Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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Strange Dreams have haunted my life as of late, and they are really ruining the way I look at my boyfriend. Anyway, a little about myself, I'm 16, had one boyfriend before this, nieve, clueless, and totally insecure, etc etc. ANYway, he is totally awesome, cute, and his totally weird personality fits almost perfectly with mine, which is also weird. He is the first boy I really kissed (yes I never kissed my ex...twas lame)All of it is so new to me and I'm scared, hence the unsettling dreams. The first dream I had is really embarrasing to tell...But here it is. I was at his house, we were older, he was a millionaire, and his house was stuffy and felt weird. I told him I wanted to take a shower, he was kind and got it ready for me then left. I got all undressed, then he stormed in running at me with a scary, determined look. I woke up with my heart pounding. Then...I was like what the heck was that? It wasn't him at all, it was scary, it was just messed up! He is the sweetest harmless guy ever...but I dream that? Then last night I dreamed that me and my best friend were sitting in his room, (again he was extremely rich) and we started looking through his stuff, he had tons of stuff from exgirlfriends, drawings that looked like mine, pictures of them, notes. All of them had a spereate drawer, Then...There was mine completely empty. I felt all jealous, then I woke up. Everything was going great before this, what it my problem?! I'm ruining it with my own dreams. What is wrong with me, and what do they mean?
help,
very confused Rach (link)
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Your dreams aren't uncommon, don't be worried about being abnormal. Nothing is wrong with you. Dreams are the minds way of working thru issues while your asleep, and may even help you understand how you feel.
Your dream could mean anything. Do you have a fear of getting intimate with him? That could be expressed by your first dream, and the fact that you didnt kiss your last boyfriend.
Or are you afraid your replaceable, or not good enough for him? Or that he's still attatched to his ex girlfriends? That could be possible considering your second dream. Just think about it and maybe even talk to him about them, his opinion might put all your fears to rest.
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Ever since I started my period many years ago, I have gotten watery discharge when I awake in the morning. It's not pee, mind you, it is surely discharge.
Now, before I get my period, I get many signs for weeks. Also, my periods are usually late.
However... my ex-boyfriend and I had sex while we were dating and did the old pull-out thing. I never got pregnant for the 5 months of it happening but I always end up worrying myself to death each and every month.
Is clear, watery discharge, cramps, bloatedness, sore nipples, heavy breasts and a want for salty food pregnancy signs? Should I get a test or should I stick it out a few days and wait for my period?
I was supposed to get it on May 1 and it's May 3. The signs of my period coming are all here and I honestly feel like I'm going to start gushing blood any second... when I do think I have, I check and it's clear, watery discharge. (link)
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save yourself the anxiety, get a test. waiting wont do anything for you.
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Me and my hubby like to have our old and new friends over for cookouts,
play horseshoes, and catch up on old times. There was 5 of my hubby's friends
here yesterday. While fixing the hamburgers, we were all talking about fishing in the
local carp fishing lake. I said "yeah i won biggest fish with my 19 pounder that one day"
W looks at me and says "were you on your period? Cause if girls are on it its like the
fish smell it or something they love it" I just said no and dropped it I didnt mind that that much cause
i have heard of things like that before fishing. Well later on J was talking about how
my 7 yr old daughter was eating so much. I said "Yeah she does that all the time but she
is so active she burns it all off" He looks straight at me and says"she looks like you,
you look like you burn yours off too or T(my hubby) works it out of you one" I was
so shocked at what he said all i could say was "uh" I got my burgers and ate in the house.
My son came in and said "mom that guy(he described J) told me that if i didnt stop
playing on that (car) jack i was gonna hurt my balls" My kids aint around that kind
of language. When my hubby came in i told him what i thought about it.
He said "well you just have to get to know him better" He did tell the guys to watch what they say.
W came back by himself and told T to let me know he was sorry if he said anything to offend me and
that he was sorry for the others too. Which like i said i dont really care what he said that much.
J though said before he left he wanted to bring his wife and kids here next time.
But I dont even want him here again, let alone with his family. Am I wrong for thinking this?
What do you think i should do? (link)
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If your husband made them aware that they need to watch their language in your home, then give him another chance. He will most likely be on much better manners if his wife is with him. If situations bring you together again, be open minded, but if he doesn't show you more respect, just let your husband know you'd rather not have him at your house.
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hi,
im 14 and my penis is 4.5 inchs hard. is this correct or is it small for my age. (link)
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person below me is wrong.
average size is 4-6 inches
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I just got my ACT results back.. and I got an 18, which is horrible. UGH, why am I so unintelligent? I don't know how to do better, I'm going to take it again when I can, but do people normally do better? Everyone says that you do, but really is that true? How can I prepare for the next time I take it? I'm just so frustrated. Ugh.. (link)
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Now that you are familliar with the test, you should do better just by knowing what to expect.
Try reading a prep book, or even getting a tutor.
http://www.admissionsconsultants.com/college/act.asp
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whats the difference between mashing a banana and putting it on your face and using good face washes? its a waste of banana isnt it? i guess face washes have chemicals.. but i dont think theres a prob with using face washes daily. (link)
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A banana has no proven ingredients in it that will clear your face. Facial washes, however, do. A certain product won't work for everyone as we all have different faces and different problems, so try some products and see what works.
Usually its recommended you wash your face daily, atleast. Some people have washes for morning and night. But read the bottle, and the ingredients, because the harsher it is the more it will dry out your skin.
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He is wonderful and caring, and selfish and scared. This is our first baby. He is 27 and I am 32. We don't live together. He has roommates and I live at home again. I don't want to force him to be a husband and father, but I need him to be both. I am moving out of my family's house in about a month. The baby was not in their plans either. I want him to live with me and be a father. He is willing to help financially even with my living expenses. What can I say to help him understand my needs without nagging or whining? (link)
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Be open, honest, and sincere. This isn't the time to beat around the bush. Tell him how you feel. Make sure he knows how important it is to you that your child together has a father figure in his or her life, not just an occasional visit and a check. Tell him why you think he will be a great father and how much it matters to you that he's there for the baby. If you have confidence in him, his is surely to build.
Do you really love him? Can you really see the three of you being a happy family? Or do you just want the father of your baby in your life because it seems like the right thing? If your not sure, trying to get him to marry you isnt a wise decision. Your child needs it's parents, but a falsely built marriage isnt nessacary. If you do love him, then ask him if he feels the same. He needs to know how much YOU need him, and how much YOU love him. Dont focus so much on making a family, just focus on buidling your relationship and the baby.
Have a serious talk, not sessions of hinting and whining about what you want. He needs to know how you feel straight out.
Many fathers dont even offer financial support, so no matter what, appreciate him for what he is ready to do.
Good luck and congratulations on the baby. No matter how complicated things may seem, this child is a blessing and nothing less.
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I am wondering how to tell the guests invited to my shower not bring their children. I am having it at a very nice tea room that is not child proof. There are no acomodations for young children either. What should I say and where should I say it? (link)
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It's usually common knowledge that only the name/s on the envelope are the ones invited to the party. So...
Jane Do is cordially invited to...means just her presence is wanted but
The Do Family
includes more.
If you still feel people will be unsure, you could say:
Adults only
Only guests over 18
or if you want to do it in a more creative way that isnt as unpersonal you could say things like
Leave the kids at home!
Ladies only party
Some people are offended when they can't take there kids, there isn't anything you can do about it. Make it clear so your special day goes as planned.
Have fun!
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should i take it to the next level is my question.
so i have been talking with this guy online and on the phone.we recently just went rollerbladding in a group.i know he likes me and i know he knows that i like him.what do i do? does he ask me or do i ask him? he wants to hang out sometime this week and he is the one that asked .not me.do i say sure we can hang out or not? (link)
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If your both interested in each other theres nothing wrong in persuing a relationship. If you like hanging out with him and enjoy his company, then you should go out with him and see if the two of you have fun, or have chemistry. It doesn't mean you two are automatically boyfriend girlfriend, just that your seeing where things can go. Have fun!
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i want to tease my hair but i dont want it very big.. i just want to make it more volumized. but anyways, ive tried teasing and it kinda doesnt work for me. so i heard that there is a hairspray or some kind of spray that is like teasing your hair but you instead of using a comb u just spray it on your hair. so does anyone know what spray its called and if it works? thanks (link)
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theres products that give volume, but none work just by spraying it on. You will have to give some effort and tease your hair. You can try volumizing shampoo, conditioner, hair spray, etc. Im pretty sure you can go to the hair care aisle in any store and find numerous products to help.
I hope these videos will help...
http://youtube.com/watch?v=Uh-6Sfc6ZJg
http://youtube.com/watch?v=SezgMgiudgc
http://youtube.com/watch?v=oachipsumPo
good luck!
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how would i do my hair like this? i have layers and side bangs, and hair about to my chest.
http://us.movies1.yimg.com/movies.yahoo.com/images/hv/photo/movie_pix/new_line_cinema/the_notebook/kaley_cuoco/notepred.jpg
Thanks:) (link)
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I'd start by straightening your hair. Then, pull the pieces of your bangs (if you have them) up or just comb your hair in front of your face and pull the part covering your mid forehead back as if you were going to put your hair in a pony tail. I'd make sure the section of hair is about 3 inches wide. Comb everything and make sure its neat, and then you basically "poof" that section of hair. While its laying flat, push it foreward with your fingers so it stands up an inch or so from your head. You can secure that with a clip or bobpy pins.
Seperate the pieces of hair that frame your face and pull the rest up into a high pony tail. Tie with elastic. Use a claw clip to push the pony tail upwards and hold it there to give the back of your hair volume. You can use a curling iron to flip the strands around your face under if you want too. Hope that helps!!!
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I'm in the musical, You're A Good Man Charlie Brown in my highscool and I'm playing the role of Sally. Naturally, my hair is a dirty blonde almost light brown sort of color but i need to dye it blonde for a short period of time...I really like my hair color and don't want it to ruin my hair.
Does anyone have any advice (please, only real experience) about a non-permanent hair dye that will dye my dirty blonde/light brown hair blonde and actually wash out and work?
Thank you :] (link)
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The conair thing the person recommended below doesn't work as well as it's advertised. It's not really color, and not very strong.
Try Loreal color pulse. It comes out in 8-10 washes. I've tried it myself, and it does take more then 8-10 washes to completely come out, but it may be different if your using a lighter color (blonde) because I used plum.
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vintage - Characterized by excellence, maturity, and enduring appeal; classic. Old or outmoded.
so vintage is just old pieces of clothing from past decades like '70s which you cant find in modern clothes now? and the only way to get vintage clothes is through secondhand shops? (link)
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Vintage can be anything from the 70's to the 1900's. Anything that has atleast a couple decades on it can be considered vintage. Second hand stores are great places to get vintage clothing, but that doesnt rule out clothing companies today. It's incredible how much of todays fashion is inspired by past decades, jewelry especially. The baby doll and short flowy dresses girls have been donning this past winter with leggings take from the mod era, and the long high waisted "bell bottoms" you've seen Katie Holmes in is straight out of the 70's. Do some research on which decade is for you (mixing can be bad) and pick colors and silohuettes reminiscent of the vintage your trying to pick up. Never go full out vintage though, you want to look like your bringing an style back, not like your stuck in that style.
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I really love my boyfriend, but every time we make out it seems like we're just tongue wrestling. I've seen people make out, and it doesn't seem like we're doing it right. Can anyone help? (link)
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Your boyfriend must care about you, and he must want to please you. He can't do what you want if you don't let him know what you like. Start out slow, if he becomes agressive don't respond, and try stroking his back gently to show you want something more gentle. If he doesn't get the hint, just tell him! I'm sure he'll be happy to oblige :)
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Ok, im 16/f and a virgin. I really want a guy's opinion on this, but girls, if you know, you can answer to. Does it make a difference to guys if a girl is a virgin or not? Do you guys find it appealing, sexy, unusual, gross or what? Is it true that some guys sleep with virgins just becuase the want to devirginize them? Also, what is your opinion of phone/ internet sex? Thanks! (link)
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It depends on the guy, but usually it doesn't matter. The two of you obviously want sex at that moment, so it won't matter to much if you haven't had it before. Some guys, however, want a more experienced girl, and some guys don't mind. Some guys like 'devirginizing' girls (macho kinda thing haha). As for internet sex, it seems a bit unpersonal for me, and phone sex just seems kind of odd, talking about it but not having any interaction...whatever gets the job done for the person is okay in my book I guess haha.
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So, basically, I'm 15/f.
I have pretty long hair that has been dyed previously and it reaches about 3 inches past my shoulders. It's straight naturally.
However, I want to curl it more often, but I can't get a perm or else my hair will be very very damaged at the time.
So I tried using curlers you keep in overnight, and it was alright except the back of my hair didn't curl. When I used a curling iron, it just will NOT curl.
I don't use anything before I curl my hair.
Is there ANY way I can get my hair to curl, and have it look nice? Please help, I wanted to curl my hair for Snowfall Ball. :( (link)
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It took me SO LONG to learn how to use a curling iron. Really.
All you need is practice!
Basically, I take an inch section of my hair, open the clamp of the iron and close it on your hair, sliding it down to the very end of your hair. Roll upward as far as you want the curl to reach (if your hair's thick you may have to do the top part of the strand and the bottom part seperately) and hold for ten seconds if you want the curl to last. I'd spray the section of hair before curling it and after to give it extra hold.
Trust me, try it a few more times before giving up!
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alright well this is kinda relation ship and friendship. so we'll call my friend E and her brother M. To start off, I hung out with E on Saturday night, and slept over after. so M was with us later, so we were all in their living room and E fell asleep so me and M were like talking and flirting and i like sat on his lap, but then i got down and sat on the floor and then like E woke up and so me and her put on pajamas and then we came back and so M and I thought she was asleep so he had like his arms around me and stuff and then like 10 minutes later E randomly goes "M go to bed" and hes like what and shes like "go up stairs NOW" and then she was like "i cant believe youd make out with my friend"(we didnt make out fyi) and then like she got up and went to her room and so I got up to go talk to her and M was like no wait ill go and then he came back like 5 minutes later and was like shes pissed and she wants to be alone and so i went to her room anyways and i was like E im sorry but we didnt hook up and nothing happened and she was like i saw him with his arms around you and i heard you asking him if i was up and E was like crying and then she was like just go away and i was like where the hell am i supossed to go and she was like with M and i was like no so i just stayed in her room and then in the morning she still seemed pissed and i havent talked to anyone about this and i dont have Ms number so i can talk to him so ive had this on my shoulders all day and all yesterday, i feel like sucha bitch and a slut. it sucks. and E wouldnt even talk to me in school today, so what should I do?
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if you cant get E to talk to you in person, try leaving a note in her locker. Explain that you didn't make out with her brother and that you miss talking to her and feel bad that she's upset. Make sure your friendship is safe before anything else. Then talk to her brother, and see where you stand. Make a decision to just be friends or maybe see where more then friends goes? Just make a line that you and E are comfortable with, and be sure not to cross it.
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Can you list some really good words that would make a story a lot better if I included them? I need to keep in mind that every once in a while I should put in a word that's maybe difficult but very expressive and maybe gives off a noticeable meaning like grotesque.
Atleast 5 words would be good. Thank you. (link)
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Are you writing a story? If I knew what it was about I could be of more help. Let me know, I'm a writer and a thesarus is one of my best friends =]
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Would the top I'm wearing in this (http://a357.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/92/l_f36d2f7fbd4d9098d78bf0c646408f94.gif) picture, go well with these (http://sc7img.dillards.com/is/image//DillardsZoom/swp897_zi_silver?layer=comp&op_usm=2.0,0.5&&rgn=0,0,1760,2040&scl=6.666666666666667&fmt=jpeg&id=0LQSgqUAkaoN2tkHCx4i99) shoes?
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I think it works as long as you have silver assesories, maybe a silver cuff or thick ring, or silver hoop earrings? I think the tiffany silver ball earrings would look great with those shoes and anything else.
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I am going to get a dog when I get back to my home land, canada. I already have a 3 year old shih tzu named scruffie. I am planning to get another dog in my homeland but the problem is, I CANT DECIDE WHICH TYPE! I am not sure which dog i should get, or if i shouldn't get a second dog. I am planning to get a second SMALL dog so plz help!!! My 3 year old dog is a male so I have a feeling to get a female dog so scruffie wont get bored, but I am not sure.
PS if you gonna suggest a dog i advise u tell about it, eg: pomerainian, barks alot, good with children , medium size, good in cold weather, ect. (link)
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I would actually highly recommend a pomeranian. I have one and he's a lot different then I expected him to be. I'd get a male dog because they tend to be more temperant. I have a toy pom and he's good with kids, barks but not more then the average dog, great with cold weather (like in canada) and is just a pleasant animal to have in my life. Larger dogs are less matinence and seem to be a better companion and family dog, but if a larger dog gets playful with your shi tzu, it could be dangerous. A good solution? A miniature. A ton of dog breeds that are usually large have been bred to be a much smaller size, with the same attributes of a large dog but the size of a small dog.
Whatever you decide on, do your research. Before buying a dog, have your shi tzu meet it. This is VERY important. I took my pom to meet a german shepard puppy expecting a good match but the shepard treated him more like a toy then a buddy. We introduced him to a demure sheltie, and now they are great friends.
Hopefully these links are helpful:
deciding on a breed...
http://www.petnet.com.au/selectadog.asp
http://www.dogbreedinfo.com/search.htm
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