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Hi, so i'm a bit stuck. I lost my virginity a few weeks before I was 16 (which i'm quite proud of considering the reputation of my school and friends). I was at sgegness and I met a boy through a friend I have there. We clicked straight away it wasn't love at first sight or anything. I had only known him a few days and we weren't technically together but I had sex with him anyway. The next day he asked me out although we knew we lived too far apart and I didn't want anything serious. But I said yes and we had sex again that night because it was my last night. I left and we kept in touch but we lost contact. I definately don't regret it. But I never loved him and everyone says that your supposed to love the person you lose your v to. Am I wierd for not loving him? will rate all answers :)

This is not weird... It's actually very common. I will admit that I didn't love the boy I lost my virginity to. It's hard to control yourself in the heat of the moment. You just get so wrapped up in the sexual tension. It's good that you don't regret it, because regret does no good. Like I said, it's not weird that you didn't love him. On the other hand, that doesn't mean you should have sex with a lot of people. Always remember to use protection and make sure you trust them.
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Me & my boyfriend have been going out for a while and all we have done is kissed...i want to move further and so does he..but i'm nervous about tossing him off, thats the only thing i'm scared about ... do i like get on my knees? or do i stand or what?
help me please?

loveeess xx

I agree with the person that answered before me. Ask him what he likes, but also keep your own comfort in mind. After that, just go with the flow. Ask him to let you know what he likes and doesn't like. If you two are close and comfortable with eachother, everything should be fine.
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well for myspace, i want a cute christmas song, but not one of the ones you generally hear like All I want for Christmas is You by mariah carey. is there any songs for christmas that anyone knows that are sung by well known arists like chris brown (this christmas) or are just really great or funny songs? please let me know ; thank you. =)

There are the all-time favorites "I Want A Hippopotimus For Christmas," "All I want For Christmas Is My Two Front Teeth," and "I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Clause" if you are looking for something more cute and funny. I know that Jessica Simpson has some Christmas music, and I also know that Marilyn Monroe has a version of "Santa Baby."
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Hi,I'm 15, male and very shy. I like this girl in my class and I think she likes me back because i caught her staring at me serveral times and i some time stare back at her but I'm still not convinced that she likes me to ask her. what should I do?

Just strike up a casual conversation with her at lunch or outside of school. Don't be in a rush to know if she likes you... Give some time to get to know eachother a little better. Once you have talked some more, it'll be easier to talk about a relationship.
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My best friend went out with this boy (ryan) for about 7 months and she broke up with him because they kept having arguements. She's been out with two guys since. And she is still going out with one of them. Who she claims she's in love with. Two weeks ago ryan and i started talking, just talking nothing special, then we talked more and we were getting to know eachother better. We met up and i decided i really like him...but then the other day my friend turned round to me and said she still liked him and was jealous...but she has this other boy...i don't want to go out with him because it would be mean...but at the same time i really do!!
advice anyone?

Your friend (no offense) sounds kind of selfish. She should learn the old saying "You can't have your cake and eat it too." I know you want to spare your friends feelings, but you are both young and should be trying new things. I am sure if she is a good friend she will understand, especially since she has this new boyfriend.
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im 19 years old female...
over winter break when im home from college, i want to volunteer at the hospital. i was thinking about just bringing people good things for the holidays and making them happy. maybe the elderly patients and children. my question is..how do i go about doing this? do i just call and ask about volunteering? or is there something that this is called?
any info would be great!

You just ask about a volunteering program. I am sure hospitals would really appreciate this, especially during the Holiay Season! I think it is very thoughtful and I am certain that the patients will get great joy.
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wat cani do to make our relationship have the love in it again i am 20 a female and have one 6 month old child.

Plan a night out for just the two of you. Dinner and a quiet night at home by yourselves. Do this as a surprise. Find a babysitter (such as gramma or anyone close that you trust with your child) and plan everything ahead of time.
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i've been dating this guy for a year. one thing that always gets to me is the way he eats, and i don't mean noisy chewing.
often he'll do things like skipping dinner only to snack on chips and stuff late at night, barely eat any fruits & veggies, buy a hamburger and fries at the school cafeteria whenever he eats there, etc. the other night, for example, he skipped dinner, then made chicken wings and leftover pork at 10:30.
i guess a lot of this stuff is normal teenage habits. i myself don't always eat well, and i know it's tempting to eat junk when you have access to it. but watching him upsets me because he'll get stomach pains and things like that, but won't change his ways. then i'll be like 'you know you shouldn't do that' or 'try bringing a sandwich instead of buying a hotdog', but i feel like i'm nagging, and i know it can make him feel like i'm putting him down.
what's a good way to deal with this? i know it's his issue and he has to be the one to motivate himself to stop bingeing on chocolate milk or whatever, but i'm someone who says what they think and doesn't like to stand by and watch people eat their body weight in doritos.

I have really good eating habits, but my boyfriend always nags at me because he says I don't get enough exercise. I am pregnant, and I don't think he understands that exercising is not as easy when you're carrying a baby. Anyway, I walk the track and occasionally run to make him happy. It does sometimes hurt my feelings, though, so try to be as nice about telling him as you can. Make sure he understands that you're ultimately worried about his health, because he may take it to offense that you don't like the way he looks.
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Hi All,

This is the low down, I have a boyfriend we have been going out for approx. 2 months it's been quite rocky as we both approach relationships differently but recently he seems to be really getting on my nerves to the point where I can't even controll my anger. He recently got a car which he said he needed badly to get to work and back and I was all for it I was supportive throughout the process. But now it's become more then Just a car for going to work and back now every week-end or randomly during the week he goes out with his brothers and friends and comes back late at night and during that period he won't even text me to say his safe and missing me. He even tells me little white lies about where he's going with his friends I have no problem with him going out because I trust him. But I've taken the backseat in this relationship because of his car. He gets very annoyed or angry when I tell him about his faults and he just replies ''ok'' to everything. I just feel neglected and I just feel his not romantic enough he doesn't even take me on dates nor do small things for me to show he cares. Nor makes time for me anymore.

If there's anyone out there who could please give me some advice on how I should handle this situation with him beacause he has an attitude when it comes to problem solving.

Thank-you all for your time..

The key to a good relationship is communication. The only thing you can really do it talk to him about this. Let him know how you are feeling, and if you are really serious about eachother, you'll work it out. Maybe it's best to move on; you never know till you talk it out.
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Okay, so I'm 15/f
I have a feeling that this guy I like is going to ask me out, mainly because everyone's been saying he likes me and he keeps on asking to be alone with him for a few minutes sometime this upcoming week. I know, I shouldn't get my hopes up because I can get disappointed majorly. But to be prepared:

What are some good ways to say "yes" to him if he asks me out nonchalantly. Not excited/naive sounding but at the same time not "I'm not interested but I'll go out with you out of pity" sounding. Help!

Give him a hug! You don't want to just stand there and be like "Yes," because that will create an awkward feeling afterwards. If you hug him and say yes, it will ease the mood. This is ultimately what you want to do, becuase he will probably be nervous.
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I'm going to a formal and I'm getting my hair done but I'm not sure what I want. A lot of sites I see are outdated, so does anyone have any pictures of formal hairstyles that are a bit more modern? I like big curls, half up and half down, or some updo's. My dress is a halter if that helps.

If you go to this link, I have uploaded pictures of my hairstyle from homecoming formal last year.

(Sorry I forgot it the first time!!)

http://i2.tinypic.com/80zvoub.jpg

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What are some ideas that me and my friends can do for a "spa night" ... like so far we're doing facials and nails... what are some other ideas ? thanks!

Pedicures! And like hair stuff... Braiding eachother's hair. And you could give eachother make overs with fun makeup and whatnot.
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Hi :]

my boyfriends birthday is coming up on the 16th and i wanted to do something really special. this year we had a really bad homecoming, i was in a really bad mood etc, at one point i told him his tie was really ugly ( a lie) but he got upset bc he really liked it and he ended up returning it well the whole night sucked. so for his birthday i went out and bought the tie and im going to give it to him with a note saying meet me here at this time like a restaurant and have him dress up and wear the tie and ill get all dressed up and go out to eat. then i want to drive him somewhere and pull over but i dunno where to go. and have a playlist set up and roll all the windows down on my truck and have our own little homecoming. but i dunno where to go and some basics to make it cute not cheesey please help :]Thanks.
ps i live in houston,tx

I think the person below me had a fantastic idea with getting his friends involved. Your plan is pretty much perfect, and I think it is really sweet. I don't live near Houston so I don't know what to tell you about where to go, but if there is a lake anywhere near, that would be an ice spot.
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...and I have lost long ago....

This is probably a random (and obvious) question...
I guess I'm mainly looking for feedback.

I am a snooze-junky. I press the snooze button, sometimes several times each morning, and lie in bed in a daze (often snoozing away), until the alarm rings again (in which case, I am likely to press snooze again). I don't know what to do to discipline myself. I set my alarm (cell phone) on a high volume, with the most annoying ring tone known to man, and all I do is hit snooze, fall back asleep, hit snooze again...and finally wake up when I absolutely HAVE to (as in, I have to rush to get ready & out the door).

This has been going on for a long time. I always tell myself that the next day will be different; that I will get up the FIRST time that my alarm goes off, and not the fifth. As you can tell, I am not an early bird, so I just make excuses and fall back asleep. I would say that this rates among my worst habits.

For anyone who does the same (or has at some point in the past), what do you do to just get out of bed and ditch the habit of pressing snooze? Any feedback or tips on getting up at the alarm?
Thanks!!

You can always go to bed earlier. Another thing you could do is place your alarm clock somewhere in the room that you will still hear it but have to get up to turn off. Before you turn it off, go ahead and turn the light on so that you'll be more awake. Try to avoid lying back down on the bed after you've already gotten up.
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Hi, I live in Toronto and I AM soo desperate for a job. I have a lot of retail experience but my job is not giving me enough hours. I am currently applying to bank jobs because i have experince but no luck yet. Do you know of any good sites (besites monstre and eluta) I think it would cool to work in a reatil customer service building but do not know how to apply. Can you help with any ideas of where I can apply to PLEASE.

I am currently looking for a job too. My teacher acutally suggested to me the other day that banks are a good place to apply to for bookkeeping and such. These places especially need help during the Holiday Season. I don't really know of any sites, but you could try searching it.

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Check your local paper regularly for Help Wanted Ads. Other places that may need a receptionist are car dealerships, insurance companies, etc.
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I was reading a magazine article (about breasts, etc) And is it normal to have a nipple, and your other boob it's like inverted I guess it's called? Like not.."popped" out? I don't get it..

Yes, inverted nipple are normal. Some do correct themselves over time, like the person below me said. Try searching the topic to get more information.

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i have always been questioning whether the guy i like likes me back... but now i might think he actually likes me. for example, the other day another guy made me cry, so i just casually told the guy i like about the situation when he asked me how my day was going, well he ended up getting really mad and he went up to the guy and told him off... and he kept telling me he was sorry that the guy said those things to me and that if he ever said anything mean to me again to tell him... and he has randomely been texting me late at night asking me what's up, just out of the blue? lol. he also told me about his "girl problems" and he was tellng me about this one girl he liked, but he wouldn't tell me who, which is weird because he tells me everything else... and i said that she was stupid for not liking him and when i said that he hurry and said "yeah but i'm done with her now!" and i think it's also hard for me to see if he likes me because i am not showing him that i like him very well, even though i think i am. anyways, i guess my question is do you think he likes me?/ how can i show that i like him/ and what can i do to get things moving faster, or do you think if he likes me enough i should wait for him to come to me?
thank you! :)

From the things you've said, I think he is interested. Just talk to him and don't beat around the bush. Let him know you may have feelings for him. He'd probably appreciate your honesty... Especially if he likes you too. After that, things will steadily move at their own pace. I wouldn't suggest rushing things too much.
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I bought Certain Dri yesterday and I applied it before bed like it said to do in the directions. It itched a little bit but I thought that was because I had just shaved. But tonight I did the same thing but I shaved hours before applying. And it itched like crazyyy and it huurt. So I took it off and it still kinda hurts. Should I stop using it or is it supposed to do that?

You could be allergic to it, but I have used Certain Dri for a long time and this has happened to me before also. After shaving or even just washing, you are supposed to wait for more than a couple of hours. Try applying it one night when you don't shave and see if the problem persists. If it does, you should see a doctor and they can probably give you an alternative product.
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Me and my boyfriend have a good past together.


well, he moved and now he said it feels like we're not together.
it doesn't feel the same like it use to, since he's so busy now.


how do i make this work?
i can't lose him, i can't.


i love this guy so much..and it hurts to hear that, and i just hafe to try to fix this.
help me please..

As much as it hurts to hear, I would never try a long distance relationship. On the other hand, a good friend of mine recently moved to Georgia and her boyfriend is here in Texas. They still have a wonderful relationship, so yes there is hope. All you can really do is talk to him and let him know how you feel. See what he wants to do and ask him to try and stick it out. Good luck.
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So I'm having some period problems...

14/f/been on my period for three years

The last time I got my period was around November 3. I've been spotting for the past two weeks, but it comes and goes and I haven't gotten my period yet. Today I spotted just a little bit, but the blood was like a stark red rather than a darker red which I've never experienced before. I've never really been irregular, which is the only reason I' stressing right now. I've been experiencing some stomach pains and extreme breast soreness. I know that these are symptoms of PMS, but I've never had PMS like this before.

Also, I'm one hundred percent not pregnant.

I know that this is the typical, 'I'm late on my period, oh my god what do I do' type of question, but I really am kind of worried. Any advice or tips or guidance is welcomes.

These is most likely just an irregular period becuase you are so young. Like the girl below me said, if you are really worried, Google the symptoms of PolyCystic Ovarian Syndrome. You can do that here:

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If the problem persists, talk to your mother or other guardian. They will know what to do and probably take you to a doctor.
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