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Kissing? where?
13/f
Okay, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 weeks now. We both like each other alotalotalot.
We've hung out with each other every weekend. He met my mom & dad, i met his mom, and our moms met each other.
The previous times that he has hung out at my house, we've just cuddled on the couch watching a movie. We've never made out (once i tried to..), just regular kissed. We both want to makeout with each other, and we've talked about it. Except everytime we plan to, my mom is at the top of the stairs, or we're supervised SOMEHOW. When we try to go outside, my mom is always like "NO KISSING" and she watches us.
I've made out with my last boyfriend several times, without my mom getting involed. I don't know if it's possible for my to go over my boyfriends house, because i know my mom would be suspicious and know what we want to do. <Same with the movies. Help? =/
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Why not have a mature conversation with your mom about the matter? You don't have to go right out and say "Can you leave us alone? I want to make out." LOL no no just ask her nicely if she wouldn't mind giving you two space. Remind her that it's really hard to get to know someone when she's constantly breathing down your neck. Assure her that you have no intentions of having sex.
If you don't want to do that, tell your mom that your boyfriend rented movies and you're going to his house to hang out and watch them, or say you're going to have dinner with his family and then go hang out at his house.
Remind your mother about how she was at your age and how she'd feel. Tell her you're responsible and you just want some space so you can spend time with your boyfriend.
Something that always works with my mom is I kind of threaten her. Like sometimes she'll be like "You just want to see your boyfriend so you can sleep with him!" and I'll say, "Well I might as well because that's all you think I do over there!" And she kinda gets the point.
Good luck!
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If your mom and your boyfriend's mom met each other, I'm sure your mom wouldn't mind you going over to his place. Just tell her that it get's boring whenever he comes over all the time, and that you'd like to make it fair & equal. Besides, it surely isn't fair that he always has to come to your place, why not go to his?
Or you could talk to your mom about it. Tell her you guys aren't going to have sex or anything, you just want to kiss him. But I can see why you're mom is concerned. Kids are having sex younger & younger & kissing can lead to other things. Just make sure to be careful & talk to your mom about it.
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well you mentioned that your mom and your boyfriend's mom met. so then why would she be suspicous if you went over his house?
you also said that you've kissed him before. so how did you do that without your mom seeing? just the next time you go to just regular kiss him, just start making out with him because most likely your mom won't be there if you were going to kiss him in the first place.
talk to your mom, because it seems like she doesn't trust you. calm her down by telling her that you are in no way even thinking about having sex because you both know your not ready. this will make her feel a lot better because she might be thinking if you guys start kissing then you will automatically think about having sex. then get her to trust you more so you can go outside or to the movies.
so once she trusts you try going for a walk with him and maybe go to a nearby park. or go on a "date" like movies, ice skating, bowling, or even just go somewhere with a bunch of friends.
good luck!!
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HAHA I geuss I'm just lucky cuz my boyfriend is allowed to make out in his living room with him mom right there...and his mom gave him condoms !!!!!!! He's not allowed to have sex in the house tho......
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well im 13 too, and wen i was with my boyfriend[ex] i didnt really know what to do and where and my mom got suspicious, but we ended up never making out.. : [...but im not quite sure where you can. BUt you could try to talk to you mom about it. talk to her about kissing, and then talk to her about the whole ordeal. it would be best if you did it right before bed, good time to let it sink in. this might not be the best thing if you know she doesnt approve of it, but if it becomes your only opption you should. but im sorry i dnt really know where because i dnt know where you live. but i hope it works!
Lauren
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try to be in a room where you can have a closed door or a place where you can get away from your mom. i know you said it would be suspicious but you can always go to his house, i dont think your mom would be to mad about it. hope i helped, if it was bad or below a five then please dont rate.
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