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Q: I liked this guy over the summer. He was amazing. Perfect, nice, amazing, fun, i just love him. Hes not your normal preppy boy. Im kinda a prep so yea. But hes more in the goth group. And everyones afraid of him. But he taught me not to judge people by the way they look. Hes taught me theres more to life then what i think about myself and how many coach purses daddy can get me. And for once in my life i could care less what people say about me for liking a boy like that because to me hes perfect and i dont care what other people have to say. I would defend him to the end. We went out for about two weeks in the summer. And unfortunatly those were the two weeks i had cheer camp so we could never hang out and he got sick of it and broke it off. His excuse saying he couldnt support a relationship and then not even a week later he had a new girl. Now almost a month in a half later im still in love with him. I want to move on i cant wait around for him forever. Even though i would. But how could i get over him any ideas? thanks so much.

try not to think about him, go out with your friends have a girls night out and go do something, or join a new club, meet new people, just go out and have fun and the person who already answered this question is right, the only thing you can do is not think about him and only time can make things better, the less time your home thinking about him the better your going to be, so just get out and have fun.

Q: When ever I am PMSing I get very moody and fight with everybody, and i crave food like alot of food and it is hard not to eat all day. I also start crying for no reasons at all and am very emotional. Then when I am on my period I am also still really moody, i bloat really bad, and I have no energy, like yesterday I came home and went to take a nap at like 4:30 and didnt get up until the next morning, and I can hardly get through the day. I also cramp extremly bad! Is there anything I can do so that this is not affecting my life as much? Everyone I talk to seems to not know what to do and I dont know anyone to who gets all these symptoms this bad. I really cant afford to go to my doctor right know because I do not have health insurance. But any advise on how to help control these things would be greatly appriciated! Sorry so long!

hm the only thing i can suggest besides seeing a doctor would be, try taking Midol or Advil if you dont already..

Q: When I'm on my MySpace, like logged in, my pictures are blurry, like bad blurry, and everyones else is, too. do you know why its doing this? when I look at my pictures on my COMPUTER not MySpace well there clear. do you think this has something to do with MySpace or my comp?

when I was at a friends house, I got on MySpace and mine and everyones were clear!
whats going on it sucks so bad!

thanks in advance!

well since you checked it out on a friends computer and it was clear, try checking it out on one more different computer and if its clear then its probably just your computer doing that, maybe you have a different setting set or something.

Q: hi! problem is its my boyfriends birthday in about two weeks and i have no idea what to get him. he said he doesn't want anything. he's turning 20 and he's in to punk/rock. what could i get him? thanks =)

hm, maybe like a band shirt or something like that

Q: my brother got mono about a month or 2 ago. recently my throat has been really hurting. i lose my voice off and on, and sometimes its really scratchy. it hurts to swallow and sometimes talk. also, i get bad headaches and dizzy, and sometime i get SUPER hot, and then the next minute FREEZING cold. my head is always hot and my face is always red, and my mom said i felt "clammy". i also have like no energy, the past 3 days when i get home i just lay down or sleep. there is a lot of viruses and colds going around at my school and neighborhood, and normally i would just think it was a bad cold, but the fact the my brother has mono makes me think i might. i dont want to waste my parents money or get my blood taken if i dont have it, so does that sound like the symptoms? when i ask my brother he says that kind of sounds like it, but everyone is different, and he cant exactly remember since its been awhile since he first got it. thanks :]

these are some of the more common symptoms for mono:

* a sore throat
* a high fever*
* enlarged lymph nodes or glands in the neck*, armpit, or groin
* malaise and fatigue* (not feeling well and feeling tired)
* anorexia (loss of appetite)
* muscle aches
* a headache
* nausea
* abdominal pain

so if any of your symptoms sound like that i would go see a doctor.

Q: to you a male condom
and a
VCF:Vaginal Contraceptive Film (VCF) is a square of very thin material that dissolves quickly in the vagina and releases a spermicide that kills sperm. No applicator is needed. VCF is washed away with the natural vaginal fluids.

would that be okay?

yes, that would be better to use both female and male condoms if you use both theres only a tiny slight chance you could get pregnant, so if you use both i wouldnt worry about it at all

Q: ok so my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time a couple of days ago. he didnt finish but hey, sex is still sex. he said i was REALLY tight and like, ive been fingered before a few times but idk. what can i do to get looser?

oh and also,
i was a virgin before that day and he wasnt, but umm...it didnt really hurt me that bad. like it did for a second like really bad but then i got used to it. does that mean that hes small or im just used to it?

if he said you were tight im pretty sure he ment that in a good way, if a guy says your lose thats a bad thing, so you dont want to be lose.

and for your second question thats usually how it goes, it only usually hurts untill your hymen is broke then you get use to it as you go, so i dont think it would be because hes small..

Q: what are the chances that i'm pregnant if..
- we used a spermicidal condom, which was put on before any contact.
- he pulled out when he orgasmed.
- afterwards we checked the condom and filled it with water to see if there were any leaks. there were none.
- i didn't have sex during my most fertile time.
- i peed before and after.

what is the likeliness that i'm pregnant?

condoms are like 98% effective, and you used spermicide, there is a very very slim chance your pregnant, i wouldnt worry about it at all your fine.
but if you do worry about it, that can delay your period and trick you to think your pregnant so just dont worry about anything, and youll be fine.

Q: okay i like this guy and this guy likes me back but the thing is i cant date till im 18 and im 16 right and and he is too and i dont know what to do if he's gonna ask me out because i cant date and stuff my parents said i cant date till im 18 he already holds my waist and stuff what do you think i should do? =/

well if i was in your situation i would sit my parents down and explain to them how much you like this guy and you want to be with him and stuff like that, and if that wouldnt work.. im not saying to do this but i know i would if that didnt work i would probably go behind my parents back and do what you feel is right, your parents cant control you forever.

but do what you want =]

Q: 15/f
so me and my boyfriend just had sex yesturday. Only im not sure if its considered sex. I was a virgin and he wasnt. and his penis did go inside me but he didnt finish. It was taking a while and it kind of hurt and i was tired so we stopped. So i dont know if that counts or not.
help?
thanks

if the penis enters the vagina, your not a virgin anymore, no matter if he finished or not.

Q: im 15 and my bf and i have started having sex
and he has a small penis and hes a bit embarrassed about it i told him it doesnt matter and ive found that its better that hes smaller it doesnt hurt much it feels good although he doesnt last a long time then he comes what can we do about it? would be that hes nor experienced?

well theres really not much you can do, at least he and you are enjoying it while it is. It varies from guys some can last longer then others. I think it may have to do with experience a little bit, my boyfriend use to cum fast to, but now he lasts a long time so im not saying to start having sex a lot lol but, you just have to deal with it i guess theres nothing you can really do.

Q: My boyfriend and I had sex the other night. We have sex alot and it is usually great. But this day he lost his erection. I didnt want to ask him what had happened because Im sure that is embarassing for guys. Is it? I mean he didnt orgasm and either did I, but we were done. It was the worst sex I have ever had. It just made me really tired and turned off. Did he lose his erection because he was turned off by me? Was it something I did? If not, then why did he lose his erection without orgasming?

me and my boyfriend had that problem before, we think it was because we had sex 2 times already that day and a guy can only cum a couple times a day, because obviously they run out of sperm and so he just couldnt orgasm so if you guys did it more than 1 that day that may be why.

Q: does anyone know a good website
to look up where i can get tickets to see ryan sheckler skate??

anything please give me it thankkks

maybe here

http://www.globe.tv/events/globalassault/

Q: i have a boyfriend that im in love with! we've been together for a year and a half and in general he makes me happy but we do argue alot, thats just what we do and it doesnt bother me. but... theres this guy i just met, i cant believe it but he takes my breathe away everytime i see him. hes incredible, and i love everything about him(atleast from what i know about him). i really like him and i cant get him out of my head!!!!!! he makes me smile, and has the most sexiest dimples EVER!!!! i love my boyfriend but the fact that im thinking about even considereing being with another guy breaks my heart. and i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!! i try everything to get him out of my head! i'll sit there and think about how much i wanna spend the rest of my life with my boyfriend and ill convince myself that this other guy is just a silly infatuation and i forget about him. that is until i see him again and i totally forget i even have a boyfriend. im having a mental breakdown. please help!

well, if your thinking about another guy then your not as much in love with your boyfriend as you think. like if your thinking about being with this other guy then you obviously have doughts about your current guy if i were you i would wait a little while and if the feelings are still there for this other guy then you should brake up with your boyfriend because its not fair for him, if your thinking about another guy, but be careful only do what you feel is right dont have random people make up your relationships for you.

Q: im nearly 16 and my penis is really small its really embarrassing is there someway to make it bigger? do girls care about it?

well most girls really don't care about guys penis sizes unless there stupid because even if you have a small penis it doesn't change anything, sex feels good with a big penis or small so it doesn't really matter what size it is. and i don't think there really is a way to make it bigger except like you could go to your doctor and get on pills i suppose.

hope i helped.

Q: i had this boyfriend and he wanted to take me to the movies and afterwards he was gonna eat me out in the car and it never happened because i was kinda afraid. im not sexually active and im a virgin. so i was wondering does it feel good to get eaten out and how long does it take for me to orgasm when hes eating me. and if i wanted to get eaten out should i tell him to do it slowly or fast please help

well it varies from person if it feel good or not, some girls like it and others dont. and once again it varies from girl to girl how long it would take for you to orgasm, some girls cant even orgasm, if it would be your first time i suggest starting slow but if you like it, and want it to be faster then just tell the guy. but you personally have to experience it nobody can really answer these questions.

but i hope i helped.

Q: When giving a blowjob, do most girls spit or swallow? And what are the pros and cons of both?

well personally i spit, but i have swallowed because i just think its really gross tasting its very salt and just eh i think its gross but you can do whatever you want, i dont think there are much pros and cons except its high in protein if you do swallow it, and nothing will happen if you do swallow it.

Q: okay so this is a really random strange question but im just wondering.

i went to the beach this summer and one night me and my friend were walking on the beach and some guys called us over so we started talking and stuff. there was a 19 year old guy that just started wanting me to do stuff with him and as bad as it is i let him finger me. is it illegal that he was 19 and im 15? just wondering..?

unless he forced you to do it, i dont think its illegal. it depends on what state you live in, like in my state you have to be 16 to have with someone older then 16, or your parents could charge rape charges even if it wasnt rape, so as long as you didnt have sex with him i dont think it was illegal but you might want to look it up o google because it depends on what state you live in.

Q: Can your hymen "pop" and bleed and everything if you get fingered? It only "pops" when you have sex, right?

no you hymen can pop from many things, ruff activities, like sports and from tampons and it could pop from fingering not just sex.

Q: I have some short hairs at the top of my hair if you know what I mean. I think it's due to hair breakage. My question is how do you get rid of those? My other question is, what happens when you pull them out, will other hairs will grow in their place? Is it bad to pull your little hairs at the top of your head? If it's confusing, i'm sorry but please answer as best as you can!

-Elizabeth (15/F)

i would suggest not pulling them out, unless you want to keep doing that every time they start to grow back, i would suggest just to let them grow out, but im not exactly sure what you mean by short hairs.