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hello fellow advice seekers, my name is Johanna and I'm currently a student about to enter high school. My days are spent with my friends, family, music, and camera. I've been known for my advice and don't turn down any questions. Feedback makes me happy, so I can give everyone the answers they want.

in my point of view, i accel in these topics:
-friendships
-relationships
-school/work
-ideas/helpful tips

and who knows? maybe ill gain some knowledge by actually thinking of new situations.

it cant hurt to get my opinion, now can it? so ask away my friends.

sincerely, ask_anything

advice

srry if this is long but
there is this kid in my school and he is shorter me and not very good lookin but i still lik him alot and no one understands and ppl always make fun of me for likin him and i already went out wif him lik 3 times b4 and he dumped me all the times but i still rely lik him and alot of ppl make fun of me for it and i hate how no one understands mee

how can i get them 2 stopp??

i hate how people critize others just based on appearance, it's so stupid. it's good you arent all appearance based, you shouldnt let anything they say to you get to your judgement on someone. to get them to stop, you just cant let give in or be upset, because they'll keep doing it. just play along, and obviously those people have some horrible attitudes. dont give up on how you feel, everyone has something they like in someone [other than appearance], ex: i like guys who can make me laugh no matter what. there must be something about this boy that keeps you coming back. as for those jerks who tease you- they should get a life and do something better with their lives. dont let them get to your head. =] -ask_anything

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Okay heres my deal I wanna become a famous singer not because they have perfect lives but because they make people happy n stuff! But anyways i don't know how to I live in cincinnati ohio n u know its not tht big of a town where famous people come from(Nick Lachey and Sarah Jessica Parker are the only people i can think of)! But how can I become famous?

xox Lissy xox

you need to be recognized in as many places as possible. always be looking for singing contests, competitions, shows, ANYTHING you can find. the more you sing-the better you are-the more people will hear you and can recommend you. get yourself out there and dont be afraid to ask others to help you out as well. if you have what it takes, you'll make it! just keep practicing and letting people hear you! =] -ask_anything

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I've only known this guy for one week but we talk online for hours and always laugh and smile constantly when we see each other in school. i think he likes one of my best friends and i really wanna ask him out but i dont want to seem rude or anything to my friend and him too... and how long is long enough to wait after hes broken up with his girlfriend?
thx

well if this guy you like has a girlfriend, then he shouldnt be looking at other girls because it just shows how commited he is to someone [which doesnt sound like a lot]. if he doesnt, but you just want to know how long to wait in case he will soon- id say a few weeks. although it does depend on what type of guy and what type of relationship he had. if you only think the guy you like might have a crush on your best friend- the best thing to do is clarify if you're right. just ask him! if you can talk to him and you both seem comfortable with each other, it couldnt hurt to ask. if your friend likes him too- you better tell her your feelings as well incase later on it comes up. if you wanna ask him out, just clarify if he really does like your friend- if he doesnt, ask him! if he does, wait it out until things pass. i hope the tips i gave you helped a bit! good luck with it all =] -ask_anything

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well i want u to know that i told my mom about john on thursday after school. i knew she had to pick up my brother so i told i had to tell her something important when she came back and she asked me if it was good or bad...and i said good.

My mom just said that i better be careful with him since it's considered rape. But other than that my mom was ok with it. But my dad on the other hand was kinda like he better not hurt u or anything so basically my dad is being very protective of me right now. So my parents are happy for me and arent forbidding me to not see him. so i figured id let u know what happened since gave me advice.


thanx much!!!

Crystal

aww im happy things worked out! im glad i could help you, and my advice was for the best! hope things go well with you and john! =] -ask_anything

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okay im not giving many details, but how the heck do you win a guy back? like you were friends but it turned into more, but never officially got there.. amd then it kind of died, but i feel like he still lieks me and i think i still like him and i just wanna be able to talk to him again but its too hard.. uhh thats all ill say

thanks

well- sounds kind of fimilar to me, but all you really can do is win back his trust. how to do this depends on the guy i suppose. If im thinking of the right situation, id guess you'd have to start over again. you need to little by little talk your way back into a friendship he knows he can like. it depends on his intentions too, if he plans on ending all relationship types- its going to be really hard. if he still wants to be friends, but doesnt want to hurt you- you need to make sure he knows you wanna be friends too. and who knows! maybe he still likes you and just wants to get away from all the pressure of it. but dont give up hope, i bet he still wants to be friends with you if not more, for the same reason you do. itll work out, i promise. =] -ask_anything

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I have a really big crush on this bannana my mom bought at the store the other day, and i dont know how to tell it how i feel about it or how to tell if it feels the same way about me. ive never felt this way about anyone (or anything) berfore..what should i do?
~madly in love

duhh make a bannannaaa splitt! =] it'll understand COMPLETELY! just dont rush into things too quick, enjoy it for the time you have it. =] -ask_anything

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months, and are head over heals for eachother presently. The only problem is that I see him for a week every 3 months or so... its enough to drive a person crazy... he lives so far away, and now that I'm at college things are really hard... dumping him isn't an option, because we are that close, and its the closest thing to I've every felt if not love itself... I just don't know how to deal sometimes, its so frustrating not being able to see him, and to touch him... basically what I'm asking, is does anyone know of anyway to make this any easier till we can be together again... thanks (I will rate)

to relieve the sadness of not seeing each other, write in a journal where you can write how you feel at the moment, the memories you never want to forget, how he makes you feel when your with him or without. that way when you look at it when you miss him, you'll have a satisfaction of knowing all those things. keeping journals has been good for people who need to relieve stress, anxiety or just for pure happiness. this could help you deal with the distance. also make it a constant goal that you talk with him on the phone at least once a week to catch up on things and always have that voice on the other line that will make you feel more comforted. =] -ask_anything

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i'm in middle school and we have the popular cheerleaders. Everyone tells me how thin and beautiful i am. And the popular girls aren't that pretty, but all the boys love them. I'm not a cheerleader but i think i'm just as good as those girls. why don't the boys notice me?

maybe the boys like the cheerleaders personalities? maybe your too shy? it really depends, because looks arent everything sorry to say! =] -ask_anything

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I have these dark circles under my eyes. They're huge though, and I can't cover it with makeup! They go from my nose (by my eyes), and go down in a round motion (which lines up with the end of my nose). They fade as they go down. How do I get rid of it??

you obviously need lots and lots of sleep! try to block out periods of the day, or on the weekends where you can get a nice long sleep! sounds like you've been skipping a few z's lately... as to cover it up- there are good products if you visit your local beauty shop//place where they sell facial products etc. if you dont have one nearby, ask your mom to help you to find a place that does! =] -ask_anything

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my friend name is Brittany she has a b.o. problem and ervery1 hates it. i dont kno wat to say ta her wit out hurtn' her feelns' but can somebody pleaze help me out thanks.

i rate very high.

signed confused friend.

it wont hurt her feelings because then she can solve her problem- finding out people were talking behind her back is going to hurt her sooo much more than you helping her out with her problem. as to how to ask her: just casually [in private] tell her, and im sure that bad odorr will be gone in a blink of an eye! =] -ask_anything

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Anyone know the address to a page where I can store photos on? Besides photobucket and picturetrail.

i use http://www.webshots.com - it's really easy and it works great for me! =] -ask_anything

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Just to put it strait out there – i think im in love with my best friend. I’ve known him since I was 7 and we’ve spent ever summer since together, we live in different towns, but we see each other a lot on the weekends. I know him really we’ll, I can talk to him about ANYTHING and when I say anything, I really mean ANYTHING. We have gone out before but this just went all wrong. But lately things between him and I have gotten – well, great. Between the 3 hour phone calls pretty much EVERY NIGHT and seeing him every weekend if not every other, our friendship is slowly moving closer to what I think could be a relationship. Just last weekend I was over his house and we should I say – “hit things off.” This seems too good too be true, and I’m just about head over heels. Do you think I should just go for it, because other wise we’ll probably just stay best friends with benefits.

i say go for it- it sounds like it'd be a great relationship! as long as you think he feels the same, i dont see any reason not too! friends with benefits is tricky and a little bit risky.. so dont let it fall into that... in my opinion id say you should definitly go out with him! i hope you two work out and have a great time with each other! =] -ask_anything

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so yes. Last weekened me and my X boyfriend hit a few things off. i really really like him -- and i still have feelings left over from when we went out... one problem -- at the time i had a boyfriend. on halloween i broke up with him because i knew things wouldn't be fair to him if i didn't, but i didn't tell him that i did this to him because it would be hard for him to take, i mean the poor kid had watery eyes when i broke up with him (in person -- very hard!!) so yes. He still likes me -- a lot might i add -- his profile quoted-- "the things we could do you cant imagine, all u have to do is say yes" just its in all of those symbols and stuff... and hes asking me out again sometime this week. 2 of my closest friends know about me and my x boyfriend, and think i should go out back out with my boyfriend, and just keep things going with the other guy on the weekends. this doesnt sound like a good idea to me -- but i really like my x and they say that he'll never know and that its the perfect plan -- tell me what you think i should do...

well if you dont love your boyfriend anymore- i say this to everyone who asks this kinda stuff ;) - do him the favor and BREAK UP! no one wants to be with someone that doesnt care about them. if you broke up with your boyfriend, then it doesnt matter what you do. but if you DO still like your boyfriend you need to decide between your ex and him. dont get into the switching off type deals- your life will be so pressured and uneasy. dont do anything that makes you not at ease. dont make any decisions right away- think about why you/your ex broke up before.. was it because he didnt stay true? was it too distant of a relationship? think about all of it before you commit to one or the other. it sounds like you love both but just cant chooose. all i can say is do what would make you the happiest. no one says that either relationship will last forever- so make the best of the two guys and if you need to- just be really good friends with one. im sorry your stuck in the middle of it all... hopefully it'll all get better soon =] -ask_anything

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Ok, well me and my boyfriend were on my trampoline after school and my mom was home in the kitchen. We were kissin, and when he left, my mom gave me this lecturin about makin out and how im 2 young and how his parents gave him this talk. It did look like we were makin out, but like it wasn't really. Im 13 and hes 14, and i wanna no when u think the right age would be, and if my moms jus over-reacting?!?!?

all moms are protective of their girls kissing other boys at any age [maybe except marriage] but sometime she's going to have to realize your growing up and doing that stuff happens a lot. for now- do that stuff somewhere where mom wont be spying on you. at least until she's okay with it all . but still keep the distance. let mom do her mom thing, and listen to what she says, as for the age- age doesnt matter, as long as it's what you want for the right reasons. =] -ask_anything

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Well, i have this friend and i mean she is really really nice when it is jsut us two, but when we are with our other good friends or when we are with boys, she always has to be the center of attention. She knows she has the best body, so she always says something about being on a diet, so people tell her that she is perfect, and she knows she is like gorgeous and so she always talks about how she looks bad so everyone can reassure her some more. Me and my other bestfriend have been talking about it constantly and we love being with her alone, but it is really getting on our nerves, especially because it makes us feel worse about ourselves. Please help!!!

this girl sounds like both of these types of people: a "weather friend" and someone is extremely self-conscious and/or attention seeking. ive had plenty of weather friends- basically it's someone who is your friend sometimes, and acts like a jerk the next. these types of people you can be friends with- but never can be anything closer because they most likely cant be trusted. you just have to ignore her annoying comments and hope that some day she'll confident enough to quit with the untrue statements. if you really cant stand her when she does this- either tell her, or just stay somewhat friend basis- good enough friends that you dont have to listen to her moan about how ugly she thinks she looks. [ when she obviously isnt ] it's definitly bad karma to have a friend that makes you feel bad- so tell her or just let her go because bad karma is not a happy life lol =] -ask_anything

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what is sex in the 69 position? i'm a little behind and i need to know..thanks!

basically its sex upside down. haha sorry i dont like to get into detail- but if you search it under search questions and type "69" you'll get more than enough info... sorry about not getting into detail- i just dont know what age of people are reading my column if you know what i mean... =] -ask_anything

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Chello. I am a Scottie Dog. Just a few days ago I became quite acquainted with a Cup 'o Jo. Then we found a Lucky Lisper, along with a cloud of Smog. It was intense, but wait until you hear this: Next up we found a BUSHELOFAPPLESINATREEFARM!!! Outrageous you say? I know it, nevertheless it twas the most wondrous day of my life!

Aaaah yes, my question:
Will a Cup o' Jo and a Scottie Dog be the best of friends for life?
-Hole in one,
The official Scottie Dog

hahaha but of course Scottie Dog we will be the best of friends!! Scottie dog and Cup o' Jo forever! hahhaa best times lauren ;) HOLE IN ONEEE =] -ask_anything

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what would the average weight for a 5 year old whos 3'5 be?

i dont think anyone on this site can be more accurate then your very own doctor, give them a ring and im sure they'd be glad to answer any your questions! =] -ask_anything

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so far me and my boyfriend have had the PERFECT relationship. we've been going out for 10.5 months and i dont know what to get him for our 1 year anniversary?? what should i get him? do i get him anything?? do i make him something?? if so what?? HELP!!

make a combination of things that make you remember your times together- good and bad. it should reflect your relationship and be creative! a memory box, an adorable card and something silly should be perfect... then again i dont know your boyfriend! so do what would best fit your relationship! =] -ask_anything

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i cheated on my boyfriend last night and i plan on breaking up with him monday becuase of it. but i dont wanna tell him that i cheated on him cuz i really wanna stay friends cuz we were relaly good friends just theyres no chemistry here... my boyfriend and this new guy dont know each other... so do you think i could get away with not telling my boyfriend and breaking up wiht him and going out with the new guy in a week or so? please help, im in over my head...

yikes! well, you might have some guilt from not telling your boyfriend, but if you can deal with that- you dont have to tell him. but remember there is a chance he will find out and things could be a LOT worse. if you cheated on your boyfriend, you obviously are looking for something new [or it sounds like you do] so breaking up with him would be a good choice. you're friendship might be a tad shakey for a while- so dont expect smooth sailing... lol. if the new guy and your boyfriend dont know each other there are good and bad things you'll come across. bad: he might be bothered that this new guy steps in and takes you away- and he has no idea who he is. good: he wont know him so he cant find out anything you dont want him to know. if you feel you know the new guy well enough, it's up to you whether or not you want to go out with him. you might want to give it a little while to make sure he doesnt turn into a person you didnt see. but in the mean time, do your boyfriend the favor of breaking up with him so you dont cheat on him again and feel horrible! sorry that things got crazy :( it'll get better eventually... =] -ask_anything

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