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my baby's father
He is wonderful and caring, and selfish and scared. This is our first baby. He is 27 and I am 32. We don't live together. He has roommates and I live at home again. I don't want to force him to be a husband and father, but I need him to be both. I am moving out of my family's house in about a month. The baby was not in their plans either. I want him to live with me and be a father. He is willing to help financially even with my living expenses. What can I say to help him understand my needs without nagging or whining?
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Be open, honest, and sincere. This isn't the time to beat around the bush. Tell him how you feel. Make sure he knows how important it is to you that your child together has a father figure in his or her life, not just an occasional visit and a check. Tell him why you think he will be a great father and how much it matters to you that he's there for the baby. If you have confidence in him, his is surely to build.
Do you really love him? Can you really see the three of you being a happy family? Or do you just want the father of your baby in your life because it seems like the right thing? If your not sure, trying to get him to marry you isnt a wise decision. Your child needs it's parents, but a falsely built marriage isnt nessacary. If you do love him, then ask him if he feels the same. He needs to know how much YOU need him, and how much YOU love him. Dont focus so much on making a family, just focus on buidling your relationship and the baby.
Have a serious talk, not sessions of hinting and whining about what you want. He needs to know how you feel straight out.
Many fathers dont even offer financial support, so no matter what, appreciate him for what he is ready to do.
Good luck and congratulations on the baby. No matter how complicated things may seem, this child is a blessing and nothing less.
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