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Q: hay uhm i no this is a wierd ? buht mi bf wants ta hav sex n i do too but ima virgin so i dono if im suposed to shave down there...lyk am i supposed to shave tha whole thing or jus my bikini lyne or wut sry if thats wierd =/

Its alright. Well, this seems more of a personal preferance thing. Some guys prefer if girls shave down there and some guys dont. It all depends on what you want to do or what the guy wants to do. If you think its embarassing and dont know what he would say or react, than I'd say do it. It wont harm you or anything. =)

Q: All right. I just got this computer yesterday and my grandfather used to use it at his work, so it's older, but probably not by more than 2 years. It has windows xp, but i have no idea what kind (like dell...but it isn't that) it is.
The problem is, the sound doesn't work and the disk drive won't work either. We called my grandfather, he said the sound worked. We even tried different speakers. I checked the computer's settings, and there's nothing muted, nor is there anything disabled. Can anyone help me with the sound possibly?

Also, the disk drive (as i mentioned), doesn't work. I can open it and put a disk in it, but when I try to open the disk drive icon, it says "please insert a disk". Does anyone know what could be causing this?

Thanks in advance!

You probably need a new sound card, and a new disk drive. You cant find that at a local computer store or best buy. =)

Q: how do you make out?

Making out by definition is sticking your tongue in the other persons mouth & moving it around or massaging each others tongue with your own. Also there is no right or wrong way to make out, and no instruction manuel on it, everyones preferances on how to make out is different, as long as you get the general idea of it. Hope that helped doll =)

Q: how do you make the letters bigger on your myspace?

< font size= > after the = sign put a number 1-7 - the bigger the number the bigger the font should be. also remove the spaces between the < > 's

Q: I haven't even had my period for a year and it comes like every two weeks and lasts like 5 days... it sucks! Is this normal?

Thanks!

Some people dont have regulated periods, when you first get it it takes a while for it to regulate, if this problem persists you might have to go on birth control to begin to regulate it so you dont have it that often.

Q: i write lyrics to songs and i write poetry and stuff a lot but i don't know where i can show it off without it getting stolen from me. do any of you know where i can display my poems/songs to where people won't take them and say they are thiers?

www.poetry.com

Q: ok well i am really in love w/ this guy. he has lived near me ever since i met him. but just a while ago he moved. i miss him teribly. but one of his friends happens to not like me b/c me and this guy were in a fight a couple weeks ago...and he said some things to me he didnt mean. well this girl thought he ment those things...and she didnt kno we were fighting. she just thought he didnt like me. well i dont want her to hate me b/c she doesnt kno me...and i think she seems like such a nice helpful person. what can i do to make her not hate me?¿

I think you should explain to her that he didnt mean those things, and you and him are okay now. Tell her you dont have any problems with her, and maybe you would like to become friends. Also ask her why she doesnt like you, and maybe you can resolve the problem. =)

Q: well first i am 14/f, and anyone makes fun of my question in anyway, i will report you and get you banned. and well people who are willing to help, please help i need help ASAP. my problem is this. i am crushing on a gay guy. i just met him and he first denied that he was, but today he told me and my friend that he is gay. but he is fits so perfect for my dream prince. he likes stuff i like, and such. not to mention he is sooo hot.

so please, is there anyway i can turn him straight? i know it will be really hard and i can't help it because its like hormon, but i have heard of few stories that it can happen. but i dont know how, and please dont say give up, because i know most of you will try to do that but i already know that , but i have to try at least!! so please please help me.

i rate 5 if it helps even a little.

Hey. Sorry sweetie but if he is really gay then there is no turning him back. He cant help who he is and chances are if hes started to come out of the closet, then he really is, because he wouldnt go through peoples reactions for nothing, if he was messing around or something. If you really do like him, just try and be close to him as a best friend and find out if he really is gay or if he is just doing that because he has had no luck wirh girls. Good luck, really. =)!

Q: do you guys know a website that wont mess up my computer by downloading music? and are there ani other websited to find and listen music to exept aol.com and launch.com cuz they kinda dont work.

i dont know any websites but i know programs that are spyware and virus free .. www.limewire.com && pilor & aries. -- also winmx

Q: This might sound weird but i am 15 and turning 16 in May 06'. One thing that i'm concerned about is that i haven't gotten my period yet:-/! is that not normal? is it bad that i haven't gotten it yet? I mean im going to be a sophmore and i still haven't gotten it...please helpp!

Yes, its perfectly normal. Some people dont get it untill they are 18 years old. Be happy that you havent gotten it yet. Also Ive read if your involved in sports it prolongs your period. So just because your 15 and havent gotten it doesnt mean your abnormal, enjoy the time you dont have it =)

Q: Hey,
ok there is this church- it's REALLY close to me, and it's the church all my friends go to. They also hold a youth group there- also where all my friends go. But my problem is, my family hates the preacher and preist, and they hate us. But i REALLY need religious guidance, and i thought it'd be cool if my friends were there with me. And all my friends went to summer camp -- without me! lol, see the camp was held by the people from the church, and my parents wouldnt let me go! So they have all this fun at camp and they know SO much more about God than i do.. so to tell the truth, i really have no idea who/what God is! I cant read the bible because (to me) it makes no sence!! too many big words.. lol. I want to go to a church.. I REALLY do, it's just i feel like my friends will have more to talk about without me. And i dont want them to go to a differnet church, because that would be selfish. I love God, I do! BUT WHAT THE HECK DO I DO?!?! I rate high!

Talk to the preacher or whatever about why they hate you -.. if you really want to learn about God that much - they cant say no. Its their job to teach people about it and rejecting you would be denying you religious rights that you have as a citizen. =)

Q: okay, i have a friend christie, and i hate her boyfriend, he makes fun of me, do i didnt talk to christie during school when lets say mike was with him...

and so though out the summer, i heard they made out and shes only 13 like me, and mike is 12.

and i havnt talked to christie sence, would it be wierd if i called her and made plans to get togeather soon?

all she talks about if him, all she does is hang with him! I feel so ingored! ++ i think shes going against me bc i called her a slut, bc she kissed mine in the middle of the park with the school, and everyone was going AWWWWWWWWWWWWW. and i was just like "wtf?"

and so i feel ignored and it bothers me, wee were TRUE best friends. true. secrets kept. midnight + phone calls. hanging out every friday. this all ended when school ended. what happened?

i want to ask her if she wants to go shopping with me at abercrombie and shit.... and she only shopped there bc thats what i wore, and i intorduced it too her. and so id think it be cool if i got to see her tomorrow on such sorty notice

would it be wierd for you if you were christie to just see me over the summer b4 school, and we didnt talk... ONCE?

PS: if christie tells mike, she was at my house, mike would be all like "ewwww why are you hanging with a faggot?" then it would interfear with the relation ship and id feel really really bad for doing that.

PSS im the "nice girl" to everyone, i cant yell at them and be like "im not friends with you" unless if i was FORCED too...

Wow. All I can say is that if your friend is going to ditch you and pick her boyfriend over her girl, than that isnt exactly a good friend. i think you should try not to talk to her as much untill she possibly drops the boyfriend. or you can be a good friend and try to be there for her but i dont understand the use in that if she isnt going to be a good friend back to you.

Q: me and my boyfriend have the best relationship. i couldnt ask for more and i never want to lose him. everything is pretty much perfect between me and him. but all the time when he comes over or i go over his house...he always wants to mess around and stuff. i mean...i like it but i dont want to do it all the time because i feel like i'm being taken advantage of. and sometimes i just wanna talk. and if we mess around so much...itll get boring and not mean anything. i want to talk to him about it...but i'm skared that he might take it the wrong way and never want to mess around again and hold it against me...like if i go to kiss him hell be like "no you're gonna think i'm taking advantage of you" i don't know what to do.

16/f

Oh my gosh. I actually was in a relationship like that. I wanted to mess around only sometimes, then others it would be nice to just cuddle and talk about our relationship and things you know. Basically what happened was whenever he would go to do something I'd say no and he felt guilty about it, making me feel like crap and doing things I didnt want to do, so make sure it doenst get to that point where your only doing it 2 make him happy. That set aside though. If you really care abouyt a person, the things you do is always going to mean something because if its real then you'll never get bored. but back to your question. I think you should attempt to talk to him about it, dont be scared of things that havent happened yet. Let him know upfront that this doesnt mean you dont ever want to mess around again & that you just want to try talking sometimes. See what he responds to that and if he doenst want to do the talking thing than it really isnt wise to stay in a relationship like that.. if its all based around sex because there has to be some form of communication or it doesnt go anywhere. Also it isnt taking advantage of people if your dating them. I hope this helps, let me know =) Feel free to IM me with anything else [ GLAM0R0USZ x ] on aim.

Q: I'm really tired of just wearing jeans and a t-shirt to school. I want to start dressing nicer. But all the nice/cute clothes that I find are tank tops or spaghetti straps. And the problem with that is at my school all tops have to have a strap of 3 inches.
Does anyone know of any place that has nice/cute tops that aren't tank or spaghetti?
Thanks.

Old navy, www.alloy.com, www.delias.com - hope that helps.

Q: Scar tissue has no character. It's not like skin. It doesn't show age or illness or pallor or tan. It has no pores, no hair, no wrinkles. It's like a slip cover. It shields and disguises what's beneath. That's why we grow it; we have something to hide

what movie is this quote from?

Its from Girl Interrupted.

Q: how do you make your own graphics like banners and stuff? with liek what program?
thanx

Paint Shop Pro, Adobe Photoshop - those are the programs I use to make them. You can find them on www.downloads.com

Q: I liked this one guy, weston. i thought he was a total sweetie and he always made me feel good about myself. he said he liked me too, but then i was over with him and some friends and i hugged my friend goodbye and he called me a whore but according to his friends hes just mad and still totally likes me. the thing is, im not big on forgiving people after they've just called me a whore so, yea. i still like him a little. then, there's this other guy, chris and he is also totally sweet and cute and i absolutley heart him. he made me feel a little better about the whole weston situation and he says he's starting to like me. well, i liked him a lot a little while ago but i never thought he would ever like me. so i also like him a little bit. so basically, my question is should i forget about weston and become closer to chris and who knows what might follow, since he DID call me a whore. or should i just wait til weston gets over his issue with me hugging other guys? im the kinda girl that just hugs all of her friends, ya know? so should i change who i am for weston or stay how i am and go for chris?

I think you should forget Weston and become closer with that Chris kid, because even though he just called you a whore for hugging another kid, it shows a jealousy / anger problem .. and shows insecurity. If you do end up going out with him you might regret it because things might get out of hand. In these kinds of relationships its always good to spot out the problem first before you actually pursue the relationship, it saves you alot of hassel, and problems later on. =)

Q: what are some good screamo bands.. for example slipnot otep etc. ... will rate 5's for anyone who answers.. thanks ;-)

Hawthorne Heights, Senses Fail, Atreyu, From Autumn To Ashes, Underoath, Motion City Soundtrack, Thrice, Finch, Taking Back Sunday [ sometimes ]. Armor for sleep. Thats all I can think of now doll.

Q: condom packages always say that they are like 99% effective if used correctly and stuff, but in school we learned that since condoms are latex like balloons, they have tiny holes in them that sperm can swim through. wtf. how effictive is that?

They do have tiny holes, but not big enough for sperm to swim through, their very tiny and cant be seen by the eye. If condoms had holes that sperm could get through, it wouldnt be 99.9 percent effective. They just tell you that in school to promote abstinance.

Q: hey do you guys know any websites were i can get free marilyn monroe wallpaper for my desktop? preferably the ones that you don't have to download... thanks a lot

www.wallpaper.com or search marilyn monroe on google images - and when one comes up that yuou like - open it - right click and click set as background =)