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Q: Dizty Girls?
Pretty Girls?

Do they like smart girls? cause like today, he pulled out my math test which was a 98 and he was like "ha ur a f*cking smartass" But i dont like brag or anything, cause i hate bragging.

They like girls who make them laugh right?

Do they also look at smile, cause okay, i can smile and my teeth at pretty white except for one teeth which is yellowish, cause its a filling. and i hate it, so i like hate smiling in front of him...

Do they like girls with big eyes?

And lastly, do they liek girls who flirt. Cause im not the "extreme flirting type." cause i get nervous.

Thanks!!!!!

Yes most guys like girls that can make them laugh cause it means they feel comfterble around you and that you guys get along. Dont worry about one stinkin tooth my teeth arent perfect but guys say they love my smile anyways, it means yur a happy person. yur eyes dont have to be big but its just sorta the look yu have in them you know what i mean? guys also like girls that flirt but being subtle about it sometimes works.

I hope i helped!
goodluck

Q: I'm going for the first time to get a hair cut by myself soon. Yay no parents and just friends ! What shape head looks good with side bangs ? Might get side bangs OMG so excited !

well side bangs look good on almost everyone! But it might be easyer if we had a picture so we could tell you.. Email meh if yu have one i could probably help yu out better.

maddie_4ever_4lyfe@hotmail.com

good luck =]

Q: me and my BF got 2gether 2mo.ago on his b-day on thanksgiving day anyways before we always flirted everytime we saw eachother i knew he was a flirt but loved him so much then i found out he had a gf but he didnt like her i was still sad he would still flirt w/ me even in front me her then they broke he told me he loved that he's always loved me we got2gether but the ex still goes2 his house2see his sister since she's her bst fri. But i feel jealous cause i know she still loves him she goes evry.wknd&spends the night he tells me2 dont worry that he only lvs me and he hates her should i worry what can i do

Trust is the most important thing in a relationship and also talking. Just tell him that yu really love him and trust that he isnt doing stuff or flirting with her when she comes over and maybe try going over his house more often so that when shes there you are there so he knows yur something good and yur going to be sticking around..

hope i helped

Q: 16 five foot seven female.. people always tell me im skinny and like im slender built i guess but im really lazy like i dont do anything so id like to start working out some to tone up especially my stomach so itll look better by summer and my legs because i hate them! but im only a 32A and i dont want working out to affect my boob size or lack thereof lol and make them shrink from losing fat. any ideas?

I have the same problem so i drink ensure It taists like chocolate milk And it helps yu maintain or gain weight but not massivly I also Do crunches to help it stay off my stomach and make me go straight to be boobs and my butt lol. It works for me? Also some butt work outs would help tone it And make yur legs look less skinny and more toned

good luck

Q: hi! im 16 turnin 17 soon and im going to be the maid of honor in my sisters wedding and she asked if i was going to write a speech and im not sure...i mean i really want to because then it would be special. her best friend is also in the wedding and she is going to be the matron of honor and its either one of us will write the speech or the both of us could write a speech. i thought she might want to write it more than me because she is more creative in writing then i would be. what kinds of things could i write? if anyone has written a speech for their friend or family member in the wedding then please help out! please and thanx

oh yeah im very shy and i have a hard time talkin in front of people.

I think you and yur sisters best friend should write it together that way she can start off the writing and you can pop in at any moment with something sweet and nice to say and act all briliant =]! hehe

goodluck!

Q: okay recently my best freinds boyufriend broke up with her and she was like really upset.....welll she said that she thought that he really like me and was just using her to get to me..and i think that is true becasuie of how he is acting round me and nmber one i DON"T want him an de ven if i did i woud never go out with him but what do i do i don't want to get mad at me isf she catches hiimflirtin with me but he won't tkae the hint and go away? I DON"T flirt with him back just to let you know.

I have been in the same situation and really all yu can do is be like " I wont go out with you you went out with my bestfriend" and tell her that too. Thats really all you can do

good luck

Q: 13/F
me and my bf are breaking up 2morow. i can tell from how he acts, hints hes giving me, and from mine and his friends. its mutual. we've both had a change in feelings (me mostly) but i still care about him enough not to want to hurt him, i just dont want to be together. how can i react so he understands im not hurt and im okay with the situation but not happy about it, like i cant wait to get rid of him?
thanx!

just say yu feel the same but that yu still care about him and want to be good friends and still hang out on a regular bases. Breaking up is never easy for anyone but i hope it goes good for you. And if he doesnt end up breaking up with you and you want to break up with him just write to my inbox and i`ll try to help

good luck

Q: I really need help! I am 13 and next monday me and my boyfriend will be going out for one month. which is a big deal for me. But I have no idea what to get him for valentines day I want to get him something sweet but I have no idea what! Please help me. Also I want to kiss him on valentines day. But I am nervous. We haven't kissed yet! What do I do? what do I get him?

You know buying stuff isnt always the thing maybe go out for dinner && a movie Or something Just spend time together. And when yu guys go to say goodbye for the night give him a hug and just kiss him. Everyones always nervous for there first kiss with any guy and most guys are nervous to. I`m pretty sure he wants to kiss you to. so just go for it and yur relationship will probably get alot better..

good luck and happy valentines day =]

Q: Im 15 and a female..a freshman in highschool of that helpss anywayss
so theres this guy that i have liked since the beggining of the year. He is my best friend ( who is a guy) best friends. So we tend to be at the same place at the same time. I really like him but the one time i tried to tell him everything got out of hand...i want to tell him and it seems like he is somewhat into me but hes really bad at showing his feelings. What should i do? keep it a secret? forget about him and move on? or what? PLEASE HELP ME!

I say yu invite him to hang out at your house or something just you two.. Maybe watch a movie lights out And stuff. Either tell him right there "I know we are good friends but i sort of like you as more" and see what he says or when he goes to leave give him a hug goodbye and wisper in his ear "i like you" Or if that seems to much just start hanging out more just you to and maybe goof around and gut cuddly feely that sort of thing.

You should never hide yur feelings atleast not for ever and if things dont work out i`m sure yu guys can keep being friends and just move on and find a different guy. Life goes on remember that. yu sound like a sweet girl i think you can get a good guy ;)

Q: I've had my cat for 10 years and I love him, but he suddenly started growing this tumor. And the poor thing probably won't live more than a few weeks but we don't want him to be in pain so we're putting him to sleep when he starts showing pain. I don't know if I want to be there when he is. My mom said I could go, but I don't know if I would want to see him then, but I don't know if I'll regret not going? Help?

Well it is honestly up to you if you feel Like yu will be alright then go if not i suggest yu take a last picture with it or something. I went to put my dog to sleep when i was 5 years old i was young but i got threw it. good luck!

Q: when you are griding with a guy, can you like hold hands with him like intertwine your fingers? is that ok?

Ofcoarse it is i do it all the time! and sortof move his hands whereever yu want them to go..

Q: I have straight, long, and layered hair. I have no bangs. Can someone give me ideas on what to do with my hair, like a different style for each day of the week. Thanks! But don't suggest scrunching unless you have good tips because my hair is too straight to be scrunched, it would only stay scrunched for like an hour.

Well first i`ll tell yu how i scrunch my hair
I shower in the morning before i`m going to do whatever. I put my hair up in a towel dont brush it or anything and do my makeup while i wait for it to dry. Then i take the towel off and flip my hair upside down and scrunch it with jell. Then I just blow it with a hair dryer for about 50 seconds not to dry it just to dry the jell a little && then i put my hair in a messy bun for about 30 minutes to an hour.

Other hair styles --

Half poney tail with the rest of the hair straight down

almost like a half poney tell but instead of a half poney tail a messy bun with the rest of the hair straight down

maybe clipping some of yur hair back in a cute style

hope i helped

Q: well her is wats happening this i am a freshmen and i am going out wit a guy in a lower grade level than me....i kno it seems kinda stupid but o well.....anyways some guy that is in a upperclass asked me out today n i think that im kinda starting to get a lil bit of feelings for him and loose feelings for my boyfriend wat should i do?

iif yu think yu have feelings for another guy i sugest yu break up with yur boyfriend now cause its not fair for him and i say yu give this other guy a chance. fallow yur heart

hope i helped =]

Q: i need help. ok so i have had this boyfriend for a while now. so i am a really jelous person and he knows that. he goes to school with my best friend. she keeps an eye on him for me. haha.so recently he called me and told me to forgive him becasue he had done something stupid. i asked him what was wrong and he made me promise i wouldnt be mad. he told me that he loves me and he regrets doing this.he kissed a girl. he said that she kissed him and that he was so surprised that he didnt say anything. he told me that my bestfridn was there and that she saw thw whole thing. so i asked her and she told me that it was just in the cheeck almost in the mouth but not really. so whats going on? why did he lie to me and tell me it was in the mouth when it really wasn't? i am so confused?. he said sorry and that he loves me for something he never did. do u think he even loves me at all? please help thanks in advance

If she said it was almost on the lips he must of just been so shocked he didnt really notice so i say sense he didnt have sex with another girl or anything yu should forgive him and just let him no it cant happen again and that yu love him to and yu dont want to be hurt..

hope i helped =]

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 weeks and we had sex for the first time last night. I was really iffy about it for a really long time and he kept comforting me, telling me it was okay and that we didn't have to do it. He ended up comfortimg me so much that it actually happened. It was my first time, but it wasn't his. It didn't hurt and there was no blood last night, but when I woke up this morning, I was bleeding alot. I ended my period two days before, so I don't think it would be because I hadn't finished. What could this mean?

First off yu could be one of those big bleaders like me

but also sometimes when yu have sex right before or right after yur period it can tend to make yu bleed for an extra couple days or make yu start yur period sooner.. so dont be worried about it but if this continues happening everytime yu have sex I suggest maybe going to planned parenthood or a private clinic so yur parents dont have to know about it.

Q: hey im supposed to write an essay on peoples fears, and i was thinking of doing it a bit differently.. like telling about their fears, and then telling how you got them (which should be a funny story) so do any of you have any?
thanks..

well i will give yu a fiew of my fears && if yu would like to hear more details be free to IM me x3 im like woah

or to post in my inbox

well i have a fear of guns (my dad and cousin where both shot)

I have a fear of elivators from when i got stuck in one

I have a fear of closets && under my bed from watching to many scary movies when i was little

I have a fear of big dogs from when I got attacked by a dog when i was little

I have more fears but i wont name them all!

good luck

Q: hey my crush an i e-mail a lot, and he never sent me an email on my birthday yesterday..
so i dont wanna seem like a dominant chick, but i still wanna remind him that he forgot it!
so is there a kinda funny way to let him know..that will make it less like im yelling at him or what not.. like anyway of saying in a humorous way that "duude you forgot my birthday!!"

thank you for your replies.

just sort of be like cool && relaxed && cute and funny about it.. something like

"hehe Do yu know what yesterday was?"

&& if he says no say somethign like

"It was my birthday silly!"

well good luck and happy birthday!!!

xoxo maddie

Q: Does anyone know if theres a way I can have voicemails from my cell phone traced to find out who left them? I want to ask the police but im not sure if they can do that. Also, is there any way I can have IMs traced back? Or to get the people who own the screen names in trouble? The harrassment is out of control. Thank you :)

Ofcoarse You can go to the police about this and they would be most happy to help you. herassment is not ok anywhere in the world. If you dont want to go alone i suggest yu bring a friend or parent. xoxo maddie

Q: i'm getting braces tommarow and I was wondering what i should know about them. how much is it going to hurt and when does it start hurting and when does the pain stop? what helps make the pain stop hurting? and what are good color combinations for braces and what colors look bad? if you've had or have braces i need all the tips you know about the pain and what color to get and stuff! i heard you can get things like soccer balls on them, is that true? (sorry i couldn't use capitals i had to rush so this is the best i can do.)

Hey there. I have braces to and let me tell you it was the most painful thing in the world! make sure you have really soft foods nothing you need to chew. things like apple sauce pudding icecream or yogurt etc. Also make sure yu are tired so you can sleep the pain away thats what i did! The day after yu get the braces just take the day inside and relax maybe pamper yurself. also makesure yu have tylonal.

For colors i go with white or grey.
that way its not to much and not as noticibal

Q: ok this is very embarrasing but I am and girl but when i was born i was born with a penis..he doctor says im a girl cause i have boobs and i have periods...dont ask me how cause i really dont know how. When i have sex with boys do u think this will creep them out? and should i get my penis removed?

ANSWER BACK SOON!

Im not saying this to be rude just being completely honest. If you feel like a girl and you like guys yes you should get it removed people are rude and conceited now a days and guys would most likely get freaked out when they saw it. Theres nothing wrong with it thats just how it is now a days. good luck sweetie

bio

I'm 17 years old and in the few years i've lived upon this earth I have been throug many and most things that are possible to happen. I wish to ilve my life helping others, this truly brings me happiness. Feel free to ask whatever you wish and ill do my best to satisfy yu with a decent answer.