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Q: Ok.
I started going out with my current boyfriend last december.
I like him a lot, but have lots of doubts (that's probably me and not him though).
I kissed my best friend, just the once when i was sleeping over hers.
Then again, when i slept over again.
Then we made out on a pile of kayaks. On the same night we made out on her floor while all our other friends were in the next room.
Needless to say I am lacking a backbone right now in terms of telling my boyfriend anything.
What the hell do I do? I let myself get into this situation. On a couple of the times I kissed my friend we'd had a LITTLE to drink, but nothing that would affect my rational thinking, I knew what I was doing, and I know I'm in the wrong.
We only live once. What he doesn't know can't hurt him. Right?
Or not?
Any viewpoints or advise or whatever would be lovely. I just think I needed to get a little off my chest.
So yeah, thanks and whatever (:
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I think u should just explain to him that you DO only live once and (im guessing) your young and your just experimenting. I mean I'm assuming your not looking to leave your boyfriend for her and I don't really think he has anything to worry about because from what I think your saying its a girl. Just be honest with him and hope that he'll understand. I mean it's better then you doing it with a guy, it's just stuff people do sometimes (not all, but some) If your really truly happy with him then I would just suggest telling him just to communicate and be honest. If you try to not make a big deal out of it to him and if you comfort him and say things to make him feel better he prob won't take it so bad either? I don't know very many guys that mind when girls make out... Haha maybe the only reason he'd be upset is he couldn't watch (just kidding, just kidding. =]) But seriously just talk to him. =) Everything'll be cool I'm sure. =) Good luck! And I hope he understands if you do decide to talk to him. =)
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Q: ok I'm really good friends with this girl and she went out with this guy for a year and like 2 weeks ago they broke up but I didn't find out until yesterday my friends say it just happened well I've liked her for a while and I want to take our friendship to the next level she's showed feelings towards me before they broke up but how long should I wait to start 'talking'
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If she dated the guy for a year you need to give her more time...
I think if you hang out with her a lot and talk to her a lot you yourself will see when the time is right because once she's ready to be in another relationship she'll change. I can't really give you a time frame though because every girl is different and it depends on the situation.
Right now I'm sure she's pretty bummed though and it's still all kind of fresh, unless she bounces back quicker than most but, it usually will take a girl a little bit...
I know for any friends I've ever had and even my own experience people would always say that right after it happened I was bummed and needed time to recover from it and when I was ready to date again that bummed kind of feeling didn't show anymore...
It's not extremely noticable I think but, if you know her well enough then I think you'll see it...
Just be there for her right now don't think about your feelings for her, really care about what she's going through at the moment before you move in on her like that. =)
Good luck though when she is ready and I hope this helps a little. =)
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Q: 15/m
I'm about to go into my sophomore year in highschool (in 2 days) and I'm 15 years old. I haven't ever had a girlfriend in my life. People call me pathetic and I get made fun of and taunted because of it. I used to be picked on a lot and such by people. I recently got into Martial Arts classes and I'm joining a JROTC program (an army reserve program) to help out with my leadership abilities some. There's this girl names Rachael who's one of my best friends. She's also in JROTC and is similar to me in almost every way. The reason I haven't been with anyone is because I haven't found anyone willing to hold a relationship nor have I found someone into everything I am....I've never felt this way about anyone, and I think I love her. We've been friends since Freshman year and I really like her....but I don't have any clue as to what to do about it. I'm not shy or anything, but I just don't want my heart broken.
Advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
Brandon
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Well, you really shouldn't worry about what people think. I was home school until college and so I know what it's like to not have a whole ton of relationships and to see other people having them. You have plenty of time, ignore them. =)
It's great that you seem so sweet and to have such strong feelings for this girl, and I would suggest telling her how you feel, if you've known her a long time and talk a lot. But, be careful... You are young and it's not very common that your going to spend the rest of you life with the first girlfriend you have. I'm not trying sound all "mom-ish" on you I just don't want you to be fooled either. That's what giving advice is about sometimes. =)
Having your heart broken is a part of life though, and you have to understand that. But don't be afraid to live life (not saying that you are I'm just putting this out there)...
Now, I'm not saying it can't happen. There have been people out there that have married and stayed with their high school sweethearts and have married and stayed with the first person they were ever with... It's just not very common.
Talk to her about your feelings and see where things go, enjoy every moment of everything that happens, good and bad. And if things for whatever reason don't work out (even though I hope they do.) Be okay with that and allow yourself to feel whatever your going to feel until you meet someone else just as cool or even better then this girl. =)
Good luck!! And I hope this helped a little. Sorry if it wasn't what you asked. =)
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Q: I apologize if this is in the wrong category first off.
Ok so...
I'm fifteen (female) and I guess you could just say that I'm worried. I'm worried about the future. I already know what I want as a career...or at least I did. But then I got to thinking how that's it. That's what I'll do for the rest of my life. Like, I can't just keep going back and starting over with a new career twenty or thirty times. I only have one lifetime. Then that's it. I mean, what happens after school? That's all I've ever known and I'm scared about how my life's going to turn out. Nobody can tell me what I should do with my life, it's all up to me. And that scares me. What if I make a wrong decision?
There's just so many different things that interest me, but I know that I can't just keep all of them for the rest of my life. As a career I mean. For instance, I have a passion for music, but don't think I have what it takes to pursue that as a career. But, I don't want to give it up completely. I fear that once my life gets started, I won't be able to play music as much. I look at my mom, and how she used to love painting. But after she had kids and got caught up with work and stuff, she doesn't paint anymore.
I'm just concerned at how my life might turn out. I'm worried that I'll look back in thirty or forty years and wonder why I wasted half my life away. =\
And I know that I don't have to pick my career right now because I'm only fifteen, but really...college is three short years away (I'm an upcoming sophomore). I'm just scared.
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I know how scary it can be to think of all that because I've been there. After I graduated high school I was so scared, I didn't want to think of life ahead and how much there was to do and all of the choices I had to make.
But I promise you, it'll be okay...
I know you wish you had answers and I know when you think about things like that you feel like time is just flying by, but trust me when I tell you that the best thing you can do is, take a step back, take a deep breath, and relax. Life is going to happen on it's own and all of those things are honestly out of your control, no matter which way you spin it. You have the choice to make sure you go to college and do your work and take it seriously to have a good life, but no one knows where they are going to end up in 3-5 years even if they have an idea...
Three years may seem short, but instead of worring about them you should just enjoy them, don't think about what's going to happen later, now. Because then I do think you will look back on your life and think you wasted half your life away.
You are young so you DO have plenty of time.
Honestly, even when people get into college they change thier majors ALL the time. I've changed mine twice now. That's the good thing about it. Your allowed to change your mind and try new things out so that you CAN find out what your very passionate about that you WON'T mind spending the rest of your life doing...
Just because school is nearing an end whether it be high school or college, doesn't mean your life is over and you need to know what your going to be doing everyday for the rest of your life.
Live day by day and do that best you can, don't worry because whether you worry or not things will still happen. You seem to care about your future so I don't think you'll be messing it up in any way any time soon. Enjoy being in high school now, and when you get to college enjoy that too. You'll prob go through a few jobs like most teenagers do before you find one you love, and that's okay.
I know keep saying it but just relax, your going to be fine, I promise. I literaly went through the same thing and I worried way to much and I wish I hadn't because everything is alright, and I'm living life day by day with dreams of what I'd like to do and the directions I'd like to go but, if things change then, they change, and I'll worry about it when it happens and cross that bridge if and when the time comes.
If music is something you like, try getting more involved or looking at majors that have to do with music so that you know when you hit college they'd be some things you'd like to try, and try some other hobbies you have too. If you don't like them, change them. There is nothing set and stone and no rule that says once you make once choice your stuck with it for the rest of your life... If there were a rule like that, I've broken it a few times already. (haha) =)
Making bad choices are a part of growing up and learning. If you never make a mistake, how are you supposed to learn on your own? I'm proud of every mistake I've made because it's brought me where I am today. If you make a wrong decision its okay. You'll have learned something and can grow from it. Even if you think you can mess up your whole future now, you can't. Unless you really do silly things like serious drugs or getting pregnant, now those WILL change your future, but not knowing what you want to do with the rest of your life right now won't. I think if you don't think about it as much and you just enjoy your time in high school, you'll figure it out...
Also, try not to think of the rest of your life as over. Think positivley about things like the future and not so much a huge commitment. You do only have one life time but you can change your mind as many times as you want whether you think you can or not. Becuase my parents and family told me the same thing I'm telling you. It all seems scary because every new beginning does. =)
Good luck and I hope I could at least help a little. =)
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Q: I first started feeling weird sensations just 3-4 days after having sex. It started out as a very sharp pain in my lower back (it felt like period cramps, however it wasn't my period), and that lasted a few days. Then I started feeling like I was going to puke, and that happens at various times of the day. And I also start to feel nauseous while driving in the car. The smell of food just makes me sick.
It isn't time for me to get my period yet, so I can't predict it by that.
Answer seriously, and I'll rate 5's
`thanks
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Honestly if you weren't using any good protection there is always a chance and unfortenatly the only way to know is to take a preg. test or to go to a doctor to find out...
I'm not exactly sure how long you have to wait to find out from either one though I'm sorry to say, but you can always go to a walk in clinic, they are free and you don't need a parent, they are meant for things like this so if you can find one that's what I'd do/did...
It could also be that your scared/paraniod that your getting all of these feelings?
I'm not trying to be mean I'm just suggesting it only because the same thing happened to me.
I was so stressed out that I did actually miss my period, but i wasn't pregnant. Because when your body goes through all of that, it does strange things.
But if your very sure that's not it then definitely seeing a doctor, because even if you aren't pregnant those are things you need to take care of... For me I just stressed myself out too much and had the begginning stages of the flu.
Good luck and I hope this helped at least a little.
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Q: So i was talking to this guy when he totally just ditched me and started talking to someone else..i couldnt believe it..i fell for his game and now i regret ever talking to him..how do i get over this guy? I feel like there was no closure with him..he just ditched me one day
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No need for regrets, it's a good learning experience. =)
That happens to every girl I think, and no matter how many times it happens or how much us girls know it's not our fault, it never seems to hurt any less.
I understand how you feel, and I know better than anyone how much closure feels important but, trust me when I say, he's just not worth it.
He's obviously a loser who doesn't know what he is missing out on and you deserve better then that.
I don't even know you but I can already tell your a great girl that doesn't need someone who's going to pass up the chance to be with her. Because every girl is.
I would suggest keeping your self busy.
It's never easy feeling rejected or feeling like things are left undone/unsaid.
What are some things you love to do? Do them! =)
Work out, dance, spend time with your family/friends, read a book/magazine, draw pictures listen to music, do ANYTHING other then allow yourself to think of this guy. And try to catch your self when you do.
When you realize your thinking about him and what happened between you two or what could have happen, immediately think of something else, like what your going to wear tomorrow or a cute outfit at the mall you've been dying to get and how you can get it...
It takes time at first for people to train their minds to not think of somebody, but honestly once you get into the habit, you'd be amazed at how little he'll cross your mind. People are only a part of our lives if you let them by thinking about them, and he'll only exist in your life if you let him. It's hard but trust me, it's so worth it! =)
And I would honestly suggest not talking to him about anything and not really talking to him at all actually only because of my experience I've found that it can make it worse sometimes, and even if he says he sorry he probably won't mean it if he already found another girl he obviously isn't very interested in making things right with you. Why waste your time on someone who isn't willing to spend their time on you?
Good luck!! =)
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Q: well, i would love to be with my ex, but i know its never going to happen. i miss him everyday but he doesnt want me anymore. we dated for almost 2 years and he broke up with me. he came back to me about 3 times telling me how he was sorry and hes just been confused. but about a month ago he broke up with me when he found out his mom was going to die soon.. and i tried really hard to get him back but he said he just doesnt like me anymore. and about a week later his mom died and since then he barely will talk to me. i told him how much i love him and how i wanted to be there for him but he told me to just leave him alone and move one.. im not sure if its just because of his mom or if he really just doesnt want me. its hard because hes done this 3 or more times saying the same things and then coming back to me.. so its very confusing but this time i dont think hes coming back beacuse normally he'll still give me a call once n awhile. im trying to move on but its so hard. what can i do to help with the pain. all ive been doing is going out drinking, meeting new people but everynight i go home and feel so empty. ive met a lot of new guys but i dont like any of them they're all just annoying. i just want my ex so bad, and i need to get over him but nothnig is working. hellpp
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Hey there, well, my opinion would be to try and let him go...
Guys tend to do that a lot to girls (girls do it too though) and for some reason or another, mostly because we care, we stick around and put up with it.
I think because it's been so off and on that it's not really a healthy relationship anymore.
I totally feel for your ex and agree that he needs someone because that has got to be one of the hardest things that a persn can go through. But, unfortently sweetie I don't think your the person he needs to make it better. I would take his advice, and move on (and I mean really move on, not take him back when he feels like it.)
What he is doing is not fair to you no matter how bad things are in his life.
I had a question before about how to stop thinking about a guy and move on/get over one and the person seemed to like it so maybe they will help you too?
One of the things I had to been able to do is keep my priorities straight and think about other things as much as I could.
If your laying in bed before you go to sleep, put some head phones on or watch tv for a little bit to distract yourself.
Or MAKE yourself think of something/someone else.
If you start to think of him right away think of like, what your going to wear the next day, what you've got to get done, how good your day was, what you'd like to improve, or even think of ALL the really good things going on in your life.
During the day time, keep your self busy.
I think the biggest thing is to never give yourself the time to think about him or the situation.
Even if you can't go anywhere; draw a picture, listen to music, clean your room, ANYTHING. Just keep your mind busy on other things and eventually it'll become natural and you hopefully won't think about him at all or when you do it won't be in a wanting him abck kind of way...
For me it took time in the beginning. I REALLY had to make sure that I didn't allow myself to continue to think about the guy and it really did work.
I would dance or work out or just do things to improve myself. Or I'd focus on the good, nice stuff I could do for all my friends and family so my mind was constantly going and thinking about positive things that I didn't have time to think about the guy whether my thoughts about him were good or bad.
Anyway, I just know how annoying that could be and those were the things that worked best for me, but not everyone can do that, so maybe someone else on here can give you better options. =)
But I hope this at least helped a little. Good luck!
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Q: Okay, so yesterday I went swimming at my boyfriends. We were in the pool for a while, and after so long my eyes started to burn really badly. We went to my house to watch a movie, and I just put soothing eye drops in, which really worked. That night, my arms, shoulders/back, neck, and scalp really started to itch. Like I barely slept they itched so bad. I guess his pool is starting to turn green, so they put this algae thing in it, but not too much chlorine. The next morning (this morning) I took a bath and felt a little better. Later, I took another one, then a super hot shower, which made me feel really good. After the shower for about two hours it wasn't nearly as bad, but it's starting to itch really bad again. Could I have had an allergic reaction to something? I guess they didn't put much chlorine in tho?
My skin isn't bumpy, but I've been scratching my skin so much, i start to get little red circles/spots on my skin, again not above my skin tho. It itches sooo bad and it's constant. What could have happened, and how do I make it go away?? I tried lotion, but I'm afraid it will make it worse or something.
Help!!! It itches so bad and I don't know what to do, it's driving me crazy! I'm afraid to go out tomorrow because it's embarrassing lol.
Thanks so much for any help lol
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I would go to a clinic, and if you can't pay go to a walk in one.
Unfortenatly I'm pretty sure no one on here could help you even if you are having a bad reaction to it.
A doctor will be able to tell you whether you need to soak in a bath/shower or if you need something special.
It SOUNDS like your having a reaction and if it's been going on for a couple of days I'm sure it is...
That's the only thing I can think of though is see a doctor to help with it.
Because also, if for any reason there were chemicals in his pool that can harm you like how it's irritating your skin, you may also need medication not just a cream or whatever.
So, the only person that would know best I think, personally, would be a doctor. Good luck!
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Q: Hi Krystal im almost 16 years old, and i have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. Hes always jealous, even when i hang out with my close girlfriends! Supposidly there was a rumor going around that he cheated on me with one of my best friends, he told me that she kissed him, and my ex bff said that this never happened, so i dnt know wut to believe! He sent me roses and cried for me to take him back. I did loose my virginity to him so its hard for me to let go. Im still young and since hes my first real bf its hard. He alwyas tells me that he loves me and if i have a problem he always helps me. I know hes a good person deep down but i just dont know if hes the right one for me. My mom and dad dislike him because of all the things that went on. But they obv dont know that i lost my virginity because that would be a differnt story. He deleted all the guys numbers out of my phone, begs for me to delete my myspace, ( i have no guy friends on there) im not aloud to talk to guys in school or go out with my friends, and if i do he has to complain about it. Hes nice to me untill something doesnt go his way, then he starts getting loud. He has NEVER hurt me in any way but i just feel that hes to controlling. I am still young and i dont know wut love is, but i do care about him and since hes older than me he tells me all the time i want to marry you and cute stuff like that. I go to all his family parties im close with his family, but i just need help becuase im so confused and who knows if hes cheating on me? i have no idea so can you please help me make a decision. Thanks so much!
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You may not like me after my answer but, here it goes...
I was in your EXACT situation when i was your age. I'm not trying to act like some wise woman, but since your asking advice, that's what I'm doing.
The situation I went through, that your sort of going through now is one of the main reasons I started giving advice on this site except, my story is much longer and horrible but had parts of what yours does so, I DO understand.
I don't know you, but I don't think any girl should go through even a little of what I went I through...
Just because he has never technically, physically hurt you doesn't mean much. He IS hurting you by what he's doing.
If he cheated on you with one of your best friends, (whether it was a rumor or not) that right there is a red flag... But, the same thing happened to me so I'm not one to judge on breaking things off just because of that.
He IS very controlling over you though. You had a life before him and you deserve to have a life while your with him too, other wise, he is just not worth it.
You are young, and I understand he was your first, but you deserve better than that.
I hate to say this but, even when parents don't know the whole situation, they still know when things aren't right sometimes...
I think the hardest thing for you is to let him go because he was your first. Why? Because I've been there. You have to trust me when I say that it is not the end of the world. Believe me, I swore up and down that it was though at the time...
He shouldn't be touching your phone and deleting your numbers. Tell him that's not cool and unnecessary. If he can have numbers of girls in his phone, you can have numbers of guys in yours. It's a two way street, whether he is older than you or not.
A lot of the time (I've noticed) from my situation and other peoples situations, that when I guy is very paranoid and controlling but yet acts all lovey to you at other times, there is something going on that he doesn't want you to know. ex: another girl(s)
I'm sure that everytime your about show him the door is mostly when he starts buttering you up and telling you he wants to marry you, OR he does it when he thinks your talking to another guy and also him loving you so much is his reason for being so jealous, or he'll just say it "out of the blue" which seems cute?
It's a game. This guy wants to have his cake and eat it too. He's not an idiot. He knows that your not going anywhere and he can get away with this stuff.
I can't tell you what to do and have you like it or take it, but I'm pretty sure that, that's the deal with him.
I'd like to tell you that I'd break up with him, but I didn't do that. I let things get worse and let him break up with me, which, I do NOT suggest. It may be hard for you, but I think you really should find someone else, someone better... If you don't break up with him, my advice would be to at least talk to him and tell him that his jealousy and being controlling needs to stop. Don't let him take over your life because if he ever breaks up with you, it's going to SEEM impossible to start over without him....
Anyway, hope I didn't upset you, but you wanted opinions.
I sincerely wish you the best of luck!!
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Q: people say i am not fat because i am really popular so they cant be mean to a popular person and i know i am fat and i need to lose weight but i cant as much as i try then i try to exersise but i am so lazy and i try not to eat fating food but i have a little brother and he eats alot of junk food so we have a lot and my moms a baker so she makes the greatest stuff i can help but eat all up and when i am not hungry i still eat i dont know why and i need to loose a lot of weight. what should i do?
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Okay, here is my opinion. Sorry, this won't be short. =)
Sadly, weight is something I think girls struggle with their whole lives. Unless they are lucky enough to have one of those high metabolisms where they can eat EVERYTHING and not gain a pound.
Eating is great, and I would never recommend anyone stop eating food or making yourself sick. Your body definitely needs the vitamins from food.
My suggest to anyone is not to think about it as losing weight. Think of it as being healthy and a life choice.
I don't think to be pretty or popular that you have to be a size 0 or 1.
I also think most of it is mental. The more you tell yourself your not allowed to have something, the more you are going to want it.
It's okay to eat what your mom makes sometimes, but it's not healthy to eat junk food, and I'm sure she understands that.
Some people say, cut out junk food completely. I say, eat healthy. Especially veggies and fruits MOST of the time. And is you eat meat, fish and chicken is actually better then most red meats. But treat your self every once in a while. NOT ALL THE TIME!
Some of the things that people do with diets, like the ones you see on TV, where they send the meals to their house, work. Why? Because of the PORTIONS of the meals. The reason people gain weight right back after they stop? Because they don't portion their foods anymore and eat a ton of junk.
You can have those amazing baked goods your mom makes and eat, for the most part, what you'd like. But just don't eat so much of it.
If all you think about is not letting your self eat and how much you weigh, your mind is going to crave things and you "won't be able to help it."
My biggest thing is all about being healthy. Treat your body like a temple, diamond, or just something you really, really treasure. If working out is too much for you, try yoga. Yoga, I've been told, is one of THE BEST exercises you can do. It stretches every muscle in your body, makes you flexible, keeps you healthy, helps you mentally, AND can make you burn more calories than using those bike machines at a gym for an hour.
Over all, my opinion is, yoga. It would calm you and you'd never know all the good your doing to your body. As far as food goes, again, eat lost of vegetables and fruit. When you start to feel hungry, eat an apple or strawberry instead. =) Don't worry about hurting your moms feelings, I'm sure she'll understand. And when you are eating, eat smaller portions. You may not lose a whole ton of weight super fast, but if you change your life style and really take care of your self, you'd be amazed how the weight seems to disappear. And who knows? Maybe once you start losing the weight you'll have more energy to actually wana get out and go for a jog or to the gym? Good luck! And I hope I could help. =)
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Q: well first of all im a guy and i wanna ask this one girl thats my friend out on a date but i kinda dont want to because, what if something goes wrong and our friendship ends so what should i do?
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I would honestly sugguest just spending a lot more time with her.
If you guys are good friends and you're afraid to mess up the friendship, I would try hanging out with her alone a lot and getting to see what type of person she really is. Good, and bad.
Every person has down points, and the way relationships usually work from being friends first is if there is honesty, communication, and knowing each others good and bad points and accepting them and being okay with them.
Unfortenatly, I tired dating a friend once and it didn't end up very well. He turned out to be very different as a friend from a boyfriend.
So, if you don't already, spend more time with her. And if you do already spend enough time with her in your opinion and you feel you know her enough. Tell her how you feel and talk to her about it.
She'll never know unless your honest. She's not a mind reader. ;) Good luck, hope this helps!!
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Q: 15/f
i think i have a sweating problem. when i was little i couldn't sweat at all and now i sweat way too much. like i'll be sitting in school and not be hot but still be sweating to the point i have sweat stains on my under arms. it's really embarrasing and i can't wear t shirts i want because the sweating. i tired telling my mom to take me to the doctor but it's like she doesn't believe me. so is there any think like you can make at home that will stop the sweating? i already use secret clinical strength and it doesn't work. and i tried baking powder and water.
if you could give me something that helped you or someone you know that'd be great!
thanks
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Actually secret clinical didn't help me at all. The only things that have helped me is degree. And some of my friends actually use the uncented mens deoterant. It happens a lot with girls, actually it's just not talked about because people think it's gross, and it is embarrasing. So, I've totally been there. I would sugguest, making sure that, keep your body very clean (which I'm sure you already do) and try using degree, or mens deodorant that's unscented? Unfortenatly, that's all I can sugguest. =/ Sorry. If none of this helps though, you can always go to a walk in clinic that's free and talk to a doctor yourself with out your mom being there. They can't turn you away if it's a walk in clinic. They may not give you anything but they should be able to give you more sugguestions. =) Hope I could help a little, good luck! =)
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Q: Now,
I understand that every woman is different when it comes to how long sex hurts but, on average how long does it usually last for girls who are having "sex" for their first time?
Also,
I would like to know.
How long does sex last for on your first time?
Just a rough estimate!
Thanks,
please answer back when possiable.
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Well, unfortenatly like you said, every woman is different, and I've had all my friends say something different from me.
For me, I've only been with one person and it hurt pretty much the whole time the first time and after the fact i was sore but the second time wasn't that bad. And anytime after with the same guy it didn't hurt at all.
But, some of my friends that have been with different guys say that it can hurt even with the next guy your with. I wouldn't really know though about that, sorry. =/
As far as how long it can last. The firs time for me, I didn't have an orgasum or anything and he was gental but it was over with in a matter of min. He came very fast and it upset him a lot, but if your partener is more experienced it could last longer? It really depends on the two of you I think.
I know none of this is the actual answers your looking for but it's hard just because every woman is so different and their parteners.
In all honestly I don't think you'll get a very good answer until you find out for yourself and know how your body is and how your parteners body is? But that's just my opinion.
I asked my friends and family before my first time and my experience was, like I said, totally different from all of theirs...
It may not hurt you at all and it may last a good while, so there are a lot of things that make a difference I think...
Anyway, I hope I could help at least a little, good luck!
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Q: Ok. Well, I have a friend....let’s just call her "D". Ok, this is a really long story, so hold onto your hats!
Anyway, so D and me have been friends since the 6th grade. I had moved from my hometown in the fourth grade and had been friend less. Then middle school came around, and I had always sat alone at lunch and stuff like that. Then she randomly talked to me one day, and we had been friends since. Well, I am now going into 9th grade, and I think I’m going to go crazy! Lemme explain. 6th grade was a total blast! She introduced me to all my best friends I have today. We have our own little group thing going on, (except we are considered the "Weird people group". But, that’s ok, since we are having fun. But, that all changed in 7th grade. Suddenly, we were all changing, and all the drama started. At least 1 new fight a week! It got a little better in 8th grade. But it seems like D is almost always the cause of it! She’s suddenly turning "Emo" now, and when there’s a party or something, she and another Emo friend of mine "T" bring it down and sit and sulk. She then started cutting herself, and then eventually got me into cussing. (I’m a major Christian FYI) I got outta that habit though. She constantly annoys the CRAP outta me! She always starts drama, and complains a ton, she always says she'll call me back but claims to "forget" to. And she always gossips, tells other peoples secrets to me! So, I can't really trust her all that much, since she might go and tell mine. She hasn’t been fitting into our group that much lately. No one really seems to like her anymore. She hurts my feelings a lot too. Anyways, my point is, she’s annoying, but I don’t know what to do. If I get mad at her, she doesn’t do anything, and I have to end up apologizing for getting mad at her, when it was her fault. It hurts, cuz she doesn’t care. I did a pro-con list about if I should be her friend or not. The results were: 24 con, 4 pro. What should I do?!
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Unfortenatly that happens a lot.
I'm in college now and I went through a couple of "best friends" too.
People change and that is all a part of growing up. (Not that your like a baby or anything that's not how I mean it. =])
I wouldn't really actually get mad at her and I really wouldn't even say anything to her that's rude or nasty.
For me, I was so busy with the things going on in my life that me and the girl I went through that stuff with in middle school, just drifted apart.
And, honestly we don't hate each other at all.
I've seen her in the past and we've always been able to smile at each other and say hello and everything so, there were no hard feelings.
I would say to just try not to hang around her as much, and if for any reason she asks you, just explain to her that you really feel like you two don't have much in common anymore and your lives are going in different directions and that you really care about her and everything and your not doing it to be rude it's just how things are going right now?
If she hurts your feelings, she's not a good person to surround yourself with, and if she is more negative and complains and your more positive then that can also cause a lot of problems.
You two I'm sure had a great friendship, but this happens to everybody.
I was friend with a girl for 10 years and pretty much after high school we never talked.
We'll always have our memoires but, we both are complete opposites.
She's an amazing girl, like I'm sure the girl is that your talking about.
But, you have do to what's best for you and surround your self with people that fit into your life and with your personality.
So, I'm just saying what I did and what I would do is just nicely and without her really knowing, just give yourself space from her.
I think eventually if she already "forgets" to call you and stuff that it'll die down and you two can still be nice to each other but you won't be "best friends" anymore?
I don't know, I hope this is what you were asking and that this helps. I guess it's kind of hard for me to explain but, I've been there so it's tough.... Sorry if I couldn't help. Good luck! =)
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Q:
Ok so I almost feel silly asking this and I never ask questions like this, but I just wanted to double check on something.
Today things got steamy with my guy and he was fingering me. At some points he got in a bit deep and it hurt a little. I'd let him know and he'd stop so there wasn't any problem there. But now I'm feeling a bit of discomfort and when I peed there was a slight hint of blood. Is it possible for a hymen to break just by fingering, if he got in deep enough? Or could it be that he just scratched me a little inside? [it feels like it could possibly be scratched -- which might also explain the bit of discomfort]
Any input is appreciated =)
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Well, the first time that ever happened to me by a guy I was in a LOT of pain, so it might just be that your body isn't used to it like mine? I don't think he popped your cherry or anything(even thought I don't think you were asking that) but, it could just be a scratch or your body is just kind of like "whoa" if you've never done anything like that before... I think you'll be okay, but if it doesn't stop with in the next couple of days it may be a cut or something and definitely see a doctor if it gets too, too bad. But, I think the spotting will stop and the slight discomfort will stop with, like I said, the next couple of days. Only because that's what happen to me too. Hope I could help. =)
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Q: okay well i met this guy and i've know him for a while now. I talk to him everyday. About 2 weeks ago he finally came out and told me that he liked me and he already knew i liked him. But like last week he got a girlfriend. I was fine with it because we aren' able to see each a lot because he live a decent drive away so i understood. But the thing is even though he has a girlfriend he still say the same things to me but as "friends" it's driving me nuts he tells e how much he cares about me and all that junk but yet he has a girl. He still flirts and does all that junk but yet he does the friend thing. He did tht once before with me and this other girl but when he dumped her he was all about me again...It is driving me crazy what do i do?
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I personally would ask him to please stop. He is playing mind games with you. I've been in your situation so I do actually know. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He has a girl but he wants you on the side, and if for any reason he breaks up with the girl, he feels that if he talks to you the way he is that he'll have you to fall back on. I'm not trying to be rude, I've just been in your exact situation so, I'm trying to save you the heartache and stuff that comes along with it so, please don't take any of this the wrong way... I think if you want to be just friends with him then that's perfectly fine, but he needs to speak to you like a friend, and not a back-up or a side line girl. Because your not one and you deserve better than that. And the only reason I'm saying this is, because you said yourself, he knows you like him a lot, so he knows that he can get away with this. I'm wondering if his girlfriend woul be okay with how he talks to you? My guess is, probably not. Let him know that it's not fair to you and that you'd like to be friends but he is playing mind games and messing with your head because it's obviously clear you like him to both of you. I would just talk to him about it, and see what he does with it. If he freaks out and turns into a jerk because of it, then your way better off with out him anyway if he can't handle like a big boy. Guys normally only get upset about things like that when they can't respect you for it and don't want to hear what your telling them. (No offense guys, girls can do it too.) So, that's just my sugguestion. Talk to him and communicate with him and if he respects you and you 2 can be friends, that awesome, and if he can't and he's going to be childish, then your better off without that stress. You don't need drama or stress in your life. I hope I could help at least a little. Hope I didn't upset you. Good luck! =)
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Q: ok so i met this guy his name is travis hes 22 and me and him have been friends for a few weeks
well we know we like each other and stuff but theres the problem of him living in a different county from me and i know my parents won't let me date him because hes 22 and im just 16 but my problem is my foster sister jaymie found out i was talking to him and she just blew up about it and started bitching me and him out calling him on his cellphone and stuff which wasn't to good so me and him taled online and stuff and we decided we shouldn't talk because i didn't think it was right what they did . the problem is i really miss him hes the one person i could talk to about anything . the worse thing about this is my real sister casey was threatening to tell our parents if i didn't tell her everything he said about he because she really liked him once and wanted to date him but he didn't like her. i just really miss him and now jaymie aka my foster sister sometimes checks up on me to see if ive talked to him since that happened which i happened and i really miss him .me and him were going to hang out and see how we felt about each other and then see if we wanted to date . i want to know what i should do because i seriously miss him . also if u think i shold talk to him and lie about it i can't lie i think its just wrong and i can't do it so please help . :( thanks in advance .ok i know ive already asked this question befor but i still need more help oh and to update this question i have recently been talking to travis a little bit and i have actually been resenting her for telling my sis jaymie about it . i got the feeling after she done that she just done it because he didn't want to go out with her when she liked him and shes jelous that he likes me and i like him . ive also noticed that this isn't that first guy ive liked that she ruined my relationship with.also i read my sister message archive on yahoo recently and she is against me having any relationship with a guy . any advice please help because at this rate im never going to be with a guy i like and im starting to hate my own sister for her selfish actions . thanks in advance . oh and ive met travis in r/l befor i didn't meet him on the internet or anything thats just were weve talked the most for all those ppl who think im talking to an internet perve.
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Well, I don't think it's right for your sister(s) to be rude to you in any way... But, unfortenatly, you two dating would be completely illegal. You're 16 and he is 22, if an adult found out, you could have him put in jail. I know that that's a fact because I went to school with a girl when I was 15/16 and she was dating a 20/21 year old, and her parents new that it was illegal so he was put in jail more then once. He wasn't a bad guy, but it's still not right. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just letting you know, you can get him in a lot of trouble. I'm not sure if your sisters are trying to look out for you because of the age difference or what? I'm not them, but if you've normally had a decent relationship, they may just be worried. And it could be jealousy from your one sister but, trust me, if a guy you meet really likes you, it'll happen. I really would suggest just not really talking to this guy anymore except for on a friend level. I understand you miss him, and I'm sure you're not going to like my answer at all. It just seems like there is too much stress going on for you. It'd be so much easier for you if you found someone closer to your age that your parents could know about, because it wouldn't matter if your sister knew. Unless your parents say you aren't allowed to date there would be no way for your sister to stop you from being with someone you can see/talk to more and that is closer to your age, and that wouldn't be thrown in jail for dating you... I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, that's not the way I'm intending it, and I'm sorry if this upsets you, I guess I'm just trying to give you an outsiders point of view. I understand age is nothing but a number and it works for some people but, it's normally better to wait when your actually legal yourself. If it were my sister I'd definitely ask her what her problem is and why they are doing what they are doing to find out if their intentions are to be mean, or to protect me.... I hope I could at least help a little and if not I'm sure someone else on here will have a better opinion for you. Good luck! Take care. =)
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Q: so i cannot stop thinking about this one guy and i really just want to stop thinking about him and just get him out of my life.. that sounds really stupid but eh its complicated he's really out of my league.
how do i get him out of my head.
and stop thinking about him before i go to sleep.
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One of the things I've been able to do is keep my priorities straight and think about other things as much as I can.
If your laying in bed before you go to sleep, put some head phones on or watch tv for a little bit to distract yourself.
Or MAKE yourself think of something/someone else.
If you start to think of him right away think of like, what your going to wear the next day, what you've got to get done, how good your day was, what you'd like to improve, or even think of ALL the really good things going on in your life.
During the day time, keep your self busy.
I think the biggest thing is to never give yourself the time to think about him.
Even if you can't go anywhere draw a picture, listen to music, clean your room, ANYTHING. Just keep your mind busy on other things and eventually it'll become natural and you hopefully won't think about him at all.
For me it takes time though in the beginning. I REALLY have to make sure that I don't allow myself to continue to think about the guy and it really did work.
For me I would dance or work out or just do things to improve myself or the good, nice stuff I could do for all my friends and family so my mind was constantly going and thinking about positive things that I didn't have time to think about the guy whether my thoughts about him were good or bad.
Anyway, I just know how annoying that could be and those were the things that worked best for me, but not everyone can do that, so maybe someone else on here can give you better options. =)
But I hope this at least helped a little. Good luck!
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Q: okay well its summer and i really want a bellybutton ring because i think it looks cute. i was just wondering does it hurt? what does it feel like? i have my ear cartiledge done and my earlobes done and i was wondering does it hurt more or less? thank you so much
- Scared
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I've had my belly done twice because the first time i was made to take it and.
But both times it really didn't hurt.
I mean it isn't like the most comfortable feeling in the world but it won't make you cry.
I also have my ears done 6 times (3 on each side) and I had my cartiledge done so I know how they all feel, and the belly does get sore a little afterwards but as long as u take care of it and it doesnt get infected i think its totally fine and really not that painful at all.
Of course everyone is different. I may have a higher tolerance for pain than you, I may not.
If you really want it done I say go for it. I got it done because for some reason every since I was little like 6 and my cousin got hers done I wanted mine done too lol.
But they are cute and if you really want to, just do it. The pain isn't so bad to the point it would stop you from getting it done I don't think. Good luck, I hope you get it and I hope it doesn't hurt that bad for you either. =)
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Q: i'm only fifteen years old turning sixteen years old. i wear size 32 B but still kind of in the A. i don't wear any size A but i don't really fit into B. i would like to fully fit in 34 B, are there any ways to make my breasts bigger naturally instead of getting surgery?
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Honestly the only thing you can do is wait until your older. Because girls don't fully finish developing until about 24 with the breast. Because one of my good friends wanted to get a breast job done at 18 and the doctor told her to wait a few more years. not that it stops people from getting it done at 18 and even younger, but it's still better to completely wait and thats what even I have had doctors suggest. And your only 15. Mine didn't really start getting bigger until about 17 I guess. I mean I had them but i went from a B when I was 15 and 16 to a C at 17... And there is still time for change even for me. At least that's what I've been told by the doctor and my Mom when I was your age. Of course I'm sure there are a lot of girls that may disagree with me or have something different to say because birth control didnt help me Because I only started taking it about 2 weeks ago. If it does I guess I'll find out. But thats my personal experience. Good luck, it'd be cool if you could find something different. Maybe really padded bras? =)
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Hey! =) I really love my life and the things and people in it. I love fashion, make-up, going out, dancing, teaching dance, and being with my friends and family. I feel very blessed for the things I have. It took me a while to get to this point though and I know that growing up, and even people my age, you need advice about certain things every now and then. I've always had people give me advice about things and I've been able to use their advice through my own experience and mistakes and come up with some of my own things. And now I'm the one always helping my friends out. I always have new ideas that I love to share. And well, I can't promise I'll always be able to help or give you the answer you're looking for but, I'll definitely do my best. =)
Also, whether you ask me a question in my inbox or I answer one alone I normally ALWAYS add in my experiences because for me, I like to know when people can relate and aren't just guessing, it's easier when someone has actually been through it. And I'm not going to do any favors by lying, so I am ALWAYS going to be honest. But keep in mind just becasue of my experience and my honesty does not mean I am always right and I understand that. Feedback is appreciated to know what I can work on with certain answers, not demanded.
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