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Friends w/ Benefits + a bf??
I met my friend Melissa's brother Chris back in January and we became friends and I was attracted to him and he liked me too cuz he asked me out on Valentine's Day. But meanwhile I was getting to be really close friends with a boy named Thomas. So after two weeks I ended things with Chris, partly because of my crush on Thomas but mostly because he picked on me too much and treated me more like a sister than a girlfriend. And eventually Thomas and I got together on March 30. But I still have a physical attraction to Chris and I'm bummed because even after about 2 1/2 months together, Thomas has never kissed me. I never kissed Chris either but that was only two weeks sooo it would have been too soon.
Now I'm wondering what would happen if I had a friends with benefits relationship with Chris? I like that Thomas is taking thingsslow, I guess, but I really really need to feel physically touched and loved. And if I do it with Chris and we both agree it's nothing more, I won't really have to worry about rushing a relationship. But then again, that relationship will still be in danger cuz I don't think Thomas will like me making out with Chris when he's not around, like if I go home with Melissa. And if I do decide to go for it, how do I tell Chris what I want and do you think he would be ok with the idea?
Please avoid name calling in your replies. I know some of the stuff I wanna do isn't exactly morally right, but it's still how I feel and I want advice, not a lecture. Thanks! And sorry this is so long.
P.S. Chris is almost 18, I'm 15, Thomas is also 15
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okay heres the deal.. if you do persue this "friends with benifts" deal then technically that would be cheating.. and if you need some sort of physical touching-ness stuff then tell your current boyfriend that its been awhile and you feel that way.. and he will either do it or wont.
he could just be nervous and not know what to do or something so talk to him. and Chris is a little bit older and i know for sure here in CA.. its illegal to be sexual with someone who's 18 unless you have parental consent and even then it can be an issue.. anyway.. i don't encourage being with BOTH of them it should be one of the other..
if your man doesn't want to kiss you break up with him if its something you think you need to have in a relationship.. and lets say you do break up with your man and Chris doesn't want friends with benefits then just completely drop them both and find someone who has it all.
good luck my dear hope i helped alittle (:
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