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Q: im 14 and a freshman in high school! i have been going out with this guy for almost a 2 months now and he is moving slow cuase he doesnt want me to dump him with i wont but I Want to makeout with him but i dont want to make that move you no..so how can i like tell him that i want to make out wiht him with out me like just going for it?

its confusing sorry
Have a talk with him about it, say that you like the pace that hes going at but you wouldnt mind making out with him once and a while, and ask if hes ready for that. If he is, then go for it and also tell him that your scared to do the first move kind of thing and ask if he wouldnt mind doing that also. hahah this sounds so lame, but try that =)

Q: Hey i was wondering if any of you know a all around really good shampoo and conditioner.. i use brilliant brunette right now but i was wondering if theres like a better one maybe pantene the brunette expressions or garnier fructice or what... my hair is wavy i can curl or straighten it so yeah thanks! im looking for one to make it shiny and healthy and makes it just look good! 15 f
I personally love Dove 2+1 shampoo and conditioner.. i use it all the time and it makes my hair super shiney and healthy looking ! Try that =)

Q: At Cheerleading practice we have to run like a mile and a half without stopping and if we stop every1 has to run another lap around the football field (4 laps=1mile) I get so exhausted and i cant run that much i get to the point where i cant feel my legs and i cant breathe..i dont know y though i am a skinny person and im short and very atheletic ..i just cant run for a long time!...i need help on ways to make me run better/ longer..thanks!...I rate!!!!!!
Practice running when your at home. You may be skinny and athletic and everything, but you need to build up your endurance to enable you to run more often. As tiring as it is, when your home or at a friends house go running alot more than what you do at cheer practice. That way when your warming up at cheerleading practice, youll be able to run without stopping because you will have high endurance =)

Q: I have a horribal headach. We had no power for atleast 2 days, and it was all thunderstorms. And i couldn't sleep.

But anyways, I took tyolinal and it didnt work. I took it about 3 hours ago, it didn't work. I took the suggested amount of dosage, it still didn't work.

Anyone know a way to get rid of them? I can't take more medicen, Im not supossed to take it after withen 12 hours of last dosage. So I need your help on this one!

x Oo Maddy oO x
It should say on the bottle of symptoms persist, than contact a physician. I think you should see the doctor and say that you have been getting headaches. . I do know that if its like a migrain [ a really bad headache ] that they have medication for people who have that. If it isnt that bad then have your mother buy you another form of medicine such as nyquil, dayquil, or ibprofin, those usually help me =)

Q: do the st. ives products work for your face, like to get rid of pimples ?
A couple of my friends have used it and they told me that it does work. I have some for cleansing purposes and to make my skin smoother. It works for both. =)

Q: I just joined myspace and I was wondering. Can you get a BLOG layout? I will rate 5's especially if you give me links.
www.createblog.com www.blogring.net =)

Q: I'm a girl and I'm an intense gymnast. My whole body is basically muscle like I have the six pack and the wide shoulders and the v-back and stuff and all other girls my age (14) have curves. I was just wondering are guys attracted to muscle on girls at all?
Hey doll. Actually from my personal experiance of asking guys that, they prefer curvy, skinny girls. . not muscular ones. but theres some out there I suppose, that do like that =)

Q: I feel so ugly.. no matter what I do, I'm always comparing myself to girls that are prettier than me, and putting myself down... I always feel like I'm not worth anything because I feel ugly.. What can I do to raise my self-esteem or make myself prettier???
Aw.. Whenever I feel like Im ugly or something, I go out and by a brand new hawt outfit to wear, then I go to the mall and walk around in it like I own the place, and am really confident about myself. Just tell yourself that your beautiful no matter what, and truy not comparing yourself to other girls. =)

Q: How do you give good advice? Should you include personal experiences or would that make things confusing. What are some good tips when you want to give somebody advice, like things you should make sure you do? I like to give advice and help people, but I'm not always sure how. I rate 5's for any answers - please help me out on this. Everyone should help so that anyone who reads can get better too. Thanks!
Sometimes when giving good advice it helps to have that same personal experiance, beacuse that enables you to relate to the person, thus making you able to share your experiance to make the person feel better about it. If your not able to relate, you have to have knowledge on the problem, or be able to put yourself in that situation to help, like im able to do. =)

Q: my husband is an alcholic, he promises to stop drinking but i always seem to find bottles of beer hidden in different places how can i help him stop he seems to think he is not hurting anyone but i dont like the drunken behaviour in front of my kids even though they are grown up but now he has his first grandchild and yet he still wont stop, you see he stopped drinking for 22 years and for the last 5 he has been secretly drinking cause everytime i find his bottl es we argue can you advise me please.
My dad is an alcoholic and its a sad thing. Ive come to realize that you cant help them, no matter what you say or do, because its a disease and 9 times out of 10 they dont have a problem. The only way that he will stop is if he admits that hes an alcoholic and seeks help through AA. Its not a safe thing to be around, if he gets mean when he drinks. You can try telling him he needs to stop, like Ive told my dad, but truthfully that just doesnt seem to help. Ive also tried pushing him to go to AA, but he just gets mad and says he doesnt have a problem. Maybe if you say if he doesnt stop you'll leave him, that might change his mind and he might go to classes. Good luck =/.

Q: I just got my earlobes pierced for the 3rd time. The last two times failed because after a week or so of my newly pierced ears, they would always swell up and get infected. It would hurt and itch! Now, I got them re-done at Claire's and now my ears have formed a rash around the earring. I'm cleaning them everyday but they're still itchy! It's red and gross..I don't know what to do! It's my 3rd time..please help and is this normal?
Dont take the earring out and go see a doctor, it could be infected. If you take the earring out your subjecting the open hole to bigger infections.

Q: my penis is small in size please help me is the penis enlargement possible if yes how
Yes it is possible but it isnt smart to use any pills or tools untill you are over 18. If you are then penis pumps and male penis enhancers are available to buy.

Q: Hey
When you get a physical they usually take your height / weight / blood pressure / heartbeat / eyes / & hearing. I do know before you enter 7th grade you have to get mmr shots and things of that nature, but if your past 7th grade than you should be fine. The only reason they would take blood is if they find something wrong with your health and want to find out what it is, like if your experiancing some sort of problems. Oh yeah they might have you remove your shirt, but im not sure. Anything else, just ask =)

Q: this is soo embarassing but i looked on the high rated advice columnist n you seem pretty good so uhh wella im going into 10th grade and my bra size is only a 34a. its so embarassing and they dont seem to be growing nemore so do u no any way to make them bigger without surgery or where to buy padded bras to make them look bigger but natural to. i rate high thanks

signed *flatty-
Aw thanks.. well, sweetie, having big boobs isnt everything. I personally think you should be happy with who you are =) but if you really want to make them natural but bigger.. taking pills for it isnt wise untill you are 18 .. and I think you can buy padded bras at victorias secret. not sure on that though. you might want to search google for padded bra's and see what comes up. Make sure the filter is on though so you dont get any icky porn. Thats the best I can do on that subject though but I really think you should be confident and love who you are =)!

Q: do ouija boards really tell the truth or do ppl just make it up?
Its hard to say with that. Ive done it before and I honestly think its just a game to get a freak out of people, or to make people believe things that arent true. If you believe in the witchcraft and things of that nature, than it can become a very real game to some people.

Q: I know this is kind of a stupid question to ask because I shouldn't care what people think, but I'm new to my school and I want to fit in and not get made fun of so I was just wondering if Etnies and DVS shoes are just for "skaters" or what. I don't want to be called a poser - and I know I shouldnt care what people think - but like I said, I'm new and don't want to get made fun of. Thanks in advance.
Aw. Etnies and DC's & Vans are a skater brand of shoe, thats just what their called. They sell them in skateshops and things of that sort. Their not just made for skaters, I dont skateboard and I own a pair of etnies and vans, lol. If you do decide to get them and people call you a poser, dont let it get to you. You dont buy them to pretend your something your not, you buy them because you think their cute. so if you do that then your fine doll =)

Q: okay i have a stupid virus on my computer!! do you know how to make my computer go back to the day before it happend because i just fixed everything and my brother went online and the virus is BACK after a week of being gone. Im so mad and i really really need someones help!!!!
Start + help & support - then type in system restore -- then find the date before u got the virus - and set it back 2 that date. if that doesnt work then download a virus cleaner such as norton and delete it. =)

Q: I like this girl, I mean like I REALLY love her. But, she only likes me as a friend. I recently sent her an email asking her out, but I think she's at sleepaway camp or something. I want her to love me so bad, how can I do that? Don't tell me that there are other fish in the sea, because I can feel that she's the one. How can I make her love me? Wiseasses get reported. Thanks!
Sweetie, you cant make anyone fall in love with you. It has to be their decision. Dont go out of your way and act like someone your not just to get her to fall for you. take it slow and let love happen, and if its meant to happen it will.. if not then its just not right. hope things go well though hun =(

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Q: Okay! Im 13 and have the oddest fear. I go to bed at like 1 30 AM and than ill go to the bathroom at like 2 and ill go to the bathroom and than go to leave but ill be too scared. So ill end up sleeping in the bathtub!! Its cuz im afraid someones in the house but no one ever is. Is there a way to get over the fear?
Aw, this might help. Talk to your parents and see if its alright to leave the light on all night. If your able to get up and walk to the bathroom, your able to walk back just fine. If its a really big problem then havhe your parents buy you a flashlight so you can shine that on places that you think are scary. =)

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