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LOST ERECTION
My boyfriend and I had sex the other night. We have sex alot and it is usually great. But this day he lost his erection. I didnt want to ask him what had happened because Im sure that is embarassing for guys. Is it? I mean he didnt orgasm and either did I, but we were done. It was the worst sex I have ever had. It just made me really tired and turned off. Did he lose his erection because he was turned off by me? Was it something I did? If not, then why did he lose his erection without orgasming?
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i've had this problem with my boyfriend before too, but it can be for a variety of reasons:
a) sometimes if your boyfriend thinks you're not into the experience, he'll kind of feel turned off.
b) or he could have other things on his mind so he isn't as focused and into the whole thing as both of you usually are.
c) sometimes sex just doesn't click if both people aren't into the "vibe" so to speak.
..just because he lost his erection, <u>does not</u> mean it's your fault.
if it happens again, and you are very concerned about being the problem: confront your boyfriend. the likelihood from what it sounds, is that this doesn't happen a lot, so i wouldn't be too concerned. but if it does, if you're mature enough to have sex together, he can be mature enough to not be embarrassed for a couple minutes to talk about what went wrong! :)
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Ask him. There is no other way to know for sure.
And you need to find out for sure, or else it will just eat away at you. It's likely nothing to do with you, although he might have felt how 'not into it' you were and given up. He might also have been feeling upset, sick, needed to go pee, had eaten something icky... anything works.
Guys can just loose errections without orgasming. There is nothing abnormal about that.
And yes, it's probably a bit embaressing for him, but that doesn't mean you should just ignore it. It's something couples need to be able to talk about.
So summon up your courage, and ask.
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me and my boyfriend had that problem before, we think it was because we had sex 2 times already that day and a guy can only cum a couple times a day, because obviously they run out of sperm and so he just couldnt orgasm so if you guys did it more than 1 that day that may be why.
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