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hi! i'm johanna!i'm 17, a junior in high school, live in the suburbs, am currently in the midst of a long-term relationship, and can be quite the busy bee at times. although i may not have been through everything in life (honestly, who has?), but i sure have had experience in many different areas of common interest. i believe advice is helpful, however i feel that personal experience and instinct is the best way to approach issues. my advice may not be what you want to hear, but my opinion is my own, take it or leave it!
the quote i live by: "happiness depends on ourselves."
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I'm going to have sex with my boyfriend. He is a virgin.. and I'm not. I think it's kind of weird like i feel like I'm going to end up being a teacher. How do I go about this? He says that he is ready and how he wants me to be his first. So how should I get this to go well?
I don't have much experience with this role.. but i know when my boyfriend had more experience than i did, he just was patient with me the entire way through and that was helpful.. obviously being the girl with experience is going to be a little different.. just make him feel good and praise him for anything positive he does during sex, it'll up his confidence! Also, give him hidden clues and hints (as in don't blatantly say, "do this like this".. be more subtle..) as to exactly what you want, that way he can experiment and gain a better sense of what he should do. Sex is a natural act, he should learn quite quickly, most people i know have! Don't stress it. :)
So this is how the conversation over facebook went...
me:We were having such a good conversation in the courtyard, i was hoping we could continue it with an exchange of numbers.
her:ohh really?..wellllll maybe you'll be brave enough to ask me for it next time.
me:haha ouchh, i was brave enough to walk up and talk to a good looking stranger, that deserves at least the first 3 digits...
her:hahah.. oooh a compliment and everythingg im gunna have to think about that
she's definitely interested, and by saying "maybe you'll be brave enough to ask me for it next time" suggests that she wants to see you again! (good!) definitely pursue asking her for her number soon, if she wasn't interested, she wouldn't flirt like that. (or at least she shouldn't!)
where do you think the best place for your first kiss EVER would be? any suggestions would be appreciated. :]
so true, the best places are the ones you don't plan out. my first kiss was completely out of the blue and ended up being in a public restroom. totally scandalous, but definitely a kiss to remember!
the problem with planning is that if you end up being where you want to have your kiss, your expectations may become too high and you don't want to be let down with the experience! :)
okay well i have a girlfriend i have been dating for a while and well she is my first love and all. but anyways i want to do something really sweet for her just to show her how much i love her. i love to do sweet stuff for her.
for instance a few weeks ago i bought her a dozen long stemed roses and told her to stand in front of a mirror and i told her that there was 13 of the most beautiful things in the world.
but yea i need some ideas of sweet stuff to do
got any ????
please and thank you very very much!
simple: a letter written from your heart.
that was the best thing my boyfriend ever gave to me, and i read it almost every night before bed because it makes me feel SO amazing and loved (because i know he wrote that letter from the bottom of his heart and meant every word.)
:) definitely a 10/10 in my book.
i hooked up with this guy i like, but he told his best friend, who is one of my good friends that i'm a bad kisser so now i'm very embarassed and i'm not sure what i can do to improve, i mean since i'm bad he probably won't wanna hookup anymore.
practice makes perfect. honestly, who is he to judge? you may actually be a good kisser, but not the style he likes. i've kissed guys that ended up not being so good at kissing, but i didn't think less of them, i just wasn't satisfied with my experience (if you take it from his perspective, that might be how it is..?) don't be embarrassed, he's one guy and even though it may hurt to hear that, you can always get better and blow him away later (even though he doesn't sound worth the time to come back to, personally.) don't let this bring you down at all!
So basically, i'll get right to the point.
Pretty sure i'm not very good at these
and definitely didn't know there was a certain
way of doing it, any good pointers on how to do it
seeing as how i'm pretty sure i'm not doing it right?
i was never very good at hand jobs when i first started giving them.. but overtime i became better by becoming more accustomed to what my boyfriend enjoyed (if you pay attention to the reactions of different things you do during handjobs, you know what's good and what's not.) plus, you pick up on your own techniques the more experience you have with them. i honestly hated giving them the first couple times because i felt stupid, but overtime, i learned through experimenting and actually having my boyfriend "show me" what he really wanted. don't stress it too much, just try to learn from each time you give them!
i had oral sex with my boy friend and i swallowed his sperm,does swallowed sperm get one pregnant.
not possible at all!
i have heard it has healthy proteins for you though? i'm not positive on specifics about that, however.
what positoins can i have sex?
depending on how experienced you are with sex, it can vary. if you're a beginner, then i say start basic because the more complex stuff can get awkward if you haven't been having sex with the same partner for a while. check out cosmopolitan.com for ideas, they have some really interesting positions!
okay so im 14 and most of my friends hav gotten fingered, eaten out, gave hjs and bjs, but ive only made out... like its just not my style. i only like to really makeout if i like the person.i just dont know when im ready to give a hj or bjor anything related to that. any advice/opinions would be great :]
i was the same exact way at your age! it felt like everybody around me was on such a higher level with boys. i couldn't understand why anybody would want to do that kinda stuff.. seemed so gross i guess! but when i met my current boyfriend, overtime i came to realize it wasn't that bad, and that it was more about pleasuring another person than actually thinking what you're physically doing. you're still quite young and do not have to do anything your friends are doing (no matter what age you are), because it'll be an easier experience when you actually want to do that stuff with someone you feel comfortable being with. true experience: take my word for it! your style is your style, stick with it until you want to change it! :)
ok so i want to know the name of this song i dont know what its called or who sings it i just know it says :and it breaks my hart, and it break my ha ha ha ha- and thats all i know it was on "Life of Ryan" yesteday i had hurd it before but i dont remeber plz thanx
it's called "Fidelity" by Regina Spektor.. i love that song!
Ok....do any of ya'll guys out there do anything sweet for your girlfriends....stuff "just because"...not for any particular reason. If so what do you do? And for the girls.......what have your boyfriends done for you?
my boyfriend used to write me letters over the summer while we were both away in different parts of the country. he'd always write how much he missed me and what's been going on.. they always made me smile and i felt like he was right there with me. simple things always seem to be the ones you'll remember. my favorite has always been the way my boyfriend is protective of me when we're in public and he keeps his arms around my waist/shoulder/hand so other guys know i'm his! :)
HELP!
i think i got my first period today and i don't no how to tell my mum. I'm totally clueless!!!!!!!!!!
PLZ HELP!!!!!!!!!!
i remember the day that happened to me.. i was so nervous about telling my mom that i just wrote it on a sticky note and left it on her desk instead. she found it later and was really supportive! she's been through it for years so don't feel like it has to be a bad thing to tell her!
that teenagers are having sex earlier and earlier...
I sure dont want to have sex any time in high school...but I know lots of my friends are ready. to be honest it just all freaks me out...
yes, i'm afraid of having sex...and i just don't see how it would be pleasurable.
any comments or advice would help!
thx....
i agree, i remember being really little and thinking that people didn't have sex until they were in college or their 20's! but nowadays, it seems to be a growing trend to have it way younger. however, i believe it's also a personal choice, and although kids are doing it younger and younger, it's a learning experience. do i agree that kids should be having sex at ages younger than 16? not at all, i believe it's wrong. (however, i myself lost my virginity at 16.) it's about being responsible and understanding the consequences of the actions. it's okay to be afraid, that's a huge sign you aren't ready. when you're ready, you won't be afraid anymore! stick up for how you feel, and don't let anyone tell you anything different!
My friend, she's a virgin and her b/f(well now ex) he fingered her and she said that he said he used four fingers on her! She said it didn't really hurt, till after she went to the bathroom and she bleed a tiny lil, but the next day she was fine. Is that normal? and how could four fingers not hurt? and what is the normal amount of fingers used?
thanks!
it is possible, and normal! (because it really depends on the girl.) some can stand 4, but some can barely stand 1. the amount of pain varies individually! if a girl has been fingered numerous times, pain can subside or it is possible she just doesn't experience pain in general during fingering! i'm not positive about the normal amount of fingers used, my guess if it's your first time, probably 2.. then increased over time. (also depends on the hand size of the guy!)
My boyfriend and I had sex the other night. We have sex alot and it is usually great. But this day he lost his erection. I didnt want to ask him what had happened because Im sure that is embarassing for guys. Is it? I mean he didnt orgasm and either did I, but we were done. It was the worst sex I have ever had. It just made me really tired and turned off. Did he lose his erection because he was turned off by me? Was it something I did? If not, then why did he lose his erection without orgasming?
i've had this problem with my boyfriend before too, but it can be for a variety of reasons:
a) sometimes if your boyfriend thinks you're not into the experience, he'll kind of feel turned off.
b) or he could have other things on his mind so he isn't as focused and into the whole thing as both of you usually are.
c) sometimes sex just doesn't click if both people aren't into the "vibe" so to speak.
..just because he lost his erection, does not mean it's your fault.
if it happens again, and you are very concerned about being the problem: confront your boyfriend. the likelihood from what it sounds, is that this doesn't happen a lot, so i wouldn't be too concerned. but if it does, if you're mature enough to have sex together, he can be mature enough to not be embarrassed for a couple minutes to talk about what went wrong! :)