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i was just wondering wat the average height for a 5'5" girl is, im not fat, but some of my clothes make look, and inturn feel that way. so i was just wondering. Thanks Alot!! (link)
I'm not sure what the real average weight for someone 5"5, but the recommended healthy weight for a girl 5"5 depends on your frame

Small frame: 114-123
Medium Frame: 120-135
Large frame: 129-146

I hope this helps

About your clothes, black (and other dark colors) look sliming and shirts with stripes that kinda come in diagonal from the sides and meet in the middle are slimming.

I hope this helps-- Let me know if you need anything else! :-)


Hi well i am going to middle skool, and he will still be in elementary, but he just lives down the street. and long distance relationshipa aren't hard for me, especcially because my first bf lived in florida, while i lived in illinois. thanks a lot! (link)
Oh, well in that case I think you should do whatever you think is right. If he's just a year behind he'll be in your school next year (right?) and since he lives so close you guys can hang out a lot. You should talk to him about it sometime and see how he feels. Maybe yu could try it for a few days and if you two like it you could keep on dating or if you don't like it you could just stay really good friends. I hope everything works out for you two!! Good luck. :-)


hi i have always had a crush on my neighbors, they are a few months, but a grade ahead, and the other is 2 years older than me, (they are brothers). and recentally, i spent time with the one closest to my age and found out we have a lot in common, however, when he is around his friends, he seems to ignore me and act like he doesn't know me. but when we are alone, we act like the best of frinds, sometimes even more. i was wondering if i should make a move, or wait until to skool starts and get to know him better and vise versa.thanks a lot, i really would like to know if you have the time! thanks in advance! (link)
Hey. That's a guy for ya. You should probably give it a little more time to get to know each other a little better. When you two are alone and just tlaking you could just kinda try to find out what he thinks of you. If you think he's feeling the same way you are or he tells you he is and he still acts differently around his friends you could ask him about it. Just be calm about it so he doesn't get mad. Sorry I could be of more help to you. Drop me a question if you need anymore advice. I'll try to help as much as I can... But yeah, for now just take things easy and get to knoe each other better before you go for anything... I hope everythign works out for you!


Hi i am about 5'5" (extremely tall for 13) and anyway, i like this guy who is a year younger than me and about a foot and a half shorter than me. i have known him since 2nd grade, and he is really nice and sweet. we have a good friendship, and he has been flirting with me a little bit, like when we play basketball, he always guards me even though i am so must taller than him,but we have a lot of fun together, and i signed his shoe on the last day of skool, and i was the only girl to do so, even my friend who has known him since preskool didn't sin it. and on Fieldday, we weren't on the same team, but we faced eachother at a race while carrying pizzaboxes, nd when my team won we had to give each member of the other team a high five and when i went to give him a high five we hugged! lol ne way, wat should i do? should i let it go, also because i am going to go to a different skool than him, or should i try to be friends with him like i always have? i am just so conused. (link)
Hey. Well first of all, what about the schools? Are you going to be ing a different level or a different county? Since you're going to be in different school it could make it hard for you two to date (if that's what you were thinking about) but it COULD work. If you don't want to date him because of that reason, I don't see why you two couldn't still be friends. Letting him could could actually do more harm than good. You should try to just take things as they come but for right now just try to stay friends with him. I'm sorry I couldn't help you more. If you still need anymore advice on it, send me anouther question and I'll try to help you a little better... But I hope this helped!!


a few questions here...

im not fat by all means...just curious

whats a normal weight for girl that is 5'10?

and how can i tone up my stomach other than sit ups and crunches, its not flabby or anything but i guess anyone can use a tone up

i have really muscular legs but when i wear a skirt or something the top part of my thighes rub together and it gets really irritated and it hurts, how can i keep them from rubbing together and is that normal?

thanks a zillion xO (link)
Weight Charts for Women

Metropolitan Life Insurance Company, 1959 - Females::

Height Small Frame Medium Frame Large Frame
5'10" 133-144 140-155 149-169


This is what's considered healthy weight ranges. I hope this helps.


I just ordered Proactive and it should be to my house by Wednesday. My question is that does it work for clogged pores, too? I know its supposed to work for pimples but i have so many white heads and blackheads on my chin nose and fore head, and i wanted to know if proactive clears that up, too. Another question of mine is, how long does the bottles last for? I think i sent out a check for only 3 items...i heard that they send 3 new bottles every month to my house for free but that sounds weird. And i dont wanna spend 45 dollars every month on this stuff, and especially if it takes like a week to be delivered. Im so confused. Will someone help me please??! THankS!!!!!! (link)
Proactiv worked really well for me. The lotion is really what helps clear up black heads... It doesn't take long at all to use it. You just wash you face with the first bottle, use a cotton ball to wipe the second bottle on, then put the lotion on.... And it does cost you like $40 a month. (I think that's the price per month) But I tell you what you should do... Go to walmart to the bath and body section and look where they have all the face washes and stuff. You can buy the walmart brand of proactiv-- calle AcneFree... It's the same exact thing as Proactiv and works just as well. It' only $20. Once you use up the proactiv you've already ordered, you should go look for the cheap one at walmart and try it. If you don't liek it, keep using proactiv, but I think acnefree will work just as well for you for half the price.


ii have a seriously bad habit of biting my nails ii would love 2 have some long nails by the time school starts, does ne1 know of some really good tips and/or products or something that would get me 2 stop? -[(nail polishes? medicines?)]- any good answers get 5!! thanx loads! (link)
I used to bite my nails ALL the time. I bought a little manicure set for like $12 at wal mart and I kept my nails polished and looking nice for awhile and I didn't want to bite them because they looked good and eventually I just stopped biting them all together. It does take awhile though. If you donĂ¢??t like having your nails polished put a little bit of polish remover on your nails. It tastes HORRIBLE and you'll never wanna bite your nails after you taste that a few times. Hope this helps.

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I wouldn't recommend getting fake nails put on, though. Having fake nails WILL help you to stop biting your real nails, but fake nails eventually come off and you probably won't want to have to get them fixed/put back on every month and once they do come off you're real nails will look HORRIBLE. The glue from the fake nails will stay on your real nails and if you take the nails off for the get ripped off it can rip part of your real nail with it. Your real nails have layers and if the top layer gets messed up your nails usually continue to literally peal back in layers. If you get a manicure set you should try to find one with a 4 step buffer/shiner in it because that takes the little groves out of your nails and helps prevent pealing and makes your nails stronger.

:-) Good luck! :-)


okay this may sounds dumb, but is it okay to have sex if your in the water.. like a hot tub? i wasnt sure if it was alright because of the water going into your vagina ... sorry if this sounds stupid but i really want to know! thank you. will rate! (link)
Actually it's not perfectly safe like some people seem to think. You CAN have sex in water, just try to make sure a whole lot of water gets forced into your vagina or it could cause a lot of painful problems that you just don't want to deal with, same being permanent.


what does it mean when you have a dream about a guy that you are going to go out wit really soon. but in your dream you had sex with him? is that a good thing or bad thing? (link)
Well, it really just depends on how YOU feel about it. It's not really good or bad. Just a dream.


is proactive really good for acne? i mean.. i dont get REAL bad acne but when i get pimples they get real red ..so do you think proactive is right for me and how much is it? where can i get it (link)
Proactive works really well BUT it's also about $40 after shipping and handling... Wal Mart actually has the same thing as proactive but it's call Ance Free (I think) and it's only $20... I used to use Proactive until I found the wal mart brand. The wal mart brand works just as well as proactive... It's be crazy for you to spend $40 when you can get the same thing for $20! Hope this helped.

~Kris


Hey. Well, I was wondering where do people get those pins that they put on their bags because I want some. Also, I would like to know if they are expensive or not...how much do they cost? Thanks! (link)
http://www.hottopic.com/store/nodePage.asp?LS=0&RN=407

link for pins @ Hot Topic -- most are $1.50


ok this summer i went to the caribbean for like 8 days. i have never burned in my life, but i burned this time because i didnt wear enough sunscreen. i got these little tiny bubble-like things on my burns, and it looked like sun poisoning but it wasnt (it didnt hurt&it just peeled off) i think thas just that was i peel. but i ride horses, and everytime i come back from riding i have these little bumps again... not even where i was burned! like little sweat bubbles or something... when i rub my skin they go away and i just peel... this keeps happening--i ride my horse every day--im not allergic (ive been around horses my whole life) but could it just be the physical activity? or the dirt or something? 5 for good answers...

oo btw- it doesnt hurt its just weird (link)
Sorry this won't help much but it could be allergies because allergies change ever 7 years... But other than that since you got burnt your skin is probably just sensitive to sunlight. Just keep some sunscreen on so you don't get burnt more because if you get burnt a lot on top of the burn you already had it could cause skin cancer... Hope this helped some. ~Kristin


im depressed. i have ALL the signs of teen depression [ i looked them up ]

i dont feel myself lately. i dont like me. i cant sleep. i cry for no reason. im really mean to people around me. this year my grades went from A's and B's...to all F's.

ugh...any ideas on how to tell my mom? i want to tell her i need to see a theripist but im scared of how to bring it up and stuff.. (link)
Tell your mom how you've been feeling lately. Some adults now don't understand teenage depression and think it's just a phase because they don't think teens have anything to worry about. If your mom thinks this way, don't just give up. Tell her you're serious and tell her you NEED to see a therapist. If that still doesn't work and you have a license, drive yourself to see a therapist. If you can't drive then you can talk to a school counselor or you can even find therapist online that you can have online sessions with (through E-mail) I hope you get the help you need. Let me know if you need anything! Kristin

Resources you can use:

http://www.depression-help-for-you.com/

http://www.toltex.com/index.php?ad=03



1-800-SUICIDE -- Even if you don't feel suicidal they can help talk to you about your depression



sometimes i can not tell the difference between capital and lowercase letters,and sometime i look at words and they are backwards or flipped,also i get confused with the letters "d" and "b" or "y" and "g" or "m" and "w"
Why does this happen? (link)
It sounds like you have dyslexia... You should go see a doctor. With practice and their help you can reteach yourself to see and read things correctly.

CHeck out these links for more inmformation::

http://www.dyslexia-inst.org.uk/

http://www.interdys.org/



Does anyone know all the techniques for straightening hair? (both temporarily and permanently) Please either give me a list with prices, or websites with descriptions. I rate 5's! Thanks so much (link)
If you're going to buy a hair straightner I suggest you buy a ceramic hair straightener rather than metal. They range anywhere from $10-$200+

You can get your hair permanently straightened at any beauty salon and costs around $60

Any of these will work really well
http://www.folica.com/Ceramic_Fl_214_1.html

http://trueceramicpro.com/

These are also pretty good (especially the Chi straightner at the bottom))
http://www.folica.com/appliances/straightener.htm

You can get some cheap hair straightners but I think the $40+ are worth the money. Mine is $40 (on sale-- it's real worth was $150) If you buy a cheap one they usually short out and don't last long and make your hair smell burnt... Look around for some deals, straighteners go on sale a lot and usually you can find some expensive straighteners really cheap if you find some good deals... If you have a sally's in your area, look there.

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When you do straighten your hair, ake little sections of hair and start at the root and slowly slide the straightener down the section of hair. Then keep doing that until it's all straight. To get closer to the root of your hair, get a smaller size straightener. I have a 1 inch and it works really well. A bigger straightener will work faster but can't get your roots as good.

Hope this helps


have you hugged an emo kid today? (link)
lol


about for how long do henna tattoo's stay on for ? anything besides not taking a shower that mite make them stay on longer ? thnx mucho (link)
Mine usually last about 3 to 4 weeks. They'll stay longer if you keep sun screen OFF of it. Sun screen makes it fade. Also, chlorine from the pool will make it fade. Putting regular lotion on the tattoo can help it stay on longer.


first of all i rate high. also i no i always ask the same question but i never get a good enough answer. no makeup suggustions please. ok so the thing is that i have a big nose brown eyes a long face light brown hair a tan and a really really small upper lip. i always keep my hair down. but my question is how do i make my lip look bigger nose smaller hair better face prettier. thanx and i rate HIGH (link)
About your lips, you could try using a light colored lip liner with light colored lip gloss or lipstick that's the same color. Dark colors will make your lips look smaller so stick with light colors. You can also buy lip pluming lip gloss. It's usually anywhere from $10-100+ I use lip venom and it works really well. Mine is around $20 when ordered online. ABout your nose, I don't know any make up tips for that but do you wear contacts? If you do, you could try glasses. Wearing glasses makes your nose look smaller. Just make sure you get glasses that look good with your face shape. The people working there can help you. About your hair, you can try putting highlights in it or get it cut a different way or layered or something. If your hair is curly you can buy a straightner and I suggest getting Aussie's take the heat spray it holds your hair when you staighten it and helps prevent heat damaging you hair. Or if You already have straight hair you can get Kenra thermal styling spray and when you get out of the shower spray some in your hair then use a hair dryer set on low/hot or low/warm and scrung your hair while you dry it. Don't brush it while you'r drying it.... I hope this helps.


I'm 13 yrs. old....I've never made out with any one.....Well lets cut to the chase I've never had a boyfriend at all....I've had alot of crushes but never an actual boyfriend....is that good or bad? (link)
Well, it's not a bad thing. You're only 13, don't worry, you'll get a boyfriend soon. Don't worry about it, a lot of girls that are even older than you haven't had a boyfriend, it's not a bad thing.


i have had A TON of bad experiences with gys/men so i dont want to date and DEFINETLY DONT want to marry men are just so.............. disturbing and i want to change how i feel but i cant anyone know how i can change my reaction to gys??i rate sky hi


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You should try just becoming friends with some guys. It's true that a lot of guys are jerks, but if you take the time to actually get to know them a lot of them are really sweet. If you're hanging out with guys that are around your age they might be jerks because they are immature. It's a fact that girls generally mature faster than guys. Try talking to guys a year or two older than you. After you get to be pretty good friends with some good guys you'll change how you think of guys. ...I hope this helped.




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