings for your ex by doing something special for you to get your mind completely off your ex. After all, that's what keeps a good relationship going. Communication, honesty, and trust. :]
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stay with your current man.. you know how the ex's can be.. girl they come back like there all into you but seriously if it was meant to be it would've happend.. just re-assure yourself for WHY you left him.. and tell the man your with currently about whats been going on.. talking about it might help you realize it even more about how you dont need him. sounds like you have the perfect guy right in front of you, your just alittle distracted.
hopefully things work out for you in the best way possible. and dont feel ashamed, its hard letting go sometimes. personally any guy who affects you in any way i honestly think can never be forgotten.. us girls really can have a hard time just completely letting go..
good luck my dear (:
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