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center of attention
Well, i have this friend and i mean she is really really nice when it is jsut us two, but when we are with our other good friends or when we are with boys, she always has to be the center of attention. She knows she has the best body, so she always says something about being on a diet, so people tell her that she is perfect, and she knows she is like gorgeous and so she always talks about how she looks bad so everyone can reassure her some more. Me and my other bestfriend have been talking about it constantly and we love being with her alone, but it is really getting on our nerves, especially because it makes us feel worse about ourselves. Please help!!!
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dont b jealous cause shes pretty and yur not!
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this gurl definently wants to be the center of attention. if it bothers you all enough, then tell her straight up that u love her like a sister, but shes startin to get so annoying. tell her how bad it makes u feel. if she doesnt understand, then shes not worth feelin bad.
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talk to her! maybe she doesn't know that she's being an attention hog who is majorly insecure about herself. or maybe she doesn't realize that she does it as often as she does, or that it really bugs people. but if it's bugging you, it's bugging other people, but it's best for her to hear it from someone who cares and can cushion the blow. best of luck.
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Explain to her that what shes doing is putting you guys down. If shes really your friend she'll understand and lay off of the things she's been doing. I have a lot of friends who are like that so they dont really change they way they act...they kinda just made us deal.
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it sounds like your friend is really insecure. she may honestly think she's ugly, no matter what people say, to the point of obsession. i believe this is a condition called body dismorphic disorder, and it's a psychological disorder. some people just crave attention, whether it's from members of the opposite sex or just from everyone. a lot of times they really can't help it, and they don't realize that they're doing it, because a lot of times it's a subconcious thing. in this case, it probably wouldn't do any good to talk to her about it, because chances are all that will do is make her defensive. on the other hand, some people just do it intentionally, to stoke their own egos. in THAT case, consider: is this person really worth being friends with, if she's just going to be making me feel bad about myself all the time? if not, maybe you just need to move on. without actually knowing the person, i wouldn't be able to say which option is more likely.
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well i think you should tell her how you feel about the whole situation and hopefully she will understand
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this girl sounds like both of these types of people: a "weather friend" and someone is extremely self-conscious and/or attention seeking. ive had plenty of weather friends- basically it's someone who is your friend sometimes, and acts like a jerk the next. these types of people you can be friends with- but never can be anything closer because they most likely cant be trusted. you just have to ignore her annoying comments and hope that some day she'll confident enough to quit with the untrue statements. if you really cant stand her when she does this- either tell her, or just stay somewhat friend basis- good enough friends that you dont have to listen to her moan about how ugly she thinks she looks. [ when she obviously isnt ] it's definitly bad karma to have a friend that makes you feel bad- so tell her or just let her go because bad karma is not a happy life lol =] -ask_anything
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i no how u feel! i hate ppl like that. no1s perfect so she shouldn't pretend like she is. you nad your other friend should talk to her about it and if you have to just stop hanging around with her i guess.
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This girl is probably insecure. She probably doesn't think she has the "best body" or that she's "gorgeous." She probably does this because she knows most people will tell her that she's pretty whether they think it or not. if that makes sense lol. If it gets worse when she says something like this again confront her one-on-one and say something like "you don't need to ask everyone if they think your pretty because you are." or something like that and she might stop. If not you may have to say something different...but you'll lose her as a friend...if you don't mind losing a friend then drop one in my inbox and i'll give you a few suggestions :o)
Good Luck!
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GIRL! u need to talk to this friend. If she talks about her self like this, then its not right, tell her that u dont like it when she says these things because she just does it to be the center of attention. Tell her (somewhat) wat u sayd on here. Tell her it makes you feel worse about yourself... YOU DONT NEED TO BRING YOURSELF DOWN BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO BE THE BEST! Tell her that you like how she acts when you two are alone. trust me i have a friend EXACTLY like that.. and i just told her flat out "do you say that so ppl will tell you that your skinny and beautiful?" and she stopped saying it .. just tlak 2 her about it.. if shes a friend she'll understand and stop! because the last thing a true friend wants to do is bring one of her friends down. talk to her calmly and dont blow up and if shes a true friend.. she will understand
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hey! you should definitely tell your friend how you feel. since you're not the only one feeling this way, she will know that it's true. tell her that she knows and that everybody knows that she lookds fine. if she ignores it and keeps trying to be the center of attention, then dont reassure her when she is feeling bad about herself. after a while, she will get bored of saying those things about herself since no one is telling her that it is not true, and she will eventually stop. hope i helped, peace and love!
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