Hmm.. I decided to give a bit more detail. I live in the usa, and enjoy having fun. Swimming, dancing, shopping, working.. It's all good fun.. My mother says I have probablems, because I want to save the world.. Now I know, I can't.. But I do know us people who at least put some effort into help someone, makes some what a difference. It may not seem like it, but if you've seen Police Academy, with the apple that was thrown out the window, and started the riot!! Well then, no one knows how these things get started!
WE ARE ALL SUPER HEROS IN OUR OWN WAY.
Don't forget that! It's what we all are, and can be!
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well i met one of my ex-besties on my birthday we was thick as theives i even began to diss my best friend for her i mean i loaughn i cried and everything with girl so out hte blue she calls me and says i dnt think this friend ship is workn out i mean it hurted but al along i knew it was coming when she became back friends with her other friend so then she tried to say when i didint have nobody she was there 4 me but the thing was vice versa i mean she contradicts herself everything she says i do wrong she does the same thing im jus wondern if leavn her in the past is a good idea (link)
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Let her go. If she wants you as a friend she'll come back. You'll always find another friend, she may come back anyways... Especially considering she feels of wants to be there for you.. She might. I can't tell but this girl seems like she may just be lost, and needs to figure out which direction is best.
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there is this guy and me and him have been okay friends for about 2 years. him and my best friend have dated before and she still is so in love with him. but if she found out i liked him she wouldnt talk to me anymore but, she dated him when i liked him. so doesnt that it ok? i dont know if its ok to like him like that. **also my other best friend likes him too** i dont know what to do!!? (link)
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This guy has three girls, and who knows how many more crushing on him.. Do you really like him? I mean is he someone you'd want more then your friends? This is a discion you'll make on your own. I'd say keep this guy and these friends friends, if anything is suppose to come of this guy and you.. It'll come in good sweet time. :)
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see my bestfriend meet a guy and she has falln in love with this guy and i mean in the begining things were goin great but then out the bkue one day we found out he has been texting our other best friend (at the time the other best friend didint knw about her) so we set him up and when we al pop up together he looks really stupid but anyways he ends up act n funny after the whole thing goes dwon so im jus sayn should she stay or should she go but keep in mind that she is so in love with him (link)
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I understand that love keeps a tight ring around us, like a magnet that is just automatically attached to clinging to this particuler other. But if it were me, I'd deffently leave him, he sounds like a player. It's not what any woman will ever want, a player that is. But considering she's got that tight love magnet on her, she will most likely stay, and hope for the best, but in the end she'll probable be hurt. This is fully my own opinion, so you can help her decide.
Good Luck.
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I started talking to this guy (jake) that I go to school with a few weeks ago. We really hit it off and now we've been going out for a week. I really like him a lot and I can tell he really likes me too. My friends and people that know him at school tell me to be careful around him and telling me that he's a pervert and he wants sex and stuff like that. He does not seem like the kind f guy that these people are telling me he is. He is really sweet and hasn't even tried to pressure me into anything. I trust him be with all these things that I've heard about him it makes me nervous. Do you think he's just putting on an act to get in my pants? I plan to confront him about what I've heard but I'm not sure how to bring it up. What do you guys think? (link)
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School? Teenagers? o.O Lots of rumors.. I mean just because he say she say.. Doesn't always mean it's true. You could ask him if there just rumors or stuff, but even if they arn't he's not going to tell you if they are or not. So, I mean confronting him might just be a waste. Just don't have sex with him, just keep the relationship easy and steady, if he really likes you he'll wait as long as you want. You know? o.o Well good luck hun.
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(this is kinda hard to explain. hope you understand if you dont ask me)
okay so theres this guy that i went out with and we broke up because we argued a lot. and were still friends. we hang out like a couple times a week. and everytime we do hang out, we make out, and other things like that. and he wants to go farther, but i told him im just not ready. the other day we were hangin out and we got pretty far with things. farther than i had wanted things to go. and he started to undo his pants and then undo mine. i got scared and kinda pushed him away. then he grabbed me and was holding me cuz he realised he had pushed it to far.
well for some reason i want to go out with him very badly but he told me that its better we stay friends cuz we dont fight as much. and the other night we were talking about how i wanted to be with him. and he was like you know it will make our relationship a lot stronger if we just had sex.
im not letting him push me over.
so i guess im asking....
what should i do??
any help is great
please and thank you
-cuttechick24 (link)
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Seriously, I'd suggest putting your foot down. He wants sex, you don't. If he can't understand that, or at least respect that you're not ready.. He's not the boyfriend for you. He's not allowed to really make the descion for you, or push you into it. You have to make your own choice and also let him know you put your foot down to his wants. You're not out to ruin or make the relationship better between you guys, you feel it's already a good relationship, if he'd stop pushing sex on you.
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Alright so my boyfriend is always so sexy when he gives me hickeys and I feel like im just sucking on his neck and its not all that great to him. I usually start kissing him on the lips and then kiss him all the way too his neckk. Then when I get to his neck I keep doing that for a second then I start. I usually suck on his neck for like 10 seconds then bite the same spot then suck again. But I mean is there anything else I can do too make it more enjoyable to both of us. and make him react a little differently? (:
Thankkkks(; (link)
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Hmm.. Well don't get to frisky, but more touching and rubbing when you do it. Like touch his chest and his back more. Giving him the hikey you can just maybe find another spot on his neck.. Most people have a particuler spot on there neck that just make them go whacko, because it's just so enjoyable.. I'd bite first, well nibble suck.. kiss him more, and then continue to slowly more towards another spot to leave a different hicky.
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For movies, how do they do the sex scenes? Because sometimes they full-on dry hump, and they obviously have to do it because it didn't look computerized at all. And what about in that Paul Walker movie 'Running Scared' when he was kissing that girl's _____. Did he really have to do that or what?
Oh, and how do you pronounce the slang term "twat"? (link)
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I'm not quite sure about the movie sceans.. I believe they either do it, or they put in a fake or something.. You can do anything in a movie. lol.
But twat is just the way it's spelled. t wa t!
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This year, I finally dated the guy I've had a crush on for 4 years. I never thought I would even talk to this guy, let alone date him. Basically, it was a dream come true, for 10 days. He broke up with me for a couple of reasons. He's really into music and wanted to focus on that, and that we kind of rushed things. So it was a mutual break up. We were still good friends after. But now its been two weeks since then, and we're talking again. And texting every day. It's obvious that we both are attracted to one another, and I'm still dying for him back. Anyway, we decided to hang out this Friday. The only thing is, what should we do? I think it would be awkward to have him over, just because he was over my house the day before he broke up with me. We really just need to have a fun time and I can hopefully prove to him that we're meant to be together. Does anyone have any ideas?
Oh, and has anyone had a relationship where you broke up towards the beginning, but ended up getting back together and have stayed together?
Thank you so so much. I really want this boy back! (link)
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Alot of people have had that issues, where braking up and then getting back together.. i mean think of the couples that brake up a bunch of times, but in the end they end up together!
Hmm... To have fun, well how old are you? I mean you could go to maybe a diner and have milk shakes, see a movie.. just do what regular friends doo. Go to the mall, have a good time.. Think of him as your best friend.. and just go with it.. : ) If he wants to hang out, you deffently know he has feelings for you, but he's probable just to into other things to jump back into a relationship like that!
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Hi,
22/m here. I have two friends. Let's call them Craig and Alex. I've known Alex longer, but Craig and I are closer and are practically best friends. Craig and Alex didn't know each other before though. I'm the connecting link in between.
Anyway, so I try to hang out with both of them together and maybe all 3 of us can be friends. Craig is really shy, but he's been loosening up a bit around Alex. Last week though, we were just joking around and stuff and Alex made a crack at Craig that made Craig upset. Alex doesn't know he made Craig upset and i'm 100% sure that wasn't his intention. I think Alex is just getting comfortable having Craig around so he's joking around with him even more to kind of help us all bond. Craig took it personal though and thought it meant Alex doesn't like him or thinks badly of him. So, now Craig doesn't really want to be around Alex. Alex has no idea what's going on and I feel bad being around Alex because i'm sure he has no idea about how Craig feels.
Now, i'm kind of caught between these two friends. I wish Craig could understand that Alex wasn't being mean-spirited, but I guess Craig is a little paranoid because of past experiences with old friends. :(
I feel like a mediator here between and just want everything to be okay and have times where I can spend it with both of them and not have to choose one or the other. What should I do? Should I do anything at all? Will Craig eventually come around? Should I even tell Alex? (link)
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Hello,
Well... I think it would probable be better to pull the two of them together.. Sit them down, and explain.
Tell Alex how Craig feels. I mean if he didn't mean anything by it, he'll deffently want to apologize. Alex and Craig probable havent grown close enough to catch each others puns! I mean it'll be easier if they give one-another another chance. I mean if there your friends, they'll see there must be a reason why you're friends with they other!
So perhaps give it a try, and try to brake the icy bridge between the two of them! : ) you can probable do it, considering you're the middle person.
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The song goes like hottier than the street life gonna get dead right.......... (link)
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Artist: Plies
Song: Street Light
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I am sixteen, and since I was small, I've always been scared of the dark. I don't mind when it's dark but there's streetlights, but if it's dark, outside or inside, I'm scared shitless.
I was mildly scared in my old house, but in my current house I am absolutely terrified, especially as this house gives off such a negative feeling (but that's another thing)
I just wish I could overcome this but I can't. I mean I can sleep with my lights off but if I have to go to the toilet at night, I have to turn on the biggest light in my room, then the light in the corridor and then the bathroom.
Any advice, please? And no stupid comments, that's no use to anyone. (link)
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Scared of the dark, I use to be afraid of the dark when I was younger. I don't actually know how I achived to get over it. Perhaps just try to work through it, with the lights off. I mean you said no stupid comments, but we must realize there is hardly anything in the dark to hurt us other then maybe a door we could stub are toe on. I mean the worst thing I can think of in the dark is if you were in the area to get robbed, but it's probable a long shot. You just have to convince yourself that it's nothing but dark, and nothing can hurt you.
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i already asked a question about this but its making me go crazy.
thankyou to the people who gave me advice
and i talked to my mom on the way to the store
and she blew up on me. again.
im 16 years old. and its normal to have a boyfriend/friends who are guys.
and hse wont except that.
my boyfriend (who i told her is just my friend, but she told me she thinks hes more than just a friend) she wont let me drive to his house this weekend
she told me next time i hangout with him, she wants to meet him. so i was being nice and i said that i could go pick him up (he lives abut 25 minutes away) and then i would bring him to my house to meet my parents. and she started yelling at me and stuff. and she wont let me do that. so im like ok whatever then i guess you will never meet him.
hes not the richest person in the world and i respect that, so he doesnt have a car and his parents wont let him take there car and shes like why cant he pick you up and i told her that and she thinks im making excuses and im not.
i honestly dont know why she is getting so mad.
shes lucky i even told her about him. shouldnt she be happy about that?
but no shes not. she has to be a total you know what about it.
and she keeps bringing up the fact that he goes to a school for bad kids. im happy with him. im the happiest ive ever been. and i dont understand why she cant just accept that and be happy for me.
(me and my parents dont talk about love life and stuff like that. so this is like the first situation ive been in like this with them)
what should i do? im thikning aobut just telling her im going to the mall and out to dinner with my friend but then id just go to his house. do you think i can get away with that?
sorry this is so long. but thanks for the advice! (link)
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You're young, and we'll teenagers are ment to brake the rules. Perhaps you could do a bit better. Maybe you could say you're going to meet him at the Mall. His parents are going to drop him off maybe, and you could just go pick him up. Then take him home to meet mommie and daddie. That way in the end your mother can meet him, and hopefully he'll leave a good impression on your parents.
Because it's not always the right thing to give your parents a complete lie. It's better to be a half lie, don't you agree?
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The guy I'm in love with just wants me for sex. How do I get over him? I have to see him everyday.. (link)
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Slowly let him slip out of your mind, try to find someone new to be with, someone who will keep you busy, and your mind off of thinking about him. It's simple to forget about someone like that, just takes some will power! Don't let him take over your mind, especially if you know all he wants is your body.
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Ok I was about to throw away the garbage from my house. When I went out into apartment complex. I saw this lady with her big black dog. I know that this country loves dogs a lot but I do not. So I am thinking that you might disagree with my phobia something like that. Well anyways do you think that its bad to complain about it to the apartment management. Cause she pays her rent here so she has the right to keep her pet. But her dog doesnt look nice. SO what should I do next time I need to throw away the garbage and I dont want to go out cause of the dog. I had been told avoiding fear gets worser but I dont I am starting to get less scared. I hate dogs I just do. I think its after my face. (link)
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Dogs can sence your fear. Don't show a dog fear, the dog doesn't want to hurt you. It's just a dog.. All you have to do is ignor the dog. The dog isn't going to lundge for your face, it doesn't want eat your face.
The dog just wants to go for a walk with it's owner. If you don't want to handle looking at the mongrol then take the garbage out after the dog has gone back to it's own home. Other wise just do what you normally do, just make sure you don't have fear of the dog, as I said dogs can sence fear.
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so basically i met this guy at the beginning of the school year.at first we didnt talk even when he dated my "friend" for a little bit.then after they finally broke up he asked me if id like to be his friend.so i said yes ever since we have become closer and closer.as you probably figured i grew to like him.he sometimes acts like he likes me but at times he dont.he told my friend he wasnt intrested me but told my other friend he would think about going out with me.but he still flirts with me.he doesnt act like just a friend sometime.so i just kinda wanna see what he might mean by all this.thank you. (link)
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If he says he doesn't like you to your friends and people, yet still flirts with you..
Well.. he could just be trying to figure out how he feels for you, or perhaps he's a player and really doesn't like you like that.. They're always flirting.
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I am 13 and female, and Im a little lost here... So there are these three boys, let's call them boy X, boy Y and boy Z. (Bky X may sound familiar to a few of you who have read my previous questions.)
Here it goes. See, I have had a crush on X for a looooong time (like 2 years!) and I am really close to him. I like him a lot and he understands me and, gosh, he is just perfect. However, even though he though he likes me too, he cannot date until he is 16 (as I said, I am 13, but he is 14 and thats like ANOTHER 2 years). Now, I just think I can wait that long, nor does he expect me to but I REALLY like him!!
Okay some of you have told me to just forget about X (yeah right, like I haven't tried and failed at THAT already..). But there IS this one boy, Y. Y is probably the most adorable and wonderful boys and I do, I honestly do really like him, and I want so badly for me to like him more than X, but I don't. I really want to like him because I know he would be a great guy for me and has shown an interest, but X is just... I don't know, X is just too perfect, even though our relationship won't go anywhere... And frankly, you can't control who you like... But if any of you know how you can, please, enlighten me!
Then there is Z. Z is very sweet (and kind of has a crush on me) and he knows how much I like X and also kinds of hates him because X can't date me. But I mean, X can't do anything about that, its his religion... Buy Z is always telling me how I can't wait around for X, but sometimes I wonder if Z just says that because he likes me... And Z says that if I was dating him that he would appreciate me and so on but, and i feel horrible saying this because Z really is a sweet boy, but I just don't like Z like that...
Ugh, I know, I know, this is all messed up. I don't know what to do! I really like X and I want things to work so much, because I know we would be perfect for eachother, but our relationship can't go anywhere, and thats not X's fault right?? But on the other side I feel horrible because I feel like I am leading Y on, and then there is the Z situation, and ugh. I just want to cry. Please help!! (link)
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Are you bestfriends with Z? You understand dating could/can ruin a really good friendship? Becareful.
If you don't like Z like that, don't worry. He probable already knows. Now Y.. yeah he sounds like a good person.
Yet if you're willing to wait for X you Should. If X has your heart in the palm of his hand, and you're willing to wait for him.. I'd do it. Love.. true love.. is hard to find. You also have to realize, that waiting two years, is two more years you won't be dating. But also if you do get into a relationship, it could be the wrong one, and by the time X becomes ready to date you may be taken. So you may want to wait.
There is no way of controlling who you like, and who you fal inlove with.
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my boyfriend and i(7th grade) have been going out for only a month or so and everytime we hang out we are usually in a group with friends. my friend and her boyfriend are so cute together and he always makes the first move. well, my boyfriend always seems to look at him for a guide. for example, if we are walking and my friends boyfriend holds her hand then my boyfriend might grab my hand. and so i was wondering why he did that and how i could make a move first. (link)
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Just have to take charge really, beat him to whatever move you'd like to make.
He probable copys him, because he may envy him.. His maybe smooth ways with his girlfriend.. That kind of stuff, he's young and he's probable just still getting to understand the ways of a relationship.
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i have this amazing girlfriend who i love very much, her names ashlee and she lives in america. i live in australia and i want to know if it is possible for everything to work out all sweet for both of us...i guess what i really want to know is...will this ashlee girl love this ben guy forever and a day? (link)
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Well..
Women can be very difficult. I do suppose if she truly loves you, and has the love she says, and feels she does.. Then she will not only love you forever and a day, she will love you for eternaity in life and death.. No matter were your's or her hearts&souls may be she will always love you.. with her heart and soul mind and body.
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ok well i have a boyfriend and we have been going out for 5 and a half months now but lately i have been really into my friend is that ok? im 15/f please help because i do love my boyfriend. (link)
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Hmm.. Well, you know it's normal to notice random people and make remarks like, "Wow he's cute! I'd totally do such and such to him!"
But considering you're kind of into your best friend, who you probable spend alot of time with weather it be in a group or alone.. Could cause problems, even if you do "love your boyfriend." I mean like along the line of your friendship.. you may start feeling more, or even accidently sleeping with him, or making out with him.. and that could make you very.. confusied, scared, and depressed on what to do!
So you should sit down and do some pro's and con's on your boyfriend and best friend.. find out if it's a risk.. to dump and date.. or stay friends and stay with your bf. It's just something you'll have to make a descion on..
Good Luck.
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There is this guy that Ive had a crush on for more than 2 years now and I cant get the courage to tell him how I feel.So my question is....how do i get him to notice me alot?Thank you all for trying! (link)
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Hmm.. How do you get a man to notice you.. Do you talk to him at all? If so flirt alot.. Act like you really like him, but make sure you beat around the bush, and maybe he can figure it out.. Maybe rub up against him if you pass him at any point and once you get behind him, look back and if he looks back to notice you smile flirtatiously.. yah know? bat those eye lashes.. and stuff.. Just have to make stuff look natural.. But make it more intense around him, but don't become a klutz or anything.
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