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Q: Okay, I finally convinced my mom to start letting me wear tampons. But we're going in the afternoon to get them. (And Im on my period) But my dad wanted me to go down on his bike (motorcycle) to a couple places that are hours away, even in another state, and I have to wear pads. Last time I had an overflow. I'm afraid of that happening again. We're going in the morning at like 11:00am. So what can I do to prevent this? Is there anything I can do? And for another question, what about the tampons? Will they hurt, what if I forget about them,or if I can't understand the directions? Please help. Sorry this is so long. But i'll rate high for good answers. Thanks a lot.

You could either buy a super absorbent pad, or not go on the bike ride, if your afraid of leaking. It shouldnt be too bad if your on a bike though because you'll be sitting and remaining in the same position. It tends to leak when you sleep or are active. And as for the tampons. They dont hurt - and if you forget about them its no big deal. but im sure you wont. because you'll have to pee eventually and remember it, lol. The directions arent hard, its really simple.

Q: Does anyone know where I can get a fake flower to put in my hair, or one with a pin in it so I can pin-up my hair. I know, I'm sorry that sounds so vague but that's the best way I could describe it. I'll rate high!

They have some at clairs in the Mall. If you dont have one of those try looking at Walmart or stores where they sell makeup and hair accessories.

Q: Alright- so my best guy friend might like me. How do I let him know that I sort of like him too without being vulnerable to rejection? Or I guess how can I hint it to him in a subtle way?

First off. Use what if's to sort of hint that your trying to ask if he likes you. You dont want to hint that you like him and it turns out he doesnt like you back, because that might leave him feeling badly and he might lie not to hurt you. Just have a nice friendly talk about possible feelings. No pressure or anything.

Q: I've decided to make a army tank cake, and we're going to play grenade toss (sort of like hot potato, but with a water balloon), and water grenade war, and they'll have to guess how many POW's are in a jar full of little army men. I'd like to come up with a game for the littler kids that can't participate in the water balloon fight. I was thinking of something along the lines of pin the tail on the donkey with an army twist, any ideas?

This sounds so incredibly lame but - put the helmet on the soldier ! hahah. =).

Q: on my myspace, the box with my friends doesn't show up. I've been trying to add the custom myfriends but decided not to and deleted the code. but now I have nothing.

Try asking Tom about it. He might be able to help.

Q: I got a lot of my friends mad at me for a stupid reason (long story) and now i only have....hm....2 friends.I think. I'm really bored because I have nothing to do. I don't really care that they don't like me but it bothers me that they think I did something really "bad" when I dissagree. This is a stupid question....I need help on what I should do about my "friends" and what I could do in my spare time by myself.

Thanks!!

You should try making some new friends. Join some local clubs or something and meet new people, make plans with them to hang out, untill the drama with your other friends subside.

Q: i think i just made one of the biggest mistakes of my life. me and my best guy friend have always had a friends-with-benifits relationship. he was fingering me today and ended up sticking his penis in me. we were going for a little, but we had to stop because he had to leave. he didn't get to cum and we did full out have sex. but knowing that his penis was in me... is that enough to count for losing my virginity?

Sadly, yes. When a guys penis actually goes inside you it is considered losing your virginity. Even if he didnt cum. If your having bad feelings about this, you should talk to him about your feelings. & ask if he thinks it was a mistake, or maybe he can help you deal with the doubts, regrets or whatever other concerns you have.

Q: My boyfriends' ex is pregnant, she isn't trying to break us up or anything. She stays out of my way and I stay out of hers. I love my boyfriend very much, do you think that the baby could break us up or make us closer. Please help. Should I talk to the ex or just leave things as are.

Its hard to say what the baby would do to your relationship, untill it actually is born. I think you should leave things as they are if shes staying out of your way and not trying to break you guys up. Theres no need to stir things up. If you and your boyfriend do stay together, there will be a time that you might have to say something because shes going to have to be in his life, considering the baby is his.

Q: I have windows XP, how can i hide my files from other users on the computer..like me and my sister have different accounts..how can i hide my files from her and my parents? thanks

Go into your folders and their will be an option to make it hidden. If that isnt there then go under user accounts and go to yours, and uncheck or check the box to make files hidden or visible to other users.

Q: yess thats what i mean.. but i like this guy and im always there for him and i help him out. hes going through a tough time right now and im doing all i can. he just doesnt seem to notice it. i mean i no he knows i help but he doesnt do antyhing. i really like him. what more can i do for him to help him out and maybe possibly get him to like me .. ? thanks in advance

First off. If hes going through a tough time, dont push the relationship issue right now. Just let him know that your there for him as a good friend, and he`ll come to realize & appreciate it, and if he wants more than that, im sure he will pursue it.

Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 9 month and now he doesnt come home tell late at night and he never calls me. HOw do I know what to do?

Talk to him. I know Ive been saying this alot on my site but really that is the only way to fully know. Ask him why you guys havent been talking as much, but dont make it seem like your demanding to know what he was doing at all times. Ask without making him think you dont trust him.

Q: my friends keep trying to set me up with all these different guys all the time... but hello IM TAKEN!! i tell them that everytime but they wont listen to me. They say that it doesn't count because he lives so far away and i never see him. And recently me and my bf are going thru a hard time in our relationship and according to my friends going out with other guys is supposed to make me "feel better?" um ok what's up with that? They aren't even acting like friends, they should be supporting me and telling me everything is guna be ok but instead they are already assuming that we're guna break up. And i hate it when they tell all these guys that im single... IM NOT!!! how do i get thru to them??

Keep telling them that you want to stay with your boyfriend, and you dont appreciate them going out of their way to set you up with these guys that you clearly dont want to be with. If they continue doing it, you could also ask them to stay out of your personal life, but reassure them that you still care about them and appreciate what their trying to do but you really dont need their help on finding another boyfriend, when your currently still with one

Q: Okay, well someone on here told me to use "sun in" for my hair to lighten it. And i was wondering so i can tell my mom and see if she will get it for me.. how much is it? and where can i get it?

♥ thanks

Sun in is a product kind of like lemon juice that you put in your hair, then go sit in the sun and it lightens it. Go to a drug store, or a salon and ask about it and they should be able to tell you average prices.

Q: i'm just asking. ok, i'm new here. browsing thru some of the questions, i couldn't help noticing that some of the questions were made by 13-to-17-years-old people. is this a webpage for teenagers or just for everyone?need a little help here..

Im new here also, but from what Im seeing, its a webpage for all ages. The majority of it though has been 13-17.

Q: i've got that eyeshadow from hot topic. i put it on but my skin color shows up in the middle and applying more makes it very hard to see. (bright green) is there anything i could do to make it bright and stay? All it does is fall over my eyelashes. I heard putting concealer works... does it?

I was just about to say, use concealer. Then apply the eyeshadow. Try that and let me know.

Q: how come people call girls sluts if they kiss guys (like me...but i havent done it in over a month)
a slut is someone who has sex w/a bunch of guys!! so how come IM gettin called a slut!?
but im not the only one...some other people i know are getting called sluts too. and its not fair! i dont have sex! how am i a slut? i just dont get girls at all...even tho i am a girl! i just dont get why they do things like this

I dont understand it either. Chances are their jealous that your kissing guys, and they wish that they were able to do that, so they have to lash out at you and call you a slut to make themselves feel better about themselves. Just try not to let it get to you, you know your not a slut, and they know it too, their just saying those things to upset you. Just put a smile on your face, and know that their wrong. =)

Q: my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationshiip i love him and he says he loves me neither one of us wanted to fall in love with the each other but we are the thing is though sometimes i have doubts about our relationship and wanna call it off but he said he'd be dissapointed and hurt if i did i don't wanna hurt him nor do i wanna lose him i just want everything to be right between us, he is a great guy so what should i do when i start to doubts about our relationshipsor his love

If you have doubts about loving him, chances are it isnt love. When you love someone theres no doubt in your mind that its right. It seems as if your just scared of losing him, or him hating you, so your hanging in there to preserve the friendship. If thats the case, then dont sacrafice your happyness, to save something like that. It isnt fair to you.

Q: Okay, well one of my friends was talking to me, and she said she thought she was overwieght. She doesn't really look it, but she said she's gained about 20lbs in the past year. She thinks it may be due to stress because she moved just this past year. Well she had to leave her boyfriend behind and everything, and now she's maintaining a long distance relationship, which we all know can be stressful. Anyway, her boss usues relacore, and has an extra bottle, and my friend told me she was thinking about using it. So I asked her if it was safe and she said she wasn't sure. So I visited a website, relacore.com and I still wasn't completely sure if it was safe or not. She's only 15 and I wasn't sure if this was something that only adults should use, or something of the such. Anyway, we just wanted to know if relacore is okay for a 15 year old girl to take, and if not are there any other diet pills you could reccommend? Thanks in advance

First off. ANy diet pill isnt that safe for someone under 18. What your friend should really do is eat healthier and exercise alot. I know everyone says this but it works. It takes time and effort and also confidence. Tell her to stay away from the diet pills.

Q: what kind of food are healthie that make your body in perfect shape

I will rate high I promise that is if you give a good answer please help me I really need it please

There is no food that makes your body in "perfect shape" It depends on what kind of metabolism you have. Some people can eat certain foods and not gain a pound, others eat it and they gain 5. It all depends on your body makeup. Some good foods however are ones that are negative calories such as celery, brocoli, lettuce, and things of that nature. Stay away from starchy & salty foods.

Q: ok me and my friends are planning a little co-ed camping trip near these waterfalls and im just asking what are some things i should bring..like necessities and entertainment things? i was already thinking a boombox that runs on batteries and having an all night campfire of course.
any ideas on games to play..things to do?
5's for effort thanks
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