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So messed up...
I am 13 and female, and Im a little lost here... So there are these three boys, let's call them boy X, boy Y and boy Z. (Bky X may sound familiar to a few of you who have read my previous questions.)
Here it goes. See, I have had a crush on X for a looooong time (like 2 years!) and I am really close to him. I like him a lot and he understands me and, gosh, he is just perfect. However, even though he though he likes me too, he cannot date until he is 16 (as I said, I am 13, but he is 14 and thats like ANOTHER 2 years). Now, I just think I can wait that long, nor does he expect me to but I REALLY like him!!
Okay some of you have told me to just forget about X (yeah right, like I haven't tried and failed at THAT already..). But there IS this one boy, Y. Y is probably the most adorable and wonderful boys and I do, I honestly do really like him, and I want so badly for me to like him more than X, but I don't. I really want to like him because I know he would be a great guy for me and has shown an interest, but X is just... I don't know, X is just too perfect, even though our relationship won't go anywhere... And frankly, you can't control who you like... But if any of you know how you can, please, enlighten me!
Then there is Z. Z is very sweet (and kind of has a crush on me) and he knows how much I like X and also kinds of hates him because X can't date me. But I mean, X can't do anything about that, its his religion... Buy Z is always telling me how I can't wait around for X, but sometimes I wonder if Z just says that because he likes me... And Z says that if I was dating him that he would appreciate me and so on but, and i feel horrible saying this because Z really is a sweet boy, but I just don't like Z like that...
Ugh, I know, I know, this is all messed up. I don't know what to do! I really like X and I want things to work so much, because I know we would be perfect for eachother, but our relationship can't go anywhere, and thats not X's fault right?? But on the other side I feel horrible because I feel like I am leading Y on, and then there is the Z situation, and ugh. I just want to cry. Please help!!
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Um, what does Z mean, you can't wait around for X?
You're 13. You have plenty of time to wait for whomever you want to. It's not like you're middle-aged or have a certain amount of time left to live. He probably is saying that because he likes you. However, you still shouldn't focus just on X. If some other letter comes along and you like him, don't ignore him for X. Also, I'm not saying that X is a liar, but are you sure that he likes you? Are you sure it isn't a case of...he doesn't like you, but doesn't want you to be sad, so he tells you his religion only permits dating at 16 years old? I'm not trying to upset you because, as far as I know, you could have some form of confirmation disproving the above suggestion. Just be wary. If he's lying, look in another direction. If not, wait....if you want to :)
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chill out.
shit happends.
we move on.
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well it sound to me you have your heart set on X and you should wait for him if you really like him but yet while your waiting on him i dont see that theres a problem with dating while your waiting, enless you dont want to date because you have strong feelings for X, but yet i dont think that it would be a bad thing to wait either if you wait good things could come from it and you will pry be happier. but you cant control your feelings on people. so i think that if you were to wait and just be frends with X till he can actually date you, you guys would become closer to each other and no that you guys were meant for each other, but just hang with X and just test you guyses relationship with eachother first. and when he turns 16 you would know weather or not you guys will be together, but if you think waiting that long without dating and all that waiting wasent worth it then i wouldnt wait i dont personally know X so i couldnt really tell you weather or not waiting would be a good thing but hope some of my advice helps a little. sorry i couldnt have fully helped you. good luck. :)
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Are you bestfriends with Z? You understand dating could/can ruin a really good friendship? Becareful.
If you don't like Z like that, don't worry. He probable already knows. Now Y.. yeah he sounds like a good person.
Yet if you're willing to wait for X you Should. If X has your heart in the palm of his hand, and you're willing to wait for him.. I'd do it. Love.. true love.. is hard to find. You also have to realize, that waiting two years, is two more years you won't be dating. But also if you do get into a relationship, it could be the wrong one, and by the time X becomes ready to date you may be taken. So you may want to wait.
There is no way of controlling who you like, and who you fal inlove with.
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