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I cant bear to breath anymore
Its all too much.I hate how ibam.I wanna be pretty n thin more than anything.all i think about is suicide.23 f, cutter for 2 years everyday, cant stop.make the pain stop.
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Most of the people understand how you feel as they have gone through many different things and have struggled with their appearance, suicide and cutting.
I have learned that most young girls do not like the way they look. But they can all work on themselves and learn to love themselves.
You need to talk to someone about how you feel.
You are the only one who can make yourself stop cutting.
My advice is to start working on your self-confidence.
It's not right to abuse other people, it's not right to abuse animals. What makes it ok to abuse yourself? No one deserves it, no matter what the circumstances.
Cutting hasn't helped you feel any better. It communicates to yourself on how you feel about yourself, but it doesn't help with your situation.
A lot of people don't do anything about how they feel. They want help but they don't understand that they have to work on it. So go talk to someone, get the help you deserve.
People will help you work on your self image and self confidence. They will help you about your suicidal thoughts.
Everything will get better from there.
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I hated myself with a passion from age 13 through 17. I struggle with depression every day, and in those years, I struggled with thoughts of suicide every day.
But I'm finding that as I've become an adult and am coming into my own, and I gain more and more control over my own life, things are getting easier and the good is finally starting to outweigh the bad.
Through your teenage years, whatever real problems you have will be made to feel worse because your body is flooding you with hormones, and it will continue to do this until you're an adult.
I understand it feels like it will never end. I felt that way too...but you can't possibly be a teenager forever. And it's only FIVE little years out of your ENTIRE life. The rest of your life will be worth surviving a harsh five years.
Also please stop cutting. I also used to do that... I regret it very much now because I hate the scars. If you must make yourself feel physical pain for relief, please do something that doesn't cause permanent damage. I whipped myself across the back with a power cord once (omg it hurt a lot), but it didn't scar or bruise me, and it worked even better than cutting.
I myself am also neither pretty nor thin...but one day all the pretty and thin people will get old and lose that themselves. Also, SOMEONE out there will think you're pretty, and that someone will be all that matters.
I know life hurts, but buckle down and weather the storm. You can get through it. Don't let it get the best of you, don't let it destroy you, and don't let it make you bitter. Come out the other side with a beautiful mind, and that will make you a beautiful person no matter what you look like on the outside.
I know I don't know you, and I know we'll never meet, but we're a kindred spirit, and I love you for that. Hang in there.
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Hi. You're 10 years younger already. Result! OK, lets be serious. Habits, values and ideas you're forming NOW are going to carry forward into your adult life. Fact! Now I could give you a lot of stuff about us all being worthwhile people etc etc but you probably won't believe me, or care. This is all hanging on your appearance. Well, a lot, maybe all of this is well within your control. First, thin. Now a lot of girls have a private view of themselves that isn't at all representative of how they actually look. At 13 you're going to be (or start to be) filling out a bit. Especially around your hips and boobs. Now don't mix that up with 'fat'. This is 'pretty' in the making... properly feminine figure on the way! Now, get some info. Weight for your height (and age!). Take a good honest look at yourself. Honest. Could you make an improvement...lets assume the answer you've come up with is 'yes'. First, work out with your parents a sound diet, again there's any amount of info out there. Out goes any junk food, and sweets and crisps, and sweet (full of sugar mate) drinks. Really, they're easier to cut out than you think, specially when you've got a reason. You don't starve yourself of course, or make yourself sick after meals, or any crap like that. That won't make you slim, it'll make you ill. Look at some photographic models of all kinds. OK, they look great. ButI can tell you most 'shoots' are physically hard work for the girl. They're fit, and they have to be. Once you're putting good stuff in to your body it's time to sculpt it. A great shape comes from great muscle tone, pulling you into that shape. If cash is no real object people can join health clubs or buy (pricey!) exercise machines to use at home. But truth is, there's no end of ways to get in great shape with little or sometimes no spending involved. Net research, or magazines here. So I've stalled any excuses you might have...set to it. The only essential thing is that you make a 'regime' of it and do it regularly, in full. No skipping sessions! You'll literally start changing shape before your very eyes. Is there a flash hair salon in town? Right, start saving pennies...when you've well on the way to your body-beautiful you'll be going. And asking the stylist what they suggest to add to ideas of your own. And just do it. Might be a nice thing to ask for as a birthday prezzie?? Any family, friends (and their families) etc you consider a real wizzard with cosmetics? Arrange a meeting and pick her brains, get her to show you techniques, suggest products. Again, you'd be surprised how different even a good model looks before the make-up girls have a go at them. Comparing your normal self to what you see in the shots is never a good idea. Start looking out styles of clothes that suit you, that you like. Start thinking about your own style. So, have I described, or asked anything here that you couldn't start doing straight away? Think not! And does any of it sound like nonsense, that is could three months of the right exercise FAIL to tone and shape a human body? And so on. Now you tell ME how suicidal thoughts and cutting yourself is going to make you slim and pretty? Nuff said? If this is what you need to make your life brighter and happier, stop moaning and start doing it. By the time you're 14, just think what you might have. Fit and toned, healthy. Good shape. Great hair. Know how to dress & make-up for the special occasion. Dripping that self-confidence that goes with knowing you've made THE very best of yourself. In fact, you'll be a bit of a babe, eh?? Tell me why this CAN'T be yours?? Your happiness is in your own hands, just got to reach out and take it. You only get one time around...better make it count. Don't get fobbed-off with any 'we're all fine just the way we are' attempts at flattery and 'consolation prizes'. Truth is, it's what YOU want for yourself, and getting it that matters. You tell me it's what you want. How MUCH do you want it? Good luck mate!!
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