Hey!!
I'm Lollipop. I'm 15, but I know more than you would think. I've had my share of crap, and now I'm here to answer questions. I orginally joined this site to GET advice, but I've found that I answer more questions than I ask. I have also found that I relate to almost every love life question. Let's just say I had a tough year... So, that's my area of expertise. The one thing that bugs me the most on this site are when people say you're too young to feel what you feel. Screw that. I don't think it matters if you're 15 or 51, you know what you feel. I don't know much about sex because I believe in waiting until marriage, but I know what it's like to be pressured. Ask me something, and I will give you an answer.
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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so the other day,
well actually now a couple of days ago,
me, my girlfriend, my guy friend, and one of my closest (girl) friends, went out.
all the while i couldnt help but notice that my (girl) friend, kept flirting with my girlfriend.
she called her cute, and when my dude friend squished a bug that my girlfriend was looking at my (girl) friend sort of pretended to beat my dude friend up. in the car back home, my (girl) friend kept trying to talk to my girlfriend, and i was just livid that whole ride.
i didnt know if i was just being rediculous and over pretective or not, so i chose not to say anything.
im not worried about my girlfriend liking my (girl) friend, i just think that it was so rude to, (through my observation) flirt with MY girlfriend.
i dont know what kind of attitude i should display to my (girl) friend, or if i should confront her about the whole situation or not.
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Dear flirting?,
Okay dear, well one of two things could be happening here based on what you've told me.
Number 1: Your (girl) friend might be a lesbian/bisexual. In this case, things would be quite tricky, and you might have to confront her about it. But not to talk about her "flirting". If she is bi then you should be concerned in helping her because she is probably very confused and lost. So until that gets sorted out, don't even bring your girlfriend into the subject. Just be there as a friend.
Number 2: This one is probably the more likely of the two. What I think is going on is that your (girl) friend is, as you said, very close to you, and she probably just wants your girlfriend to like her. So what you may see as flirting is probably just her trying to establish a friendship with your gilrfriend so that there is no awkwardness betweeen them. Does that make sense? Maybe its just a girl thing.
But either way, you need to talk to your (girl) friend and see whats going on.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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ijust have a quick question: why are(some) guys sweet and nice to you when you're alone and then when they're with their friends and they see you they turn into loudmouthed pigs and then all of a sudden you don't exist but the popular girls do?
also.. why do they think that after they ignore you one day they can go back to being sweeties the next and THEN they wonder why your mad.
please shed some light on the situation for me.
thanks
16/f
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Dear guys are pigs. why?,
Okay well first of all, admit it, you love boys. Even though they're smelly sometimes, and they annoy the crap out of you, you love em anyway. And most of them really aren't that bad. But trust me, I know that some of them are. Every girl has their run with jerks. In fact I just went through one. I started hanging out with a guy who was only interested in me physically if you know what I mean, and then started hitting on my best friend. Yeah. It sucks.
That being said, girls kind of suck too. I mean look at some of us. We string guys along like they have a chance when we really aren't interested, we just have low self esteem and like to have them around to make us feel better. Well, maybe you don't do that, but SOME girls do, just like you said SOME guys are sweet and nice to you only when you're alone and then when they're with their friends they turn into loudmouthed pigs. Its just boys trying to fit in with society, and when girls act like brats, we are only tyring to do the same thing. We are all just jerks and brats, but if it really bothered us so much, why do we put up with eachother?
So yeah, some guys just go through phases, maybe their having a rough time, and some guys are just mean. But girls are too. Trust me, there are decent boys out there honey. If someone could tell us where they are, it would be pretty nice but, hey, where's the fun in that?
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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Ok, so I like this guy right?
I didn’t tell anybody that I liked him, so one of my best friends, decides to go out with him
I’m really confused, because now, she’s not talking to me anymore, so I’m thinking that she knew that I liked him and she asked him out during the Mission Trip, that I didn’t go on, to make me jealous. I don’t know why she would want to make me jealous, but I think that what she’s trying to do. I had to find out from 2 girls that questioned him and I overheard, and I think that the fact that she didn’t tell me herself, that she didn’t want me to know about her secret relationship. According to some of my other friends, they’ve been together for a while now. What should I do?
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Dear "My friend stole my guy!"
Well that stinks. But, sorry babe, the only way you are going to know what REALLY happened is if you and your friend have a talk. In person. alone. No more of this getting information from other people, he said-she said garbage. You two need to get together and straighten this out because you shouldn't let one boy ruin your friendship. Oh those silly boys...
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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I have liked this one boy for almost 9 months and i'm almost over him. The problem is that my heart doesnt want to let go but my head does. What should I do? (link)
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Dear " "
Well thats a tricky situation. Why do you need to get over him? Is he bad for you? Did he hurt you? Is he your ex? I honestly don't know, but if you're head is telling you to (and may I assume that you have a good reason for wanting to get over him?) but you're heart is saying something else, well then that's pretty tough... Because lets be honest okay? Everyone knows that you can't control who you like. And let's also be honest. It's not really your heart and your mind conflicting. Your heart isn't the actual body part that makes you love someone. No. It's not. It' a plain old organ that pumps out blood and may beat a little faster and hurt a little bit when your mind is feeling a certain emotion. This is your mind, and only your mind, struggling with internal conflict. So, to put it straight, you like him, but you don't want to like him. Well that sucks. Believe me I, and prolly the rest of the population, knows what that feels like. And you can't just tell yourself or force yourself to get over someone. It doesn't work that way. The only thing you can do is wait. Go out with friends, meet new boys, find diferent hobbies... etc. You know the deal. But you just gotta give it time. Don't rush yourself.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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So here goes...
I asked a guy out and he said no because he had a girlfriend, and he said he would hit me up when he was single, so he did thatt and we hung outt....long story short...we hung outt for a lil bit and he suggested sex, and I said no for an hour and a half, and then we had sexx. now I don't know what to doo...should I leave it alone until he talkes to me...and do guys lose respect for a girl after he sleeps with him....or whatt? Whats your take on itttt!?!? (link)
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Dear "Guys and respecttt"
Well, I honestly agree with Christina?. I mean I'm so sorry that happened but you have to look at it this way. If you weren't respecting yourself when you gave into him, how could you except him to? I mean you can't respect someone who doesn't respect themselves. It just doesn't work that way. That being said, I think you should just forget about him. He obviously doesn't bring out the best in you, and it kind of looks to me that he was using you just for sex, and also as a rebound. Soooo... He's not exactly what I would call a classy dude. Sorry babe.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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what if you want to prove someone that you love them by writing a cute poem or a song for them but you dont have any kind of those skills @ all, what should we do then, and is there something else we could do to prove them that you love that person. (link)
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Dear 'proving that you love someone'
Take their hand, look them in the eyes and say "I love you." You shouldn't have to PROVE anything. But if you really want to do something involving like a poem or a song you could always look one up, and give it to that person in a creative way. Maybe just quote a line or two. It could be as simple as leaving a note, or as extreme as writing it on their driveway in chalk.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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ok so me and a guy friend have an interesting relationship we are totally comfortable with eachother. we sometimes play truth or dare, but without rules... no matter what it is we have to do it. and him being a guy always ends up getting me good by of course suggesting sexual dares such as stripping, etc you know. i dont mind, however, i want to get him good too. so does anyone have any suggestions of dares i can make him do that will get him really good. doesnt matter how crazy they are... ive done stuff such as dressing him up in my clothes, making him sing mushy love songs...but i want stuff thats even better! any suggestons??? (link)
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Dear 'truth or dare gone wild'
Oooh sounds like fun! Well there are a few things I would try. One I had to do a few years back was lick chocolate syrup off of someone's finger. But there are other funny ones like cracking in egg in his underwear and giving him a wedgie. Or dare him to be your personal slave for a day. But if you are going in the truth direction I would suggest asking him embarassing stuff like "his secret pleasure movie". Ha, well, have fun babe. ;].
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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How do you tell a friend she is involved in an emotional affair? She is involved emotionally with the husband of my good friend and used to be her good friend. She's confused as to why the wife has put so much distance between her. She doesn't get it. There's so much denial as to the depth of her involvement with the husband. Everytime I go there with her, she gets angry at me and I don't know if a friendship can be salvaged between her and I. Help!! any advice is appreciated (link)
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Dear 'Emotional Affair'
I agree with the other poster. You can't do anything else. You have chosen to tell her and she has chosen not to listen to you. You can't force her out of denial. All you can do is wait until she comes to terms and be there for her to support her and not say "I told you so". Past that, you really just have to drop it babe. It is apparently hurting your relationship and it is really isn't any of your business, it's between your friend and the wife and husband. So really hun, you just got to stay out of it.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPoP
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i just bought some purple and gold heels on impulse as they were on sale at office.
i've come home now and realised i have no idea what to wear them with. Help!
heres a link for the picture so you get a better idea
http://www.office.co.uk/womens/office/'lightning_bolt/37/6330/17203/1/
thank you veryy much!!! (link)
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Dear 'what to wear with purple and gold heels'
Oh my, those are super cute! Well if I were you, I'd pair them with some dark skinny jeans and a siver/gray top. Can you say party outfit? Tehehe, well stay classy girl.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLLiPOP
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Ive been wit my bf for 7 months n i need ideas for romantic things we can do we live in nor cal n i wann find some natural hot springs or places we can stay that are romantic i always make him dinner so ideas other than that would be great plz help thanx (link)
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Dear 'need romantice ideas'
Well here's something I have always wanted to try.
Sneak to his house in the middle of the night with some chalk and write him a HUGE message on his driveway, or in the street in front of his house. Cute huh?
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLL-i-PoP
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15/f iv been with my guy for almost a year and we cant wait till we get married were going to at the end of high school, he gave me a promise ring that means the world to me, we are really in love and he knows me better than i know myself. All my friends love it that were together n say were the cutest couple ever, everything is perfect when I am with him. We do up to oral and sometimes r not to careful..
Things started falling apart about 7 months ago when I escaped rape. I now have severe post traumatic stress disorder, psychosis, mania and depression, chronic pain from my insides being ripped up and I get hospitalized a lot. It is very stressful on him because he cares the world for me and tortures himself when I am hospitalized or hallucinate. And he formed shared psychosis disorder from me.
i say life is great though ..But my questions are .1. I look pregnant, I’m skinny everywhere but the baby area on my stomach its like bam lol but I am a virgin and missed every period for the last 4 months but started today.. Even though iv jacked him he touched it then he fingered me.. My friends getting me a pregnancy test tonight. Could I be pregnant? Or maybe it could be my intestines? Since they are messed up big time.
.2. How else can I help him I feel so bad that he is like this since its my fault? And it seems like he is hurt even more since I almost got raped he wont forget the past. How do I help?
.3. I love him so much and I say only sex after marriage, but it seems like the time is so right, we have talked about it a lot and we might around our two year anniversary, should we? I feel like it’s the biggest decision ever and I want to but then I don’t since I am young.. He and my two best friends stayed the night Friday and I slept with him it was nearly impossible to resist.
If you could please answer any or all that would be great :D
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Dear 'love and abstinence and hardships'
1. Uhm, Listen hun, there is a very large change that you could be pregnant right now. You should DEFINITELY get that checked out. If he had semen on his hand when he fingered you... well, you might be in some trouble...
Okay, well, if you AREN'T pregnant, here is my other advice.
2. You and your boyfriend should take therapy TOGEHTER. Aw, too cute huh? I think it would totally help you relationship and help him to feel better. It would be good for him to watch you progress, and vice versa.
3. I think you should wait for sex. If you two do end up getting married, it will make your wedding night so spectacular. I am a firm believer in the "no sex before marriage" rule. Not only is it my religion but I just think waiting is the most romantic thing in the world. It means that you saved a part of yourself for your husband your entire life, before you even knew him. I just think its beautiful.
Well babe, I really hope you're not pregnant, but to be honest, I am a little worried at the moment. And I hope you and your lover make the right decision, whatever you may deem that to be.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLL-i-PoP
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I have never had a boyfriend, nor have I felt the desire. I wanted to wait , until I was mature, ready. Last week, at a party, I met a guy. I just loved him, maybe not loved him, but wow.
I never like guys, but this was different. He had all the qualities, I really liked him.
My best friend, HAD a boyfriend at the time. They were going though a rocky patch.
A couple of days after , my best friend's relationship ended. She was PRETTY gutted. She said to me, I still love him. The guy I met invited her round (cos he did get to know her, as well) and he turned round and kissed her. She didnt stop it - obviously I know she was on the rebound - BUT she didn't even like him - I mean she was making little remarks about him during the party.
He said to her, that he really liked her. And now they are going out. WTF.
I am so hurt, I can't even breath. My friend doesnt know I've fallen for him, and now, they're happy together. I am so gutted, it hurts so bad, the first guy i like and I'm already been knocked down. I spoke to him and he was saying all this stuff about how happy they are and I had to sit there and smile.
& I have to be a best friend to her. I am not going to say I've fallen for him, when she's going out with him and she's on the rebound. But it hurts so bad because, well this is no jealousy issue she gets what she wants. I am second best against her(not as intelligent,pretty etc) that DOESNT bother me, because I know I am still a good person :) I am totally secure.
But she gets everything, and it's just lie YOU HAD A BOYFRIEND, why for once? Couldnt I get the guy? I've never felt this attraction, and now. It's over.
The whole gang go out together all the time, I have to sit there and be happy for them.
God, I''ve been crying. I never cry.
How do I get over this? I mean, what advice do you give me?
I Still wanna hang out with the gang - just because my best mate and him are there doesnt mean I should stop hanging out and dodging them. I should be happy for them, I should support her right no matter how much it hurts me, right? (link)
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Dear 'She got there first'
OMJ, that totally just stinks! I am so sorry that happened to you. Like, really? Yikes.
Anyway, let's be straight, you've got to tell your friend how you feel. Just be like "(enter her name here), I don't want to upset you or make you angry but I need to talk to you about something. You know (enter his name here)? Well, before you two started going out, I had a golly big crush on him, I just thought I should let you know. But I swear to you, I will completely back off and support your relationship 100 percent." This way when they break up, give her time, but you can ask her about the possibility of you going after him and it won't take her totally off guard.
Because you see, I honestly don't think their relationship is going to last long. It sounds like they really rushed into the whole boyfriend girlfriend thing and didn't get to know eachother at all. But that's just my opinion.
For now though, you really do have to back off. You can't try to pursue him and you have to bury your feelings (sucky isn't it?) so that your friend gets her chance. She DID get there first. But that doesn't mean you and this boy can't be friends. Get to know him on a real level so if you ever do want to hook up with him in the future, you have a basis to build from. And maybe try to meet some more guys. You sound totally boy-deprived.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLL-i-PoP
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Hi guys.
I know this boy who I really like. I have told him that I like him before and he has told me he likes me. Recently he hasn't said it, but his friends have told me he likes me.
Anyway, he went into a mood with me when we were out one night with mine and his friends, and since then, when I have text him, he has ignored me. His friends says he does this a lot, but I still can't help feeling hurt.
He text me a couple days later and asked me if I wanted to go for a drink, but I couldn't as I was working, so I told him that. The next day I text him and asked how he was, and he hasn't replied.
Why is he doing this?! Should I just move on? (link)
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Ugh, sorry dear, but texting is so lame. There are all kinds of glitches that mess it up. It doesn't send, your phone doesn't get the reply, you can forget about it if your busy and think to yourself 'oh I'll text her back later.' Its just so posh. Call your boo and schedule a hang out. If he rejects, uhm, screw him, so not worth it babe.
Goodluck!
xoxo
LoLL-i-PoP
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okay so,
i go to a really cool place laureta and there is beaches and parties and everything, it's amazing. so this guy tye and me went to the beach around 10:30 and madeout it was amazzing we had been kissing and flirting all night. Then, the next day he was being all rude and shit and wouldn't talk to me or hug me.. and his friend said that it was cause he wanted to get rid of me because i go wherever he wants to go.. i know its gay. how do i win him back? were really good friends.. thanks for the advice , much appreciated (link)
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Sorry babe, he played you good. Here's what I suggest. Completely ignore him. Don't be mean, or snotty or rude, just pretend he doesn't exist. Trust me, it'll drive him BONKERS.
Goodluck hun!
xoxo
LoLL-i-PoP
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