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Q: last night i had a dream,where there was a tornado coming towards my house and then i was across my room .I tried to yell to my mom but i couldn't hear anything come out of my mouth and i was trying to reach forward but it felt like something was holding me back to keep me from going forward tehn i just kepy sayin devil leave me alone and then i woke up and i gasped.. somebody said that dream was an experience of a witch riding my back.. i want to know y did it happen.......please help

ha it kinda sounds like the beggining to the wizzard of oz? but anyways haha

its a form of sleep paralysis it can happen to anyone here are some sites.. if you google "witch riding my back" or "sleep paralysis" it will tell you about it.

Q: Me and this guy have been talking for 2 years. We are completely in love with each other. He loves me and i love him. Though heres the catch. and like dont think bad things of me because of this but. We met over the internet and he is suppose to come see me this spring break for the first time which is like a month and 15 days away. and of course we both cant wait because we want to hold each other and all that good stuff. He even told me i had to jump into his arms when we meet because that would make him so happy. But like for the past 4-5 months he hasnt called me at all except 4 times inbetween all that time. I dont really understand why and i ask him and all he says is i dont know and it drives me crazy because i want to hear his voice. All we do is text and talk on msn. Our relationship is fine but i want to know why he doesnt call me. I remember when he use to call me at least once a day. So why does he not call me anymore when he use to call me almost every day? Any ideas why?

well since you met him online be careful with that.. but anyways i dont know how far away you guys are from each other but maybe that has to do with it like is it long distance maybe it coast a lot of money to call all the time from his location? and when he says "i dont know" keep pushing him to tell you, thats what i would do..

hope that helped a little bit?

Q: I'm a female 15 yrs old and hes 16 yrs old.we've been good friends for about a year now.And he basically knows everything about me and visa versa.we text every night.I finally got the guts to tell him how i felt.But he said he just likes me as friends with benefits.But we've never done anything in the past.That was about two weeks ago and were still good friend a kinda got over him.Today he asked me if i wanted to go on a date with him tomorrow.I AM REALLY SURPRISED.He said he would ask my mom if i could go.i first said y.but he just responded saying cause i want to.so i said ok.i wanted to know if i should go and if you think he likes me or just wants to hang out?

well if he said the word date then i think he might like you.. but theres no way to be sure unless you ask him yourself.

Q: Does anyone know what the name and artist of the song is that plays during bring it on in it to win it when the sharks are about to pack up and stuff, it has carson in the scene when the song first starts. i couldn't tell what the credits said so if anyone knows that would be GREAT! it's kinda a like mellowish song if that helps..

try going to this website it has the soundtrack of the movie.. like diffrent songs and you can google the lyrics to them and find the one your looking for..

http://www.soundtrackcollector.com/catalog/soundtrackdetail.php?movieid=83138

Q: ii really like this boy :(

well maybe you should talk to him and ask him what he's thinking about he wants to do, if he says he wants the other girl then you have to except that and it means this guy was just leading you one, and you dont need a loser like that if hes leading you on for nothing.

Q: ya i think im not tall enough so how do i grow
wat makes you grow [zinc or iron or sumtin else]
do vitamins help me grow
wat can i eat or do to help make me grow faster

you can go see your doctor and they can usally predict about how tall your going to become.. but like the other person said it all depends on your genes.

Q: to cut down on irritation down there would it be a good idea to use baby oil? would that burn?

no you can use it, it should'nt burn.

Q: how do you give a hickey? like i know you suck on their neck but i like cant give one it wont work?

go to this website it tells you how.
-hope that helped.

http://www.wikihow.com/Give-Someone-a-Hickey

Q: hey i am not having sex now but i am in a relationship where i am considering it in the future. i am a female and i get my periods irregularly but when i have sex i dont plan on going on birth control or telling anyone so i was wondering without having to go on the pill or seeing a doctor what are the safest and most effective ways to prevent pregnancy. (obviously condoms but anything else?)

thank you!

if you dont want to use birth control.. and you want something more safe then a condom.. the only thing i could think of is a female condom, there sold at most stores where you would find male condoms.

Q: I have two main problems with sex with my boyfriend

first, he waits for me to finish, pulls out, then takes off the condom and finishes.
at first I respected that he liked it, and its his bed, so whatever
but now its getting gross. is this normal? should I ask him to finish in the condom?

second, he's never gone down on me. hes fingered me and ive done everything to him, but hes never done it to me. ive tried gently pushing his head down but he doesnt get it. is this normal? should I be less subtle?

well if you feel you want him to finish in the condom then maybe you should talk to him about it and see why he doesnt.. i wouldnt say its normal ive never heard anyone doing this before but maybe it feels better for him without the condom.. idk talk to him about it..

and if you want him to go down on you maybe you should just ask him to? and see what happens or ask him why he doesnt want to.

Q: so me and my boyfriend started having sex a few months ago and i know he wasn't a virgin but i was and i don't have that much experience but everytime we have sex he doesn't last very long. i don't really care because i care about him but i mean is this my fault or his because i don't want him to be unhappy so is there any way that that happens because of me?

no its not your fault at all.. it just means he is really horny ha the more you guys have sex the longer he will last.

Q: I got a booklet thing from my school and I read how they have scholarships for people who have asthma, are vegetarian, etcetc really random stuff. Is there a website or does anyone know about any other kinds of scholarships for weird stuff?

http://encarta.msn.com/college_article_strangescholarships/Odd_scholarships.html

http://college-financial-aid.suite101.com/article.cfm/weird_unknown_college_scholarships

those are two that i looked at... if you want more go to google and type in strange scholarships..

hope that helped.

Q: Well to start off i'm 17/M and my girlfriend is 16/F

About 6 months ago we met online and we liked each other from the start. Around four months later we figured out a way to meet..Which was really hard because I live in Virginia and she lives in Connecticut. So we met at a hockey game for her birthday..Well we really loved each other in person so we decided to go out and figure out a way to make this work for us. Around a month later, during Christmas break, my dad let me take a train to CT to spend a few days with her. Her family liked me and we had the best time ever. The problem is..I had hopes of going to college in CT so I could be closer to her and the distance would no longer be a problem. Well my dad says he wants me to go to a community college down here for a year or two then transfer to a 4-year college, and he said that is the only way he would help me pay for it. Well I would do anything to be closer to her and go to college in CT which is a real good school for what i want to do anyway (Forensic Science) but my dad said i would have to pay for room-and-board, the out of state tuition, and food, and all the other expenses i would have. I'm not sure how i would be able to do all that on my own..but i would do anything for this girl because i love her so much. And she says she doesn't think she would be able to handle a long distance relationship for another year. Please help me..I don't know what to do and i can't lose her, we're so perfect together and I've never loved anyone like i love her.

hey i live in ct haha but anyways..

try explaining to your dad how much you love her and need her in your life, and try compromising with him, or something like that and if that doesn't work try explain to your girlfriend the hard situation that your in, and how much you love her.

Q: What is it called when:

-the guy is completely naked.
-the girls only has her underwear on.
-the guy is on top of the girl.
-the guy's penis is on the girl's vagina.
-the guy really treats it like it were real sex. (he fingers, lick, etc.)

is this really sex? if, so is there a specific name? thanks in advance.

i wouldnt call that sex.. its not sex unless the penis enters the vagina ha.

Q: 15 f\ virgin

I'm a little older then 15 and a half. I love my boyfriend dearly. I really AM ready to have sex with him and I want to give him something I can't take back or give anyone else. I would have sex with him, however, I feel I'm just too young! I know for a fact no one would find out about it, I rather it be personal. I would like to know your opinion. I know I am ready, I just consider 15 young.

thanks alot, xo

im 15 to and i lost mine at 14.. ha but i think if your ready and you love the guy and you no what could happen(pregnancy)then go for it.
i brought up pregnancy because i got pregnant but had a miscarriage .. and we did use a condom so just be safe about it.

Q: well im about 15 now and my friends all they talk about is their mushroom tip. I honestly dont know what a mushroom tip is or what it does. so i went home and google searched a mushroom tip and i guess it is the tip of your penis? yeah thats kinda weird cause i guess i dont have one. All that is there is just skin and theres no development of a "mushroom tip" if you want to call it that. So i asked my mom why dont i have a mushroom tip she said cause im uncircumsized and i guess that means i have foreskin. Please help me figure out whats going on, oh yeah i showed my friend the whole deal and he said i had a chode, Whats a chode?

well most babies are circumcised but if you arnt its not a big deal.. if you want to be you can go have it done easily.

and chode is when your penis is wider then it is long.

Q: OK, I am concerned with the look of my vagina. I think that it is not similar to, well, other girls vaginas. Not that I sit and study them, but I have seen porn and well I feel as if mine is not like theirs. I feel as if my "lips" sag compared to others, and from what I know it can be fixed. I have seen DR. 90210 and seen the same idea and cut off excess skin. Do any of you know anything more of this situation or the name?

well like, no girl really likes there vagina hah everyones is diffrent and so it shouldnt bother you and most girls vaginas you see in porn have had surgery to alter them to look better, most wernt born with the perfect vagina ha

but for the surgery part go to this website it will answer your question

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Q: so if a mother has cancer will her daughter get it?
is there any chance at all
if so what types of cancers?

PLEASE ANSWER IF YOU KNOW!!

most cancers arnt DNA related but cancers like cervical cancer and breast cancer can run in the DNA sometimes. but other than that usually no, because cancer isnt contagious..

Q: this is a controversal subject but can you choose the sex of your baby? if so, how? i think it would be wrong but im very curious...

for people that cant get pregnant on there own they have an artificially insemination, when they put the sperm and egg together inside you, my mom did that and they asked her if she wanted a boy or girl but to do that it would be very expensive.

Q: me and my boyfriend had sex last weekend.
so it went like it normally do. but when he had it in, it felt like he ''cumed'' so i kept saying take it out take it out i think you cumed and he was like no keep it in, it feels good, but i was like YOU CUMED and he said no i didnt i would know now lets keep going. now i was trusting him. so i kept going believeing him. so 10 minutes later he took it out but it was halfway in and felt like he really did cumed. so i was like i think you cumed and he said baby i didnt and he starting kissing on me, and he kept going down like he was trying to eat me out. so i left his head back up and we started tongue kissing again, my perious was suppose to come this week, but it didnt, and my tummy has been a little puffy from usual, what do i do?
should i break up with him? we been together for 2 years. && both madly in love, but then again i always had iiregular period, should i be worried?
oh if it helps 13/f, im in 8th grade
i wear a 34 b, && my body is pretty mature, && im 5'7 or 5'8,

well for all the people that were saying shit and talking down about you, they can go to hell, because sex is a natural thing there probably just mad because they cant get any haha anyways...

you could be pregnant although its to early for symptoms to really start showing, but if you think he came in you then you should take a pregnancy test even if you dont think he did, you should still take one to make sure.