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how can i tell if i peed or if i ejaculated when i Jack-off? (link)
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The processes involved either when masturbating or having sex will not lead to you urinating at climax even if you have a full bladder at the time. What is ejaculated will be semen. Visually, they bear no similarity either and it should be obvious afterwards. If you're feeling that your climax and ejaculation might accidentally produce urine at some time, relax. It will not. It's actually difficult to deliberately pass urine at all for guys when they are fully erect...try it sometime.
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I feel like sometimes I don't know if I feel emotion to the heart. I want to so bad. Like when I say sorry and I want to mean it but I just can't feel it for some reason. When I say I love you I'm not sure if I'm just saying it as a automated response but I don't feel anything but I do love my family and mean it. When I feel sad or guilty I feel it in my stomach sometimes but I live on. How does it feel to be sorry? I keep a diary and I write things but I think I write how I want to feel. How do I actually feel the way I want to. (link)
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In a lot of cases the extent and depth to which we feel emotion is greatly affected by the environment we grow up in. Lets be straight, I am NOT saying that you have been in any way neglected or unloved and I'm sure your parents and family loved and still do love you very much. What I'm thinking is DISPLAYS of emotion. If parents are somewhat reluctant to outwardly show emotion (however deeply they feel it) then it can affect they way we mature. The tendency is NOT to develop into a strongly emotional person who deliberately masks or hides their feelings. Rather, because our childhood is such a formative time which determines many of our adult character traits, ther is somewhat more tendency for the child BE and FEEL less in touch with their emotions as they mature. Is this anywhere like the truth? Are your parents flamboyant and enthusiastic in their shows of emotion, or do they tend to be a little reserved and cool in their outward response? Whatever, I do know you feel a little remote and distanced from your emotions (you've told me!). Can we do anything to put you in closer touch? Can we 'un-learn' something we picked-up? We might start by using that "true feeling and outward display" idea, but the other way round. Think about other peoples displays of emotion. Do they hug, laugh hysterically, scream or shriek a bit? Talk loudly and praise each other, describe how they feel themselves in lavish, colourful terms? OK...next and every time it's appropriate for you....RUN WITH IT! Try going through the motions even though you are 'not really feeling it' and certainly not that passionatley. Do not think about it, do it anyway. I think you can see where I'm going? At first you'll probably feel like a big fat fraud! Then bit by bit, by copying and by continual repetition you might well re-invent yourself into a more emotional person, more in contact with their feelings. And you won't have to 'fake it' as much, or at all. Of course, we do not all gush sentiment and emotion like a running tap, we don't all tell anyone and everyone we love them and hug them. What we'd like is to get you to the point where YOU feel happy about how you 'feel about your feelings' (as we might say) and experience them on a level you are satisfied with and feel comfortable with. Why not give the idea a try? Break that "I can't feel" mindset. This will make you (metaphorically) reluctant to join the party even when you can see the other guests are having fun. You CAN feel, and I can prove it. If you truly could not feel, you would not care about not caring (you with me?) and would never have written your note. Best wishes. X
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Recently, I've auditioned for a musical at a local theatre, and I got a very bad role. Judging by the age/skill of the other people there, I was one of the top three in voice skill, and the best at acting in general. When we got the parts, this camp (Read: CHILDREN'S CAMP. Nothing professional.) gave roles almost perfectly to those who looked the part. I really hate going there, and I feel like I should drop out, but I would also feel bad if I did that. What should I do? (link)
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Got to totally concur with adviceman49. There are no bad roles, only bad actors. Make it your mission to steal the show and attract attention....in a good way of course!!
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Hi im 21/f and i need some advice. A few months ago my longterm boyfriend and i had sex for the first time and it was great. Ive recently developed a really strong bond with God and i know the bible says its wrong for christians to have sex before marriage... And i want to do things right. God has forgiven me i know but im afraid of telling my boyfriend we shouldnt have sex anymore... Im afraid of hurting him... (link)
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Think you might have to tread carefully to avoid conflict. Remember that finding this bond with God is a personal thing. But does he share anything like such a strong bond, and hence will he have anything like your level of conviction that sex before marriage is not acceptable? He may not actually feel that the act of your having sex together previously is something he wants to be forgiven for. Or indeed anything that needs to be forgiven at all. I should think that your most convincing approach to the subject would be to state (tactfully and with understanding) that even if it is not really an issue for him, it IS an issue for YOU and since it is, you need him to comply out of respect for you and your beliefs and values. In a way, shift the focus. You do not want to as it compromises your love and respect of God. You want to get him thinking he doesn't want to because if he insists he is compromising his love and respect for YOU (ie. in effect, leaving his relationship with God out of his reckoning and making it a matter of respect for YOU and your wishes). If he does not have that bond with God you have, trying to force it on him could in my opinion possibly end up a mistake you might quickly regret.
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Ok so my school makes our skirt be 2 in above the knee but the only thing is everyone wears it shorter. Plz dont say roll it or hem it or pull it up because we have to tuck in our skirt and thats againts the rules :) i have to go back TOMMORW
ThX (link)
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Interfacing, vylene or wonderweb are uk names for the tape razhie mentioned. If you make a neat , straight job of turning the hem nobody will know you have done it. Maybe press the new crease in first and 'un-pressing' it as required (as you might say) until it's spot-on. Then iron over it with the interfacing in place. Job done.
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Is there any way to buy one, and I mean a real one, at a big discount? I have always wanted this one Hermes handbag that I saw someone famous carrying, but I know I will never be able to afford what they cost new. Any hope at all for my fantasy? (link)
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The big designers often sell off previous collection items at massive discounts when the new collection is released if you can wait, but usually ONLY in their home city retailer (so Prada only in Milan, Hermes will be Paris etc). And it's only available to people who walk in to the store, not usually to online or phone purchases. So depends on where you live, or knowing someone in the relevant location and getting them to buy it in person and mail it to you. I believe the big design houses are reluctant release their stuff to online discount retailers or 'other shops' because it rather detracts from their elitist image (if anybody could pick them up cheap on ebay there wouldn't be much prestige in owning one). Only other idea is that I know of some privately run London boutiques who buy very high-class pre-owned designer stuff (the well-heeled owners sell them on and buy the latest styles...alright for some, eh?). If it fits you, you can get a 'last seeason' Chanel dress that cost £2000 for four or five hundred for instance and it certainly won't look worn or tatty! Got any stores like that near you? They usually advertise as 'Pre-Loved' designer styles. If you REALLY want it BAD...it might have to be a case of staying in for a month and living on Cornflakes! Hope you get it, one way or another. X
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Thank you for the response. Is advicenators not anonymous? (link)
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Hi there! Far as I'm aware it is completely anonymous. I'm replying to an Inbox entry. It contains only what you wrote, and to be honest I do not even know which question and reply you are referring to. But I'm pleased you found some light in it!
I have no idea of the identities (on-line or real-world) of anyone I reply to. Certain phrases or references very obviously define a country (US or UK spring to mind)...but this could not be considered as compromising ones anonymity. That's as much as I know...and I possibly guess that wrong sometimes too! And once I post this I cannot contact you again even via the site if I wanted to. YOU can contact ME. Feel free, anytime. But I'll only ever know what your write in your question. If it is targeted at me alone it is not posted up for all to see in the 'View Qustions'...so anonymous AND discrete too! Best Wishes. X
ps. If a question and answer exchange involved incitement to civil unrest or acts of terrorism or such like, authorities could demand IP addresses etc from the site administrators I guess. So don't ask me how to make an improvised explosive device!!!
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I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now (we're both 16 by the way) but we've not even kissed yet. We see each other at least once a week and get on so well when we're together. We'll hug goodbye but that is pretty much the only deliberate physical contact we have.
I would really love for things to go just slightly further than they have but I can't tell if that's what he wants. I realise that talking to him would be a good idea but whenever I approach the subject he just talks about something else (he's quite a shy/awkward person as am I).
Basically I have no clue what to do.
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Next time you're closing in for that goodbye hug, look him square in the eyes,flash him your biggest, brightest and sexiest smile and ask him "Isn't it about time I got a proper kiss?". Tilt your head a little to one side, move your face towards his. Enjoy! XX
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I'm a 14 year old girl. When I was about 6 my mom had a baby boy named Luke. She brought him home from the hospital and I was so excited to have a baby brother. I promised him that I would protect him and love him and all of that stuff that a little girl says to someone or something that she loves. But that night I had a nightmare. The nightmare went like this: I was sleeping when I heard an ambulance outside of our apartment building. I went outside to see what was going on and I saw a man in a paramedic uniform carrying something. I looked in his arms and he was carrying Luke. But something was wrong: Luke was missing his arms, legs, and head. The paramedic was just carrying Luke's torso. In the dream, I knew that someone had chopped up my baby brother. Pretty deranged dream for a six year old girl who should be dreaming about princesses, right? I was terrified but I never told my parents because even when I was young, I never felt like I could talk to them. I never had this dream again, but it still haunts me and scares me and worries me. It's been bothering me for the past eight years. Is there a way that I can get this out of my head? (link)
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Hi there. Right. I gather you are shocked that your sleeping mind could produce images like this? Our mind when asleep is capable of producing any visual imagery. It quite simply has no bounds as to what visions it can come up with. First thing to remember is that dreams are not premonitions or messages. Often actual physical things we are experiencing in real life feature strongly. And things we are feeling come into play to. Our sleeping minds cannot 'see a feeling' so the feelings find themselves represented by objects, events and scenaria. Not directly (that would be too easy, eh??) but through a complex code of symbolism. Some themes are fairly common and we find they are rouglhy similar for all people. But some of the coding is unique to YOU. It would indeed have been a shock to wake up from a horrible dream in which the beloved new baby had been chopped-up and carted about by hospital staff. Shocks have a way of forming an extremely persistent visual memory (it's all linked to the crash of 'brain fluids' that shocks cause...most of us find we are strangely able to recount every detail of the surroundings at the moment we received a shocking piece of bad news for instance..and it does in a way 'haunt' us and we find it impossible to completely forget). So (bad news) its unlikely that you will ever forget having the dream and you'll possibly always be able to re-tell the story, just as you have to us now. Good news (I hope) is that you're now able to appreciate that it was simply your brain 'motoring on' in your sleep and making effectively random pictures out of feelings. You are not and were not deranged or crazy. The dream implied or signified no probability of any horrific event awaiting Luke. It did not show any animosity or desire in you to see him chopped-up. The best therapy is indeed to talk about it. In many ways it would have been better if you had then had a hysterical few minutes crying with your parents tellling them how you dreamed baby Luke had been chopped up in the hospital, and how upsetting and horrible if felt. Gets it a bit more out of the system early on maybe? Though you would still remember it even if you had. Well I guess at 14 you're a bit grown-up for a crying fit, eh? I think you're perfectly mature enough to understand all I've said. Maybe do a bit of research on dream-analysis (proper psychological science websites please...not hocus-pocus spiritual supernatural crap!!)? And perhaps get it out of YOUR system a bit now, with your greater maturity and through knowledge and understanding. You are extremely unlikely to forget completely (look-up and learn a bit about 'seratonin levels' and the effect trauma has on them maybe?). But you should find talking and/or understanding things will help you lay it all to rest. I hate to think of a fine young lady still being haunted and bothered by one nasty dream after all these years! Posting it up on the net at Advicenators was a smart move too. That's getting it out the dark and shadows, and into the open light where things are less scary. X
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My brother told me about water poisoning. I drink a LOT of water a day, a lot that it's probably unhealthy, and now I'm kind of worried. I'm pretty sure I drink more than 8 cups a day.
I'm going to start measuring 8 cups a day of water since that's how much I should have a day, but do I have water poisoning? How do I know if I have it? I googled it and read that it IS indeed true; It wasn't him trying to scare me. (link)
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Completely agree with razhie and co. Drink plenty spread over the course of the day. Ttaying well hydrated is a really good thing. Keeps your body and brain functioning at its best. You're fine. Our bodies lose fluids by sweating, going for a pee and manage the whole set up on their own. If you are constantly peeing you might drink a little less. If you feel a strong thirst that's the first sign of your body saying 'I need more fluids'. And you know when you've had enough. And water's the best stuff really. I mean, eight cups of highly flavoured, sugar-laden soft drinks a day and you'll wind up as fat as a pig, with lousy teeth before long! Eight coffees and you'll probably find it hard to sleep because of the all caffeine. Water poisoning issues? We're talking WAY too much in a very short time. We know eight cups over a day is reckoned a good thing, just about matching what we will use and lose in the same period. Wouldn't wory about measuring everything exactly. Just a rough estimate. I mean even if your estimate was a whole 50% out you'll have had 12...which won't do you a blind bit of harm, ever!
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what is cached and its function (link)
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Visualise an office with a filing cabinet and your desk. Stuff (documents in our theoretical example) could be stored away in the filing cabinet for use as and when needed. It would make sense to keep copies of documents you use frequently and are constantly referring to in a little tray on your desk wouldn't it? To save you from walking over to the cabinet and searching through all the time? The tray on your desk is a 'cache'. A computer running a program will do this. Permanently storing away data on its fixed disc drives and opening them as and when required. And by 'caching' frequently used data so it can get to it quickly. It can't cache everything, just like you can't get a cabinet full of documents in a little tray. And a massive tray would defeat the object, you'll spend ages searching through it the pile of paper! So the cache in a computer is likewise kept small (fast and easy to access). So caching makes a computer run faster, more efficiently from the users point of view. Which is a good thing. Is that any help?
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I have a teacher at college that I've become very close with academically. We have spent a lot of time working together. In the past year I've become smitten by him. I don't always know whether I love him as a father figure or a friend or sexually. It changes. Sometimes I feel like no man will ever be able to understand or accept me like he does. It's always made me feel really sad that our relationship doesn't span beyond school things. He has a family and everything and obviously it's unprofessional to hang out with students outside school and it's not what I want because I care deeply about my career and that's what I'm studying with him for after all. It's something that would never happen. But when I'm alone, especially when I'm home from school (I'm graduated now), I revert to my mind and think about him a lot. I have dreams about him and then wake up thinking about him and sad for the whole day. Today I am particularly sad and missing him(and on top of that my nagging mother won't leave me alone on my day off). I just need to shake this off and stop thinking about him and school and the fact that I'm not going back, but it's so hard. (link)
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Sometimes we meet people who we identify with very strongly. There feels a perfect sense of connection and totally natural, unforced understanding. One we could not set up or work to make happen or engineer in any way. It is just 'there'. Sometimes so strong that the two of you seem to hold and share the same single thought? Such relations do indeed transcend everything, we cannot put them in a box marked sexual attraction, friendship, admiration...or any other. And we feel the bond would perhaps fit into all of them equally well? Worst of all, they make all human other relationships (which do not posess this feeling of affinity) seem a little poor by comparison. A little dull and disappointing. They lack that spark that is impossible to define but so obviously present? In your case this bond has been struck with someone who for various reasons is not a realistic option. Maybe it is just impossible to realise. You feel how good things could be, if only....? And it's burning you isn't it? It hurts just about as much as you think anything CAN hurt? I'm afraid I do not have a magic wand or very much to add that can stop it hurting. Only perhaps that this feeling of connection could at any time arise with some other person. And they may be more available, able to let the feeling grow and flourish. And you will have found your hearts desire. Can we take SOME positive from your present anguish? Maybe. You've experienced that inexplicable and perhaps even scary sense of connection that can exist between people. You are aware of its potential. And you know that you are the sort of person who will not be satisfied with anything less in a relationship. each time I read what you have written it calls out very loud that you are one of those people who posess what we might call 'the single heart'. No compartments (the 'boxes' we spoke about). All, or nothing. In a way I envy you this singularity. And in many ways I definitely do NOT envy you it because of its terrible ability to hurt you. In consequnce you'll probably feel hurt more strongly than most people when things go wrong, but also happiness and love more intensely than they do when things go right. I wish you well.XX
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The hardest part about life is going through pain, but pain is often necessary. I question the relationships I have with people. Why I am constantly left disappointed? Well, I think I have found the answer. It is because I have no control over what people do or say to me. I often wish I could change people, maybe if I tell them how they hurt me they would change for the better. In my mind I have expectation of them and they are completely inconsistent to who the person actually is. I constantly look for someone I can depend on but I have attracted unreliable people. I am a reliable and considerate person shouldn't I attract reliable and considerate people? What am I suppose to learn from this? (link)
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We often have little or no control over events external to ourselves. We cannot influence others except by force (physical or emotional), or with their cooperation and consent. But how YOU react to them is and will always be YOUR choice. Because by the self-same token, they have little or no influence on you. Nobody hurts or humiliates us without our consent then? Nobody drives you mad unless you give them the keys. We can only be let down if we have high expectations. Your expectations are based on what, exactly? Were these high expectations warranted by anything except your own 'wishful thinking'? If so then YOU are trying to project your will onto them...against their will...contrary to their true nature. Which we agree(?) is something we cannot do. So make sure your expectations are built on real premises. Or have no expectation and let them write their own narrative....then evaluate and decide. In an ideal world like would attract like. In reality consideration often attracts users. Reliability often attracts infidelity. So you must be discriminating in who you allow into your confidence and who you allow close. Those who have let you down have simply been consistent to their true nature, and inconsistent with YOUR expectation of them. I can see your wish that letting them know how they have hurt you would improve them. You are crediting them with empathy and compassion they do not posess, I think? Letting them know how much they hurt you will in such cases increase their power and diminish yours. Is their anything to learn? Perhasp that your sphere of true influence contains only yourself. But when all is said and done, that is all it HAS TO contain. How you react....YOUR choice. Always. Re REPLY. OF COURSE YOUR PROBLEM IS SPECIFIC AND UNIQUE. YOU ARE UNIQUE! ELABORATE AWAY BY INBOXING ME IF YOU THINK I MIGHT SHED SOME LIGHT. X
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What color looks best in harem pants? (link)
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Definitely vivid warm hues ( fiery reds, oranges, deep purples etc). Like stage costumes, rather than the more subtle colours for smart dayware and the blacks of eveningware. Gold trimmings great. And 'stagey' silk/satin fabrics rather than matte or coarser weaves. Think colourful, floaty, exotic and eastern. Like Scheherazade and the Arabian Nights!
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So I've been with my boyfriend for awhile and I'm not afraid to touch his penis but I don't like him touching me down there for some reason idk if it's just because I'm embarrassed about getting wet or what but plz help! (link)
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Might be an idea to try and isolate what exactly it is about the act that is putting you off. Maybe that ou are afraid it will run away with you and lead to sex, and you do not want that just yet? Worried he will be a bit clumsy or heavy-handed and perhaps not gentle enough? Since you are happy about touching him intimately I assume you find him attractive and desirable, and not at all off the idea of being physically close? The best way to overcome the fears about clumsiness or exceeding your current sexual limits is sound, honest communication. Agreeing the boundaries, and plenty of feedback while he pleasures you (telling him what feels good, what does not, so you can make the most of the parts you enjoy and he can stop doing anything that you don't like). Quite a lot of young ladies are nervous about their boyfriend seeing and feeling that they are getting wet when it is still quite a new experience. Let me assure you he will not find it gross/offputting?unpleasant etc. I should say he'll feel pretty delighted that his girlfriend is showing him she finds him arousing in a clear manner. Most guys do, and not just when we're in our youth either! Don't you feel quite pleased knowing being around you excites him (gives him an erection, to be blunt)? And don't worry about the timing...some do. If you've already got a bit excited before he caresses you intimately (from kissing and cuddling?) it won't make a guy think you're 'easy' or 'slutty' or any silly ideas like that. And don't worry about any slight scent (even if you're absolutely fresh from the shower), guys don't find it off-putting at all. Finally, if it's just the whole idea of a guy touching you 'down there' that you don't like then the relationship need a little more time, until you do feel nice and ready. I suppose in many ways the act is what we might call sexual foreplay and as such, the preparation for full sexual intercourse. But it certainly does not have to be that, particularly early on in a relationship. Agree your limits, keep respect for each other and yourselves and it can be a perfectly enjoyable thing in itself, not for where it leads. Ssomething which you both give and take. Communication is probably the key, as it so often is. Talk to each other. X
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Hi, I'm 13 and my right boob is bigger then my left, u can't tell when I'm whereing a bra but when I'm not its noticeable. Is this normal?? Please help! (link)
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You're OK. Boobs aren't perfectly 'mirror-matched' very often and once the idea is in your head that yours aren't, the closer and more critically you will start inspecting them, and the more aware you will become of differnces. The left hand side of our bodies and faces are simply not a perfect mirror-image of the right hand side. Of course, a bra DOES have identically shaped and sized cups and if it's the right size and fits correctly it will lend that 'perfect symmetry' to your boobs which is so elusive when they are free to do their own thing, as you might say. And at 13 they probably arrived at their final size and proportion yet. You're fine. ps....love the 'sisters not twins' comment...which says it all really if you think about it!!
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Hi
I've been dating my bf for for years, and Recently I had
Pregnancy signs and told him, I was so scared ,prayed for them not to be positive because we are still young. I thensaid to him that I don't want to give kids out of wedlock. This did cause him too much pain, he said that he too was born before my inlaws tied the knot, I didn't know about this, and it came out the wrong way, what I was trying to say is that it will be better if we hve kids when we are financially stable so that we won't be burdening our parents with our responsiblities.
Things started changing, are conversations are getting shorter, he no longer calls me with sweet names. He talks to me like I'm a stranger, I'm afraid he wants to end our relationship. I've never met his parents but I feel they are the only people who can talk to him and make him understand that I only meant well just that didn't say it in the right way. I want to call my mom in-law but I'm scared, I don't know where to start, that what I'm gonna say to her.
I really love this guy, He's the most wonderful thing I've ever had in life. My first love, My everything. He's in every plan of my future and all I need is to be with him. Can't eat, can't concentrate in class, I'm loosing weight. Please advice Me on how to handle this, don't want to loose him, he's my world.
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Bit tricky. Your views will probably have inadvertently needled him in his own mind. The reasons you don't approve have been mapped on to him. Result, he will probably be taking it as a slur on himself and his family. Now the thing seems to hinge on the act of marriage to my eye. Perhaps the best way to tackle it may be to stress to him that you do not feel a couple should have children until they are secure and materially stable. Until they have shown they are fully committed to one another. Indeed, when they feel their partner is their life and all, and the person that underpins all their future plans and ambitions, wouldn't you say? Just how you feel about him, in fact? OK, so this level of commitment is something that you have always associated with marriage. But you see now that it can exist even if the couple have not been through the formal wedding service (with all the trimmings!). That maybe now you are seeing marriage as only the figurehead, the display of these feelings...NOT the feelings THEMSELVES? You already have them, now. His parents must have had them...the fact they had not formally 'tied the knot' seems less important to you now. And you are sorry if he took your comment as any sort of criticism, which it was not intended to be. If this smooths the waters, you will of course want to point out that YOU would prefer the marriage ceremony first, children afterwards. Say it's a childhood thing, a girl-thing, you always pictured it this way...that you're a proper 'old-fashioned girl' at heart, maybe? You see it as your 'big day' and symbolic of the start of the rest of your lives together, a family and so on. Basically, you want to portray it as a cute and traditional little bit of feminine caprice (to take off some of the pressure). Be on guard mate, don't let even the slightest trace of dissaproval of children out of wedlock accidentally creep into your comments or attitude!! The words came out wrong, you want to put things right. Good luck, I think you have a good chance of talking him round. X
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lm a 21year old female&l haven't had my first period lm worried (link)
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21 is old to have not had a period and there is little in your post to hazzard a guess. Did you have some sort of long-term eating disorder in your early teens (anorexia nervosa etc)? Do you believe you are anorexic but have not had it treated? You certainly should consult a doctor for an examination and a frank chat. Don't hide anything from him or her regarding your past and present general health and condition, it may well be significant.
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I'm a teenage girl and my eyes are two different sizes. I've linked a photo of myself below. It's not painfully obvious in this photo, but sometimes it is really obvious, especially when I smile. Is there anything that I can do about this? Any make up that I can wear to make my smaller eye look bigger or anything? (link)
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Don't worry. If you take a head and shoulders portrait of someone and then use Photoshop to divide the face straight down the middle, duplicate either half and mirror it...the picture looks strangely (and more often than not, greatly) unlike the model. I'm not talking about the hairline (which often has deliberately asymmetry in a lot of styles) but the face. I mean nose, eyes, forehead, lips, jawline...the lot. In absolute terms our faces are very rarely symmetrical and this excercise (which makes a perfectly symmetrical face, form whichever side you choose...or both for a comparison if you like) proves it in perhaps a startling way. I might point out that models who might be considered the 'best looking' are NOT those whose faces approach symmetry most closely either. It tends to be the opposite and it's reckoned our eyes are rather 'hungry' for some asymmetry, and seem in a way to 'prefer' to see some. I believe the animators who create the 3D characters in CGI movies and TV shows have to deliberately avoid giving their human characters perfectly symmetrical faces too, or it looks strangely 'wrong'. So relax, and I wouldn't try to balance your perceived eye-sizes with some bizarre make-up technique. I'm sure even professional make-up artists don't entertain the idea, or ever attempt it. And you might see that the idea of a model having a 'best side' is not a myth. And also notice that few portraits are taken with the absolutely square-on to the camera...except passport photos...and don't you find most people hate their passport photo?? You're OK. Stop worrying.!! XX
ps..the rest of our bodies do not posess perfect symmetry either which you can again prove with Photoshop. The right shoulder and upper arm muscles for instance will always be more pronounced (ie slightly bigger) in a right-handed person. And don't even think about getting a ruler on your boobs or comparing the profiles!!
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Hey. I have a problem that I really need help with. So I got out of a relationship with a guy a couple months ago and I was really heartbroken about it, then a couple weeks ago a friend of mine said that he liked me and asked me to be his girlfriend. Me being the idiot I am, said yes. I thought I liked him and it would help me get through the breakup with the other guy, but now I realize that I really don't like him. Also, I won't see him at all in person so I need to break up with him over text. Please help me. What do I do. Helpppp (link)
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I guess you picked up with the new guy 'on the rebound' to use an over-used cliche. Well you're not the first and won't be the last. Personally I would try to tell him on the phone, speaking. A text saying (in effect, however tactfully you phrase it) that it's all over seems a bit cold to me. But I'm maybe of a generation where it bothers me more than younger guys...perhaps texting is acceptable...but I still think it's cold! An acceptable approach may be that you just don't feel you want any sort of relationship right now, you want to be free to concentrate on what you want, without distractions or any stress? Needless to say "I just don't like you" is unlikely to please. OK, it is direct, honest and to the point. But remember that sometimes being 'straight talking' is actually a selfish thing rather than a quality. And a little white-lie can be much kinder, especially under these circumstances. Continuing a relationship based on an untrue premise is of course not defendable...but using one to end one more gently shows compassion and empathy and understanding if you handle it right.
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