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Q: All my life, I've had pretty clear skin. I never had severe acne or anything like that. However, I have an oily and pimple-prone T-zone: my forehead (between my eyebrows especially) and around my nose. I use an acne-control medicine (even though I just have the occasional zit) to keep that part of my face oil-free. Currently, it looks great and there are no pimples anywhere on my face. I'm really sorry this is gross, but although my face is oil-free and pimple-free now, there are these little bumps (NOT pimples or pimples to be) on my forehead. They don't hurt and they're just skin color (not red / pink / white). It's not necessary for me to go to the doctor, so please do not suggest that, but does anyone know why this is happening and / or how to make the skin on my forehead flat and smooth without being oily?
If you have what I am thinking of, then it isn't anything serious, and I think that using facial wash should make them go away eventually.
I have alot of those bumps. I call them sweat spots, because I don't know the proper name for them. People usually get them from sweating, or from having oily skin (I also have oily skin like you).
I wouldn't worry about these too much. I usually cover mine with a bit of concealer or foundation, but this can make them worse, so I don't do it often (and if they are big, they look bad with make-up on them, so be careful ;))

The only thing I can recomend is washing your face everyday, washing make-up off as soon as you get home, and maybe - when you feel your face getting oily or sweaty - dab or wipe it with a tissue or your sleave or something.

Hopefully you get this sorted out.

PS. your spots might not be what I have said, but I am just saying what I think it is.
They could also be scars from picking or popping your pimples, and these scars don't go away, so make sure you never pop or pick at your pimples ;]

Good luck,
-Natalie

Q: so im 18/f

i would consider myself pretty, i have confidence and i have alot of guy friends but i've never had a boyfriend and i haven't gone past making out!! the thing is, i want to. now i'm not saying sex but other things. it's like i get so horny to the point where i'm about to do something and then i push the guy away because i feel like it would be awkward! i know that if i do something once, i will be fine doing anything after. it's just getting over the fear of doing anything. it's like learning to ride a bike for the first time, when you have the courage to try it and get on the bike, you will be fine afterwards. okay that might sound dorky, but i'm just saying :) i would just like experiences about peoples first time being sexual, NOT SEX but other things. you dont have to tell me exactly what happened but i would like to know how you overcame it. i know people say, you have to feel comfortable with the person and really like them but there is this guy and he is my best friend and i'm so comfortable with him but maybe i'm just not so comfortable with my body, i just dont know!
Well, I don't know much about this because I'm 14 (15 in one wekk ^_^). But if a guy is already making out with you, he must like you and would probably know what you /sort of/ looked like underneath your clothes, so don't worry and I think its normal for people to be nervous. Like I am nervous talking to a guy, but I'm a bit of a nerd and haven't kissed a guy yet. >

Q: ok sometimes i get really angery when I see thing undo when i asked them to get done. i also get the feeling of being over whemled when i see stuff that i need to do. like if someone makes a mess of one of the cabinets i get over whemled by it like it is too much to handle. I get mad an angery. I start to freak out and everything. and i really get upset when things dont go my way. i think i have a mental problem. sometimes i start something and do finsh it like i have alot of great ideals but never start them i want to stop this behavor so i can chill out i hate getting like this and i hurt the feeling of the ones i love. i make nasty comments and everything what is wrong with me
Hmm... I will try my best to help, but this might not be correct.

You might be going through pubery or mood swings, it could be a natural thing or maybe you have OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder)
Or something might be bothering you mentally. Has something happened to you lately, like the death of someone, a break-up or maybe financial issues? Anything like that could trigger this stress and worry. If it gets REALLY bad, maybe you should talk to someone you trust or a doctor.

Q: i am 16 years old. i weight 95 pounds and 5 ft 5"3 inches....in this book that i have it says i should be weighing 115 pounds. All I want is to weigh 110. I've tried eating, but sometimes i just don't feel like it so i don't do it. Its not like i'm trying to starve myself, but sometimes food is not something that i crave. Its weird, and i really want to change it. I've eaten meat,and pasta, and oyster sandwitches and peanuts. Yeah, i've gainned a little weight, butafter a while, my appetite goes away...i don't know what to do....i don't like being a stick....i want curvyness at least...110 is what i'm really looking at...do you guys havei any ideas? they would really help so...anyways...thank you!!!:)
Ok, so I had and kinda still have a very similar problem to you. I really want to gain weight and have curves.
The thing I did to gain weight was get into the habbit of eating all your meals, I know that sometimes you don't feel like it, because I have been down that road of getting full easy and not being able to or not feeling like eating alot. Like the other advicenator said, if you can't gain weight you could try things like shakes that make you gain weight.
Try to eat alot of callories and meats.
The positive of trying to gain weight is that you're alowed to treat yourself with cakes and chocolate every now and then ;)
Just try your best and don't let your body get you down. In the future, you will be wishing you were still thin after you've gained weight naturally and had kids [if you're ever going to]

I just want to let you know, if you are ever getting sick from food and after dinner (Sore tummy, diorea) you should see a doctor because you might have lactose intolerance or Celiac disease (That is what I had, and that is why I couldn't gain weight)

I hope this helped you, sorry if it is so long :]

Q: i run everydayy
im 13 years old and im like 5'4 5'5
i used to be 118 pounds [54] kilos
and i chekced toadi i weighed 120[55] kilos
do you think it could be muslce gain? cause im always runnin on my treadmille i couldnt stop crying cause i didnt wanna lose weight bt i wanted to remain the samee so yeah =[
It probably is muscle weight if you run on the tredmille everyday. If you gain one kilo it isn't a bad thing, especially if it is only muscle weight. It just means your fit so I wouldn't worry about it.
If you really don't want to gain any more muscle weight, I suggest cutting back the hours you spend on the treadmille.
I hope this helped :)

Q: 15/f
my feet are really dry and cracked.. because of the winter season arriving i suppose. it just really disgusts me. [i have a thing with feet lol] is there any other home remidies other then warm soapy water i could use to make them soft & nicerr? :]
I know what you mean, I hate feet but it is worse when they are dry or have toe fungus :S

The only thing I can think of is foot cream or moisturiser.
Sorry if I am not good help or if I made a spelling mistake.

Q: so me and my friend made a huge promise last year that'd i'd stop cutting my self.
she was my only absolute real friend
so she was worth it.
then about two weeks ago i cut my self again.
i got completly guilty so i told her about it.
i recommitted to the promise.
butt now everythings falling apart.
and people think its liek a "pathetic cry for attention"
&& its not. its just gives me a sense of hope and comforting..
i dunno.
i need help.
any other things i could do to get rid of all the pain besides cutting.
i really dont wanna hurt her again.
Ok, so I am just going to suggest a few things for you to do.

1. You could maybe talk to a proffessional about all your problems and get some help.
2. If you don't want to see a psychiatrist/shrink/counseler then maybe you could talk to your friend about your problems or someone else who you love or who is close to you.
3. If you don't want to tell ANYONE then you could write it in a diary or an online blog thingo.

I hope this helped, and I am sorry for any spelling mistakes ;)

And don't forget counselers are there for you to talk to, they were trained to do their job right and help you. If you don't have one at school then maybe you could call a help line or go to an actual phsychiatrist (Shrink).

Q: every time i cry alot before i go to sleep in the morning my eyes are extremely puffy.they stay puffy for a couple of hours.is there anything i could do or put on them that will make my eyes not be puffy.thanks!
I read somewhere that you can put Ice one your eyes to make them not puffy. Make sure you rap the ice in something (like cloth or paper towel) so you don't damage your eyes with the ice and make them too cold. And make sure your eyes are closed, of course!
I have never tried this technique before, so I don't know if it will work or not. But maybe you should give it a try. :)

Q: Me and my guy are both Gemini's.. Can this relationship workout so that we can get married in future.. ???
he was born on June7th 1986 and
me on June8th 1989

please help me out
Don't worry, horoscopes don't effect your relationship. If you act nervous about the horoscopes, that is what will ruin the relationship. It only matters how much you love each other :]

PS. Sorry if my answer is wrong, I didn't understand the question very well >

Q: i downloaded some things onto my computer and i think some of them are taking over and trying to crash my system. [bearshare, i think is whats doing it] i just now uninstalled alot of programs. there's this anti-virus thing that keeps scrwing with my computer, it's blocking me from reading my email because it says its trying to protect my computer bu all it wants me to do is buy its product, so its really messing with my internet and says 40 bugs are found in your system. im really worried because this cmputer cant be replaced and i dont want it to crash. and i want those viruses off. and my itunes isnt even working right. there's this screen that pops up every 30 seconds when im on itunes and it says AppleMobileDeviceHelper has stopped working.. then under it says a problem caused the program to stop working correctly & it says to close the program to notify if a solution is available but it won't close from that message so it doesnt work and doesnt check for solutions. and that screen keeps popping up.
please help save my computer...
before its too late :(
My computer went bad like your has once, and my uncle did something to it that totally re-starts your computer and everything you had on it goes away except for the stuff that came with the computer.
Also, I have a warning to be careful because there is a type of virus called a "Trojan Horse" and it pretends to be an Anti-Virus but it really just lets more more viruses into your computer, so be careful what Anti-Virus stuff you download ;) Hope your computer gets better soon!
=]

Q: Right now i started to get Lots of brown liquid stuff on my panties I asked my sister what it means she said that Its bad and should go to doctor. Does it mean Im sick or My period is starting.
i am not quite sure, but i am 85% sure it is your period.
when i got my period i was scared because it wasn't red, it was a brown-ish red-ish colour! and i think you might be getting the same thing as me. i dont know why it is that colour. i think maybe it is just dried blood.

Q: i have been dating this girl now for a little over 3 months, and we've had a dream where we met up with eachother in.

sounds romantic. not really, i was making out with a girl, i dont know how it got to that point, but i wouldnt have any doubt it wasn't my girlfriend, only to wake up to my name being called and finding myself looking over my shoulder to see my girlfriend, and then looking back to the girl i was making out with, and finding it not being her.

my girlfriend called me the next day, and said she had a wierd dream, i went white.

i asked her to describe the dream in full detail. she described it exactly the way i remembered it, from a purple trashcan next to a broken water fountain, to the carpet with a leapard on it, and most shockingly the girl i was making out with.

i love my girlfriend, and never would it cross my mind to cheat on her, and she knows that.

my question - has anyone came accross another person in their dream and had that person walk in to their dream.

another question - what does it mean, if anything at all?

i do rate.
wow that is really wierd !
LOL... im not sure what it means, but i have had a dream like that. i usually have dreams where people are wierd and have different personalities.but once i had one and my sister was acting totally normal. so when i woke up i asked her about her dreams, and she said she cant remember her dreams properly but she did have a dream and we were both at school in the same grade (just like me dream).
i always thought it was a coincident till i read your question.

buh bye!

Q:

Before I even start, I'd like to say that I'm seventeen, I think this situation is stupid, but I'm still at a loss and I need help.

I have quite a few best friends. Two of them told me this year that they are lesbians and they are together. I already knew this - and am totally okay with it. But now that they've come out to me about it, and even before them, the only conversation I get out of them is about their sex life. We never do anything together anymore - and I basically feel as if they don't need me.

I expressed how I felt on my xanga - my friend read it, as she would anything else, and then sent me a message on myspace asking me if it was about her and her girlfriend and I told her the truth - she wanted to know "what the hell" they did and I told her that it wasn't a big deal and that I was just feeling down.

Well - now she's arguing with me and making a big deal out of nothing. She takes EVERYTHING way too personally - but uses me as her vent and doormat, as if I'm inhuman and don't have any emotions.

What do I do?
hello.
it seems u r in a tough situation, and i have never been in something like this myself, but i will give the best advice i can. =D

i think that you should talk to your friends about how you feel, tell them that you feel like they dont need you anymore. and that you didnt meen to offend your friend when you said how you felt on Xanga. ask her to forgive you. hopefully she will understand that you didnt mean to hurt her feelings ,im sure she will understand.:)

good luck and i hope you and your friends have fun and get along.

-natalie

Q: I am so annoyed. I always have acne. It is like..constant break outs, and it never stops. I dont know what else to do. I have tried everything from clearasil, neutrogena, clean and clear, differin, duac, tea tree oil, clinique 3 step skin care, olay, and alot more. I usually break out around the T zone, my chin, and forehead..basically everywhere. Please dont give me amateur advice. Like..drink plenty of water and get a lot of sleep ( I do anyways. ) Also please dont recommend products that you have never tried. Please recommend what you think will REALLY work for me. And also please don't tell me not to wear makeup because I cant stand to see myself without the acne covered up. I need a moisturizer also because if I dont use it before I put makeup on, than it looks cakey. But that may be because I have big pores in the spots that it looks cakey. Any help for big pores? I would really appreciate your advice
Thanks
hey there!
I have serious acne too. I've had it since I was about 10 and it just got worse when I went to highschool. I used pimple cream everynight, but it wouldn't work properly, and I know you dont want to hear this, but dont where foundation or powder because it really does help take your pimples away. Also if it gets really REALLY bad, you can go see your doctor.

I hope this helps
-natalie

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Hi! My name is Natalie and I am from Australia. I have always enjoyed helping people, and that is why I love using this website so much, and why I am studying Psychology at University to become a Clinical Psychologist. Hopefully I can give you some helpful advice and I always love feedback! :)

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