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How do you take clips that others posted to You Tube and turn them into MP3 files you can play in ITUNES or similar programs?

A friend told me there are programs on the Internet for free but I really don't want to download anything that could have malicious software possibly attached.

Also, all of my Itunes files are MP4 how do I convert to MP3 easily? I'm sharing them with a friend using a flash drive. (link)
Offliberty.com will make MP3s (or videos if you want), out of youtube videos, without the need to install anything, nor the need to download anything besides the MP3 itself.


Hey im 15 and quite skinny and weedy...i have very little muscle and weigh 125 pounds.i desperately want to improve my physique but i want to be lean with muscle like gaz from geordie shore.i am going to sign up for a gym and my friend suggested that i start off working 'bitch muscles' (arms,chest,core) to imrove my appearance at first.i was just wondering what i would have to do to see gains in those areas in 5/6 weeks.after a few months i might introduce legs,back,shoulders aswell but i want to improve my 'bitch muscles' first.any advice or tips or workouts would be much appreciated.i just dont want people looking down at me anymore (link)
At the age of 15, your body is still not developed very far into adulthood, so you should be aware you MAY not see the results you want.

BUT...working out NOW, WILL tell your body which muscles it needs to feed as your body continues to grow, and so working out now, might not deliver results now...but will deliver even better results later, so long as you keep at it.

So if you don't see results, don't get discouraged.


I know of some ways, yet they're getting "old". Me being 14, "sex" is off of the list. Also, I've tried fingering myself, but it kind of hurts. I think I'm too "tight". Anyways, if you know of any ways that won't hurt, please say so. Thank you! (link)
I've found that using my hand doesn't work for me. I've found two things that work great without penetration.

First, if you enjoy exhausting yourself (I personally find being tuckered out at the end to be extremely blissful), you can find something 'soft but firm' such as a tightly wadded blanket, and rub yourself on it as though you are having sex.

More difficult to arrange for yourself, but less tiring (and so wonderful), try to find something which produces a hard (but not painfully so), constant and steady stream of WARM (cold will be frustrating as cold 'turns your body off') water. It feels like getting oral, so it's wonderful. Sometimes showers that have the retractable spray nozzles, the nozzle can come off (be SURE it's meant to, else you might just break it) and then will have the perfect jet of water.


I fell on my cell phone landing with my elbow bent, cracking the screen. A few days later, my elbow began to hurt worse than when it happened and now my entire arm is tingly all over. I thought it was from the fall, but could tiny particle of the screen have somehow seeped into my skin? (link)
'Seeped' in, no. Stabbed in, possible. Even HAIR can end up stabbed into your skin, believe it or not.

BUT, that being said, considering it was your elbow you hit, you MOST LIKELY pinched your "funny bone" (not a bone at all, but a nerve), which will cause tingling and/or numbness in your arm and/or hand until it heals.


So I'm 13 female and last night we had this party thing and we smoked hub but it was му first time and I didn't smoke much. Then today I went to this place and I had 1 thing of brutal fruit and 2 brutal fruit slushies which is obviously just brutal fruit frozen/crushed or whatever cs once it melts then its brutal fruit. Well after that I started feeling really nauseas and felt like throwing up and tired and stuff. Can it be from the brutal fruit and stuff? And don't lecture ме on underage drinking cs it was just once or underage smoking cs that's also just once (link)
Yes, it absolutely is because of drinking and smoking. The chemicals from smoking can linger and make you sick for days, and alcohol is toxic to young people.

There is a REASON that there are age limits and it's not because they want to spoil your fun. Until the age of 21, your body and brain are still in development. Your body and brain can be irreparably damaged by the consumption of alcohol before it is finished developing.

Feeling ill is probably your body's response to the damage you are doing to it.

And people always say 'it'll only be once', but it rarely ever is.

Drinking in moderation is perfectly okay and in fact HEALTHY once you reach adulthood, but while your mind and body are still developing, it can and will damage you. So don't do it, please.


Its all too much.I hate how ibam.I wanna be pretty n thin more than anything.all i think about is suicide.23 f, cutter for 2 years everyday, cant stop.make the pain stop. (link)
I hated myself with a passion from age 13 through 17. I struggle with depression every day, and in those years, I struggled with thoughts of suicide every day.

But I'm finding that as I've become an adult and am coming into my own, and I gain more and more control over my own life, things are getting easier and the good is finally starting to outweigh the bad.

Through your teenage years, whatever real problems you have will be made to feel worse because your body is flooding you with hormones, and it will continue to do this until you're an adult.

I understand it feels like it will never end. I felt that way too...but you can't possibly be a teenager forever. And it's only FIVE little years out of your ENTIRE life. The rest of your life will be worth surviving a harsh five years.

Also please stop cutting. I also used to do that... I regret it very much now because I hate the scars. If you must make yourself feel physical pain for relief, please do something that doesn't cause permanent damage. I whipped myself across the back with a power cord once (omg it hurt a lot), but it didn't scar or bruise me, and it worked even better than cutting.

I myself am also neither pretty nor thin...but one day all the pretty and thin people will get old and lose that themselves. Also, SOMEONE out there will think you're pretty, and that someone will be all that matters.

I know life hurts, but buckle down and weather the storm. You can get through it. Don't let it get the best of you, don't let it destroy you, and don't let it make you bitter. Come out the other side with a beautiful mind, and that will make you a beautiful person no matter what you look like on the outside.

I know I don't know you, and I know we'll never meet, but we're a kindred spirit, and I love you for that. Hang in there.


Alright, so a few days ago I went to see a movie with a friend. I'm 14(female), and he's 17. As we were watching the movie, he put his hand over my mouth and started playing with my tits. I tried to stop him, but I couldn't. Well, he made his way to my pussy, and started fingering me. It actually really hurt, and I think he broke my hymen. My pussy kind of hurts, what do I do? Like, when he fingered me, he used two fingers, which I've only fingered myself once, but I used one finger. It's not like I can tell my mom or dad. (link)
This is sexual assault, and akin to rape. I understand it is embarrassing, but HE was in the wrong and not you. You should ABSOLUTELY tell your parents, and then you should tell the authorities and press charges. The fact that he covered your mouth first shows that he KNEW you wouldn't want him to do it.

If you don't do something about this now, you will wish for the rest of your life that you had. Don't let this jerk get away with abusing you or anyone else. Tell your parents. You will NOT get in trouble... HE will get in trouble.


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She will NOT think it was your fault. Be sure to explain how he covered your mouth and how you tried to stop him. If by some chance your mom really is a jerk (she would have to be a total jerk to blame it on you), then try telling your dad instead. Parents want to protect their children, unless they are bad parents, they WILL want to help you with this.


is it okay for an almost 18 year old girl to date a 24 year old guy who has 3 year old twins? (link)
As long as he isn't married, there's nothing wrong with it, neither legally nor socially.

However, you need to be 100% sure you're ready to take on the responsibility. And depending upon what arrangement he might have with the mother, you'll have to accept that you may have to 'share' his attention.

I can't tell you whether or not you're ready for that, but I can assure you, than the age discrepancy between 18 and 24 is not that bad, and should not be socially looked down upon.





Today I met my biological sister, She told me that we had native american in our bloodline. How could I find out for sure? Is there a blood test I can take? I have a hard time believing that because I am as white as a ghost and do not look native at all. (link)
I don't know if there's any test, but I myself and part Cherokee indian, but I have the complexion of raw chicken. I never tan, I just burn very quickly. I'm extremely pale and always have been, yet I am an eighth Cherokee (my mother was forth Cherokee, her mother half). I also do not look native at all. So...having some of that in your blood doesn't guarantee you'll look the part.


Hi! I'm a girl, 19 y/o and from Malaysia. I can say that my problem is quite random. Recently i find myself having a short term memory problem. Sometimes whenever I'm doing something, I'm easily tend to forget why I'm doing it. At the end I've wasted so much time on 1 thing. just to let you know I am a medic student and just finished my first observation at hospital. My therapists keep on telling me that i have to be more observant and alert to the things happening at surrounding. Sometimes they have to ask or tell me many times then i will respond to them. To tell you the truth it was like i have been daydreaming all the time eventhough im not. I feel really slow. And last thing, when i try to memorize a simple thing, my head will feel hot as if a computer has been used for a long time and i feel tired afterward. For your information, I believe i have a good night sleep everyday. Can you please tell me why is that happening to me? I get disappointed to myself sometimes because of it. (link)
How many hours of sleep do you get? Most people need at LEAST 8 hours. 9 hours is optimum, but some people need even more.

If you've gotten enough sleep, you ought to wake up fairly easily, and not feel like you wish you could go back to sleep.


If it's not a sleep issue, then that opens it up to a huge variety of possibilities. It could be a nutritional issue. You should make sure you're getting a diet consisting of everything you need, especially iron (NOT iron supplements!), and make sure you're well hydrated.

If it's also not that, then if it's really bothering you, you might want to see a doctor about it.


I'm 13 and I wanna cut. I'm gonna do it anyway so чou might as well let ме do it properly. So please don't tell ме not to. I wanna cut with a razor or with a knife or a scissors please help ме with one of those and tell ме how to take the blade out of a razor? Like a disposable one though if that's the one чou help with* thanks. And I want it to bleed a lot and not to much. And it can be on му stomach or му wrists (link)
I used to cut. The relief it brings is too short lived, and I wish now that I had never done it. My arm is covered in ugly scars I can never get rid of.

The relief you seek is from 'feel-good' chemicals your brain releases to comfort you when you feel physical pain. You can get these chemicals to release from ANY pain, not just pain that will leave scars.
If you MUST cause pain to yourself for relief, try something non-permanent. I whipping myself over the back once (literally only once, lol) with the plug end of a power cord. It hurt like hell, but didn't cause any scar or bruising and still provided the relief via pain that I was seeking.


It was dark but my mom walked in and heard it and asked I said I was massageing my back but then she sae that I had no pants on and asked I said I like to sleep naked.. Then she. Gave me my birthday card and left I'm ry worried she will tell my sisters and/ or dad.... Plz help what do I do BTW I'm a 13 year old girl and I still call her mommy
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I very much doubt she will tell your sisters. She MIGHT tell your dad, but believe me, neither of them will really care, beyond a 'our girl is growing up' thing.

Even your mom probably does this once in a while. It's embarrassing to be caught, and she would have been nicer not to ask you questions about it, but there's nothing wrong about it, and nothing to be ashamed of, and you certainly won't be in trouble.


I'm just a little curious about this. I know I'm too young(14) for sex, but yeah. Also, I can't seem to have an orgasm anymore. I love porn, but I can't seem to cum from watching it anymore. I'll get really wet, but that's all. That's why I'm considering "breaking" my hymen, and using something as a dildo. (link)
Some advice from one woman to another... Don't bother with a dildo yet. I've found that sometimes penetration makes it even harder to reach orgasm. I don't want to sound too forward, but find something 'soft but firm' like a tightly wadded blanket, and er...rub yourself on it as if you're having sex. It can do the trick if you do it right.




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