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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
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Hey, someone asked you a question about her acne prob and you replied back tellin her to try crushing aspirin and adding lemon juice and stuff...
Can you please PLEASE tell me the right amount of aspirin and the lemon juice that's supposed to be added to it?
Thanks so much in advance.
=))
It depends on how much you need. One aspirin would be good enough for maybe 10 or 15 pimples.
Mix just enough lemon juice to make a semi-thick paste. Like the thickness of glue. The amount of juice depends on the size of the aspirin. Hope that helps a bit!
This if from:What do you think if a friend did this to you?
Are they Lovely dovely to other people you said,
nope just to me.
oh so that means if someone text message you when they are at their firends place and they said thier bored and you text for two hours. mean that they like you or really bored?
Like I said, it depends on the friend. Do they always text you when they're bored or was that a one-time thing? The only way to really know for sure is to talk to your friend. Is it possible that they like you? Yes. Could they have been really bored? Yes.
Just talk to your friend. :)
ok well i started my period today and i dont have any pads. i have one to last me about half of another day. well i mean my parents are divorced and i live with my dad. i am afriad to tell him but that is the only way i can get pads. if i tell my mom then she might tell my dad. i dont want him to know so plzz give me advice on what to do (how to get pads without him knowin.)
Is there a cornerstore nearby you could walk to and buy some? If so, ask your dad for some money and say you're going to buy some milk or something. Then buy yourself some pads, and the milk too obviously.
If you have any friends that live by you, ask if you can borrow a few pads.
If worse comes to worse, tell your dad that you need some money because you have to buy something. If he asks what, say, firmly, "girl things." He will get the point.
As soon as your started living with your dad, he knew he'd have to deal with these kinds of things. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. You can't help it.
How do you kiss a guy on the neck? Whenever i'm making out with this guy...i dont really know how to kiss his neck.
While you're kissing his lips, literally "peck" your way down to his neck. I.E. kiss the side of this mouth, then his cheek, his ear, and then his neck.
when you walk together he/she walks close to you than your other friends, talk with a teasing soft voice, laughs at you when you make a fool of your self, text message you when they are at their firends place and they said thier bored and you text for two hours, leans on your shoulder or has thier arm around you and calls you cute funny animal nicknames.
so what do you think if your friend does that to you?
It would really depend on the friend. Is that friend like that with everyone? Are they always so, er, "lovey-dovey?"
If not, then they might have feelings for you. If these actions are confusing you, it would be best to talk it out with your friend. If it's making you uncomfortable it's esp. important to talk to them about it.
hi my name is floyd, and im am 17yo.And I can never seem to keep a girlfriend because every time ,me and my girlfriend of the moment, gets intimate, the next day or week ,things get very weird ,uncoftable ,and very awkward.I like having sex and all that ,but should i have to give it up for a good relationship.Im very confuse ,and would really appreciate it ,if any one could share some kind of light on the situation..........Thanks in advance
Chances are, things get awkward because you rush into them. Instead of jumping into bed with your new girlfriend, spend more personal time getting to know her and allow her to get to know you. If you want a relationship to last, you need to worry about more than just sex. Save intimacy until after you've been dating her for five or six months. By that time, you'll know each other better and be closer. Then sex won't be so strange.
girlies - what are your favorite jeans? i am looking for
something NOT like abercrombie or hollister in that i
want them to be tight YET stretchy enough to be comfy
... i don't want to spend more than $40. helpp?
kind of like true religions, cause i want them to be tight
and stretchy at the same time (but i dont want true
religions! so expensive).
thanks, lovess.
Angel jeans are like what you're describing. DEB carries them, or I'm sure you can google it. They're pretty cheap too.
okay I have NO idea why but im starting to break out badly. Today at school when i was sitting next to the guy i liked, i didnt even want to look at him when he was talking to me;cause he would probably go straight to my zits. i covered them, but i dont wanna cover them that much, cause thats n=only gonna make it wors.e
so i wanna have NOTHING by the time i see him on tuesday.
i usually have an okay self esteem. im not low self esteem, and im not like extremely high either. but when i get acne it drops./
i dont want to use ANy Products. cause when i get breakouts like this, all the products make it worse. so i dont wanna like physically put anything on my face except like face wash.
i was just wondering if there are things i can eat or amount of sleep i should get in order to make the skin recover. If i should drink water. or things like that.
i would be SO GLAD if you can help. THANKS!
Sorry, but the kinds of foods you eat have no effect whatsoever on your skin. Sleep doesn't either. Any dermotologist will tell you that.
The reason you break out more when you use some products is because they are bringing out all the impurities underneath your skin. Once they are exposed, the acne medicine can do it's job and it will clear up.
Drinking water won't help you in this situation. Yes, it helps to flush toxins out of your system and it's good for you, but if you want the zits gone by Tuesday, you're going to have to resort to something a little more drastic.
Why don't you try crushing an aspirin and mixing it with lemon juice until it makes a semi-thick paste. Then, dab the paste on the infected areas of your face. Leave it on for about 20 minutes, it will burn, and then rinse it off with warm water. Do that once a day everyday before you see him again and your face should be cleared up.
Good luck!
I just bought new shoes for my choir program (we're going to New York) and my director told us today that our shoes are not allowed to clunk, mine do. Is there anyway to make the heels not make noises, or am i totally screwed and need to go buy new shoes?
Practice walking around with them quietly at home. DON'T PUT FABRIC UNDER THE SHOE! Trust me, it you do that, you'll end up slipping and falling flat on your face. Any shoes that make that clunking sound can be silenced as long as you walk carefully in them.
My shoulder hurts so badly, from carrying my backpack. It's been like this all year, and it got even worse recently. I think that it might be considered a muscle knot, but I'm not sure.
Besides visiting a doctor, taking advil, and using a different kind of backpack, what can I do to make it feel better?
You should try carring your backpack on the other shoulder. Maybe carry one or two books in your arms instead of in your backpack as well.
As for making it feel better, alternate hot and cool packs throughout the day. That will soothe the muscle and loosen it up. It's also important to keep that area of your back limber. Stretch your back as often as possible. Rotate your arm; stretch it out as far as you can across your chest; link hands behind your back and push out with them; roll your shoulder forward and backward slowly.
Take an anti-inflammatory medicince such as aleve. This will bring down the swelling and relieve the pain.
my bf went to job corp. before that he was in treatment for his problems with alcohol. he said he is doing this for us. he dropped out of school the year we started dating. his 10 grade year and my 8th grade year. im still in school and want to go to college. when i told him that, i thought he would stay in school but he quit. now im a junior and going to graduate early. he said after 2 years of job corp he can go to college, adn i would love that. im considering going to Norway for college though. i have family there adn it would be a great experience. but how do i leave the guy i've loved for 4 years here. we have our hard times, but through it all we still are great together. my friends don't like him for his past drug use, but they understand my feelings and deal, what i'm saying is he is the one i love, but if he loves me should i make him wait. help, do i go to college and come back for him.
If you love someone, you need to let them go. If they come back, it's forever.
Go to college and finish your education. If you two were meant to be together, he will be waiting for you when you come back.
Right now, he is learning from his mistakes. He wouldn't want you to stay and regret not going to college. I'm sure he know how painful regret is after the things he's been through and would never want something like that for you.
First off, it's TiNA_DUH.
My brother joined this site about a month ago, if not a little longer. I tried to find him by browsing through the columnists, & searching them, but I can't.
Is there anyway to find him by email? I wanna see his column & see how he thinks when he gives advice. He's never really given me any, so I'd like to see what his method is.
Maybe you could just casually walk in the room while he's on advicentors and see what his columnist name is.
Im 14. Started my period when I was about 12 maybe. I think I had normal periods, but after awhile I started getting them every other month. The last time I had one was awhile ago ( 2 months or so ) and even then..it wasnt really like blood. it looked like dry blood..kinda brownish. Is it normal because Im 14? I do masterbate/orgasm but I dont think that has to do with it. Is there anyway that could have messed it up?
Also, my boobs have been hurting pretty bad lately. They normally hurt if I like push them in, but now it just feels stronger I guess. Could is be from wearing a bra to much? does it have anything to do with absent periods?
Also, Im not sexually active.
I dont really want to go to a doctor just yet because Im not that concerned yet, but if it continues, I will go. So please dont advise me to do so.
Your periods will be irregular until you're about 21. It's nothing to worry about at all. And your sore breasts probably aren't from wearing a bra too much, it's because you're wearing the wrong bra. Next time you buy a new bra, get yourself professionally fitted and that will help ease the pain.
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Ok so my boyfriend was having a sweet 16. Today and I went with my best friend whose his cousin. It was so hard to convince my mom because I was grounded the day before and so I could go to the party I increased my punishment to a month! So when I got to the party he kissed me and greeted me. That was all. then he went back to his friends. So I also saw him sitting next to a girl and offcourse I got jelous so he came and asked me if I wanted to dance and I said no so he danced with his cousin. I was also with my sister at the party (she's 17) she said she felt unconfterable and she wanted to go. So I called my bf over and asked him where was the train. So he tried to explain and he ended up telling us that he would take us. I got so excied becase finally I could spend some alone time with him.So when we were leaving we went outside and he was about to take us then my friend said "ill go with him to walk you guys" then someone called him inside and he went and came back and said he wasn't going to walk me anymore. So I ended up going with 2 of his bestfriend and my other friend. I'm thinking about braking up with him because he left me and didn't take me to the train it was like he didn't care about me. Why were his friends walking me? He should of? I am really mad. Am I just overreacting like maybe he didn't want to leave his guests alone? Should he have taken me to the train station? But in the party I didnt feel like he was paying enough attention to me. Should I brake up with him? Please tell me if I am overreacting or not? Thanks! Sorry if it was long!
You might be overreacting just a teensy bit here. Your boyfriend most likely had a lot of guests to tend to. It would be really rude if he had left his party. In situations like that, it's hard for a guy to constantly give his girlfriend attention.
I'm assuming that, because you think you're overreacting, your boyfriend normally never acts this way. If that's the case, then this was most likely just a big understanding and a one-time thing.
I could see you getting mad at him if he left you to find the train all by yourself, but he didn't. He made sure there was someone there to walk you. When he was called inside, his parents might have told him he wasn't allowed to leave the party.
I don't think this is anything a good talk with your boyfriend can't smooth over.
i always have pressure and cramps in my lower abdomen, and like a pressure in my vagina. ive never had sex, i have not been at all sexually active, and theres no chance i could have a std or anythingg.. I used to have ovaric cysts so my gynocologist put me on birth control.. along with these pains i am constantly bloated, from time to time i get slighty constipated, im always tired, and it hurts to be able to poop sometimes, because they pressure is so badd.. im also very thirsty and rarely hungry... i have all these symptons all the time usually, not just around my period
what could be wrong with me?
Have you changed your diet lately? If you have, it might be your intestines reacting to the change.
I have this medical book and there's charts you can follow to try and guess what could be wrong, and it sounds like you either have severe constipation or you might possibly have a growth in your lower abdominal area.
Get to a doctor immediatly.
im 13, and boys my age are REALLY immature.. so i tend to like boys that are alottt older then me.
like, i like boys that are like 16-17.
is it bad if i dated boys that much older then me?
would be the pros and cons?!
Pros:
-Since guys mature much slower than girls, you would be at about the same maturity level.
-He would have a car and a job most likely and therefore be able to take you someplace nice.
-He could introduce you to some people in high school so you could know more people when you attend high school.
Cons:
-Your parents will hate him.
-He will most likely be wanting a more intimate relationship and will pressure you for sex.
-His friends might thing you're too young and will be rude to you when you are with them.
-It would be easier for him to take advantage of you and use you.
I don't blame you for hating guys your age. It makes perfect sense. Just make sure that if you do date someone older, introduce him to your parents BEFORE you start going out, don't allow yourself to be put in a vulnerable situation, and trust your instincts of course.
i dont know if this should be under here but anyway
im getting my braces off soon [ april 21 ] yay :)
and i was wondering whats a good toothpaste to make your teeth make/ and stay white! thanks .
and pleasee no white strips i cant afford them
You could try the Listerine Pre-Brush Whitening Rinse. You rinse with it for a minute before you brush your teeth. It has bleach it in and it really makes your teeth a lot whiter. Plus, it's affordable.
Okay. 15/f. I have a guy friend...and he JUST got a girlfriend. And I never really liked him in that way. But now, since he talks about her IN MY FACE...And he ALWAYS does that these days, it annoys the SH*T out of me. OH MY GOSH. I just want to go over there...and tell her off or something. (the thing is...I don't like her that much). I'm jealous. I'll say it right away. And it's an icky feeling. How does one overcome it? Ugh...it's so gross!
The best way to get over jealousy is to remind yourself of all the wonderful things you have (i.e. a good friendship with this guy). I'm sure you don't like his girlfriend for a good reason, so odds are he's going to find out what that reason is and realize he's wrong. In the meantime, tell your guy friend that you're happy he's happy, but you'd rather not listen to him babble about her just because you don't get along with her very well. If he's a good friend, he'll stop.
I'm looking for some new books to read. I go through like a book a week, and I'm running out of books. I'm 15/F. I like fantasy/romance type books. Does anybody have any suggestion for any books/authors that are good?
I highly recomend The Inheritance Trilogy (Eragon, Eldest, third isn't out yet), The Harry Potter series, Sarah Dessen novels, Mitch Albom novels (esp. The Five People You Meet in Heaven and For One More Day), and chicken soup books are always perfect. Just a few of my favorites you might enjoy!
13/f
Okay, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks now. We both like each other alotalotalot.
We've hung out with each other every weekend. He met my mom & dad, i met his mom, and our moms met each other.
The previous times that he has hung out at my house, we've just cuddled on the couch watching a movie. We've never made out (once i tried to..), just regular kissed. We both want to makeout with each other, and we've talked about it. Except everytime we plan to, my mom is at the top of the stairs, or we're supervised SOMEHOW. When we try to go outside, my mom is always like "NO KISSING" and she watches us.
I've made out with my last boyfriend several times, without my mom getting involed. I don't know if it's possible for my to go over my boyfriends house, because i know my mom would be suspicious and know what we want to do.
Why not have a mature conversation with your mom about the matter? You don't have to go right out and say "Can you leave us alone? I want to make out." LOL no no just ask her nicely if she wouldn't mind giving you two space. Remind her that it's really hard to get to know someone when she's constantly breathing down your neck. Assure her that you have no intentions of having sex.
If you don't want to do that, tell your mom that your boyfriend rented movies and you're going to his house to hang out and watch them, or say you're going to have dinner with his family and then go hang out at his house.
Remind your mother about how she was at your age and how she'd feel. Tell her you're responsible and you just want some space so you can spend time with your boyfriend.
Something that always works with my mom is I kind of threaten her. Like sometimes she'll be like "You just want to see your boyfriend so you can sleep with him!" and I'll say, "Well I might as well because that's all you think I do over there!" And she kinda gets the point.
Good luck!