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Q: this is kinda weird but i shave my bikini because um i dont want hair showing when i wear a bathing suit and this time i have little red shaving bumps that look kinda weird and itch really bad but its weird bc i dont get shaving bumps on my legs but anyways how do i make them go away is eucerin lotion good?

Red bumps come when rashes apear, if you haven't done it before. it could be your body getting used to you shavng your bikini line. creams do get rid of rashes. hope i helped.

Q: I'm going to be a freshman this year, but a few years back, when I was a sixth and seventh grader, I was constantly teasted by this boy who called be bighead (ok, so my head is bigger than normal). During eigth grade when he left for high school, it was the best year. He used to tease me, and when I told him to stop he'd just laugh. Ignoring him didn't work either. Now I'm worried he's going to be up to his old habits again. How should I handle this? By the way, there is no way I can go to the guidance counselor or tell an adult, I just can't, so please tell me how i can handle this myself.

I'm female/ 14, and no, he doesn't have a crush on me.

You can't handle it yourself if you are getting upset by this. Ask your friends to help, try calling him stuff back. i tell you a secret, i same age as you, i used to walk past a group of lads they used to call me a manbeast i am no way near it. i called them a womenbeast funny and sticking up for me. i went to a teacher, my head of year had a word with them and they stoped, yes he did fancie me. every1 who picks on you likes you. you are in the same situation, teachers will help you and i hope i have too.

Q: this girl who i used to be tight with is sleeping over tomorro night because her mom asked her to as a favor for her. thing is, we arent close anymore..shes into drugs drinking and doing things with guys..and im not so much into that.
problem is..i have plans to hang with friends tomorro night and i think it would be weird to bring her along..what do i do to avoid ditching her in her face?

**she will be at tennis practice tomorro and i have a feeling she will be tagging along with me after practice..but i made plans to hang with my friends..i cant just say "im hangin with friends..go back to my house and i will talk to you later..**

help? thanks im desperate lol

just say to her nicely that you would rather be alone with my friends. Make her remember when you where close ask her why she has being doing these stuff drugs and whatever else. You can spend a whole day with her a different day from tennis. Make a deal with her like leave me alone this night and you would spend the whole day with her tomorrow. hope i helped.

Q: school starts on wed. im a 16 year old female and i been with this guy for a yr. on and off. but now its over i cant be with this again and again breaking up again and again it hurts to much and its to stressful. SO anyway, I STILL LOVE HIM i dont no how to stop or why i do but i just do. and when i see him in school i dnt no what to do. i no he loves me and always will but im confused. should i play like i dont care and i've moved on? or should i flirt with other guys in front of him when i dont like it? or just be me and make him notice my pain? but the twist is i dont want a relationship..i need advice on my feelings..

I think the best thing to do would be to be yourself. flirting with other guys would get him angry then he would stop liking you. ignoring it and moving on could be better but there is no point if you still like him. follow your heart you do what would be best for yourself. hope i helped.

Q: Sorry about the "web design" part of the catergory. This is just internet problems. So last night my mom caught me IMing my friend. Normally, she'd have been fine with that. But I met him online. So now she's revoking my IMing privelages and blocking a whole crapload of sites for me to use. Normally, I'd use Netscape, IE, or Mozilla, but she's going to kill me if she catches me. So now for almost every site except for Homestar, I need to ask. But some of them she'll say no, like albinoblacksheep.com. So I'll never get the llama song again. And then there's the question of advicenators.com. How can I advicenate? Telling her about how and why I've been advicenating would require me telling about my huge crush on this girl, and I'm not ready to tell her about that yet! So now I can only sneak on for the hour or two before she wakes up. Problem is, school is starting soon, so I won't have that hour or two. And also moderating. How can I still be a mod if I can hardly ever---if not never---go on advicenators? Aw, crap! My mom's coming down! Er---thanks, I'll probably rate, and don't bother telling me to listen to her about it, because I live for the internet!

Its a trick situation. if you are ever on your own go onto the internet. you would evertually have to tell her about this crush so mayswell just tell her. if your mum goes out somewhere go on it. there are quite alot of times you could go on, but i don't think you are able to go on it, coz you think you are afraid of her catching you if she does, just say it is a girl you like. she is your mum , she would still like you whatever you do. hope i helped.

Q: Hi everyone. 16/f.

There's this guy who I know from an extracurriculur (that's a hard one to spell) drama class. We never get to talk in class much, but I had to give him my email as he had to email me a script he'd wrote 9and he didn't have enough copies) Well, he emailed me almost immediately and told me he couldn't get the script until he went to his dads place, and then he started asking me all these questions about myself. Well, we've been emailing back and forth quite a bit.. and now I'm not used where to go from here. He's a bit older than me.. 19 turning 20.. but I can't help but hope he's somewhat interested. What should I do now? Just keep going as it is or make a subtle move? And do you think he's just being friendly or there's something there?

Thanks everyone.

I couldn't tell you if he is being friendly or theres something there, what u should do is ask him if he does like you. if so keep giong if not then you could be friends. y u asking for advice when you should follow your heart and what it is telling you. hope i helped.

Q: i want to be an exchange student in england (i live in the u.s.)
is there a exchange thing online that you dont have to pay to go there with there program?
i just want to go a semester.
or is there a place that is cheapest?
I'll rate high!

I'm not sure there is any free or cheep ones. i live in england, my school does exchange with germans / germany obviously. so try different schools. hope i helped.

Q: um, i am a virgin and all. and thats kinda the problem. most of my freinds arent virgins, and i get made fun of. even my father had sex when he was like 12. and its driving me practilly INSANE! im sixteen years old, and i "enjoy" myself almost daily. i am speaking the embarassing truth. one of the minor reasong why i bought a computer was so i could look up porn. and i tell myself all the time ill stop "enjoying" myself once i actually have sex. and thats put me at ease for awhile. i mean, other that that i ok, besides sucking my thumb.one time, a prostistute was asking if i wanted a good time, and as sad as it may sound, i was saeiously considering it. and thats when i knew i had issues. so the actual question would be: do i have problems? is this humane? shold i go out and see a shrink? please, this took alot of courage to admit this, so, please,dont judge me.

I think you aren't redy for sex yet, you still want to find the right person to have it with. you wouldn't like a 1 night stand, but a long term relationship. if your friends are judging you it is only because you are different and you aren't rushing. you have plenty of time top have sex you are only 16 you could have you 1st experience at 24 but it wouldn't matter. hope i helped.

Q: okay.. im sure you all know that the destroyed jeans look like... & anyways... i usually buy my pants like that .. but i bought a pair of pants like that today.. that didn't have the destroyed look.. & i reallly like these jeans .. but i want to add the destroyed look to them so i can wear them to school tomorrow. anyone have any idea how. k. i need to know asap. i'll rate.
k.thx.goodybe.

try cutting on the knee part of your jeans but more than 1 but less than 5. you should like fine. hope i helped. nice and destroyed LOL.

Q: ok so i went to take a pregnancy test today..i read the box which said to pee on the test for 5 seconds..me being the idiot i am..i peed on the cap..im all new at this so i had no clue there was a cap! i dipped the test in the toilet..and it came out negative..im thinking this isnt accurate because of all the water in the toilet..am i right or is it still ok to trust the negative?

Try another test but try doing it right. nurses, doctors could give you info on how to do it. Pregnancy tests can be wierd. 1 could say opositive, the other negative, but you would just have to take another. hope i helped.

Q: just tonight my stomach started to get all weird and stuff. i almost feel like i'm like 9 months pregnant and the baby is doing a gymnastics routine inside my stomach and then it'll stop and i'll get these cramps that make me hunch over they're so bad. i haven't gotten my period yet and was just wondering if these were menstrual cramps or just a bad stomach ache?

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have you had a pregnancy test, if it was 9 months then you would be fatter than you are arigionaly. hope i helped.

Q: My brother's birthday is in a couple of days and I want to make this banner that spells out his name and with the letters of his name I want something to describe him.His name is Josh,18 years old,football player,popular,funny,(the girls seem to want him) So if anyone had any ideas Id appreciate it!

I not very good with things like this but it is ok.

Josh is
Outstanding so
Silly and
Hilarious

hope i helped.

Q: I like this guy he's 19, I'm 16 but we both like each other a lot. you see when my parents got married his father had married them. And i didnt no that the pastor had a son. so since the wedding our family and theirs has been spending time together, i just got out of a bad relationship and was moving on. so when i met him after so many times we spend every night together and have grown close. Although dispite the age difference we both are falling for each other, and hes a Christian "good boy" so he'll keep me out of trouble, so i wanna be with him, but im scared about what people will say if they find out. I mean what do you think should we make "it" official or will it create problems? Thanks in advance!

If you realy like each other then go for it but try keep it a secret and simple for a while, if you aren't conftable with people saying stuff about you 2 then you should ignore or tell them to get lost. as love is love and no-one can ever change that. hope i helped.

Q: We have mice, ants and rats in our house! My mommy just screamed because she saw a mouse in her closet! I'm deathly afaraid of mice and ants. Is there any way to ger rid of them? We've tried mouse traps and spray to kill ants but they keep coming back! What attracts an ant to a place? Sorry its kinda long but i need help and i rate!!!

Try different animal controling and stuff, once we had a bees nest in our attic they got rid of it for us. hope i helped.

Q: I'm going to the movies tomorrow with my BF. I really wanna make out with him but idk how and i find french kissing discusting (Ive never done it but still just the thought of it creeps me out) Is there anyway to make out WITHOUT using the tongue?

PLEASE ANSWER THIS! I RATE HIGH!

Just kiss him like a peck if he wants to do more he would do so . try snogging it like french kissing but no tongue, hope i helped.

Q: I have long, thin, straight hair and it gets frizzy even if i step outside for 2 seconds. I use Frizeez hair serum, mousse, I blow dry it, and I straighten it. Yet it STILL gets frizzy SOO easily!! How do i prevent it from getting frizzy?? anymore tips?? thanks

try hair spray different gels, things to keep your hair stiffer and still.spray your hair with hair spray whatever you want to use and straighten it , your hair should be straigh for the rest of the day. hope i helped.

Q: me and this guy were good friends in 7th grade then in 8th grade we went out then broke up and stopped talkin and now we r in 8th grade and we r talkin again cuz but we really dont know wut to talk about when we talk. can sumone give me sum ideas to talk about??

anything should be ok, talk about things you would with a friend, but not to a boy. that has happened to me once but now we have laughs and jokes together as i takl like he is my friend and nothing else. hope i helped.

Q: How do you know if you believe in God or if you just think you do?

It is what you believe, you decide, never mind what other people think, you have your own maind, so you decide, what ever you choose people would be ok with it. hope i helped.

Q: im really nervous to have sex with my boyfriend it'll be my first time and i feel really ready cus i really do wanna finally lose my virginity but im not sure sumone please tell me what i should do?!?! thnx

If you aren't going to do this because you love him, then you aren't ready, your virginity could wait till you feel it is absalutly ok to do it if your boyfriend feel the same, how do you know he is ready ? hope i helped.