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Q: ive been with my bf for 7 months and i love him a lot and were having a problem sexually his penis
is well its on the small side i told him it doesn't matter when we have sex i can hardly feel him and it dosent last that long couple of more times we tried and i cant feel him im not sure what to do i havent said anything i dont want to hurt him i love him a lot so how can i handle this problem without hurting his feelings?

well it sounds to me like he already knows his penis is on the smaller side because you told him it doesnt matter. well there isn't much you can do that wont hurt his feelings because guys take pride in their you-know-whats. um i would just tell him straight up whats going on. tell him you love him a lot and you two can work out something. you could try male enhancement which is a pill or sometimes a cream. im not sure what else to tell you; sorry.

p.s. maybe use sex toys too spice it up. it might help.

Q: ok my friend likes these 2 guys can she CANT pick who to choose so would u please help me. 1 man is evan- whos 2 years younger, hes a cutie and he asked her out twice and she denined him and wishes she didnt and ever since then she loved him for like a year but hes in florida now but hes coming back in middle of july. the only thing is she hasnt seen him in a year and she doesnt kno if he likes her. ok next guy is kevin- who just met her and hes in LOVE with her and obsessed. he cares about her alot and hes a year older. hes a cutie and they just started hanging out. shes torn between both of them and i doesnt know what to do. please help! any advice!? ill love you forever

i'd pick kevin, hes older and he digs her so she wont have to worry about whether the guy likes her.

hope i helped =]

Q: ok so like you how people have the underlayer of their hair dyed? like a lot of blondes dye it dark underneath or things like that. can anyone find me a really good picture like that? i tried google but it didnt give me much. im going to get mine redone like that on tuesday and would like a picture. the first [and only] time ive dyed my hair i loved it but you couldnt really see it unless i moved my head around to expose it, and this time i want it to show through more. thanks!

ok well im not sure EXACTLY what your looking for but this picture of my friend seemed to fit your description:

http://i115.photobucket.com/albums/n293/reunitedgraphics/kayleigh.jpg

Q: Does marc anthony's instant straightning cream work? if so will it work on thick frizzy wavy hair? thanks in advance

It didn't work for me.
hah.
yeah thats basically all i can tell you. i have the same hair type as you and it didnt work at ALL.
dont buy its a waste of money.
i mean i guess you could try it out if you wanted, its your choice.

hope i helped!

you could try using straightening shampoo, conditioner, and sprays, and creams but you will need the assistance of a blow drier or falt iron.

Q: my hair is really thick so if i tell them to thin my hair will it actually make it a lot thinner? advice please. thnx

well you will still have hair haha but yes it will feel and look thinner. I had bushy thick brown hair and i got it thinned out. It made a huge differnce. Sure, it got kind of frizzy but i put an anti-frizz spray on and that problem was gone. i definitely suggest you use the thinning method.

good luck!

Q: When does puberty end for a male?

the average age is about 19.
some are earlier, some are later. but i think it ends completely by age 21.

hope i helped =]

Q: do you think Spartan Yes Monkey Complete Skateboard is good for 15/f and weigh 109?
i just need a cheap skateboard and im a starter what do you guys think?

this is the
board:
http://www.sportsauthority.com/sm-spartan-yes-monkey-complete-skateboard--pi-2429276.html

thank you =]

well if your just doing it for fun then yeah thats a good skateboard. But you wont get much life out of it. I definitely think you should start out with that to see if you like skateboarding. After using that for a while you should invest in a board by Zero, Element, or other good skating companies.

**do not try to do any intense tricks with that board, either the board will snap or you will get hurt, or both**

good luck!

Q: I want to be the type of girl that shops for designer stuff like Coach, Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Channel, etc. I want to be able to do stuff like that but my parents aren't rich and im definitely not a spoiled brat. How can i do that... like i'm only 15 ill be 16 in feb. what kind of jobs can i get to be able to afford that?

i used to be that kind of girl. i had all the latest designer things, but i learned that when you get caught up in all of that its hard to stop. you spend all of your money while fashion is constantly changing. If you REALLLYYYY and i mean REALLY have to have all of that designer stuff, you could get a job at like a grocery store or a store like abercrombie or hollister and places like that. they arent really great paying jobs but if you save up, you can afford it.

also marshalls has designer bags and clothing and shoes for way cheaper and i dont know if its real but they sure look it. i got dolce and gabbana sunglasses and a coach purse for a total of 150 dollars which is a wicked good deal.

good luck!

Q: I want to go to school for cosmetology not this august but next august. I want to become really good at make up before I start school how can i get better at it not only for the experience but to better how i look?

Experiment and practice. that is key. Try out new things on yourself and ask people what looks best on you. Try your best to bring out your features. Once you come up with a look that suits you, practice it! Practice until you can apply the makeup in your sleep. Try doing makeup on your friends and family.

good luck!
hope i helped =]

Q: is there any way to get birth control without a parent?

please don't judge me.. I don't have a close relationship with my father whatsoever and my mother passed away.
i'm 17 f.

sorry about your mother =[
i dont think anyone on here will judge you but i might be wrong.
planned parenthood will give you birth control and they are required by law no to tell anyone including your father.

hope i helped =]

Q: can you get moody when you have your discharge on?

yep.
it's most likely PMS and almost every girl gets moody during PMS.

hope i helped =]

Q: if you watched porn on the internet is there any way that the government can find out that you actually aren't 18? i'm worried im going to get caught or something.

no =]
you dont have anything to worry about.
you wont get caught unless it's by your parents or something.

Q: do guys perfer it all shaved or what?
or just a little shaved
tips would be great
and i have tried shaving but i got all itchy

it depends on the guy, whatever you feel comfortable with. Most guys though like it shaved. and to not get those itchy bumps you can shave with conditioner it really helps.

i hope i helped =]

Q: How can I get my hair like Ashley Tisdale has in this picture?

http://srtking.tripod.com/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderpictures/.pond/pat473.jpg.w300h451.jpg

okay make sure your hair is straight, then curl your hair with TIGHT curls anywhere you want. then gently straighten on time over the curls and then flip your hair over and blow dry and then flip your hair back over and you will have perfect waves =]

top it off with a glosser like shine shock by john frieda.

Q: so recently i bought an abercrombie kids guys polo, destroyed. The collar is not hard like the other normal polos and the button area is very flat. it doesnt have the right feel or fit to it. the collar is really messed up. also i have a none destroyed polo which is also the same. I bought these over the internet which is why i couldnt see them. Any ideas to stiffen the collar or fix it? i cant return it

well at any fabric store for about 2 bucks you can get this stiffening spray it works in 5 minutes and you just spray it on the collar and it will stiffen it.

good luck =]

Q: Hey does any body have any ideas on how to loose a lot of weight in a short amount of time??

here are some tips that work:

for 3 days drink nothing but vegetable juice and raw vegetables and drink a TON of water. only do this for 3 days. it will cleanse your body your liver and your kidneys and you will lose weight.

also drink a lot of green tea it will help you lose the weight.

Also to avoid overeating, drink a glass of water before each meal and eat breakfast to fill you up in the morning.

make some lifestyle changes such as walking up the stairs instead of the elevator and walking around the mall with heavy bags lol it works!

good luck =]

Q: hey, i wuz just wondering if there are any sites for different masturbation tequnices. thx

well my friend is always going on clitical.org i never actually looked at it but i heard it was good.

hope i helped =]

Q: Okay, so I have an interview tomorrow at Carrabbas Italian Bar & Grill, to be a hostess. And I am EXTREMELY nervous! Has anyone ever been to an interview similar to this one!? What will they ask me? What qualities of myself should I stress? I am so nervous it's ridiculous lol... Also, I'm 16, female, and this is my first job! I'm a very fun, bubbly, energetic person, and I'm always really happy. As I said, this is my first job excep one night I washed dishes at a restaurant with a friend because her friend who was supposed to work with her couldn't... but other than that, nothing! Oh, and how should I dress??? My parents are telling me to dress professional, but I don't wanna come off as a hardass! Like I have this outfit I wore for my grad project (yeah my school does it sophomore year) it's this nice shirt, tan dressy pants that are baggyish- very office/vogue lol and heels... but I think it's too much. I was just gonna wear that nice top, a denim skirt, and flip flops, because I don't wanna show up looking like someone I'm not, because then I'll seem fake and plus, I know I'll be wayyy more comfortable in the interview wearing clothes that I usually wear. Would nice jeans be acceptable!? Ahhhh I'm bugging out. Any help would be greatly appreciated!!! Thank You soooo muchhh!!!! ♥

if you want to be a hostess you need to be good with people and you seem like a type of person who is. Definitely don't wear jeans and flip flops to an interview it will seem like you aren't serious about your job. they will probably ask you things like why you should have the job what experience do you have etc. just relax and be yourself. Be super polite to the interviewer and smile a lot. and just remember, the worst thing that could happen is that you don't get the job so don't sweat it! good luck and remember to use big words when they ask you questions =P im serious it works!

Q: k so i have thiss..
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/category1_10251_10201_12607_-1_12552

if you look where it says, tanks/camis or whateer, and it shows that girl, with the cami on, well i have that [they dont have it on the site anymore, because i got it awhile ago.] but its basically what that girl is wearing in the photo. but the only problem is, i dont know what to wear under it. like i try tank tops, and ehh i just didnt like it. i saw this one girl wearing a tshirt, but like it dipped down, and it looked perfect, like i actually thought it came like that with the shirt underneath. [sp?] anyways, mines baise. or light brown. so what can i wear underneath it? or what did you do if you have it?

thats a cute top!
well you could wear it as like a baithing suit cover up to like the beach or you could wear a plain white shirt underneath because thats IN right now. scoop neck tees would look great!

good luck =]

Q: hey, how do you start modeling? do you have to pay money to do it?

i'm 14, five feet and 100 pounds. can i do it?

let me know how i can get started.

you can send in your pictures to magazines like cosmogirl, seventeen, teenvogue and stuff life that. the girl below was right with what she said. um you are pretty short so you might have to try really hard for a modelling agency to consider you. start small and then work your way up. For high fashion modeling you have to be 15 for most places but some take 14 year olds. just do some research some places ask for money and some dont.

sorry this isnt very specific but i think if you feel beautiful you look beautiful so go for it and dont give up!

heres the link if you want to model for seventeen magazine:

http://www.seventeen.com/contribute/magazine/be-in-the-mag/be-in-fashion/be-a-seventeen-model
good luck!